How to Parent So Children Will Learn: Strategies for Raising Happy, Achieving Children / Edition 3

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Dr. Rimm gives realistic, compassionate, no-nonsense yet easy-to-follow advice for raising happy, secure, and productive children from preschool to college. This survival manual contains practical advice and parent pointers, step-by-step examples, and sample dialogue.

Dr. Rimm tells parents how to: Parent with a united front, Work with teachers and schools, Encourage learning and creativity, Guide children toward good study habits, Solve homework struggles, Help children improve test-taking skills, Set limits for children, Select appropriate rewards and punishments, Handle sibling rivalry, Decrease arguments and power struggles, Encourage independence without overempowering children.

About the Author:
Sylvia Rimm, Ph.D., is a best-selling author who has appeared regularly on NBC's Today show. She is director of the Family Achievement Clinic in Cleveland, Ohio, and is a clinical professor at Case Western Reserve University School of Medicine

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Missouri Association for Gifted & Talented GAMbits
This is a book that you do not have to sit down and read cover to cover to find the part that applies to your situation. You will find instant answers, and from my own personal experience will receive instant results. After reading a few pages of this book I incorporated Sylvia's strategies and was astounded at the quick and positive results in my own children.
Sylvia covers many topics in this book from United Parenting (yes dad you have to do your share) to how to draw up a study contract with your kids. Seeing the improvement in your children and the way they feel about themselves when they begin to achieve puts a smile on everyone's face and gives the parent the pat on the back and the assurance that you do have the ability to raise happy, successful children . . . How To Parent So Children Will Learn, will not spend much time on the bookshelf at my house, I will be referring to it constantly and I am looking forward to the start of the school year and the positive changes that I am sure will incur.
—Trish Trimble
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Product Details

  • ISBN-13: 9780910707862
  • Publisher: Great Potential Press, Inc.
  • Publication date: 4/28/2008
  • Edition description: New Edition
  • Edition number: 3
  • Pages: 318
  • Product dimensions: 5.90 (w) x 8.90 (h) x 0.70 (d)

Table of Contents

Acknowledgments     xi
Preface     xiii
Introduction     xv
How to Get the Most out of This Book     xvii
Empowering Your Children with the V of Love     1
Praise     3
Too Much Praise, Too Much of a Good Thing     3
The Referential Speaking Effect     6
Empower Your Child with the Power to Be a Child     10
Directions of Power: Dependence and Dominance     14
Why Do We Overempower? How Do Children Think?     22
Take-Charge Techniques for Parents     27
What about Genetics?     49
Questions and Answers     50
United Parenting     71
Parent Rivalry     72
Why Do We Sabotage?     94
Abuse: When There Can't Be a United Front     95
When Parents Love Their Children but Not Each Other     97
Adoption and Foster Parenting: Can There Be a United Front?     103
Maintaining a United Front with Relatives     106
Maintaining a United Front with Childcare Givers, Nannies, and Other Important People     112
Sibling Rivalry     113
Rivalry between Parent and Same-Gender Child     117
The Parent-Teacher United Front     118
Exceptions to the Parent-Teacher United Front     123
The Teacher-Parent United Front     126
Questions and Answers     127
Teaching Habits that Encourage Learning     151
Homework and Study     151
Motivating Children to Study More     160
How-to-Study Hints     161
Anxieties and Disabilities     175
Morning, Noon, and Night     194
Chores and Work     202
Practice in the Arts     205
Why Do We Do It? Why Do We Nag?     207
The Communication Habit     208
Fun and Games     209
Questions and Answers     211
Setting Positive Expectations     231
How to Model Achievement     231
When Parents Are Immigrants     241
When Parents Can't Control the Role Models- Or Can They?     243
Placing Yourself and/or Your Spouse Back on a Pedestal     251
Setting Expectations     252
Intrinsic Learning     281
Questions and Answers     282
NASP Position Statement on Students with Attention Problems     299
Resources for Parents     303
Organizations, Associations and Websites     303
DVDs for Parents and Educators     304
Learning Leads Q-Cards     305
Course     305
Miscellaneous     305
Additional Reading for Parents     307
References     309
Endnotes     311
Index     313
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Parents often wonder why some children enjoy school, love learning, and achieve so well in the classroom, while other children who are equally capable are so negative about school, avoid learning, and underachieve. Parents may find themselves baffled because the bright, happy child they used to know has "shut down" to learning. This shut-down sometimes begins as early as first grade, although many children turn away from education in middle or high school or even in college.

Intelligent children don't automatically fulfill their early promise. People often blame schools for their children's problems. However, parents are at least as crucial-in fact, even more so-in shaping children's attitudes toward learning. Certainly, schools and teachers are very important and do make a major difference in encouraging children's learning. Positive school experiences increase the likelihood of positive life experiences, and education continues to provide the most effective path toward upward mobility, success, and life fulfillment.

You, as parents, have the most dramatic positive impact on your children's education, not only during their childhood, but for their entire future. Teaching your children to learn and achieve will enhance their confidence and their potential for life satisfaction. Accepting them as underachievers or assuming that achievement will not provide them with happiness will only take away their confidence. Yet fostering achievement at home is more difficult than it has been in past generations. Parents can't rely so easily on their own childhoods to guide them in parenting their children. Families have changed so dramatically that rules from pastfamily research are not necessarily applicable to present

The variations of familial arrangements that provide home environments for children these days include stepfamilies, single-parent families, grandparent families, families with homosexual parents, families that use childcare providers, adoptive and foster families, and undoubtedly others that I have not thought of. The complexities have also multiplied for traditional two-parent families. Television, the Internet, video games, violence, divorce, dual careers, overburdened educational systems and overburdened parents, drugs, and peer pressures are only a few of the environmental stressors that are rising dramatically with each generation. Ethnic, cultural, and religious differences make for increased heterogeneity within and among families.

All in all, moms and dads seem to find themselves bewildered about parenting. They know for sure that they can't love their children too much, but many parenting guidelines and books leave them floundering in confusion and contradiction. Nonetheless, there are highly predictable home and school environments that guide capable children along paths on which they will learn and feel good about themselves. The four chapters that follow will provide you with the foundation that will almost inevitably lead your children toward learning and achievement.

Parent planning begins from before birth and extends to young adulthood. Parents can't control their children's environments entirely, but they can set some main directions that virtually assure achievement. Families need a game plan, some rules, and some reasonably clear strategies and goals. That's what my book is about-assuring a love of learning and accomplishment while recognizing that overall happiness for your children is the true goal of parenting.

Happy parenting! May your experiences provide you the joys that it has for my husband and me.
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