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If you answered YES to more than one of these questions, then this book is for you!
How To Forgive will assist you in unraveling the past and help you to let go of the feelings which are holding you back. Forgiveness is a choice, but to forgive is not always easy.
In fact, many people who would like to let go of anger and forgive are stumped with the question of how to forgive. This step-by-step guide will help you acknowledge your emotions and deal with the issues those emotions identify.
"Lynda Bevan offers an important contribution to the clarification of this emotionallyloaded term: 'forgiveness'. She offers a taxonomy of misdeeds and issues that require forgiveness and then proceeds with guidance on how to tackle and defuse these situations and even turn them around in one's favor. Bevan thus transforms forgiveness from a mere ethical or moral requirement to a pragmatic approach to the management of anger, pain, and abuse. I have rarely encountered so much useful content packed into so little a space: this book is a veritable energy drink!"
--Sam Vaknin, author of Malignant Self Love: Narcissism Revisited
By the author of the #1 Bestseller: "Life Without Jealousy"
Book #5 in the 10-Step Empowerment Series -- Learn more at www.LyndaBevan.com
Self-Help: Abuse - General
Posted December 5, 2011
Reviewed by Irene Watson for Reader Views (8/11)
In the first chapter Lynda Bevan explains ¿this book will identify the many aspects and meanings of the word ¿forgiveness¿ and will attempt to enable you to understand exactly how being able to forgive someone is a basic, essential, necessary process in your life.¿
Bevan further states ¿The focus of this book is ¿forgiveness in adult relationships.'" Indeed, it is a book for healing adult relationships. And, it certainly is one for those that have experienced various negative emotions/feelings and lived through the trauma/drama to get to the place of wanting self-awareness and healing the past. Any age group or relationship, whether it be young or old, married or divorced, same-gender or heterosexual, parent or child, or even platonic friendships, will find Bevan's simple method of much benefit to start the forgiveness process.
In the beginning of the book Bevan, in a gentle voice, helps the reader understand what forgiveness really is and why we need to forgive. She claims that we aren¿t able to ¿move on¿ if we don¿t practice and incorporate forgiveness into our lives. Personally, I completely agree with her. Sometimes forgiveness is the only medicine that will heal emotional unrest.
Once the reader fully understands the necessity of forgiveness and is willing to start the healing journey Bevan gives a step-by-step process. Her guidance is clear and direct.
I believe the most important chapter in this book is ¿Implementing Change.¿ The initial process may seem simple enough but the actual change can be a challenge. Others may trigger negative emotions in us and it becomes easy to slip into the old patterns. Bevan encourages addressing the feelings by providing a set of questions to ask ourselves. It¿s only when we become clear that we are able to truly forgive. ¿How to Forgive: A Practical Guide¿ is an important tool for that clarity.
Posted August 14, 2011
How to Forgive: A Practical Guide is aimed at people, young and old, with emotional problems of letting go or suffering from a terrible trauma like abuse. Do you blame someone for hurting you? Do you have built up anger? Have you hurt somebody else? If you said yes, then you might have a problem with forgiving. Its not easy forgiving someone for emotionally or physically damaging you, but it is possible to forgive when you can fully understand your true self. It's difficult to let things go, but life can be so much better without this guilt on your shoulders.
During my thirty year of life, I have had problems forgiving people for the emotional trauma that I endured while being bullied through my childhood. Years after graduation, I still blamed them for my life's problems, but eventually I was able to forgive and continue with my life. Author Lynda Bevan, just like the title suggests, uses a practical approach to help you fully understand why you can't forgive, and how you can. I recommend the book to councilors, teachers, and readers of all ages.
Posted June 30, 2011
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