How to Have A Match Made in Heaven: A Transformational Approach to Dating, Relating, and Marriage

How to Have A Match Made in Heaven: A Transformational Approach to Dating, Relating, and Marriage

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by Ariel and Shya Kane, Shya Kane
     
 
Well known authors and speakers Ariel and Shya Kane continue to discover and define relationships in their new book How to Have A Match Made in Heaven: A Transformational Approach to Dating, Relating, and Marriage. Relationship coaches for more than twenty years they have succeeded in guiding many individuals and couples toward effective communication and

Overview

Well known authors and speakers Ariel and Shya Kane continue to discover and define relationships in their new book How to Have A Match Made in Heaven: A Transformational Approach to Dating, Relating, and Marriage. Relationship coaches for more than twenty years they have succeeded in guiding many individuals and couples toward effective communication and personal transformation. How to Have A Match Made in Heaven not only shares many of these sessions in print but also points the reader to the authors' website, where videos of the actual conversations can be viewed. This unique approach, designed to illustrate the insights and break-through moments of individuals and couples, presents real and practical ways for the reader to have their own transformational moments.

Based on the Three Principles of Instantaneous Transformation, as outlined in Working on Yourself Doesn't Work and the award-winning How to Create a Magical Relationship, this new book moves relationships into a new and satisfying level, where couples realize that judgment, resentment, or blame can be overcome by simply living in the moment. Ridding oneself of the need to change yourself or others can be, and often is, a transformational moment leading to positive, powerful changes in one's relationships.

In Match Made in Heaven, you will meet ordinary, everyday people, in all walks of life, who face the same concerns and fears that we all face, especially the fear that they will not have a happy, committed relationship with another person. But as they start to grasp the meaning of the Three Principles of Instantaneous Transformation they begin to understand that if they just experience life from moment to moment, the obstacles and fears that surround them often disappear, leaving them to view their world in a fresh, vibrant, and exciting new way.

This unique book includes links to companion streaming videos and audios of the Kanes working with clients. These mini-sessions allow you to feel like you are right there having a direct experience of those aha moments when a person's life transforms in an instant.

Editorial Reviews

Publishers Weekly
The Kanes are marriage experts. They've spent almost 30 years teaching people how to unlearn behavior patterns that damage themselves and their relationships. The couple focuses on how to get people to view their own behaviors with calm detachment and uncritical observation, leading them to a more compassionate view of themselves and their partners. The Kanes also stress how early relationships with parents influence future dating and note that both partners are fully responsible for the success of a relationship—as opposed to each partner being half responsible. These concepts will not be new ideas to readers, but they are presented in a clear, understandable, and even humorous form. And while most relationship-oriented self-help books cover similar ground, this one distinguishes itself from the pack. By focusing on actual people's stories, the Kanes illustrate how their advice works in action. The book includes links to audio-video sections that can be found online for readers curious to see the people whose stories are being told.
From the Publisher
In How to Have A Match Made in Heaven, Ariel and Shya Kane guide us wisely in how we can best care for and treat ourselves so we can create a strong foundation for a fulfilling relationship. This is great reading for anyone who is committed to experiencing deep and lasting love. — Marci Shimoff, NY Times bestselling author of Happy for No Reason and Love for No Reason

Hallelujah, a relationship book that makes sense! At a time when so many people struggle with relationships, this book can serve as a significant roadmap to connection with self and a perfect partner. — Alan Cohen, author of Don't Get Lucky, Get Smart

Honesty and communication are crucial to the success of any relationship and Ariel and Shya Kane are empowering people in every part of the world to enjoy thriving, enduring relationships by learning to be honest with themselves and those they love and improve communication skills. The tools and mindset strategies you will gain from these pages are timeless and highly effective; to invest in this book is to invest in your happiness for a lifetime. — Ivan Misner, PhD, New York Times best-selling author and founder of BNI

The most important relationship you will ever have is the one with yourself. The Kanes recognize this, so they begin at the source and work outward. By cultivating an understanding of the effect we have on ourselves, then on those around us, and finally on the world as a whole, we become an instrument for greater change. Whatever your relationship status, How To Have A Match Made In Heaven is an indispensable tool that should be on everyone's shelf. — Amit Goswami, PhD, theoretical physicist, acclaimed worldwide speaker, author of How Quantum Activism Can Save Civilization

From childhood, we are brainwashed by fairy tales about 'falling in love and living happily ever after.' With the help of Ariel and Shya Kane's book, you will learn how to retain that enthusiasm for love while being able to deal with the real-world problems every relationship is bound to encounter. They help you to better understand yourself and your actions, thus leading to a more complete picture of all the important relationships in your life. — Betsy Chasse, author, film maker, co-creator of the hit documentary What the BLEEP Do We Know!?

