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Chapter One
Follow That Dream
No contest for my husband," Ruth said. "Reed's all-time favorite scene is the cowboys farting around the campfire in Blazing Saddles."
I laughed. Side by side across my bed, Ruth and I were mourning the death and dearth of Great Cathartic Scenes in Recent American Cinema, but had gotten derailed in predicting our husbands' hypothetical picks.
"Scotty's would have to be ..." I mused, tapping my fingers against my rib cage, "the Saint Crispin's Day speech from Henry V. `We few, we happy few.'"
"I know, I know, Larry Olivier waxing eloquently about holding his manhood dear." Ruth rolled her eyes at me. They were raccoon-rimmed with brown shadow and feathery, erratic streaks of black where her daughter's aim with the mascara wand had erred.
My own four-year-old, Bethie, padded back to my side clutching bobbie pins and barrettes in her chubby fingers, as well as a baby hairbrush, whose soft, pliable bristles, useless as new grass, she pressed against my scalp.
"Or the universal default for most men, I'd bet," Ruth continued, "the hospital scene from Brian's Song." She lowered her voice, aiming for husky emotion but achieving only hilarious throaty gruffness. "`I love Brian Piccolo.'"
"You are terrible." I laughed. "Okay, where were we? Kramer vs. Kramer."
"Close, but no cigar. Lacks that one wrencher scene."
"Not even in the courtroom?"
Sloan yanked at her mother's hair. "You have a rat's nest, Mommy," she said.
"Ouch!" Ruth winced.
We were lying across my wide queen-sized bed, though it wasn't broad enough toprevent our legs from sticking awkwardly over at the side. Scotty was campaigning for a king mattress, but I was opposed, and cited Ruth as an ally. ("God," she'd agreed, "they're so vulgar-looking. Like having a trampoline in your bedroom.") The horizontal position of our bodies allowed our hair to fall conveniently over the edge of the bed so that Bethie and Sloan could comb and braid and part it, playing Beauty Parlor. It was a favorite game for all four of us, one we often resorted to on rainy afternoons. Even at their young age the girls were already savvy to the pointlessness of working puzzles or building wooden block villages: sooner or later the puzzles and blocks had to be knocked down, taken apart, and cleaned up. I don't know where the boys were; probably holding farting contests of their own. Both seven, my son, Jay, and Ruth's Grayson were ripe for bathroom humor. The day before, giggling and thyroid-eyed with suppressed glee, they'd summoned their younger sisters into the bathroom to witness a foot-long turd Jay had deposited in the toilet. They'd gotten the disgusted reaction they'd hoped for, and twenty-five minutes of punishment in time-out as well.
"Summer of '42," I proposed.
"Oh, absolutely. Hymie at the window when she reads the telegram. Oldie but goodie. Obscure but not forgotten. Steel Magnolias."
I frowned, but Ruth protested. "No fair disqualifying something just because it wasn't a darling of the critics or doesn't meet your superior literary standards."
"Okay, you include Kramer and I'll let Magnolias pass."
"Hold still, Mommy," Bethie commanded. Along with our hair styling came makeovers, compliments of eyeshadow, blush, and "lipcolor" department store freebies. The first time we'd played Beauty Parlor, I stood up and greeted myself in the mirror: blue shadow high as my eyebrows, perfect circles of red on my cheeks, a lipsticked mouth in clown proportions. A dozen primary-colored plastic barrettes were clamped close to my scalp and forehead. "It's worse than inadvertently catching sight of yourself in that mirrored strip above the meat bin at the supermarket," Ruth had said. But Sloan and Bethie had been delighted with their cosmetology results.
Our hair would be greasy tangled messes when the girls finished our "appointments," but the game would have served its purpose—entertainment for the children, relative peace for us. And Ruth and I were doing what we liked best too: talking. As I miss Ruth, I miss those afternoon sessions, the tender tiny fingers of our daughters, whose clumsy touch was as soothing and relaxing as any skillful masseuse's. My hair was, is, thick and heavy, but never styled— a result, I always claim, of having somehow missed that stage of adolescence when girls spend hours mirror-bound, figuring out how to use hot combs and round brushes and blow dryers to their best advantage. Versed in Gail Sheehy, Ruth always held that if you skip a stage in life you'll have to return to it sooner or later, though I never asked her if the theory applied to grooming. I do own a hot comb, actually, stashed in the medicinal netherworld beneath the bathroom sink. The first time I tried to use the fiery wand I burned my neck so badly that it looked as though I had a hickey, and I was forced to wear a turtleneck to a no-excuses vestry function with Scotty even though it was April.
"Mom," Bethie complained. "I can't braid your hair. It's not long enough."
I pointed to my navel. "I used to have hair down to here."
"No you did not," Bethie countered with severe, run-on authority.
