How to Stop Worrying and Start Living

How to Stop Worrying and Start Living

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by Dale Carnegie
     
 

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Learn how to break the worry habit — Now and forever!

With Dale Carnegie's timeless advice in hand, more than six million people have learned how to eliminate debilitating fear and worry from their lives and to embrace a worry-free future. In this classic work, How to Stop Worrying and Start Living, Carnegie offers a set of practical formulas that you can

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Learn how to break the worry habit — Now and forever!

With Dale Carnegie's timeless advice in hand, more than six million people have learned how to eliminate debilitating fear and worry from their lives and to embrace a worry-free future. In this classic work, How to Stop Worrying and Start Living, Carnegie offers a set of practical formulas that you can put to work today. It is a book packed with lessons that will last a lifetime and make that lifetime happier!

DISCOVER HOW TO:

  • Eliminate fifty percent of business worries immediately
  • Reduce financial worries
  • Avoid fatigue — and keep looking young
  • Add one hour a day to your waking life
  • Find yourself and be yourself — remember there is no one else on earth like you!

Fascinating to read and easy to apply, How to Stop Worrying and Start Living deals with fundamental emotions and life-changing ideas. There's no need to live with worry and anxiety that keep you from enjoying a full, active life!

Editorial Reviews

Library Journal
Originally published in 1936, this is the archetype of the practical human relations handbook. Carnegie (How To Stop Worrying and Start Living, Audio Reviews, LJ 2/15/99) opens with fundamental techniques for dealing with people, such as refraining from criticism and expressing sincere appreciation. Making people like you by smiling, remembering names, and being a good listener are encouraged. Final sections describe approaches for persuading people to your way of thinking and how to change people without causing offense or resentment. These positive principles are stated succinctly and illustrated with pertinent, if occasionally outmoded, anecdotes. While critics have charged that Carnegie emphasized good manners and friendliness over proficiency, the author clearly states that his target audience is competent individuals who are less than successful because they lack people skills, a group that would be well served by his sensible guidance. Andrew MacMillan's confident, friendly narration is a worthy counterpart for Carnegie's advice, making this an appropriate selection for libraries that don't own the 1989 unabridged recording that includes the printed volume (LJ 4/1/89).--Linda Bredengerd, Hanley Lib., Univ. of Pittsburgh, Bradford, PA

Product Details

ISBN-13:
9780671035976
Publisher:
Gallery Books
Publication date:
10/05/2004
Edition description:
Revised Edition
Pages:
320
Sales rank:
107,334
Product dimensions:
5.30(w) x 0.90(h) x 8.20(d)

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How This Book Was Written

— and Why

In 1909, I was one of the unhappiest lads in New York. I was selling motor trucks for a living. I didn't know what made a motor truck run. That wasn't all: I didn't want to know. I despised my job. I despised living in a cheap furnished room on West Fifty-sixth Street — a room infested with cockroaches. I still remember that I had a bunch of neckties hanging on the walls; and when I reached out of a morning to get a fresh necktie, the cockroaches scattered in all directions. I despised having to eat in cheap, dirty restaurants that were also probably infested with cockroaches.

I came home to my lonely room each night with a sick headache — a headache bred and fed by disappointment, worry, bitterness, and rebellion. I was rebelling because the dreams I had nourished back in my college days had turned into nightmares. Was this life? Was this the vital adventure to which I had looked forward so eagerly? Was this all life would ever mean to me — working at a job I despised, living with cockroaches, eating vile food — and with no hope for the future?...I longed for leisure to read, and to write the books I had dreamed of writing back in my college days.

I knew I had everything to gain and nothing to lose by giving up the job I despised. I wasn't interested in making a lot of money, but I was interested in making a lot of living. In short, I had come to the Rubicon — to that moment of decision which faces most young people when they start out in life. So I made my decision — and that decision completely altered my future. It has made the rest of my life happy and rewarding beyond my most Utopian aspirations.