Good information is valuable, but there's nothing like experiencing the lesson. This is where the Kanes excel. This is no sterile 'How to' guide. Wonderfully illustrated through actual events and experiences of their clients and themselves, you 'feel' the teachings. Feeling is what makes it real. Read How to Have A Match Made in Heaven and create your own heavenly relationship. — Neil Garvey, Publisher, Creations Magazine

Building a life with true partnership is possible - and it can even be fun and passionate! Ariel & Shya Kane show you how, through words and images, in this remarkable book. If a magical relationship is what you dream of, read this book and watch the accompanying videos to see what possibilities are open to you. — Alex Jamieson, author, chef, and health counselor

Everyone is looking for the kind of relationship the Kanes have. Some maybe lucky enough to have already found it, but for anyone who is still searching, or still working at finding and creating a 'match made in heaven', this latest book from Ariel and Shya offers tried and tested advice with real-life stories and examples to boost your confidence, clarify what you're looking for, and enhance your chances of finding the right relationship for you. — Stephen Gawtry, managing editor, Watkins MIND BODY SPIRIT magazine

How to Have A Match Made in Heaven will transform your relationships and your life. Their practical ideas, their insight and their real life stories will educate you, inspire you and help you create loving relationships. The Kanes' ground breaking use of companion videos and audios brings relationships alive in a new and exciting way. — David Riklan, Founder & President of SelfGrowth.com, the leading Self Improvement Site on Yahoo & Google

As always, Ariel and Shya Kane have managed to hone in on the exact triggers for what makes or breaks relationships. Their insightful advice will bring a remarkable clarity to your own situation, as well as plenty of solutions for true fulfillment. — Sonia von Matt Stoddard, Awareness Magazine

Product Details

ISBN-13:
9781888043020
Publisher:
ASK Productions, Incorporated
Publication date:
09/04/2012
Pages:
320
Sales rank:
658,315
Product dimensions:
5.50(w) x 8.40(h) x 0.80(d)

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Since 1987, award-winning authors and acclaimed seminar leaders, Ariel & Shya Kane have inspired individuals and organizations across the globe, bringing people through the swamp of the mind, into the clarity and brilliance of the moment. Their transformational approach has a unique flavor that is designed for modern day circumstances and complexities while resonating with universal truths of the ages.

