How To Survive Your Boyfriend's Divorce

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This book tells you how to love your separated man without losing your mind.

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How to Survive Your Boyfriend's Divorce: Loving Your Separated Man without Losing Your Mind

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This book tells you how to love your separated man without losing your mind.

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Product Details

  • ISBN-13: 9780871319227
  • Publisher: Rowman & Littlefield Publishing Group Inc
  • Publication date: 9/25/2000
  • Pages: 194
  • Sales rank: 429,761
  • Product dimensions: 6.00 (w) x 9.00 (h) x 0.45 (d)

Table of Contents

Acknowledgments vii
Preface ix
Chapter 1 The (Almost) Perfect Man 1
Chapter 2 At Long Last Love (and Its Evil Twin) 13
Chapter 3 Why Is His Divorce Taking So Long? 37
Chapter 4 We're Stuck! What Do I Do Now? 51
Chapter 5 Anatomy of the Divorcing Male 67
Chapter 6 "You're Going to Love My Kids" 87
Chapter 7 How to Be Heart-Smart When Love Hurts 109
Chapter 8 Will You Be the Transitional Woman? 123
Chapter 9 Have You Waited Too Long? Ultimatums, Last-Ditch Strategies, and Your Invisible Line 141
Chapter 10 The Girlfriend's Bill of Rights 161
Appendix A The Girlfriend's Divorce Primer 171
Appendix B A State-by-State Guide to Divorce Laws 177
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  • Anonymous

    Posted October 27, 2008

    This book became my Bible! I should've listen to it!

    I "helped" my now "ex" boyfriend though his divorce, I was the transistional girlfriend. I read this book over and over, and then, after nine years of my life, thousands of dollars on rendezvous's, changing my life for when we would be together, he dumped me! He lost weight, got his self-together and taught me a stupid lession. Now, if a man says he is going though a divorce, I run! After going though it, reading the book, I said, "oh, it will never happen to me..." and it did, I re-read the book and said, "why didn't I see it", the book says it all, just don't denied it. I recommend to every woman that is dating or in love with a divorcing married man!

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  • Anonymous

    Posted November 28, 2007

    Absolutely a disappointment

    What a disappointment! I bought this to hopefully help me through a personal situation (obviously) and this book was absolutely not the help I was looking for. If you're looking for help dealing with the inevitable anger, fear, outrage, and disappointment that comes out of a significant other having a divorce, this is not the book for you. However, if you have a loser and are looking for confirmation to dump him, why are you looking at this book? Go watch some Oprah. 9/10 situations in this book, contrary to the author's preface and description, do not give any insight in how other women deal with a boyfriend's divorce other than figuring out they're unhappy and dumping him. A good 3/4 of this book is devoted to 'how do YOU, the woman, feel? Are you even remotely unhappy? Let's read about Katie/Janice/Margaret/Cleo and read about how their relationship with a recently separated man failed, and then we'll talk about why.' I understand recently separated men are difficult to understand and sometimes to deal with, however, this book offers little or no help. The author is as bad as the fictional mother she creates, harping on all the reasons you shouldn't be with a recently separated man.

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  • Anonymous

    Posted February 7, 2005

    I'm not feeling hopeless anymore

    I am so grateful for this book -- this is the kind of advice I couldn't get from friends because they had their own agendas for me -- and because I had become ashamed of feeling 'stuck.' The book is straightforward, sincere and objective. It contains no 'preaching,' and the authors make it clear that their only agenda is to help the reader find a better way to live. After reading the book through twice I am now able to determine what specific things I can and cannot accept about my relationship... before the book I was never sure exactly what was right or wrong, I just knew that it was painful. I also gained new relationship skills -- there were many suggestions for actions I can take today that will return control of my life to me. If you are dating a separated man, read this book and believe it.

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  • Anonymous

    Posted May 4, 2004

    This book has helped me

    This book taps into a clandestine and misunderstood group of single women: those dating separated men in the process of divorce. This book will dispel myths about the kind of woman, too, that dates a 'married' (in name only) man: not tawdry or sleazy or a gold digging home-wrecker - but lovely, talented, professional and caring women who just happened to fall in love with someone in very complicated circumstances. I can tell you I am one of these women, and happily am now engaged to my now-divorced fiance. It dispels myths too about the nature of these relationships: not cheap affairs, but loving, nurturing relationships with a piece of legal paper standing in the way of happiness. Love comes along only very rarely, and you don't always get to choose who you fall in love with. The process isn't easy; and in most cases would advise getting mixed up with it. Robyn Todd points out that if you have a love strong enough, you'll survive. It may even make your love stronger. Common sense advice, too, for when you have invested too much for too long, and it's time to cut ties. Recommended for any woman in this precarious, but secretly common, situation.

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  • Anonymous

    Posted June 28, 2002

    Not very many positive undertones...

    I didn't find this book extremely helpful. If you have that rare man in your life that is actively moving forward and committed to the relationship he has with you, then this is not the book for you. You would be better off reading something like 'The Four Agreements' that focuses more on bettering your actions, words, and thought processes.

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  • Anonymous

    Posted October 28, 2000

    A Must Have!

    Thank you for publishing this book! I found out I am not crazy. My feelings are real, and learned how others have taken back their life and got a grip on reality. The book gave clear information and advice on how to handle situations. You'll get ideas on what to say.....and most of all how to handle your own emotions and insecurities through this tornado. I can't thank the author enough, or recommend it enough to anyone who is getting involved or involved with a man having an affair promising to leave or in the process of getting a divorce.

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