"Get that tall green book from the bottom bookshelf in the den and I'll prove it."
"Cheater," Ruth said. Useless errands were another acknowledged time-wasting ploy.
Bethie returned with the leather volume, fanning its black-and-white pages. Ruth rolled over. "What is this?"
"High school yearbook."
"Called `Quair'? I'm afraid to ask."
"`Little book' in Latin."
"Naturally. Why hadn't I thought of that?"
I flipped through pictures of athletic teams and volunteer organizations until I reached the senior pictures. "There," I said to Bethie, pointing to myself. My straight hair hung like a curtain to my waist. "Told you so. Nannie nannie boo boo."
"Is that you?" Bethie squealed appreciatively.
Ruth sidled next to her, ignoring Sloan's indignant "I'm not done yet!"
"`Finished' yet," Ruth corrected. "Wow," she said. "You did have some lengthy tresses."
"I was convinced that if I cut it, my personality would vanish too. It took me until my junior year in college to work up the nerve. And only then, I might add, because I was secure that Scotty sufficiently adored me to risk cutting off ten inches."
"And?"
"He didn't even notice."
Ruth ran her finger along the quotation beneath my name, reading aloud. "`The quiet watcher, observer always, in solitary shaded shadows.' Shaded shadows? Did you make this up?"
"Of course not; give me a little creative credit. It was the yearbook editor's idea of sensitive haiku. Summing me up in ten words or less."
"Ah, the soulful, sensitive seventies. But it's not bad," Ruth mused. "You are a watcher."
Still on my back, I peered closely at her, gauging my reaction to her statement, her judgment.
"See?" Ruth said gently, deflecting. "You're at it again. Watching me." She let pages drift through her fingers, stopping finally at a two-page spread on the Danish exchange student. "Looks like the alien Pia was spared the haiku dictum. She picked her own quote. `Don't you know that people change, thus relationships change, and that pain is a sign of changes, not endings?'" she read.
"Turn back over, Mommy!" Sloan yelled.
"Please," Ruth responded automatically.
"Didn't you have yearbook quotes in the sixties?" I asked.
"I refuse to answer on the grounds that it may incriminate me as a dork." The girls tittered. At last, a conversation they could comprehend. Grimacing, Ruth confessed. "`I am a part of all that I have met.'"
I howled. "Let me guess. You also had a poster on your wall that said, `If you love something, let it go, and if it returns it is yours' superimposed on a deserted beach."
"Actually," Ruth said, "I had a poster illustrating all the positions for"—she cut her eyes toward our juvenile hairstylists—"intercourse, corresponding to each astrological sign. In black light neons." A fresh torrent of rain pelted against the windowpane. She sat up. "God. `The sun did not shine. It was too wet to play.'"
"I know, I know," Bethie crowed. "Cat in the Hat. `So we sat inside that cold cold wet day.' Can we get a kitten, Mommy?"
"No. They eat the birds."
Ruth flopped back down and tapped a comb against my rib cage. "Now, where were we? Splendor in the Grass."
"Funny Girl."
"Ordinary People."
"Camelot. When Guinevere is leaving for the nunnery, and her nose is running, and she says, `Arthur, so many times I've looked into your eyes and seen love there.'" I sniffed sympathetically.
"Prince of Tides."
"The King and I."
"`He may not always be,'" Ruth warbled, "`what you would have him be, then all at once he'll do, something wonderful.' Don't you say that line to yourself at least once every day?" Sloan dropped an elastic to clap her hands over her ears. I laughed again. "Your turn," Ruth said.
I considered a minute. "Can we count made-for-TV movies?"
"Depends."
I whistled a tune inexpertly, and though I botched the haunting strains, it was melody enough.
"Ahh," Ruth said softly, and sighed. "Meggie. Poor Meggie. Poor Ralph. Poor Father deBricassart. Yes. That counts." She cradled her head in her palm. "You know why we love The Thorn Birds, Pril? I'll tell you why we love it. Because it's about yearning for and lusting after something you can never ever have. Denial. What a theme. Nobody gets the priest. The sperm but not the soul." She sighed again. "Let's do some subcategories. Cathartic superlatives. Saddest death."
I heard the refrigerator slam. Jay and Grayson, foraging for food less than an hour after lunch. "Hey, Mom!" Grayson yelled upstairs. "I thought you were going to make meringues for us today!"
"Can't make meringues on rainy days!" Ruth hollered back.
"Why not?"
"They won't rise."
"Why?"
Ruth exhaled a noisy sigh. "Ready?" she asked me. "Because I said so!" we sang out on cue. Without missing a beat, she continued: "Out of Africa."
"Are you sure?"
"You got a sadder death?"
"Promise not to laugh."
Ruth widened her eyes and mouth in feigned innocence. "Have I ever laughed at you?"
