How to Behave So Your Preschooler Will, Too!

How to Behave So Your Preschooler Will, Too!

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by Sal Severe
     
 

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Dr. Sal Severe established himself as a leading childcare and parenting expert with his phenomenally successful How to Behave So Your Children Will, Too! Now he focuses on raising children between the ages of three and six. Based on Dr. Severe’s philosophy that children’s behavior often reflects that of their parents, this book teaches readers

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Dr. Sal Severe established himself as a leading childcare and parenting expert with his phenomenally successful How to Behave So Your Children Will, Too! Now he focuses on raising children between the ages of three and six. Based on Dr. Severe’s philosophy that children’s behavior often reflects that of their parents, this book teaches readers how to better handle a host of issues, from fussing at bedtime and temper tantrums to toilet training and sibling rivalry. Instead of focusing on what children do wrong, Severe teaches parents what they can do right by emphasizing the positive, being consistent, and being more patient. Filled with checklists, an extensive resource guide to books that parents can read with their preschoolers, and plenty of inspiration, this goldmine of helpful advice is certain to become a bible for stressed-out parents everywhere.

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The Barnes & Noble Review
In this follow-up to How to Behave so Your Children Will, Too!, parenting authority Sal Severe maintains that life with a preschooler can be free of whining, tantrums, and other unpleasant behavior. The author reveals that while children of this age want to test their will against everything, usually with much noise and melodrama, they also want nothing more than to please their parents. This concept may seem unlikely to Mom and Dad when the little one stuffs all the guest towels down the toilet, but the book advises parents that if they can just keep control over their own emotions, they can prevent situations from escalating into meltdowns or screaming fits.

Setting limits with consistency and patience -- the hallmarks of discipline -- can aid parents in the constant battles over bedtimes and sibling bickering. Severe, however, reminds readers that they must model appropriate behavior if they want their child to learn how to deal with conflict and disappointment. On a more practical level, simple tactics such as charts and stickers will often do the trick, and Severe offers advice on using these devices without sending the wrong message to your child. A final section addresses specific problems you may encounter -- including constant attention seeking, lying, and picky eating habits -- and how to correct them. Constructive as well as philosophical, this guide can help parents promote good behaviors in their children while teaching them to realize the consequences of their actions -- a valuable lesson at any age. Jessica Leigh Lebos

Publishers Weekly
Severe, author of the bestselling How to Behave so Your Children Will, Too!, focuses on children ages three to six. Parents know all too well that toddlers can be particularly difficult. Sometimes their inability to speak makes it hard to figure out what they want; other children have demanding temperaments and still other kids haven't been taught the "right" behavior for a particular situation. In a calm and soothing manner, Severe offers coping strategies for parents with the most common dilemmas, including tantrums, toilet training, sibling rivalry and more. The author discusses the circumstances, offers specific suggestions for parents and provides a summary chart of what not to do and how kids can get the wrong message by following their parents. For example, when a parent watches TV several hours a day, children learn that they can do the same, or when a parent yells obscenities at a driver who takes a parking spot, the child learns that he or she can also be verbally offensive. Parents can counteract their own bad behavior, counsels Severe, by apologizing for using bad language or taking responsibility for being angry and trying to be polite. The book is particularly helpful for first-time parents, who will find Severe's step-by-step prescriptions what to do when a toddler has a tantrum or how to handle time-outs invaluable. Copyright 2002 Cahners Business Information.
Library Journal
No more tantrums. No more bedtime battles. That's what Severe promises, and he clearly delivers; his How To Behave So Your Children Will, Too! was a New York Times best seller. Copyright 2002 Cahners Business Information.