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How to Have A Match Made in Heaven: A Transformational Approach to Dating, Relating, and Marriage 5 out of 5 based on 0 ratings. 34 reviews.
Colleen33 More than 1 year ago
This revolutionary book has produced a profound shift in my life. My relationship with my husband has blossomed – we are more in love now than ever before. With their sweet and compassionate wisdom, Ariel & Shya Kane have written a masterpiece and include streaming videos of them working with their clients. This book is a powerful read and is enforced with a visual experience. I got goose-bumps seeing people’s lives transform before my eyes. I transformed along with their clients! My husband is happy, I am happy – it’s amazing! It’s the best relationship book I’ve ever experienced. Revolutionary is the perfect word to describe this book. There is nothing else like it or compares to it.
JoeS133 More than 1 year ago
I really loved How to Have A Match Made in Heaven by Ariel and Shya Kane. As I began reading the book, it quickly became apparent that this is not an ordinary relationship book. Instead, it contains real interactions with real people discussing all facets of relationship, from the primary relationship one has with one’s self, to dating, marriage, divorce, and everything in between. Not only can you read about these inspiring people and engaging conversations in How to Have A Match Made in Heaven, but the book contains a link to videos where you can see the interactions as well! This was really cool, as I was able to actually see what the authors were talking about. After watching the videos, the ideas in the book went from being a concept to something real and tangible. In my opinion, this book is valuable for everyone; whether you are single, in a relationship, or married – this book can have a profound impact! It really made a huge difference in my life and relationship. After reading the book, I was excited for new possibilities in my life. It is clear that the authors actually have an amazing relationship, and have articulated the way they live their lives in this book. I can’t recommend it enough!
Menna-Cambridge More than 1 year ago
How to Have a Match Made in Heaven is a truly magical book, full of inspiration, beauty & many life-transforming moments. The authors, who've had their own match made in heaven for thirty years, share their secrets and insights so we can have one too. They use real-life examples with people (along with videos) to reveal and demonstrate their suggestions, so you can see & feel the transformation they are talking about. I've never read a book like it. It's more than just a book, it's an experience, and a jaw-droppingly, heart-expanding, utterly beautiful one.
LMSchnee More than 1 year ago
Inspiring and Life-Changing Book!  This is a beautiful, inspiring and -no exaggeration- life-changing book.  It is both deeply profound, but also light, fun and a pleasure to read. It offers the keys to discovering true partnership with another and well-being in yourself.   I never used to believe that A Match Made in Heaven was possible for me - I used to have all these reasons why Id never find The One and thought that people who did were just lucky. I am so glad I was wrong.  This book, with its very cool use of videos and audios, shows how loving, healthy relationships are possible for everyone.  And not only possible, but easy!  No analyzing or agonizing required!  I feel very blessed to have an amazing marriage now to a man I adore and enjoy, and thanks to the Kanes and this book - it just keeps getting better!
TerriG More than 1 year ago
It's a wonderful book! I enjoyed reading it, and found myself connecting with the stories from real people's lives. I've noticed since reading it I feel more relaxed in myself. I'm more available to others. I chose to read the book in its entirety first and then relive it by watching the accompanying videos all at once. It was so much fun! It's also a good book to simply open to a random page and read what's on it. I've done that with the Kanes' other books and it's always a treat. I don't hold on to many books after I read them, but this one's definitely a keeper!
ffranco More than 1 year ago
This is one book not to be missed! "How to Have a Match Made in Heaven will not only touch your heart, it will transform it!! The Kanes' masterful approach has the magic and timelessness to make relationships blossom at any stage, but more importantly perhaps, the one with yourself. Experience the book thru its pages and real-life videos and feel a whole new doorway of possibilities open before your eyes. A relationship book not to be missed."
KatRoss1 More than 1 year ago
I picked up this book, honestly because I was interested in having a successful romantic relationship. But to my surprise, out of reading “How to Have a Match Made in Heaven” I noticed significant shifts in the way I related to my parents, my coworkers, my roommates, everyone I had an interaction with and also to myself. I became much kinder with myself, and much more understanding and patient with the people I came into contact with. This book is based upon conversations with real people, from all walks of life. And, the thing that sets this book apart from every other book out there is that it includes links to videos of these conversations so you can see in real time what they are talking about. You can see real people asking real questions and then Ariel and Shya brilliantly answer them in a way that shines a light on a new possibility of relating. This book is a must read for anyone who is eager to connect with people, create easier friendships and have more intimacy in their life.
Erica_O More than 1 year ago