My decision was this: I would give up the work I loathed; and, since I had spent four years studying in the State Teachers College at Warrensburg, Missouri, preparing to teach, I would make my living teaching adult classes in night schools. Then I would have my days free to read books, prepare lectures, write novels and short stories. I wanted "to live to write and write to live."

What subject should I teach to adults at night? As I looked back and evaluated my own college training, I saw that the training and experience I had had in public speaking had been of more practical value to me in business — and in life — than everything else I had studied in college all put together. Why? Because it had wiped out my timidity and lack of self-confidence and given me the courage and assurance to deal with people. It had also made clear that leadership usually gravitates to the man who can get up and say what he thinks.

I applied for a position teaching public speaking in the night extension courses both at Columbia University and New York University, but these universities decided they could struggle along somehow without my help.

I was disappointed then — but now I thank God that they did turn me down, because I started teaching in YMCA night schools, where I had to show concrete results and show them quickly. What a challenge that was! These adults didn't come to my classes because they wanted college credits or social prestige. They came for one reason only: they wanted to solve their problems. They wanted to be able to stand up on their feet and say a few words at a business meeting without fainting from fright. Salesmen wanted to be able to call on a tough customer without having to walk around the block three times to get up courage. They wanted to develop poise and self-confidence. They wanted to get ahead in business. They wanted to have more money for their families. And since they were paying their tuition on an installment basis — and they stopped paying if they didn't get results — and since I was being paid, not a salary, but a percentage of the profits, I had to be practical if I wanted to eat.

I felt at the time that I was teaching under a handicap, but I realize now that I was getting priceless training. I had to motivate my students. I had to help them solve their problems. I had to make each session so inspiring that they wanted to continue coming.

It was exciting work. I loved it. I was astounded at how quickly these businessmen developed self-confidence and how quickly many of them secured promotions and increased pay. The classes were succeeding far beyond my most optimistic hopes. Within three seasons, the YMCAs, which had refused to pay me five dollars a night in salary, were paying me thirty dollars a night on a percentage basis. At first, I taught only public speaking, but, as the years went by, I saw that these adults also needed the ability to win friends and influence people. Since I couldn't find an adequate textbook on human relations, I wrote one myself. It was written — no, it wasn't written in the usual way. It grew and evolved out of the experiences of the adults in these classes. I called it How to Win Friends and Influence People.

Since it was written solely as a textbook for my own adult classes, and since I had written four other books that no one had ever heard of, I never dreamed that it would have a large sale: I am probably one of the most astonished authors now living.

As the years went by, I realized that another one of the biggest problems of these adults was worry. A large majority of my students were businessmen — executives, salesmen, engineers, accountants: a cross section of all the trades and professions — and most of them had problems! There were women in the classes — businesswomen and housewives. They, too, had problems! Clearly, what I needed was a textbook on how to conquer worry — so again I tried to find one. I went to New York's great public library at Fifth Avenue and Forty-second Street and discovered to my astonishment that this library had only twenty-two books listed under the title WORRY. I also noticed, to my amusement, that it had one hundred eighty-nine books listed under WORMS. Almost nine times as many books about worms as about worry! Astounding, isn't it? Since worry is one of the biggest problems facing mankind, you would think, wouldn't you, that every high school and college in the land would give a course on "How to Stop Worrying"? Yet, if there is even one course on that subject in any college in the land, I have never heard of it. No wonder David Seabury said in his book How to Worry Successfully: "We come to maturity with as little preparation for the pressures of experience as a bookworm asked to do a ballet."

The result? More than half of our hospital beds are occupied by people with nervous and emotional troubles.

I looked over these twenty-two books on worry reposing on the shelves of the New York Public Library. In addition, I purchased all the books on worry I could find; yet I couldn't discover even one that I could use as a text in my course for adults. So I resolved to write one myself.