Product Details

ISBN-13:
9780142004586
Publisher:
Penguin Publishing Group
Publication date:
06/01/2004
Edition description:
Reprint
Pages:
320
Sales rank:
335,890
Product dimensions:
5.31(w) x 7.98(h) x 0.71(d)

Meet the Author

Dr. Sal Severe has been a school psychologist for more than twenty-five years. He serves on the advisory board of Parents magazine and is a member of the National Association of School Psychologists. Dr. Severe is also the author of How to Behave So Your Preschooler Will, Too!

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How to Behave so Your Preschooler Will, Too! 5 out of 5 based on 0 ratings. 7 reviews.
Guest More than 1 year ago
I was resorting to yelling louder, criticising more frequently, and searching for stricter punishments...trying rather desperately to get my 4 and 7 year old sons to behave better. It simply wasn't working. I asked myself one day...when I was still half sane...Why in the world was I continuing to do what isn't working? And, I was intrigued by this title that implied I had to change first...so I bought the book. With the help of Severe's advice, I finally realized that I was going to have to change my approach in the manner I was chosing to speak to my children, before they were going to change their behavior. This book along with another practical book called 'The Pocket Parent' helped us get more cooperation from our kids as well as change the entire atmosphere of our home...now much less yelling defiance and negative 'attitude'. Both books suggest the exact words to try in challenging situations that a normal preschooler often presents his parents with. I also appreciate that the authors of both books include funny personal annecdotes about their own children to illustrate the stategies. So you never feel you are being talked down to by an expert with an assortment of 'holier than thou' do's and dont's. I find it comforting that these authors (moms and a dad) have been angered, frustrated and embarrassed by their own children, too. Both of these books are set up for busy parents to read just a particular section of the book as they need it. Each chapter stands alone and neither book has to be read cover to cover in any order. I really appreciate that feature. I found the material in Severe's book very reader friendly, with a pleasant tone and easy to understand information. His book is divided into topics in 3 main sections that explain Developmental Factors, Better Behavior Principles and How to Apply the Behavior Principles. 'The Pocket Parent' is set up differently as an A-Z compendium of about 40 behaviors such as Anger, Bad Words, Biting, Bedtime, Mealtime, Morning Crazies, Lying, Sibling Rivalry, Separation Anxiety and Whining. I do like the format of 'The Pocket Parent' better. However, I like the advice in both books equally. The books are very compatible and are chock full of compassion, humor and hundreds of ideas to try with preschoolers. Severe's book says it is for 3-6 year olds and 'The Pocket Parent' is for 2-5 year olds. I think the suggestions in both books work on children 2-10 and even older. I highly recommend both of these guidebooks to keep handy for easy reference and support on one of those really bad days with the kids when you could really use a verbal hug and a couple of practical specific suggestions.
Guest More than 1 year ago
This book has changed my life and my families. My child wasn't a 'super nanny child' as I often call some, but he definitaly had his days. This book reminds you that kids don't automatically know how to behave in every situation, that it is up to you to teach them and punishment does not do this... It recommends positive reinforcement first and foremost. And it works!!! My 4 year old is a new child!
Guest More than 1 year ago
After trying many parental books I found this book very helpful. This book is very easy to read. This book teaches parents to handle many issues like child tantrums, sibling rivalry, alternatives to spanking, anger management for parents themselves etc. This book points to many parental behaviors that reflect in preschoolers. In short, this book has many secrets to raising a happy, well-behaved preschooler. I strongly recommend this book to all parents of preschoolers.
Anonymous More than 1 year ago
I bought this book as a last ditch attempt to help improve my parenting skills with my toddler. She is a wonderful girl, I knew it was me that needed the work! As a single mom i was desperate for info and this book came in a nice package for that! You can read the book as a whole or each chapter is self supporting so you can skip around to the areas you need. As I started to implement the changes I saw a difference almost immediatly. I would recommend this book to any parent!
Anonymous More than 1 year ago
I have only read the first chapter and have had my eyes opened. I knew I needed to change, and now I know what to do, and understand my child's development better. I have a one year old, and feel confident that when he is in the toddler stage, I will no how to handle him.
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