How To Lose Friends and Alienate People

How To Lose Friends and Alienate People

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by Toby Young

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In 1995 high-flying British journalist Toby Young left London for New York to become a contributing editor at Vanity Fair. Other Brits had taken Manhattan - Alistair Cooke then, Anna Wintour now - so why couldn"t he? But things didn"t go quite according to plan. Within the space of two years he was fired from Vanity Fair, banned from the most fashionable bar in the


In 1995 high-flying British journalist Toby Young left London for New York to become a contributing editor at Vanity Fair. Other Brits had taken Manhattan - Alistair Cooke then, Anna Wintour now - so why couldn"t he? But things didn"t go quite according to plan. Within the space of two years he was fired from Vanity Fair, banned from the most fashionable bar in the city, and couldn"t get a date for love or money. Even the local AA group wanted nothing to do with him.

How to Lose Friends and Alienate People is Toby Young"s hilarious account of the five years he spent looking for love in all the wrong places and steadily working his way down the New York food chain, from glossy magazine editor to crash-test dummy for interactive sex toys. But it"s more than "the longest self-deprecating joke since the complete works of Woody Allen" (Sunday Times); it"s also a seditious attack on the culture of celebrity from inside the belly of the beast. And there"s even a happy ending as Toby Young marries - "for proper non-cynical reasons," as he puts it - the woman of his dreams. "Some people are lucky enough to stumble across the right path straight away; most of us only discover what the right one is by going down the wrong one first."

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Toby Young was born in 1963. In the course of his career as a journalist he has been fired from a succession of prestigious newspapers and magazines, including the Times of London, the Guardian, the Independent, and Vanity Fair. He lives in London.

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How to Lose Friends and Alienate People 3.4 out of 5 based on 0 ratings. 18 reviews.
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In Toby Young's How to Lose Friends and Alienate People, the reader gets to see first hand, Toby's adventurous life from motherland England to new-world NYC. Toby has a particular attitude and characteristic that makes his memoir a delight to read. Toby has a passion to meet and date famous celebrities and party the night away with women. However, that's just a desire Toby may or may not experience. The plot of the story is not very concrete like a normal book, but very "jumpy" in the sense where each chapter is either creating a new problem or explaining the outcome of a problem. As a person who never leisurely reads, I must say this is one book I found hard to put down. Many times I would start the book and read multiple chapters at a time only to read more of Toby's screw ups and dilemmas at Vanity Fair and his quest for a celebrity life. This book has pages of humor and sex comments which makes it a great light read before bed or just a light read during traveling. How to Lose Friends and Alienate People will surely make time fly by.
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hiii More than 1 year ago
How to Lose Friends and Alienate People by Toby young is a memoir of Tobys life when he worked for Vanity Fair and lived in New York. Toby Young is an unsuccessful British journalist who gets invited to work for a glossy New York magazine. This book shows Tobys self-destructive nature in full from alcohol to cocaine and his idolization of movie stars. The story follows all the things toby does while working for Vanity Fair and his stay in New York. You'll read about his childish shenanigans and his late night partying. He tells about his whole life during this period from work to his trouble with women and everything in-between I thought that the book was funny and interesting. I was laughing through almost the entire book. A couple chapters are more for setting up the situation rather then humor.
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Mr. Young is an intelligent and clever writer. He has pretty much mastered the art of self-deprecation. Often times, the reader is caught between pitying and laughing at the author and his serious lapses in judgment.

Several times while reading this book I wanted to grab Mr. Young by his collar, slap him and tell him to shut up...for his own good. He is a man who would not (or maybe could not) learn from his mistakes. Considering he¿s a bit more than ten years my senior, I was surprised how many times I found myself wanting to tell him to grow up!

A bit preachy at times
Many, many times he analyzes (and gripes about) America and Americans when his beef, in fact, lies with New York City (Manhattan, really) and a minority of its denizens. He built a fantasy world of what New York was going to be like based on stories of `the Algonquin-to-Hollywood group¿ (Ben Hecht and Herman J. Mankiewicz, among others) and was fiercely disappointed in finding his Manhattan contemporaries to be so (in Mr. Young¿s own words) `disturbingly well adjusted¿.
He also asserts America holds itself up to be a meritocracy when, in reality, it is an aristocracy. The author cites our current President to bolster his claim. While there is some truth to Toby's assertion, it is hard to swallow because it's tainted with the juice of sour grapes.