I love this book. I have known about Ariel & Shya Kane as teachers and practitioners of true awareness – the complete and total non-judgmental seeing of what is. Magically, this book not only demonstrates the practice of awareness by gently illuminating the behaviors and ah-ha moments of their individual clients in each chapter, it also transmits the practice of awareness to the reader when they simply follow along. Things just start to feel more clear and still and alive. And, while many will wholeheartedly relate to the individual stories contained in this book, the overarching impact of this book is the beautiful teaching of not being hard on oneself (and not on anyone else either). Allowing oneself to be, without judgment, seems so simple and yet many of us struggle. But as Ariel & Shya gently and lovingly explored the unseen behaviors of individual clients, and demonstrated the power of simply seeing these behaviors as a neutral observer, something inside me began to relax and I became aware of my own behaviors that conflict with leading a full life. This book provides the platform for having a life full of possibilities and a feeling of complete freedom, even within the strictures of a daily routine. Relax and read, and then feel the tides of your own life shift into ease.
DeliciousAlex More than 1 year ago
My "self-help" library is now complete - I only need this one! I've read my fair share of relationship, dating, and "self-help" advice books. The Kanes’ new book is truly one of the best and most innovative books of its kind. With a relaxed but intuitive and caring attitude towards relationships and love, the authors show how our own thoughts, habits and behaviors get in the way of what we desire most - true, deep, fun intimate connections. But they don't lay blame at the reader's feet! (whew!) I saw that my old ways of being - in dating, relating, or even how I talk to or care for myself - were keeping me from and making connection with others challenging. How to Have A Match Made in Heaven has an innovative way of showing possibilities to the reader - with linked videos that give another experience of the stories - from the real people described in the book! This was one of my favorite parts of the book: to be able to watch the "character" from the personal stories tell their own tale, and watch as they "transformed" on screen and how it affected their life - it was really magical. I highly recommend this book for anyone looking for love, or who is already in a relationship and wants to improve their intimacy with their loved one - or themselves.
Anonymous More than 1 year ago
This book is a practical guide to having a heavenly relationship with yourself and others. With the use of videos that correspond with the chapters in the book it illustrates this message very well. You can really see the subtleties of the experiences of people asking questions to Ariel & Shya Kane who provide practical yet profound responses. The power of awareness can transform relationships. Anyone can have a match made in heaven. This book is for people who are single, dating, married, divorced or widowed. It is for everyone.
Anonymous More than 1 year ago
I also love this book! Every chapter is an encounter with people who are willing to honestly look at their lives and with the courage to share what they discover with the world. Ariel and Shya Kane are very clear, direct and have a lot of humor in their conversations with these people and in explaining their transformational approach to life, which makes the book exciting and fun to read. It is without any over intellectual or mystical texts that you might expect from enlightened teachers. And yet what they teach goes in deep and it gets deeper with every time you re-read the book, attend a seminar or listen to their online radio show "Being Here". It's like peeling off the layers of an onion - in a fun way. Ariel and Shya Kane write: "Fun is the access way to enlightenment" and that is where burnt chicken soup comes in. In one of the many fun stories of the book in the chapter called "If Mama Ain't Happy, Ain't Nobody Happy" they tell the story of how a woman tries very hard to cook the chicken soup just like her husband's mother did, but it never turns out right... (I won't spoil the story for you now) ... and in the middle of laughing you realize you have just learned something very profound. It's simple and easy. So I suggest reading this book because it's pure entertainment with the wonderful side effect of improved relationships, more well-being in your life and who knows what else will happen for you. I can only say, get your copy today!
SBartel More than 1 year ago
Ariel and Shya Kane's newest book is truly a gift. The wealth of practical, empowering information in "How to Have a Match Made in Heaven" is enormous. The examples they use are clear and effective, and I often finished a chapter saying "Wow!" to myself. The video aspect of this book is amazing, and the video clips capture the essence of Transformation in such a fantastic way. The possibility of having a Match Made in Heaven is within our grasp, and the Kanes have given us an amazing set of tools to achieve just that. The book is a fun read, full of humor, sweetness and humanity, and the videos are a powerful illustration of how instantaneous Transformation can be!
Stephanie_Bauer More than 1 year ago
