How to Be a Great Lover: Girlfriend-to-Girlfriend Totally Explicit Techniques That Will Blow His Mind

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One of America's most popular sexperts offers a fun, refreshingly modern, totally explicit guide to mastering a man's body.

No matter what age we are or how much experience we have, we all want to be great lovers. Most of the sex guides for women, however, have been prudish, esoteric, or incomplete. The ultimate sexual instruction book for women, How to Be a Great Lover gives you the down and dirty details that you really want to know on exactly what men like and why, and shares...

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Overview

One of America's most popular sexperts offers a fun, refreshingly modern, totally explicit guide to mastering a man's body.

No matter what age we are or how much experience we have, we all want to be great lovers. Most of the sex guides for women, however, have been prudish, esoteric, or incomplete. The ultimate sexual instruction book for women, How to Be a Great Lover gives you the down and dirty details that you really want to know on exactly what men like and why, and shares the proven erotic techniques that make for incredible sex you'll both enjoy.  

Acclaimed sex expert Lou Paget draws on the real-life experience of the hundreds of men and women who have attended her workshops and presents their secrets and tricks in an elegant, no-nonsense style. Lou has found that in the bedroom (or closet, or kitchen), knowledge equals confidence, and confidence will make you feel empowered, heighten the intimacy of your relationship, and enable you and your partner to enjoy yourselves in a variety of intense, new ways. Whether you are starting a new relationship, have run out of creative ideas, or want to light his fire all over again, How to Be a Great Lover has enough spicy tips and surprises to excite both of you and leave him begging for more.

From kissing techniques, ways to create the right atmosphere, and a lesson on safe sex--including the "Italian Method" of putting a condom on a man with your mouth--to twenty different manual techniques and the secrets of great oral sex,  Lou covers all the basics and more.  She offers innovative positions for intercourse, tantalizing moves you can do with a pearl necklace, and a beginner's guide to anal stimulation, as well as a catalogue of sex toys and how to use them.  With more than ninety step-by-step illustrations that will show you how to drive him wild, How to Be a Great Lover provides proven, sure-fire techniques that will make you a master of the bedroom.

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The ultimate sexual instruction book for women, How to be a Great Lover gives you the down-and-dirty details on exactly what men like and why, and shares the proven erotic techniques that make for incredible sex you'll both enjoy.

Acclaimed sex expert Lou Paget draws on the real-life experiences of the hundreds of men and women who have attended her workshops and presents their secrets and tricks in an elegant, no-nonsense style. Paget has found that in the bedroom (or closet, or kitchen), knowledge equals confidence, and confidence will make you feel empowered, heighten the intimacy of your relationship, and enable you and your partner to enjoy yourselves in a variety of intense new ways. Whether you are starting a new relationship, have run out of creative ideas, or have simply always had certain questions, How to be a Great Lover has enough spicy tips and surprises to excite both of you and leave him begging for more.

The book includes everything from kissing techniques, ways to create the right atmosphere, and a lesson on safe sex — including the "Italian Method" of putting on a condom — to secrets of great oral sex and innovative sexual positions, plus a catalogue of sex toys and how to use them. With more than 90 step-by-step illustrations that will show you how to drive him wild, How to be a Great Lover provides proven, surefire techniques that will make you master of the bedroom.

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Praise for How to Be a Great Lover

"An excellent guide for women who want to expand their bedroom skills and put more fun and excitement into lovemaking.  I highly recommend it."
--John Gray, author of Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus

"Lou Paget is funny, informative, and classy.  She is dedicated to teaching women to express their sexuality from a place of empowerment and power, not just for the sake of man-pleasing.  Her course taught me some tricks even I'd never thought of!"
--Laurie Sue Brockway, former Editor-in-chief, Playgirl magazine, and author of How to Seduce a Man and Keep Him Seduced

"Finally, a how-to sex book that actually tells you how to.  Women readers will gain skill and confidence, men will gain pleasure and will respond by giving their women more pleasure.  A lot of couples will have much more enjoyable sex because of Lou Paget's down-to-earth, practical, and altogether excellent advice."
--Dr. Bernie Zilbergeld, Ph.D., author of The New Male Sexuality

"Lou gave the Jane staff one of her sexuality seminars, and it rocked!  This book is definitely the next best thing."
--Jane Pratt, editor-in-chief, Jane magazine

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Product Details

  • ISBN-13: 9780767902878
  • Publisher: Crown Publishing Group
  • Publication date: 1/28/1999
  • Pages: 256
  • Sales rank: 142,923
  • Product dimensions: 5.70 (w) x 8.50 (h) x 0.91 (d)

Meet the Author


An experienced sex educator and sexuality researcher, LOU PAGET started conducting her Sexuality Seminars nationwide in 1993. Lou's advice has appeared in many popular magazines, including Glamour, Cosmopolitan, Redbook, and Playboy.
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"I can now throw out the message 'If you're too experienced or know too much--you're a slut.'I now see that couldn't be further from the truth.  There is such power in owning one's sexuality and self."
--FEMALE SEMINAR ATTENDEE, WRITER/PRODUCER, AGE 39

Gathered in a boardroom in an elegant midtown private club, ten to fifteen women, ranging in age from early twenties to mid-fifties, stare at the table center.  The table itself is laid with silver flatware, linen napkins, and fresh flowers.  It's evening and the lighting is dim, provoking an air of expectancy.

