How to Be Your Little Man's Dad: 365 Things to Do with Your Son

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Spend time with your son
MOST YOUNG BOYS LOOK UP TO THEIR FATHER AS THE MOST IMPORTANT MAN IN THEIR LIFE AND LONG FOR A DEEP AND LOVING RELATIONSHIP WITH HIM. But even if you sincerely desire a special connection with your son, that kind of closeness can be hard to build.

How to Be Your Little Man’s Dad offers 365 simple and creative father-son activities that will foster the kind of relationship you both want. Written by Dan Bolin, the author...

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Overview


Spend time with your son
MOST YOUNG BOYS LOOK UP TO THEIR FATHER AS THE MOST IMPORTANT MAN IN THEIR LIFE AND LONG FOR A DEEP AND LOVING RELATIONSHIP WITH HIM. But even if you sincerely desire a special connection with your son, that kind of closeness can be hard to build.

How to Be Your Little Man’s Dad offers 365 simple and creative father-son activities that will foster the kind of relationship you both want. Written by Dan Bolin, the author of How to Be Your Daughter’s Daddy, and Ken Sutterfield, who fathers two sons, this book will encourage you to be the dad your little man needs most-a dad who takes the time to show his son he loves him. Tyndale House Publishers

One of the most important things a Dad can come to understand about fathering a son is that it doesn't have to be viewed as a monumental task. This book suggests that is can be a process that includes a series of little events and creative time together.

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DAN BOLIN is president of KVNE/KGLY Christian radio serving East Texas and northwest Louisiana. Dan is also president of Dan Bolin Resources, Inc., which provides ministry, marketing, management, and fundraising support for nonprofit ministries. Dan speaks regularly throughout the United States and internationally and has appeared on a variety of television and radio programs. He is the author of How to Be Your Daughter’s Daddy, How to Be Your Little Man’s Dad (with Ken Sutterfield), Avoiding the Blitz, and The One That Got Away. Dan currently lives with his family in Tyler, Texas.

Ken Sutterfield is a former Christian camp director having served camps in Arkansas and Texas for 25 years. More recently he has served as the Dean of Operations for a large Christian school in Little Rock, AR and as the Chief Development Officer for Arkansas’ only boy’s residential college prep school. In addition to his NavPress/Pinon book co-authored with Dan Bolin. Ken is the author of The Power of an Encouraging Word which was featured in the Promise Keepers devotional series published by Christianity Today. Ken speaks occasionally and has appeared on numerous radio and T.V. programs including Family Life Today. Ken and his wife Jan have been married over 30 years and are the parents of two married sons.

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How to Be Your Little Man's Dad

365 THINGS TO DO WITH YOUR SON
By DAN BOLIN KEN SUTTERFIELD

Piñon Press

Copyright © 1993 Dan Bolin and Ken Sutterfield
All right reserved.

ISBN: 0-89109-755-4


Introduction

Boys need real dads. Not just fathers to put food on the table, set curfews, and make sons clean the garage, they need real dads. Real dads play catch, lead hikes in the woods, tell stories at bedtime, and wrestle on the living room carpet.

I (Dan) grew up with a real dad. He didn't catch many fish-he was too busy baiting hooks for my brothers and me. He pitched baseballs at Columbia Park until we were tired of swinging the bat. He carried the heavy pack so we could hike together to remote lakes in the Cascade and Olympic Mountains.

Real dads shoot their sons like arrows to impact the next generation. It is tough to be a real dad. The price to become one must be paid in time and commitment. Our world is short of both; there are demands and distractions that call us away from the things that matter most.

When our family goes out for pizza I find myself drawn to the game "Gopher Heads." I love to stand with mallet in hand, slip my token into the machine, and await the battle. A gopher head appears, I strike with precision, and it disappears into its hole. Two heads appear at once. Like lightning I nail one, then the other. The battle has been joined. Heads appear faster and faster, more and more of them. I frantically strike, strike, and strike. Some escape my blows, but most are defeated. At the peak of the warfare the light goes off, the music ends, and the gopher heads retreat to their dens. They will lick their wounds and await my next token.

"Gopher Heads" fill my days. Appointments, phone calls, meetings, questions, and problems come at me relentlessly. I defeat one and face two more. I want normalcy, rest, and quiet, but at the same time, I love the adrenaline rush of fighting "Gopher Heads."

The losers in this battle are the dads who don't know when or how to call a truce. We love the smell of the battle, so we fight late into the evening, spend Saturdays in the office getting caught up, and often bring the battle home with us.

The other losers, of course, are our wives, daughters, and sons.

Sons lose the security of knowing they are worth more to us than a corner office. They lose the instruction that can be given only when they are ready to ask the question. They lose the mentoring of a tested warrior.

After writing How to Be Your Daughter's Daddy, I was asked to write this companion, How to Be Your Little Man's Dad. I could write with the credibility of a grateful son, but my personal experience was as the father of daughters. I needed some help, and I knew where to find it.

Ken Sutterfield's sons, Ragan and Spencer, were 3 and 2 when Ken and his wife, Jan, came to work for Pine Cove. At the time, my daughter Catie was 2, and Haley had not yet arrived on the scene. Our young families were intertwined with the strong bonds of friendship. This allowed me to watch Ken and Jan do the things that grow little boys into men.

They are artists, blending the colors of love and discipline along with the hues of creativity and consistency to paint portraits of wonderful young men. Not perfect parents, not perfect parenting, but making each stroke of the brush count to give their sons the character and competency they will need to face adulthood.