REAL PEOPLE - REAL CHANGES What a remarkable book! The authors use real people (a lot of whom you can even see and experience through related video links) to illustrate where the challenges of dating, relating and marriage lie. They offer their unique perspective and down to earth suggestions for how to create the magic, ease and deep satisfaction most of us have all been longing for. I particularly enjoyed watching the videos and seeing the impact the Kanes are making on the people they interact with - people literally change before your eyes as they see where they got "stuck" and they discover new ways of being which had not occurred to them as a possibility. Reading the book and watching the videos, I recognized a part of myself in each of the people who are in the book / videos, and I am noticing that I am relating in new ways - much easier and smoother... and much more fun! This book is for everyone who dreams about having long-lasting, intimate and deeply satisfying relationships - because this book gives you the keys to make these dreams come true.
Valeyran More than 1 year ago
The new book by Ariel an Shya Kane, How to Have a Match Made in Heaven, is very unique for different reasons. First, almost every chapter in the book is accompanied by a video or audio which gives you the actual experience of what the authors are writing about, and lets you meet the person they are interacting with. What a fantastic concept. This book is also different in so far as it is something you have to take your time over and really listen to. It is a treat to see the way the Kanes work with people and to witness how transformation happens. By taking the time to watch the videos and listen to what is being said (and written), I have been deeply affected by this book. The book is not a list of quick fixes or steps to forever happy. The book is an education on being present, listening, noticing what moves you, letting go of your judgments and preconceived ideas and expanding your self-imposed limitations... Listening to the book brings you home, to the present moment, where heaven starts. In a way, the book is a metaphor for what works in a relationship. Make a date with it, give it your full attention, listen to what it is telling you and it will feed you and enlighten you I recommend How to Have a Match Made in Heaven to everyone looking for a transformational shift in the way they live their lives, and interested in discovering the nuances of true intimacy.
Anonymous More than 1 year ago
I LOVE this book! It gave me the opportunity to discover my relationship with myself and the people around me in a new and easy way. Ariel & Shya talk about being here and how everything gets easy and light when your „here“ with the things and people around you. That it is really true, I experienced it myself! I loved watching the videos and listening to the podcast that come along with the book. There, people transform in „real time“, it‘s really lovely to see! This book is for everybody who is interested in having magnificent relationships that are stress-free and fun! Enjoy the reading! Andrea
Anonymous More than 1 year ago
I love this book! I can read it anytime choosing a paragraph which jumps out at me. Sometimes there are moments where I feel unsure or I feel stuck – then I take the book How to Have a Match Made in Heaven and I always find a gift. It’s refreshing, honest and written fully with love. I discover new facets about me and my loved ones and for the past  half a year my boyfriend and I have had this wonderful relationship! My life is more colorful. I know for certain that this book is written from the heart and it makes my heart smile.
Anonymous More than 1 year ago
How to Have A Match Made in Heaven: A Transformational Approach to Dating, Relating, and Marriage By Ariel and Shya Kane is a must read for anyone wanting to have more intimacy, fun, understanding and connection in their relationships. This book has helped me to transform all of my relationships especially those with family, co workers, clients and most of all with myself. The best part is that since reading this book a couple of challenging relationships, one at work and one with a close family member have completely transformed. I have been able to see things from the others point of view for the first time and to really listen to what they are saying instead of feeling criticized and getting defensive. We now can work and relate with each other in ways that were just not possible before. Life is easier, happier and much more fun! Thank you so much to the Kane's for this wonderful and insightful book.
Anonymous More than 1 year ago
I've read my fair share of relationship, dating, and "self-help" advice books. The Kanes’ new book is truly one of the best and most innovative books of its kind.  Their relaxed but intuitive and caring attitude towards relationships and love (even self-love) is comforting and revelatory. The authors show how our own thoughts, habits and behaviors get in the way of what we desire most - true, deep, fun intimate connections.  And they don't lay blame at the reader's feet! (whew!) I saw that my old ways of acting - in dating, relating, or even how I talk to or care for myself - were actually keeping me from and making connection with others challenging. How to Have A Match Made in Heaven has an new way of showing possibilities to the reader - with linked videos that give another experience of the stories - from the real people described in the book!  This was one of my favorite parts of the book: to be able to watch the "character" from the personal stories tell their own tale, and watch as they "transformed" on screen and how it affected their life - it was really magical. I highly recommend this book for anyone looking for love, or who is already in a relationship and wants to improve their intimacy with their loved one - or themselves.
MichaelHankoNYC More than 1 year ago