"Okay ladies, this will be the first of many choices you will have to make this evening." I stand at the head of a long, rectangular mahogany table.

Some of the women are dressed in couture suits; others are dressed more casually, in slacks; others are still more casual, decked in a downtown hip look.  The women are staring rather mutely at the center of the table, in which are placed a selection of what I affectionately call "instructional products" (better known as dildos).

"Without being overly PC, please select the color of your choice--white, black, or mulatto--and the size you prefer-- 8-inch, 7-inch, 6-inch, or the ever-so-popular 5-inch executive model."

I hear a few peals of laughter and then I smile at the newcomers and say again, "Ladies, go ahead and choose an instructional product."

A tall, lanky woman in her mid-forties says, "Do I have to choose what I have at home?"

Gales of laughter follow.  The women look around at each other and can't believe they are laughing so hard.  I know now, after almost six years of conducting The Sexuality Seminars across the U.S. and in Canada, that this is the ice-breaking moment, when the women who have come to learn more about sex, and specifically, to learn how to become a better lover, begin to relax.

How to Be a Great Lover is a cumulative extension of these seminars and includes not only what I have learned from my research, but also what I have learned from the many women who have attended the seminars.  Throughout the book, you will hear their voices, as well as the voices of their men, sharing their experiences--woman to woman.  As one woman, a fifty-five-year-old housewife from Seattle, told me, "I found out learning about sex isn't just for my children's generation.  After my husband's death, I am dating again and at my age, I HAVE to know about safe sex."

I want to be absolutely clear about the spirit with which this book was written.  It was never my intent to sit down and create a book about how to please a man.  While there is no point in arguing the fact that the man in your life will be a major beneficiary of the information found here, the real purpose is threefold: to empower you as a woman, heighten the intimacy of your romantic relationship, and enable you and your partner to enjoy yourselves in intense new ways.

While biology may have graced us with a basic understanding of how to have sex, we are not necessarily born great lovers.  We learn to be great lovers.  And I have always believed that anything worth doing is worth doing well.  Wouldn't you agree that the better we are at something, the more we enjoy doing it?  Sex is no different.  It shouldn't be an experience just to get through, but rather an experience to be relished from beginning to end.  For that to happen, you've got to know what you're doing.

I also believe that every woman has the right to be sexually proficient.  You'll find that knowing what to do to your man's body can provide you with as much power as it does pleasure.  And contrary to what we've been made to feel in the past, there never has, nor ever will be anything unladylike about being masterful in the bedroom.  The truth is, being sexually savvy is no less a part of being a woman than motherhood, and learning how to be a great lover is about excelling in all areas of womanhood.

It's for these reasons, as well as the demand from the women in the seminars, that I decided to write a book that teaches women the art of sex, and I hope to give you extraordinary tools that will enable you to please your lover beyond his wildest expectations.

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Table of Contents

Chapter One
THE KAMA LOUTRA
How I Came to Teach the Sexuality Seminars     1
  
Chapter Two
BEYOND THE BEDROOM
Creating Your Sensual Environment     19
  
Chapter Three
THE ART OF KISSING
A Kiss Is Never Just a Kiss     38
  
Chapter Four
SAFETY IS ESSENSUAL     54
  
Chapter Five
TO LUBE OR NOT TO LUBE?
There Is No Question     83
  
Chapter Six
GIVE THAT MAN A HAND
Mastering Manual Stimulation     97
  
Chapter Seven
BLOWING HIS...MIND!
Every Woman's Guide to Great Oral Sex     133
  
Chapter Eight
THE OUTER LIMITS
Only for the Sexually Adventurous     155
  
Chapter Nine
COMING TOGETHER AT LAST
The Magic of Intercourse     167
  
Chapter Ten
PEARLS AND OTHER PASSIONATE PLAYTHINGS
Discover the Pleasure of Toys     196
  
One Final Word     215
  
Bibliography     217
Sources     223
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  • Anonymous

    Posted August 6, 2009

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    Great instruction.

    I really liked this book. The author took the subject and really explained it well. I learned a lot from it and was glad I took the chance.

    3 out of 3 people found this review helpful.

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  • Anonymous

    Posted January 11, 2001

    It Gave Me a Perfect Score With My Husband

    Since I was a young girl I was not comfortable with my self and had problems communicating myself with my husband. After reading this book I started learning new techniques and stoped being afraid of wanting to be loved. Now I have more confindance in myself and I would recommend this book to all the females out there who had the same problem I did.

    3 out of 3 people found this review helpful.

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  • Anonymous

    Posted September 29, 2004

    this book helped my marriage

    My marriage was already sex starved and we have only been married for 2 years. After reading this book and trying some techniques i could not believe the response from my husband. It gives me that excited feeling knowing that it is good between us again. I recomend this book highly

    2 out of 2 people found this review helpful.

