How to Get Your Husband to Talk to You [NOOK Book]

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Speaketh the Language of Him

A man comes home and says to his wife, “I had a horrible day at work today.” She says, “Tell me about it.” “I just did,” he replies. Men and women communicate differently—and, all too often, not at all! This book is a sort of “linguistics” school that will teach you to speak your husband’s language: male . You’ll discover simple ways to cultivate a sense of humor about your male and female differences, open ...
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Overview

Speaketh the Language of Him

A man comes home and says to his wife, “I had a horrible day at work today.” She says, “Tell me about it.” “I just did,” he replies. Men and women communicate differently—and, all too often, not at all! This book is a sort of “linguistics” school that will teach you to speak your husband’s language: male . You’ll discover simple ways to cultivate a sense of humor about your male and female differences, open conversations with him—and keep them going, frame what you’re saying with masculine interest areas, respond proactively to what your husband shares, and develop thicker skin (this alone is worth the price of the book). Change up your language, spice up your marriage! It’ll be your husband’s favorite thing you’ve ever done…well, almost!

A man comes home and says to his wife,

“I had a horrible day at work today.”

“Tell me about it,” she says.

“I just did,” he replies.

Men and women communicate differently—and, all too often, not at all. This book is a sort of “linguistics” school that will teach you to speak your husband’s language: male!

Discover simple ways to: Cultivate a sense of humor about your male and female differences. Open conversations with your mate, and keep them going. Frame what you are saying within masculine interest areas. Respond proactively to what your husband shares—promoting more sharing! Develop thicker skin. (This alone is worth the price of the book. It will be your husband’s favorite thing you’ve ever done…well, almost!)

“Don’t miss this book! It’s fun, realistic, smart, helpful—on every page. Think of it as your husband is a TV, and you—for once—have the remote.”

David Kopp, coauthor, with Heather Harpham-Kopp,

Praying the Bible for Your Marriage

Story Behind the Book

“The concept for this book was born at five o’clock in the morning as I was working out,” says Connie. “To keep myself awake, I thought about what Nancy and I should write to follow The Politically Incorrect Wife . ‘What’s a topic that almost every married woman in America is interested in?’ I asked myself. Almost instantly, the answer came: How to get your husband to talk to you. Thus began a lot of reading, researching, surveying, and practicing. We were surprised time and again at what worked, and what didn’t! We think you will be as well.”

From the Trade Paperback edition.

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Product Details

  • ISBN-13: 9780307562272
  • Publisher: The Doubleday Religious Publishing Group
  • Publication date: 5/26/2010
  • Sold by: Random House
  • Format: eBook
  • Pages: 288
  • Sales rank: 542,307
  • File size: 3 MB

Meet the Author

Nancy Cobb and Connie Grigsby are popular speakers and the hosts of a weekly radio program called Lifewalk. They have co-authored three books, including the best-selling How to Get Your Husband to Talk to You. Cobb and Grigsby have been guests on The 700 Club and have made ten appearances on Family Life Today with Dennis Rainey and nine appearances on Revive Our Hearts with Nancy Leigh DeMoss. They live with their families in Omaha, Nebraska.

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How to get your husband to TALK to you


By Nancy Cobb Connie Grigsby

Multnomah Publishers

Copyright © 2001 Nancy Cobb and Connie Grigsby
All right reserved.

ISBN: 1576737713


Chapter One

MEN EXPRESS LOVE BY DOING

One of the fundamental differences between men and women is the way they express love. Men are goal-oriented and express love by doing, while women are relationship-oriented and express love by being.

A woman may say "I love you" by touching, stroking, caressing, and talking.

A man, on the other hand, shows love by doing such things as going to work and earning a living.

When a woman thinks about love, she thinks about starlit nights and romantic interludes. When a man thinks about love, he thinks about bringing home enough money to buy spaghetti sauce to put on the table.

A woman wants to be swept off her feet, while a man may think sweeping the front porch does just that.

Women feel. Men do.

We were hung up on these differences for years. "Why can't you show me you love me? I need to feel loved," we'd say.

And our husbands would respond, "What in the world does that mean? What can I do to make you feel loved?"

Notice that our husbands asked what they could do to make us feel loved? They had no idea what we meant because doing is a man's native tongue while feeling is a woman's.