A friend gave me this wonderful little book, and at first I was confused. After all, I'm already IN a good relationship. But the Kane's book, I quickly figured out, is primarily about the most important relationship in my life: my relationship with ME. Their three principles of Transformation are simple and simple to apply. I found myself in no time able to make really different choices about how I respond to what life brings. Since reading the book, I've felt more peaceful, have more energy throughout the day, and, for the first time in my life, have a way to combat my habit of worrying which used to sap my energy and my joy. In short, I'm happier than I've ever been. The book is easy and fun to read and replete with real-life stories I could relate to. The Kanes aren't only wise, they're witty as well. I recommend this book for anyone who is ready for an easier, more positive, happier way of being.
benex More than 1 year ago
Ariel & Shya Kane's new book is truly a gift for everyone. No matter if you are married, have a boy- or girlfriend, are dating or want to date, reading this book will shift your relationship to yourself and any person you meet in a profound way. It is not a guidebook or handbook giving you rules or trying to make you "better" in any way - it is a book full of real life interactions that Ariel & Shya Kane had throughout the years with people from all over the planet who asked them questions and seeked for answers how they could have a life full of joy, how they could have beautiful relationships with their spouses, families, friends and their collegues at work. If you've never read a book of their's: Read them all! If you've already read their other books: Read this one!! And if you are in the mood for more: Watch the videos that you can also access by buying this book and see Ariel & Shya Kane interact with people on video or listen to their audio files.
Anonymous More than 1 year ago
We Are A Team Reading this book, How to Have A Match Made in Heaven was such an eye opener. It helped me to see how I’d been contributing to the disharmony in my marriage.  The more I read, the clearer I saw how I  nagged, pressured and belittled my husband. In my mind, I thought, I was just "making him a better husband." I realized if he needed me to make him better, than that would mean something was wrong with him.  I’d forgotten that I picked him for the wonderful, kind man that he is. I started seeing more of why I loved  him and less of what I thought needed fixing. Ironically, as I stopped picking on myself, I stopped  picking on him. And the kinder I was to him, the more he did around the house.  Reading the book and attending seminars with Ariel and Shya Kane have helped me to see our beautiful relationship for what it really is. Now, we communicate so clearly and it is amazing. Our daughter loves to spend time with ‘mommy and daddy’ and we enjoy spending time with her. We parent together easily, and realized we are, in this life, a team. Candice
Claudia9 More than 1 year ago
I loved this book. Especially the videos that are included. The stories, through the videos, put a face to a name, provide an interaction that is brilliant and you can watch and listen to Ariel and Shya in action. Transformation in a relationship begins with you and that's what the book is about. You transform and that transforms your relationship. Ariel and Syha are masters and intuitives when it comes to making you aware of what is going on, pointing out childhood behaviors and beliefs that all of a sudden make you smile at the truth. Thank you Ariel and Shya for sharing all the beautiful stories.
MadhuBM More than 1 year ago
Ariel and Shya Kane's book How to Have a Match Made in Heaven is genius! I love the diverse collection of real-life interactions with participants that everyone can recognize in relationships. Whether you're single or married or somewhere in between, there is something here for everyone. After reading this book, I realize that there is no place that is better to get to (whether in a relationship or not). This is seemingly a paradox because we are culturally steeped in the belief that we always have to get to the next level or advance to the next stage. This book has allowed me to relax and be okay in my own skin, which in this day and age is not a very commonplace occurrence. It is OK to give myself a break! If I can even go to another level here, the authors have actually taken Enlightenment (which is widely considered only to be in the domain of ascetics or those who have renounced worldly aspirations) and made it accessible to all the rest of us: you and me, living in the real world dealing with all the complexities of the modern world. That is the beauty of their work and this book.
SandyDAmato More than 1 year ago
Revolutionary! Not only did I get to read and experience in words the instaneous transformations taking place in each chapter, but, BONUS!, I get to watch a video (which has easy access to get to, might I add) that visually plays out these beautiful, sensitive, and moving transformations. And ...I transformed right along with them! My relationship with my husband is fun and passionate, my relationships at work are fun and passionate, my relationship with my daughter is fun and passionate ....YES! Read this book! Watch these videos! Relationships in your life can be fun and passionate, too!
Anonymous More than 1 year ago
Passion for Each Moment In "How to Have a Match Made in Heaven" Ariel and Shya Kane share the transformational way to support and evolve your relating skills without working on yourself. Experience the Kanes' passion for each moment, which allows their clients to take the honest, non-judgmental look at their lives that is conducive to transformation. In both the written text and in the companion videos and audios that form the revolutionary extra bonus of this book, witness how peoples' lives transform during their interactions with Ariel and Shya Kane and have yours transform simultaneously.