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How We Survived Prostate Cancer: What We Did and What We Should Have Done
     

How We Survived Prostate Cancer: What We Did and What We Should Have Done

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by Victoria Hallerman
 

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In this unflinchingly honest account of one couple's struggles through prostate cancer, told from the wife's point of view, Victoria Hallerman writes poignantly of the six-year journey that changed the landscape of her and her husband's lives. She and Dean had been married 33 years when he got the news and underwent treatment that included radioactive seeds and

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In this unflinchingly honest account of one couple's struggles through prostate cancer, told from the wife's point of view, Victoria Hallerman writes poignantly of the six-year journey that changed the landscape of her and her husband's lives. She and Dean had been married 33 years when he got the news and underwent treatment that included radioactive seeds and hormone therapy, with severe and unexpected results.

Both a moving memoir and a supportive guidebook, How We Survived Prostate Cancer is a cautionary tale to make sure others don't make the same mistakes that Hallerman and her husband made along the way. It addresses everything from redefining intimacy to a wife's anger and loneliness in the face of her husband's illness, and offers:

  • A compelling personal story of one couple's difficulties and ill-informed choices
  • "In Dean's Words": comments on the treatment and its aftermath
  • "What We Know Now": nuggets of hard-won advice
  • Interviews with wives of prostate cancer survivors
  • Treatment options and suggested questions for doctors
  • Dr. Peter Albert's Top Ten List for Patients and Partners
  • Comprehensive Glossary and Resource section

Editorial Reviews

Publishers Weekly
Starred Review.

More than just a personal memoir, this tour of duty from the wife of a prostate cancer survivor is packed with critical information on the nature of the disease, current treatment options and the process of choosing a physician. Both as individuals and a couple, the hallermans made many mistakes-first among them was dean's decision to hide his diagnosis from his wife-and this guide benefits enormously from their honesty (poet victoria narrates, dean contributes short personal asides). From treatment decisions made without adequate information to the drastic changes in their sex life, hallerman is blunt and unflinching regarding their mortal and marital crises, and explicit in her advice to avoid despair, self-blame and isolation. Thorough, clearly written glossary and appendices cover treatments, side effects, resources for information and support, current research and a checklist of "must do's" from dean's current urologist (who also provides a foreword). Though dean suffered horribly before finding a doctor and regimen that worked for him, this moving and highly useful book proves his setbacks were not in vain.
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From the Publisher
"This book is a candid portrayal of the effect that the diagnosis and treatment of prostate cancer can have on a significant other. Filled with excellent resources, it will enable readers to broaden their understanding of the complexities of different treatment options." —E. Darracott Vaughan, Jr., M.D., New-York Presbyterian Hospital

"Beautifully written—what else would you expect from a poet?—and incredibly helpful. Victoria Hallerman has a marvelous eye for the offbeat detail and an excellent grasp of how a man and his spouse can best cope with the disease, its treatments, and its aftermath." —Marc Silver, author of Breast Cancer Husband

"This honest, wise, and generous handbook is especially helpful for that excruciating time after diagnosis and before treatment. Victoria Hallerman adds her intelligence to the growing body of literature that struggles with prostate cancer's medical and social challenges. Perfect to slip into your purse or briefcase for company in the waiting room." —Karen Propp, author of In Sickness & In Health

"Well written, with an honest perspective of the journey of living with prostate cancer…Will be a great resource for many couples." —Ali Torre, wife of baseball manager and prostate cancer survivor Joe Torre

"As a 16-years-plus survivor and the founder and facilitator of a prostate cancer support program, I think this book should be kept on the nightstands of prostate cancer survivors as a constant reminder and reference on how to battle this dreaded disease." —Dennis O'Hara, Poughkeepsie (NY) chapter of Man to Man

Product Details

ISBN-13:
9781557048752
Publisher:
HarperCollins Publishers
Publication date:
08/18/2009
Sold by:
HARPERCOLLINS
Format:
NOOK Book
Pages:
240
Sales rank:
484,825
File size:
324 KB

Meet the Author

Victoria Hallerman's poetry has appeared in numerous literary magazines, and her book of poems, The Aerialist, won the Bright Hill Prize. Now a committed health activist in her local chapter of “Man to Man,” a national prostate cancer survivor support network, she is also co-founder of “What About Me?,” an American Cancer Society support group for men and women whose partners are cancer patients or survivors. She and her husband, Dean, live in New York City.

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How We Survived Prostate Cancer: What We Did and What We Should Have Done 4 out of 5 based on 0 ratings. 3 reviews.
loves-to-readVA More than 1 year ago
I read about half, until my husband had chosen proton therapy. The man in the book had chosen seeds and Lupron. If someone has not chosen a therapy option, reading this might convince someone not to use the seeds. The author does a good job of giving out pointers on choosing doctors and therapies. But it is still a little depressing-how it affected them both.
sharynb More than 1 year ago
To Whom It May Concern:

As the wife of a prostate cancer patient, I am convinced that this book should be in every urologist's office in the country. I started reading and could not put it down. Hallerman discusses every nuance of the situation the women in these men's lives deal with. The doctors, on the other hand, usually dismiss the whole hormone after effect by saying, "just don't even expect him to think about sex for at least two years." No advice, no recommended support group, no information about the psychological change this can wreak in a relationship, nothing about the fact that it is more than sexual activity that falls by the wayside...

...Hallerman has provided that net. I encourage you to make sure that this book gets circulated in cancer centers and doctor's offices.
CB54 More than 1 year ago
The author recounts the experiences her and her husband Dean have from the time he is diagnosed with prostate cancer to today as he is cancer free.She recounts the treatment choices,and the mistakes involved. She also explains support groups and relives the experiences of friends who turn away from you at your darkest hour.Deans candid sections were so raw that at times you felt his fear and at others they were filled with his good natured humor as he tried to make the best of his situation.No relationship or marriage is untouched or unscathed by a disease like this or of this scale. This book will help you understand that and help you cope and learn from what the author learned. Love can survive cancer.