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  • Posted May 16, 2009

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    Great!

    All around great book. Informative. Touches on all the important sexual subjects that you have questions about, including manual, oral, anal, and orgasm how-to's. I also like that she includes a lot of her seminar attendees' stories of what worked and what didn't. Very impressed!

    1 out of 1 people found this review helpful.

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  • Anonymous

    Posted November 25, 2007

    A reviewer

    I have been married for 21 years and didn't think there were a whole lot of new tricks for the old dog to learn. Wrong! Husband was most impressed. : -)

    1 out of 1 people found this review helpful.

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  • Anonymous

    Posted January 15, 2003

    Sex was nothing until i read this book!

    This book has changed my life! i was always afraid of trying new things, but after reading it, i became more confident knowing i was doing something right and my boyfriend has been eternally grateful. now he gets excited when i'm reading in bed. he never knows what new technique i'm gong to try. Thanks!

    1 out of 1 people found this review helpful.

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  • Anonymous

    Posted November 25, 2001

    WOW!!!!!!!

    With the busy hectic schedule that my husband and I have due to our jobs and our children we needed something new in our life. This is incredible! It is like we are newly married. A must for any couple that needs some excitement in their lives!

    1 out of 1 people found this review helpful.

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  • Anonymous

    Posted March 8, 2001

    Thank You

    This book is tastefully written with the intention to instruct,guide and stimulate our creativity. Finally a book that doesn't insinuate that to be a good lover you have to behave like a hooker. Unfortuniately after 18 years with the same man sex can get routine and yes,even boring at times. The illistrations and step by step explainations made it easy to learn the techniques. The ones i've tried have been a tremendous hit with him,he talked about 'Ode to Bryan' for 2 days. I have even more confidence in my ablilities as a lover. It's important to keep in mind that we're helping ourselves and he gets the beneifts from that,not the other way around. It might be selfish but I did this for me not for him.

    1 out of 1 people found this review helpful.

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  • Anonymous

    Posted January 8, 2001

    Grrrreeeat!

    Never in my life have i felt so in control! This book is it!

    1 out of 1 people found this review helpful.

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  • Anonymous

    Posted September 11, 2000

    Outstanding

    I read it in 2 hours and every question that I had there was an illustration for it!!!!!

    1 out of 1 people found this review helpful.

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  • Anonymous

    Posted August 30, 2009

    Every women needs to read this book!!!!

    Fantastic, clear, detail book that teach you how be a better or great lover. If you are married or have a relationship please read it!!!!

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  • Anonymous

    Posted May 23, 2007

    INFORMATIVE LOVE IT

    i really enjoy this book she made some very valid statements it gave me a new kind of confidance. i thought that even though i knew some to the things that i learned alot. i am hooked and cannot wait to read some of her other books!!!!!

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  • Anonymous

    Posted May 1, 2006

    Most of this I knew

    but it was still interesting. I liked her little 'secrets from Lou's archives' - some of those were amusing and informative. If I had read something like this when I was much younger and less experienced it would've been more useful, but my husband was still excited to have me bring it home and experiment on him.

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  • Anonymous

    Posted February 7, 2005

    WOW!!!!

    Wonderfull fantasic unbeleivable.....this is something everywoman should read. It is a must have, all of my friends are getting a copy!!! and he will LOVE YOU for what you learn!!!!

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  • Anonymous

    Posted May 1, 2003

    You have to read this book

    This book is great, answers all my questions and gave me new ideas to spice things up. If you are looking for one great book to jump start ur love life this is it by far, its open and honest about everything. ITS A MUST BUY!

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  • Anonymous

    Posted March 6, 2003

    I just wish she read it

    hello I bought the book for my wife and ended reading it myself greath book I just wish she really realise how bad are we and read the book. waiting for a miracle

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  • Anonymous

    Posted December 15, 2002

    not everthing I thought it would be...

    I ordered this book with big expectations - maybe that was my fault. While the book did cover many general topics - it didn't manage to convey anything that I didn't master in highschool. (ftr, that was 17 years ago now). I guess I was looking for an smart sexy way to push my sex life into it's next frontier. I recommend this book for the beginner or any shy novice. Otherwise I'd move on.

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  • Anonymous

    Posted October 23, 2002

    Effective Sex Tool

    SIMPLY AMAZING! This book worked wonders! I bought this book right before my new boyfriend and I started getting physical. When the time finally came for my performance he said, "You've slept with a lot of guys, haven't you?!..YOU - ARE - SO - GOOD". The truth is I haven't been around. It was this book that helped me master all the tricks of the trade. Thanks to this book, my sex life will never be the same.

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  • Anonymous

    Posted January 20, 2002

    Everything you need to know about sex!

    This was by far, the best book on sex and sexuality I've ever read! It not only has pictures, but step-by-step instructions and ideas that will blow his mind! I felt so much more confident and sensual after reading this book. It is definitely a must-read!

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  • Anonymous

    Posted July 23, 2001

    Can't Wait to Get Home

    I just received this book - mailed to my office and during all my breaks today I was tearing through the pages. I am so on fire and ready to try out these ideas tonight.

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