How to Love: Choosing Well at Every Stage of Life

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Dr. Gordon Livingston?a physician of the human heart, a philosopher of human psychology?offers an urgently needed meditation on who best (and who best not) to love. As in his previous books, Dr. Livingston demonstrates an unerring sense of what is important, providing readers with a much-needed alternative to the trial-and-error learning that makes wisdom such an expensive commodity.
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Overview


Dr. Gordon Livingston—a physician of the human heart, a philosopher of human psychology—offers an urgently needed meditation on who best (and who best not) to love. As in his previous books, Dr. Livingston demonstrates an unerring sense of what is important, providing readers with a much-needed alternative to the trial-and-error learning that makes wisdom such an expensive commodity.
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Palm BeachPost, 12/9/10
“A how-to on finding lasting love.”

WomanAroundTown.com, 2/6/11
“There’s a wealth of information not only about romance, but about many of the crucial decisions we make about our relationships.”

InfoDad.com, 2/10/11
“Good-natured and homily-filled…Livingston does have some plainspoken, sensible ideas about love and relationships. The best part of his book is the middle, in which he enumerates the virtues of ‘People to Cherish’…Worthwhile for many readers.”
 
Blogcritics.org, 2/14/11
“Dr. Livingston masterfully explains the different types of character and personality traits. In addition, he shows us how to recognize some of the character traits that may be damaging to compatibility and long-lasting happiness…It is a book that must read by individuals who are just about to get married or looking for a new spouse after a painful divorce.”

Tucson Citizen
, 2/13/11
“[Livingston’s] latest book reminds us that we’re defined by those with whom we spend the majority of our time. As basic as that seems, few of us fully comprehend the importance of how we should choose our partner.”

Spirituality & Practice
“Enlightening.”

Internet Review of Books, 2/23/11
“Readers searching for a lifelong partner are sure to appreciate [Livingston’s] candor.”

Kingman Daily Miner
, 2/18/11
“An encouraging book for those who have had their hearts broken because they simply did not recognize the good traits to look for in a spouse…An excellent read.”

Portland Book Review (website), 8/15/11
“A guide on who to, and who not to, love, since we are defined by those we associate with.”

Minted“As in his previous books, Dr. Livingston’s trademark gifts provide readers with an alternative to the trial-and-error of learning that makes wisdom such an expensive commodity.”

Curled Up with a Good Book, 8/21/12
“A comprehensive listing of the characteristics to look for as well as avoid when we embark on our search for a life-mate…A must-read for every teen, every person who is actively or even just considering dating, and every divorced person alive. That seems a sweeping statement, but this small book contains invaluable advice.”

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Product Details

  • ISBN-13: 9780738213873
  • Publisher: Da Capo Press
  • Publication date: 1/11/2011
  • Pages: 240
  • Sales rank: 278,120
  • Product dimensions: 4.80 (w) x 7.00 (h) x 0.80 (d)

Meet the Author


Gordon Livingston, MD, is a psychiatrist and writer whose three previous books have been published in more than twenty-two countries. He lives and works in Maryland.
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Table of Contents

Acknowledgments xi

First deserve, then desire xiii

Oh, how powerfully the magnet of illusion attracts xxv

1 A Man Is Known by the Company He Avoids

Don't blame the mirror for your own reflection 5

Fear is the prison of the heart 25

Always borrow from a pessimist; he won't expect to be paid back 34

No hell is private 51

Against boredom the gods themselves fight in vain 55

The best of compasses does not point to true north 61

We cannot direct the wind but we can trim the sails 64

Life is rarely as simple as we would have it 69

We flatter ourselves if we believe that our character is fixed 75

What is essential is invisible to the eye 80

The first duty of love is to listen 85

When all is said and done, more is said than done 88

2 People to Cherish

The Essential Virtues 95

Kindness 98

Optimism 103

Courage 108

Loyalty 114

Tolerance 118

Honesty 122

Beauty 126

Humor 132

Flexibility 136

Intelligence 138

3 It Is Not the Answer That Enlightens but the Question

The most dangerous food to eat is a wedding cake 143

The gods too are fond of a joke: the role of chance in human affairs 148

Love will make you forget time and time will make you forget love 152

Any landing you can walk away from is a good landing 158

Falling in love with love is falling for make-believe 164

Experience: Test first, lesson later 169

The trouble with parents is that by the time they are experienced they are unemployed 173

If it weren't for marriage, men and women would have to fight with total strangers 179

Beware of those who are sure they are right 185

Money can't buy happiness; it can, however, rent it 187

Ideas are easier to love than people 192

If you were arrested for kindness, would there be enough evidence to-convict? 196

About the Author 205

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