"Love Story."
She giggled. "My. I don't believe I'da tole that. Ali McGraw was wooden, but Pinocchio was a better actor."
"After I saw Love Story I bought a little knitted cloche so I could look like Jenny and have someone who looked like Ryan O'Neal fall in love with me." I shook my head. "New category: biggest sob. And I know mine."
"Which?"
"Heard of Loew's Grand Theater in Atlanta?"
"Sure. The premiere of Gone With the Wind."
"One afternoon in January while I was being paid to summarize depositions, I stood for four hours at my thirtieth-story window and watched Loew's Grand burn to cinders. There was nothing firefighters could do. It was terrible, watching that grand old lady die. Such an ignoble demise." I stared at the ceiling. "Scotty estimates that I've spent one hundred twenty-six hours of my life watching Gone With the Wind." I sensed Ruth's smile beside me. "The next morning on the way to work, my bus passed what was left of Loew's Grand, nothing but charred, cindery black stalks behind yellow police ribbons. The rubble was still smoking, with long icicles hanging from the charred beams where dripping water had frozen overnight. Then I threw up."
"On the bus?"
"Right there in the middle of the aisle. Scotty blamed it on the overheated bus, stinking of sausage biscuits, cheap perfume, and exhaust. I thought it was the sight of that pathetic, burned-out shell of a building." I looked at Ruth. "But I was just pregnant."
"Just," Ruth enunciated dryly.
Sloan interrupted, shoving an eyeshadow container before Ruth's nose. "What's the name of this color?"
Ruth squinted. "`Innocent Blue.' Geez."
"Geez, what?" Sloan said, stroking the powder from her mother's eye to temple. Ruth looked like a Cleopatra clone who hadn't slept for a week.
I fell silent, remembering my lingering melancholy for the vanished theater, and what it represented. Scotty had tried to understand my sorrow. And failed. Such attachment escaped him.
The sound of bickering erupted from Jay's room. He and Grayson were fighting over who deserved to be the Architect in a game of Life. "Now, that's pathetic," Ruth said. "Two seven-year-olds who already know which career card in Life produces the highest salary. Quiet!" she barked. Sensing more interesting commotion down the hall, and nurturing a futile hope that the boys would let them join their game, Bethie and Sloan skittered from the bedroom. "Casablanca."
"West Side Story."
"Love in the Afternoon," Ruth suddenly said.
"Oh, Audrey imploring Gary at the train station! Every Audrey Hepburn movie."
"But we've left out numero uno, the all-time weeper great. Or just saved it for last."
I watched her pull a skewed barrette from her hair, and knew. "The Way We Were. At the end, when Katie and Hubbel accidentally meet outside the Plaza. When she brushes Hubbel's bangs out of his eyes, like she'd done a thousand times before. Then."
Ruth shook her head. "No, no, no. It's when Katie says, `Wouldn't it be lovely to go back the way we were, when everything was easy?' And Hubbel says, `Oh, Katie, it was never easy.'"
"No, no. It's the scene when he says, `You want too much!' and Katie says, `Oh, but look at what I've got.'"
One by one, I unclipped the diminutive barrettes from my hair. "You know what?" Ruth said, her painted lips twisted in a rueful smile. "It's the women we cry for in all those movies. Jenny and Katie and Meggie and Anna and the rest. Ever noticed? The women, always the women." She curved herself close and cozy and fetal, and pulled a small pillow beneath her head, a baby gift whose creweled linen pillow slip hadn't looked crisp since the moment I'd opened it. "Do you see the common thread in all these cathartic scenes?" she asked me. "Don't you see what happens in every one, Pril? They're all about departing. About leaving. About separating. Those are the stories that make us cry. They're the only stories worth telling, or writing, or reading, or watching. Worth remembering." We lay there, curled and stilled, until shrieks snatched us back.
"Mommy! Grayson put shredlocks on my Barbie! He ruined my Totally Hair Barbie!"
"Dreadlocks," came Grayson's withering reply. "Dreadlocks, dummy."
"He called me a dummy!"
And so Ruth and I, mothers, rose reluctantly to intervene and mediate. Behind us on the quilted white coverlet were left the faint impressions of our bodies, and smudges of Innocent Blue.
It is laughable now, the Beauty Parlor game, our list of movies that dreary, rainy afternoon. Laughable and ludicrous that we cried or agonized over scenes and plots and characters meaningless beyond what they had once meant to us, during some bygone phase of our lives.
But there's another movie I'll forever associate with Ruth, though not for its story. It fits her formula, consists almost entirely of departures and separations. But it's a mere line of Dr. Zhivago that captures my intricate, indissoluble connection to Ruth. Whenever I think of movies, of the two of us together, and of Ruth now alone, that spare single line comes back to me: "I suppose I was a little in love with her myself."
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