How to Pick a Spouse: A Proven, Practical Guide to Finding a Lifelong Partner

by Dan Chun, Neil Clark Warren (Foreword by)

Overview

"If you are thinking about getting married, you need to read this book."—Neil Clark Warren, founder, eHarmony.com

Anyone can get married. The goal, however, should not only be to marry—but to marry the right person.

As a singles pastor, author Dan Chun worked exclusively with more than 5,000 singles, and of the hundreds who were married under his teaching, less than 10 percent got a divorce—far below the national average. This book incorporates Pastor Dan's principles, which provide practical and proven ways to pick a spouse, and is your guide to finding—and keeping—a lifelong partner. You will discover how to test your relationship for key differences using a variety of methods including the Seven Cs: Character, Chemistry, Competency, Cultural Differences, Commitment, Communication, and Core Values.

Experts agree: Whether you are dating or planning to date, How to Pick a Spouse will give you clear, usable information for guiding your heart and mind before making one of your most important decisions ever.

Product Details

ISBN-13:	9780800724788
Publisher:	Baker Publishing Group
Publication date:	02/28/2014
Pages:	192
Sales rank:	472,720
Product dimensions:	8.40(w) x 5.50(h) x 0.60(d)

About the Author

Dan Chun has been the senior pastor of First Presbyterian Church in Honolulu for the past twenty years, and he is a member of the board of trustees of Fuller Theological Seminary. A former newscaster and award-winning filmmaker, Dan's personal experience with divorce motivates him to work closely with never-married, divorced, and widowed people. Previously, he served as the singles pastor at Menlo Park Presbyterian Church. Dan and his wife are parents of three grown children and live with their two dogs, Max and Molly. Visit him at HowtoPickaSpouse.com.

Table of Contents

Acknowledgments 8

Foreword Neil Clark Warren 9

Introduction 11

1 The Strange Case of the Menlo Park Singles 24

2 It Takes a Village to Choose a Spouse 32

3 Take a Lap Around the Track 43

4 Sex Before Marriage 51

5 The 7 Cs 71

6 My Premarital Advice 83

7 Antivirus Software 100

8 The Good OS (Operating System) 116

9 Online Dating 133

10 What Does the Bible Say? 145

11 Remarriage-Getting Married Again 156

12 Epilogue: God's Grace 161

Appendix A A Plea for Churches to Have a Singles Ministry 164

Appendix B Premarital Information Form 179

About the Author 191

What People are Saying About This

From the Publisher

An amazing book on an exceedingly important subject. I highly recommend it to all single adults.
Gary Chapman, Ph.D., Bestselling Author, The Five Love Languages

… the marriages launched via this teaching have an amazing success rate compared to the national average.
Shaunti Feldhahn, Bestselling Author, For Women Only: What You Need to Know About the Inner Lives of Men and For Men Only: A Straightforward Guide to the Inner Lives of Women

Dan Chun points out that many people spend more time choosing a house than they do choosing a spouse. He brings great Biblical knowledge and personal wisdom and pastoral experience to one of the most important decisions a human being can make.
John Ortberg, Senior Pastor, Menlo Park Presbyterian Church; Author, Who Is This Man?

I wish I could hand this book to anyone who is even semi-seriously dating or single and looking. My friend Dan Chun provides wisdom, experience, truth and humor in reminding us it's better to be single than unhappily married. However, if you follow the principles in this book, you will have much better odds of finding the right spouse and living out a successful marriage. I love this book.
Jim Burns, Ph.D., President, HomeWord; Author, Creating An Intimate Marriage and Closer: 52 Devotions to Draw Couples Together

Editorial Reviews

An amazing book on an exceedingly important subject. I highly recommend it to all single adults.
Gary Chapman, Ph.D., Bestselling Author, The Five Love Languages

… the marriages launched via this teaching have an amazing success rate compared to the national average.
Shaunti Feldhahn, Bestselling Author, For Women Only: What You Need to Know About the Inner Lives of Men and For Men Only: A Straightforward Guide to the Inner Lives of Women

Dan Chun points out that many people spend more time choosing a house than they do choosing a spouse. He brings great Biblical knowledge and personal wisdom and pastoral experience to one of the most important decisions a human being can make.
John Ortberg, Senior Pastor, Menlo Park Presbyterian Church; Author, Who Is This Man?

I wish I could hand this book to anyone who is even semi-seriously dating or single and looking. My friend Dan Chun provides wisdom, experience, truth and humor in reminding us it's better to be single than unhappily married. However, if you follow the principles in this book, you will have much better odds of finding the right spouse and living out a successful marriage. I love this book.
Jim Burns, Ph.D., President, HomeWord; Author, Creating An Intimate Marriage and Closer: 52 Devotions to Draw Couples Together

Dan Chun has written a warm, practical guide, and reading this book feels like going to coffee with a wise friend. I can't wait to give my single friends the gift of this clear-eyed, honest book.
Shauna Niequist, Author, Bread & Wine
 

From the Publisher