How to Raise Kids You Want to Keep: The Proven Discipline Program Your Kids Will Love (And That Really Works!)


A daily challenge for today's parents is incorporating positive discipline techniques and practices that put an end to temper tantrums, defiance and meltdowns. Dr. Jerry Day helps parents develop practical methods that teach children a fundamental attribute: how to willingly live under authority. His successful methods are based on four key ...

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A daily challenge for today's parents is incorporating positive discipline techniques and practices that put an end to temper tantrums, defiance and meltdowns. Dr. Jerry Day helps parents develop practical methods that teach children a fundamental attribute: how to willingly live under authority. His successful methods are based on four key principles that parents must instill in their relationships with their youngsters:

1. Tolerance and Acceptance
2. Respect and Admiration
3. Fun
4. Communication

The clear guidance and real-life success stories that distinguish How to Raise Kids You Want to Keep will help end, once and for all, the constant tug-of-war between parent and child.

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Editorial Reviews

Drawing on 40 years of experience counseling children and adolescents, Day offers commonsense and highly accessible advice for parents on childrearing. Relying on vignettes of case studies, converted to stories about the everyday tensions of parenting, Day advises parents on the secrets of teaching children to willingly live under parental authority. His stories feature characters from Doreen the Drama Queen to Pete the Prince to Albert the Angel. Day also advises parents to use storytelling with subliminal messages to illustrate the consequences of certain types of behavior. He advises punishment to discourage negative behavior and rewards to encourage positive behavior. When rewarding children's behavior, Day advises consistency, rising expectations, and thinning the reward as behavior improves. His advice ranges from a 30 quickly defuse challenges to authority to suggestions for building lifelong relationships. One chapter is aimed specifically at disciplining children with ADHD.
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Product Details

  • ISBN-13: 9781402207457
  • Publisher: Sourcebooks
  • Publication date: 10/13/2006
  • Edition description: 1ST
  • Pages: 320
  • Sales rank: 796,260
  • Product dimensions: 6.00 (w) x 9.00 (h) x 0.69 (d)

Meet the Author

Experience cannot be purchased, learned, or taught. Experience is earned by action. Dr. Jerry R. Day has earned his experience through thirty-seven years of clinical practice with children and their parents. In addition to many years of experience, Dr. Day has received invaluable training as a teacher, school counselor, college professor, and private practice clinician. He received his bachelor's and master's degrees from West Texas State University and his doctorate from Oklahoma State University. Dr. Day has enjoyed a thriving clinical practice in Tucson, Arizona, for thirty years. Jerry R. Day, Ed.D., is eminently qualified to teach parents how to raise kids they want to keep.

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The Secret

It seems like a secret. At least I rarely hear or read about the one thing that is essential to raising kids you want to keep. This book is about the one thing parents must support, teach, and do to raise children that they will be proud to keep. The secret is teaching your child to willingly live under parental authority. Until your child learns to live under your authority, there is little hope that he can, as an adult, effectively live under self-control in a society of laws and rules. If he doesn't learn to willingly submit to the authority of his parents, there will be unbearable strain and tension in the home, and likely in the classroom as well. However, children who do learn to live under their parents' authority can grow up to be adults who know how to live under self-control in a complex and demanding society. The adult reward is nothing short of marvelous!

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Table of Contents

Preface: Hints on How to Read This Book for Best Results
Acknowledgments -

Chapter 1: The Secret -
Chapter 2: How to Create a Willingness to Live Under Parental
Authority -
Chapter 3: How to Build a Lasting Relationship with Your Child
Chapter 4: The 30-Second Technique -
Chapter 5: Pillow Talk -
Chapter 6: The Now or Later Technique -
Chapter 7: How to Be a Good Dad in a Mom's World -
Chapter 8: The More Not Less Technique -
Chapter 9: How to Get Your Parents to Give You Anything You
Want (Within Reason) -
Chapter 10: The Marks Method -
Chapter 11: The Tell a Story Technique -
Chapter 12: The Scarlett O'Hara Technique -
Chapter 13: The Poisoning the Well Technique -
Chapter 14: Raising the ADHD Child -
Chapter 15: Final Thoughts -

Index -
About the Author -

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  • Posted March 12, 2010

    Great Book for #1 Job of any Parent

    I highly recommend this book to all parents. I am a Social Worker and this book is a perfect companion for anyone that feels that they need an Instruction Manual for how to raise children. This book solely focuses on applicable techniques for Behavior Modification. It is very casually written with many, many humorous stories from the author's own life experiences. Each example is easily understood and gets straight to the point.

    I have used many of the techniques in the book with my own children and have seen a change in my own parenting style. I am less likely to loose my temper when I am focusing on implementing a technique and better yet, I see results. I find that I slip back into my old habits of discipline and have to focus on the techniques that are taught. Change takes time and persistence. The author not only tells you step by step how to implement the techniques but tells you exactly what to expect and how to deal with the situation when it doesn't work perfectly the first time. I am still surprised at the simplicity of the techniques and find myself thinking, "Why didn't I think of that."

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