I began preparing myself to write this book seven years ago. How? By reading what the philosophers of all ages have said about worry. I also read hundreds of biographies, all the way from Confucius to Churchill. I also interviewed scores of prominent people in many walks of life, such as Jack Dempsey, General Omar Bradley, General Mark Clark, Henry Ford, Eleanor Roosevelt, and Dorothy Dix. But that was only a beginning.

I also did something else that was far more important than the interviews and the reading. I worked for five years in a laboratory for conquering worry — a laboratory conducted in our own adult classes. As far as I know, it was the first and only laboratory of its kind in the world. This is what we did. We gave students a set of rules on how to stop worrying and asked them to apply these rules in their own lives and then talk to the class on the results they had obtained. Others reported on techniques they had used in the past.

As a result of this experience, I presume I have listened to more talks on "How I Conquered Worry" than has any other individual who ever walked this earth. In addition, I read hundreds of other talks on "How I Conquered Worry" — talks that were sent to me by mail — talks that had won prizes in our classes that are held throughout the world. So this book didn't come out of an ivory tower. Neither is it an academic preachment on how worry might be conquered. Instead, I have tried to write a fast-moving, concise, documented report on how worry has been conquered by thousands of adults. One thing is certain: this book is practical. You can set your teeth in it.

"Science," said the French philosopher Valéry, "is a collection of successful recipes." That is what this book is: a collection of successful and time-tested recipes to rid our lives of worry. However, let me warn you: you won't find anything new in it, but you will find much that is not generally applied. And when it comes to that, you and I don't need to be told anything new. We already know enough to lead perfect lives. We have all read the golden rule and the Sermon on the Mount. Our trouble is not ignorance, but inaction. The purpose of this book is to restate, illustrate, streamline, air-condition, and glorify a lot of ancient and basic truths — and kick you in the shins and make you do something about applying them.

You didn't pick up this book to read about how it was written. You are looking for action. All right, let's go. Please read Parts One and Two of this book — and if by that time you don't feel that you have acquired a new power and a new inspiration to stop worry and enjoy life — then toss this book away. It is no good for you.

Dale Carnegie

Copyright 1944, 1945, 1946, 1947, 1948 by Dale Carnegie. Copyright renewed.

Copyright © 1984 by Donna Dale Carnegie and Dorothy Carnegie

Meet the Author

Dale Carnegie (1888-1955) described himself as a "simple country boy" from Missouri but was also a pioneer of the self-improvement genre. Since the 1936 publication of his first book, How to Win Friends and Influence People, he has touched millions of readers and his classic works continue to impact lives to this day.

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Anonymous More than 1 year ago
Dale Carnegie wrote some great books back in the 30's and 40's, and this book is one of them. Readers who liked Carnegie's bestselling How to Win Friends & Influence People won't be disappointed in this book.

The writing style is classic Carnegie. To put it simply, the guy just writes like he talks. This makes for a very friendly and easy to understand book, rather like a good friend giving you a piece of advice.

And a lot of advice he gives. The book is divided up into ten sections, each one tackling some aspect of worrying. I could give you a rundown of the topics, but you don't really need me to repeat the table on contents to decide if you want to read the book. Rather, let me just say that book covers just about every major "worry issue" that might be causing a troubled mind, such as your work, your finances, other people's criticisms- and them some.

While there are no earth-shattering, never-before-seen tips in the book, I wouldn't hesitate for a second to recommend it to anyone who is looking to ease their mind a bit. That's because it does a GREAT job of conveying simple wisdom that really make you think good and hard about why you're worrying and if those things are really worth worrying about at all.

