How to Say It to Your Kids: The Right Words to Solve Problems, Soothe Feelings, and Teach Values

How to Say It to Your Kids: The Right Words to Solve Problems, Soothe Feelings, and Teach Values

by Paul W. Coleman
     
 
  • "What does 'divorce' mean?"
  • "Why did you lie about Santa?"
  • "What if there's a shooting like that at my school?"
  • "I hate Daddy's new wife!"
  • "How come I have to apologize to my brother when YOU haven't talked to Uncle John in over a year!"
  • "The kids at school are mean to me. I don't have any friends."
  • "Why did God let Grandma

Overview

  • "What does 'divorce' mean?"
  • "Why did you lie about Santa?"
  • "What if there's a shooting like that at my school?"
  • "I hate Daddy's new wife!"
  • "How come I have to apologize to my brother when YOU haven't talked to Uncle John in over a year!"
  • "The kids at school are mean to me. I don't have any friends."
  • "Why did God let Grandma die?"
  • "Why can't I go on the Internet when I'm home alone? All my friends can!"

No one ever said being a parent was easy. While talking to your kids isn't hard, talking smart takes some forethought and a little practice. Experts agree that the goal is to talk so that your relationship with your kids is enhanced, discipline is effective, and your children will want to talk to you -- not avoid you -- if they have a problem.

Easier said than done, you say? The latest in the popular How to Say It series, How to Say It to Your Kids: The Right Words to Solve Problems, Soothe Feelings & Teach Values offers wise comments and effective comebacks to help today's busy and beleaguered parents answer questions, encourage dialogue, explore feelings, and teach values -- with ease and confidence.

Dr. Paul Coleman, a family therapist and father, reveals the six fundamental approaches to talking with children. Forming the mnemonic TENDER -- Teach, Empathize, Negotiate, Do's & Don'ts, Encourage, and Report -- these six basic strategies for communicating effectively cover every conceivable issue of concern.

Each chapter consists of practical, how-to advice based on 100 scenarios arranged alphabetically. Topics include:

  • Adoption
  • Bullies
  • Death of parent or sibling
  • Drugs and alcohol
  • Lying
  • Sex
  • Bed-wetting
  • Cheating
  • Defiance/Disrespect
  • God
  • Financial problems
  • Internet concerns
  • Bossy or domineering kid
  • Dawdling
  • Divorce
  • Latchkey kids
  • New baby
  • School Violence

How to Say It to Your Kids is the reference manual parents will want to turn to again and again as their children age and new problems and tougher questions emerge. Loaded with ready-to-use information, a puzzled or frustrated parent can come away with a new idea or strategy that can be instantly applied.

Editorial Reviews

Nashville Parent
In How to Say It To Your Kids, a goldmine of support is made available and easily accessible in a format of topics from A to Z. It's so helpful to find the right words to solve the problems you run into while raising children.
TheInformedParent.com
Whenever a parent feels unconfident about conversing with his child on any subject, this book can ease the adult toward choosing the correct avenues of communication.
HealthyKids.com
Parenting is hard work, but How to Say It(r to your Kids is an excellent resource that every parent should have and read to help them raise happy and healthy kids and to teach their children to master the challenges they will face every day.
KidsLikeOurs.com
Bottom Line: If you're like me and talk often with your children then great— you will enjoy and learn from the dialogs in this book. If on the other hand you find it hard communicating (connecting with your children then get this book ASAP. It will give you just the words you need to start showing how much you care.
Family200Onwards.com
Reading this book will help you to say not only the right things, but to say them in a better way and at the correct time.
Booknews.com
Parents receive a manual packed with the basics on how to begin a discussion with a child about divorce, drugs, sex, and other subjects. The focus is on discussions which enhance family values: from questions about God to allowances and parental or family problems such as addiction, How To Say It(r To Your Kids covers a wide range of situations which are hard to talk about.

Product Details

ISBN-13:
9780130308849
Publisher:
Prentice Hall
Publication date:
10/28/2000
Series:
How to Say It Series
Pages:
374
Product dimensions:
7.30(w) x 9.10(h) x 1.30(d)

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