Countless articles and books have been written describing these fundamental differences, yet it wasn't untilwe actually began to take this difference into consideration that we began to notice the ways in which our husbands express love.

Before learning this, when I (Connie) would say to my husband, "I need you to make me feel loved," my husband would respond, "I don't know how to do that if I haven't done it already. They didn't teach that in school, and if they did I was absent that day."

"It is not a hard thing to do," I would retort. And it's not-to a woman. But to a man it is like trying to read a map with no legend.

At some point my weary husband would say, "Besides making you feel cherished, what else can I do?"

What else? What else was there? Nothing-at least as far as I was concerned. I know now that what he was doing all those years was trying to give me exactly what I wanted. He was just doing it in a man's language. Imagine that!

Acknowledge the fact that you and your husband show love in entirely different ways, and appreciate your differences. Begin to look for the ways he shows love that are unique to him. One of the clues is that they will often be action based rather than feeling based.

For example, I (Connie) have learned that Wes shows love by supporting me in whatever I'm involved with, working hard to provide for me and our children, forgiving quickly, and not pressuring me to do things I don't enjoy. For instance, I don't enjoy cooking, and he doesn't make me feel bad that I don't. He's happy to eat whatever I prepare. It's usually very simple, but he always thanks me for preparing it.

My (Nancy) husband, Ray's, love language is seldom verbal. He's not a big hand-holder, either. However, he excels in demonstrating his love by doing things for me. If he has a day off and I'm working, he often cleans the house and has dinner ready when I get home. He calls me every day at work to see if I need anything from the store. As I first wrote these words, I heard him pull into the driveway after getting his car washed. I was ready to greet him, only to watch him pull out of the driveway in my car to have it washed. Knowing that I have a deadline to meet, he told me if I needed any errands run or household tasks completed, he was ready, willing, and able. I've learned that I don't need words when everything he does lets me know he loves me.

When you begin to accept your husband's efforts, you are granting him the uncommon luxury of being himself. What would happen if women stopped expecting men to be more like them? We think one of the first things that would happen is that husbands would feel freer to talk.

Chapter Two

MEN DON'T WORRY, FRET, OR FUSS

Men don't show their love by worrying, fretting, or fussing over someone like women do. They are too busy mowing the lawn, changing the oil, or caulking the air draft around the window. In fact, this is their way of fussing.

They don't wring their hands and wonder if you are okay if it is raining outside when you are driving home. There's nothing they can do about the rain, so what good is it to worry? Women, on the other hand, are expert worriers and worry until either the rain stops or their loved ones arrive home safely. Their worrying seems to be attached to the way they love, even though the worrying serves no purpose and adds nothing to life.

A few years ago, a good friend of ours took her children to visit her parents. On the return trip they encountered an unexpected snowstorm. Traveling was perilous, and she debated whether to stop or go on. She decided to continue. Mile by mile she made her way home. She was exhausted when she pulled into her driveway, and every muscle in her body ached with tension.

She went running into the house to assure her husband that she and the kids were safe. She found him in their bedroom, watching television.

"Honey, we're home, and we're safe!" she exclaimed.

"I'm glad," he responded, giving her a hug and then hugging the kids.

She waited on him to "fuss" over her a bit. He didn't. He asked about the trip and whether they had had fun at her parents'. This baffled her. Surely in just a minute he would tell her how worried he had been and how brave she was. This, however, was not forthcoming.

Finally, she asked, "Were you worried?"

"No," he replied. "You have such common sense-I knew that if the roads were bad you'd pull over, and if they weren't, you'd make it just fine. I trust your judgment completely."

Somehow his response seemed so anticlimactic! She suddenly wished her sense wasn't quite so common. She was disappointed and hurt that he hadn't been glancing out of the window every few minutes to see if they were safely home. She knew not to ask if he'd been pacing or if he'd called the highway patrol to check out road conditions. Worry? What worry?

It didn't mean he loved her less because he didn't worry-it just meant he showed his love differently than she would have given the same circumstances.



Excerpted from How to get your husband to TALK to you by Nancy Cobb Connie Grigsby Copyright © 2001 by Nancy Cobb and Connie Grigsby
Excerpted by permission. All rights reserved. No part of this excerpt may be reproduced or reprinted without permission in writing from the publisher.

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