Life is a never-ending series of changes and dads must listen to the call of opportunity. They must test their skills against greater challenges, but they must test their hearts against the worth of their sons. Greater challenges and leadership took Ken and his family from directing the adult and family operations at Pine Cove in Tyler, Texas, to the executive directorship of Ozark Conference Center near Little Rock, Arkansas.

A father's life can be filled with building bigger barns to store our achievements and wealth. We are eager to respond to the deep desire to achieve and accomplish. In the process of building bigger barns, fathers must be very careful not to destroy the priceless little barns. The valuable little barns in many men's lives are their sons. Too often the price that is paid on the way to the top is the souls of the sons.

Ken built a bigger barn, but he was careful not to dismantle the little barns in his life.

Our families remain very close. My wife, Cay, and I have had the privilege of viewing the Sutterfield boys growth over several months instead of in daily increments. They aren't yet grown, and there are no guarantees that their paths will be free of trauma. But Ken and Jan have worked the odds in favor of their sons through love and sacrifice.

Ken is a great dad. He acquired his skill from another great dad. Keith Sutterfield was busy in the newspaper business while Ken was growing up, yet he found the time to instill the essential qualities of life into the character of his son.

I had the privilege of reading a letter Keith sent to Ken shortly after Catie, then nine years old, lost her battle with leukemia. Keith was still dad, sharing wisdom, encouraging, and instructing Ken to be a strong friend to our family in the cold, dark valley of our child's death.

We recently visited Ken, Jan, Ragan, and Spencer, staying in their home. Skeletons of birds, cages with snakes, collections of rocks, and posters of athletes fill the boys' rooms. Pictures of family and friends, books of adventure and information, music, and conversation fill their home.

Ken is busy, but not too busy for his sons.

That's why I was compelled to ask Ken to work with me on this book. I've learned a lot as we have shared ideas and remembered wonderful moments. I've been reminded of events and projects that the routine and pressures of life had pushed to the back corners of my mind.

As we have worked together I have realized that life is a series of wonderful, curious, powerful, eternal moments that form the collections we call "life." These collections of moments change little boys into men. Moments can be cold, hurtful, painful, destructive, or meaningless, scattered in disarray over the days of childhood. Or they can be warm, strong, joyful, healthy, and intentional, ordered to create insightful, stable, noble young men who are able to meet the challenges of the next generation and beyond.

Dads must be involved in these moments of maturation. They must invest time, energy, and wisdom to make each moment achieve its strategic impact.

Since our societies have moved from the country to the big city and from the farm to the office, many dads have lost touch with the hearts of their children. The core of many father's worth and satisfaction exists at the work place. Home becomes an annoyance, a sideshow, or a disposable appendage. Dads have learned to delegate tasks. Making good decisions is the greatest skill to be acquired in the information age. After a long day of decision making the easiest decision is to delegate the child-rearing to Mom. Children need Mom, but they need Dad too.

Sons need the model of maleness that they can best find in their father. They need Mom's love and warmth, but they need Dad's love and strength.

It seems odd to me that when a mom spends time with her children she is "parenting." But when it is a dad's turn to watch the children we say he is "baby-sitting." The difference between parenting and baby-sitting has to do with the motivation of the heart and the length of the impact. Dads need to parent with a heart of love and with a desire to prepare each son (or daughter) for a life that will make a difference for generations to come.

No father's deathbed regret is that he did not spend enough time at work and too much time with his son. The pain of misplaced priorities has haunted many "successful" fathers. We don't intentionally destroy the souls of our sons, we just fail to attend to their needs. The natural course of events, free from a father's support and guidance, claims its prey.

But somehow our kids "make it." Somehow, despite our carelessness, ignorance, and incompetence as fathers, our kids make it. The challenge is to help them make it with as much strength, skill, wisdom, and confidence as possible.

Ken and I desire that we be real dads-that we make a positive impact on our children. We hope that this book will help you become the best dad your little man could ever hope for.

1

Tell him his muscles look bigger.

* * *

2

Show him the proper use of your pocketknife.

* * *

3

When he is ready, give him your pocketknife.

4

Ask him his opinion on things that are important to you.

* * *

5

Say "yes" as much as possible.

* * *

6

Teach him to call 911.

* * * 7

Don't make promises you are not willing to keep.

* * *

8

Don't make threats you are not willing to enforce.

* * * 9

Talk openly about current events. Engage him in the conversation.

10

Give him access to lumber, hammer, and nails, and let him create.

* * *

11

Show him how to spin a basketball on his finger.

12

Keep his picture at work.

13

Teach him how to mow the yard, and work with him. * * * 14

Give him the opportunity to go with you to meet important people.

15

Write about him to grandparents and friends. Show him what you have written. * * *

16

Tell him stories about yourself when you were his age.

17

* * * Give him your business card, and tell him he can call you anytime.

* * *

18

Take him with you on a short business trip.

* * *

19 Bring a glass of water to him at bedtime before he asks.

20

Admit you are wrong and apologize.

* * * 21

Know the names of his friends and as much as you can about them.

* * *

22

Volunteer to visit his class and tell the students about your profession.

(Continues...)



Excerpted from How to Be Your Little Man's Dad by DAN BOLIN KEN SUTTERFIELD Copyright © 1993 by Dan Bolin and Ken Sutterfield. Excerpted by permission.
All rights reserved. No part of this excerpt may be reproduced or reprinted without permission in writing from the publisher.
Excerpts are provided by Dial-A-Book Inc. solely for the personal use of visitors to this web site.

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