How to Heal the Hurt by Hating [NOOK Book]


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"I wish we were back together for just one night . . .

so I could push you out of my loftbed while you were sleeping."

Satirical and sharp, downtown New York City performance artist Anita Liberty reinvents self-help as she skewers her ex-boyfriend in this hilarious, hip, and audaciously candid collection of advice, poems, and diary entries.

"I thought you were a gifted and tortured artist.

I was wrong.

About the gifted part.


And the artist part."

From romantic bliss to brutal breakup, from heartache to healing, this fierce, funny, and ultimately liberating homage to being "dumped" rips off the stiff upper lip in favor of a red-hot therapy of wit, wisdom, rage, and redemption. And now, a few words from Anita Liberty . . .


Lowering my standards.

So you can meet them."

"You're a bad habit.

I want to kick you.


Inclues free postcards to send to that special someone!

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Product Details

  • ISBN-13: 9780307556882
  • Publisher: Random House Publishing Group
  • Publication date: 4/23/2009
  • Sold by: Random House
  • Format: eBook
  • Pages: 160
  • File size: 4 MB

Meet the Author

Anita Liberty is the creation of comedian Suzanne Weber.  She cowrote (with
R.J. Cutler, producer of the Academy Award-nominated documentary The
War Room
) and stars in Anita Liberty, a short film shown to
great acclaim at the Sundance Film Festival and the Los Angeles
Independent Film Festival.  She lives in New York City.

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Read an Excerpt

W E E K O N E :

he told me that
I'm beautiful when I'm angry.

b i g m i s t a k e


Temp job. It was in midtown. Hellish. Truly. I realized something
today when I was in the elevator of this huge office building:
chivalry is not dead. Far from it, much to my dismay. In crowded
midtown office building elevators, male passengers insist on stepping
aside to let female passengers off first. No matter if all the men
are in the front of the elevator. No matter if the elevator is so
akes all of us twice as long to get out the door. Well, I'd like to
take the liberty of speaking for my gender when I say, "Just get off
the goddamned elevator, you idiots! Just get off. Don't worry about
me. Don't even think about me. When the doors open, just get out.
Get out. You have one thing to remember and one thing only: Elevator
stops. Doors open. Get the fuck out of my way."


People talk a lot about
"letting go"--
how that's the only way
you can truly get over a break-up and move on,
the only way to show your strength and exhibit growth.
Here's what I think about letting go:
You don't have to.


I know what people say about me.

"Anita Liberty's so angry."
"Anita Liberty's so angry at men."
"Anita Liberty just needs to get laid."

And I'm like, you know...


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  • Anonymous

    Posted July 19, 2006

    Loved It!!!

    This is the ultimate bad break up book. She tells it like it is. She actually made me laugh during my darkest moments.

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  • Anonymous

    Posted April 12, 2006

    I bought two

    I love this book. After a bad break up a friend gave it to me to read. In turn I bought two. One to keep for myself at all times and the other to pass around to friends when they need an after breakup pick me up. Anita Liberty said it all. A cynical twist, but true to heart.

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  • Anonymous

    Posted July 31, 2003

    Just didn't get it ?

    Good book but really lacks complete coverage. Seems author held back on some points, overall good reading.

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  • Anonymous

    Posted February 6, 2001

    Remedy for Love gone Bad

    this book has helped my friends and me through many a tough time since i bought it last may. It was WONDERFUL, and a must have to any woman who wants a good laugh about how relationships are viewed by the vivacious Anita :)

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  • Anonymous

    Posted April 5, 2000

    An honest portrayal of being dissed!

    Whether you've gone through a break-up, or know someone who has, this book is a must read. Anita Liberty's biting wit holds nothing back. The book is brutally honest, charming and hysterical. Be prepared to laugh out loud.

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