From the Publisher
How to Raise Your Parents is brilliant - I wish I had a guide like this when I was a teenager...It's a terrific book. Clever and funny - and honestly helpful without being condescending or fake." Lauren Myracle, bestselling teen author of ttfn, ttyl, and l8r g8r"
This book tackles difficult topics with wit and wisdom. It speaks honestly and openly to teens about the challenges of being an adolescent in today's world." Kathryn Della-Piana, LCSW, Exec. Director, Family Counseling Center"
[A] wise and witty work for smart teenage girls. The result should be that both parent and teen feel they can be heard and respected, even where there is disagreement." Penny Brooke Jameson, Ph.D., Clinical Psychologist"
In turning the tables, Burningham gets readers to see things from an adult's perspective and offers advice on how to negotiate so that the two generations can happily coexist as a family....[S]he's a very hip adult who makes sense, and teens just might want to listen to her." School Library Journal
Burningham, a publicist for a New York-based publisher, starts out strong in this book of advice to the adolescent. "Know your parent" is her first bit of wisdom, and to this end she offers a witty set of profiles of the Hippie, the Schoolmarm, the Teen Wannabe, etc.; usefully, she identifies the parental types who fly off the handle and the types who are overprotective, then supplies coping strategies. Elsewhere, it's a mixed bag. Some of her counsel is welcome (how to handle a broken curfew or other misdemeanor); some is superfluous (if you hear your parents' footsteps, stop making out); and some just doesn't fly (if parents won't sanction one-on-one dating, girls should invite the boy over: "And after spending some time with them, your boyfriend will probably think your family is cool-just one more reason you're such a catch!"). Much of the best advice, including Burningham's tactics for negotiating in general, presumes a maturity on the part of readers-but if they can internalize her words, they'll be set for life. Ages 13-up. (May)Copyright © Reed Business Information, a division of Reed Elsevier Inc. All rights reserved.
This whimsical, illustrated guide, written to help teens get along with their parents-and to win more battles than they lose-opens with the premise that parents fall into five categories: the hippie, the schoolmarm, the teen wannabe, the yuppie, and the sibling activist. Teens are helped to determine with which parental type they live and urged to avoid actions that typically incur the wrath of their particular version. They are also pointed toward type-specific conciliation strategies that might minimize an inevitable punishment or help the teen win her case. An entire chapter is devoted to negotiation, and others to possible friction areas, such as teen privacy, sex and friends, tattoos and other manifestations of independence, curfews, academic work, driving, money, and Internet issues. The final chapter provides a key to decoding "parentspeak." For example, "How's school?" means, "Please tell me anything about your life. Anything.ö Burningham writes in a breezy style that might help her connect with teens, although some will find the slang overdone or archaic in spots. From this adult reviewer's perspective, much of the advice is sound. It is usually wise to avoid lying and accept the consequences when one is caught red-handed, for example. Some teens may welcome such counsel; others will dismiss Burningham as a teen wannabe cajoling them into playing by adult rules. School guidance counselors could find it a useful book to share with students, and well-intentioned parents might leave it around the house to be discovered by their offspring. Reviewer: Mary E. Heslin
KLIATT - Sherri Forgash Ginsberg
There are plenty of books out there to show parents how to raise their children and teenagers; there are only a few that give a teenager guidance on how to raise their parents. Is this book necessary? Absolutely. First, it asks the teenager to place her parents in a category. (Hopefully they will both fit into the same one or it will get a little complicated.) These include the hippie, schoolmarm, teen wannabe, yuppie, sibling activist and total control freak. Once the reader is able to pigeonhole her parent in a category, there are instructions on how to behave accordingly. If all else fails, and it proves too difficult to figure out those "rents," then there is a quiz to facilitate the answer. Chapter Two gives excellent ideas on how to negotiate with parents, and Chapter Three teaches the reader how to gain some privacy. Chapters Four, Five and Six deal eloquently with tedious issues such as curfews and expressing independence, as well as dating without everyone totally freaking out about it. Chapter Seven is all about high school, grades and how to avoid being one of the three worst students in the worldAlbert Einstein, Steve Jobs and Pablo Picasso. Chapter Eight is about the dreaded driver's license and all that entails; Nine and Ten round up information about jobs and living in a cyberspace world. This is an essential book for all libraries. Reviewer: Sherri Forgash Ginsberg
School Library Journal
Gr 7-11- This illustrated guide gives parents the upper hand, even if pretends otherwise. In turning the tables, Burningham gets readers to see things from an adult's perspective and offers advice on how to negotiate so that the two generations can happily coexist as a family. More conventional than its quirky title and tone suggest, the book provides rational advice such as avoiding lying and accepting the consequences when caught red-handed. Chapters also cover topics such as jobs, getting a driver's license, and cyber-life. The fun, magazine look of the book, which categorizes parents into five types (and provides questions for readers to determine which type they have) and decodes "parentspeak," will no doubt connect with teens. Burningham is clearly an adult talking ("Parents don't like ultimatums...," "If you really want your parents to hear you, you have to treat them like real people"), but she's a very hip adult who makes sense, and teens just might want to listen to her.-Sarah O'Holla, Village Community School, New York City