If you want to go beyond the velvet ropes and sneak a peek at the behind-the-scenes world of celebrity parties, glossy magazines and the antics of prominent New York City columnists and publication VIPs, all through the eyes of a lowly hack, you'll probably get a kick out of this book. He drops names fairly often and reading about how these people sometimes behave when the spotlight is off is deliciously naughty. Unfortunately, the laughs aren't as memorable as the lectures and the reader is left wondering if, in the end, Toby Young really learned anything at all.

Guest More than 1 year ago
This book was a definate,'How not to succeed in the workplace manual'.....but he was funny, self-effacing..a George Contanza type individual!....Toby is a riot!
Guest More than 1 year ago
--- Good observation of the people of the US, as a society with the eyes of the rest part of the world. Who says that? My European and Japanese passengers in my limo are constantly recalling similar funny or bitter experience. It isn¿t about Native Americans, rather the residents of the US that is the most colorful mix on the earth. --- Isn¿t it sad that even smart people (like ordinary lawyers) haven¿t acquired enough wisdom to comprehend the author real point? Point: Here in the US even the British or Hungarian folks are willing to turn themselves inside out for money they never will be able to enjoy. Or as we Hungarians like to say: Lots of people are out there, ready to kill his parents just to getting free dinner at the orphanage. --- If you are age 20 or over and have $20, good senses of humor and a few hours in a place where you can laugh freely then you have to buy this book. If you are under 20 you may want to wait, if you do not have the rest after age 20 you just have to give up, you never goanna get them no matter what is your origin.
Guest More than 1 year ago
Toby Young gives a searing account of life as a corporate climbing weasel in our fair city of New York. Admittedly, some parts of the book are a tad drawn out and tedious, as he goes into great detail about seemingly meaningless details. But I found even these drawn out parts of the book fascinating and humorous. I don't think this is the first book about superficial life in New York, but Young's description is hilarious enough to nonetheless be original. Watching him slither from one public relations disaster to the next is addictive. This book rocks!
Guest More than 1 year ago
Although a bit funny and juicy, this tallented man prefer to wastes all his intelligence only ot tell us how full of themselves the US celebrities are? as if hugh Grant is a human-rights volunteer...
Guest More than 1 year ago
Although I loved the humour of this book I loved it more for its analysis of the differences between our culture and the prevailing one in N.Y. The current obsession with celebrity was fascinatingly explored and Toby made an adorable anti-hero (although like Heathcliffe I don't suppose he's as charming in reality as he is on the page! To be fair to Toby, part of the delight of this book is that he is able to see himself from his Editor's viewpoint too and the reader has considerable sympathy for Carter). I would have been interested to learn more about Toby's battle with the bottle, but maybe he's saved that for another book. I do hope so.
Guest More than 1 year ago
What a great book!!! Easy to read,a page turner. I couldn't put it down. Highly recommend to anyone who still believes that the only thing British writers are good at is catching members of the Royal family smoking pot and cheating on their wives. This guy is a writer from the old school, he reports what he sees and is not only reprimanded for it, but ostercisized from a literary world populated by posers of the worst kind... Manhattan's elite. Not only very funny, but an honest and open commentary on society.
Guest More than 1 year ago
For just $2 more, and B&N send you this weirdly hilarious book a whole month sooner than that other site. Bargain! I can¿t remember when I last laughed out loud at mere words on the page. This crazy Brit loser has it: he comes over to the Big A to write for Vanity Fair but really to check out the tony parties and the hot babes. He totally flubs it all down the line but gets such a kickin¿ book out of it, I wouldn¿t have it any other way. Pre-9/11, this sort of Loser Lit would¿ve been dumped right back in Mr Young¿s genteel limey lap, but he hits a nervous nerve that makes ¿Lose/Alienate¿ even more worth reading. I don¿t usually hold with heavy stuff mixed in with deadpan humor, but this Young guy really hits home with quotes from the likes of Tocqueville: ¿I do not know any country where, in general, less independence of mind and genuine freedom of discussion reign than in America.¿ Bone-close digs; serious dead-pan Monty Python-est humor; the next book to be filmed from the ranks of London¿s UK ¿twiterati¿ .
Cornellian More than 1 year ago
Despite the original title and promising storyline, I was generally underwhelmed by this book from the beginning. Perhaps I my expectations were high, having just read Tucker Max's "I Hope They Serve Beer in Hell." Young (at least in the book) is mostly an unremarkable man who fails to make us love him or hate him, therefore leaving the reader generally uninterested in his story. Even the "happy" ending is disappointing and predictable. Read Tucker Max instead.