In short, its a bestseller because it makes a lot of sense and its advice can do a lot to re-frame your thinking about things. And if you can re-frame your thinking, well, you've about found the best "Compound-W" for worry warts.
Guest More than 1 year ago
Dale Carnegie has given excellent real life examples which relate to the practical situations of stress experienced by each of us in life. Worry is something which can affect your health, happiness and keep you away from the happiness of living life. The book deals with numerous ways of how to vent out worries from your mind with very simple and practical techniques. It's a great book and the examples given are excellent and touch your heart.
Guest More than 1 year ago
I like to read reviews before I purchase a book so naturally I took into account all of the other reviews made on this book thus far. I was very impressed and decided 'what the heck!?' This book did not live up my expectations, it CRUSHED them by surpassing them TREMENDOUSLY!!! We all have our good days and bad days, we're human. We all notice patterns in our daily lives that make us feel better and try to remember them so we can stay in our state of 'euphoria' and 'productiveness' for long amounts of time. This book helps remind you of all those wonderful things you remember to help you live a better life, from relaxing the eyes to prevent fatigue to reading valuable quotes by Jesus that prove we were not, as humans, meant to worry about anything! This book is not recommended for those who have trouble worrying, it's recommended to EVERYONE in this world! Heart attacks, stomach ulcers, nervous break downs, high blood pressure, and non-hereditary diabetes are everywhere in this world...and they are caused by worry/stress/tension...all things Dale helps you EASILY solve and forget! Buy this cheap $8 life-changing book!
Guest More than 1 year ago
i ll start my review from the quote: 'As a rule man is a fool, when it is hot he wants it to cool,when it is cool wants it to be hot, always wanting what is not' it true that we human always wants things what we dont have and never care for things that we have in past thats the main cause which bring us to stress, so now when we get stressed so this book porvide a great help for reducing the stress, with realistic examples. this book is very good in order to live life fully.
Guest More than 1 year ago
In 1944, when this book was first published, what they called 'worry' was what we now call 'stress.' This is a great book on how to deal with stress. The methods are simple and straightforward and Carnegie delivers them with a good helping of entertainment in the form of true stories. This book is really seven small books bound together into one: The first is a short description of the health affects of too much stress, and two basic principles to handle almost any form of stressful situation. The second book is really about the form of stress we now call worry and how to eliminate it. The next three sections are full of practical principles to not only have less stress in your life, but how to have more happiness. They are mostly new mental habits. Carnegie tells you how to think about situations so that you minimize your stress and maximize your effectiveness. Good stuff. Then there's a section on dealing with criticism. And finally, a section on work habits and sleep habits that can add more time to your day and give you more energy during your working day. I'm the author of the book, Self-Help Stuff That Works, and I am an expert on what works and what doesn't. In my expert opinion, How to Stop Worrying and Start Living is jam-packed with more practical advice than any other book on the market. I highly recommend it.
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A great book of all time. So interesting. Read about 4 times ... Enjoy every time.
kross1 More than 1 year ago
Dale Carnegie Never Fails To Write an Empowering Advice Book This book was a lifesaver for me, because I worry about everything, and this book has provided me with the wisdom I need to grow into the more confident, assertive person I was truly meant to be. Carengie is one of my top authors, and I highly regaurd him. The writing of his work has helped me to ward off my anxiety by thinking about what is causing me to worry, why I am worrying and how I can  resolve the conflict that is causing my anxiety. Simple techniques like these have  helped me to live a more relaxing well deserving life. 
gitpicker More than 1 year ago
This is an excellent book. I love Carnegie's writing style.
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It’s a funny thing: The principles that Dale Carnegie talks about are obvious, but they’re difficult to implement in real life. The greatest challenge, in my opinion, is conquering your own character traits that don’t let you behave the way you want. The best book on emotional control, which includes anxiety, is recently published Secret Techniques for Controlling Sadness, Anger, Fear, Anxiety, and Other Emotions by Vlad Koros. Koros guides you step by step using funny examples how to turn off your anxiety at will. I tried it on several occasions, and I can’t believe that it works! Once you can control your inclinations, you can try Carnegie’s advice. At least, I will.
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I have gotten so much from this book it is a true treasure to have I highly recommend it to everyone.
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