How to Mother a Successful Daughter; A Practical Guide to Empowering Girls from Birth to Eighteen

How to Mother a Successful Daughter; A Practical Guide to Empowering Girls from Birth to Eighteen

by Nicky Marone
     
 

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The popular media has revealed the alarming lack of resilience, optimism, and self-efficacy in most young girls, especially when they reach adolescence. Mothers are looking for the right tools to help their daughters develop attitudes and behaviors that will allow them to thrive. In How to Mother a Successful Daughter, Nicky Marone, international speaker, former

Overview

The popular media has revealed the alarming lack of resilience, optimism, and self-efficacy in most young girls, especially when they reach adolescence. Mothers are looking for the right tools to help their daughters develop attitudes and behaviors that will allow them to thrive. In How to Mother a Successful Daughter, Nicky Marone, international speaker, former educator, and author of How to Father a Successful Daughter, teaches women, whether corporate executives or homemakers, how to mentor their daughters and become positive role models. The girls, then, will be better prepared for the future, having learned the emotional and intellectual skills necessary to become economically and emotionally self-sufficient.

Through her research and workshops, Marone has developed a unique program that shows how to deal with many different real-life situations, including suggestions for mother/daughter projects and ways to combat sexist cultural messages in the media, at school, and at home. Mothers learn how to teach girls "mastery oriented" skills for avoiding the internalization of failure, tolerating confusion and ambiguity, and developing alternative plans to reach a goal. How to Mother a Successful Daughter is filled with hands-on, usable tips with age-appropriate advice for preschool, school-age, and teenage girls. This is an invaluable resource for parents who want their daughters to have the emotional and intellectual skills necessary to become self-sufficient, competent, and happy adults.

Editorial Reviews

Publishers Weekly - Publisher's Weekly
In addressing the question of how mothers can help their daughters shape successful futures, lecturer and workshop leader Marone (How to Father a Successful Daughter) draws heavily from recent research indicating that girls' self-esteem tends to plummet during adolescence. Happily, she takes the topic a step further, discussing what mothers can do to counteract the many cultural messages that belittle girls. Her premisethat mothers can be positive role models by exhibiting and helping their daughters to develop mastery skillsis sound, and her definition of "success" is flexible and undogmatic, based upon individual goals. She urges mothers to examine their own traits of "learned helplessness" and to set about becoming positive role model/mentors. While much of Marone's advice is savvy and useful, some suggestions may require special sensitivity to a child's current attachments, e.g., criticizing Barbie or poking fun at the romance novels that may absorb an adolescent. Still, many of her ideas, such as encouraging girls in math and science, learning new skills together such as in-line skating or playing backgammon, and keeping fathers involved in girls' lives, though not new, will be useful for mothers grappling with the problems of raising girls in today's world. (Apr.)
Library Journal
Psychologist and family columnist Bassoff (Between Mothers and Sons, LJ 9/1/94) centers on treasuring our daughters for whom they are. She offers advice and wisdom on the many facets of parenting a daughter, including issues of respect, support, pressure, nurturing, and wholeness. She argues that infants and mothers need to be together, that even the most devoted mothers are imperfect, and that simple kindness can do wonders. Her writing is full of anecdotes, stories, folklore, and literary references, making for easy, uplifting, and yes-I-can reading. Marone (How To Father a Successful Daughter, LJ 10/15/87) is a bit more learned and a little less warm and fuzzy than Bassoff. She argues that we have led ourselves down the wrong road by promoting self-esteem at all costs. Instead, our daughters must be taught to be mastery-oriented. Marone gives specifics on how to control media hype (e.g., exposure to Donna Reed-like moms) and how to deal with cultural stereotypes (e.g., Barbie) in a positive way. She rails against using constant praise with daughters, who need to feel capable and confident without superficial pats on the back. This book is more age-specific than the first, dealing with preschool girls through upper teens, and uses solid research to back the ideas presented. Both books are worthwhile additions to public libraries, though smaller collections that can afford only one book should choose Marone.Linda Beck, Indian Valley P.L., Telford, Pa.

Product Details

ISBN-13:
9780609802762
Publisher:
Crown Publishing Group
Publication date:
04/20/1999
Edition description:
REPRINT
Pages:
278
Product dimensions:
5.18(w) x 7.97(h) x 0.66(d)

Meet the Author

NICKY MARONE is an international lecturer, workshop leader, and authority on female achievement. She holds an M.A. in educational psychology. The author of How to Father a Successful Daughter, Women & Risk, and What's Stopping You?, she has been featured in many publications and on television and radio shows. Marone is the creator of the Girls Empowerment Program for the YWCA of Boulder, Colorado, and serves on the advisory board of the Colorado State University Institute for Women and Leadership.

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