How We Survived Prostate Cancer: What We Did and What We Should Have Done

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In this unflinchingly honest account of one couple's struggles through prostate cancer, told from the wife's point of view, Victoria Hallerman writes poignantly of the six-year journey that changed the landscape of her and her husband's lives. She and Dean had been married 33 years when he got the news and underwent treatment that included radioactive seeds and hormone therapy, with severe and unexpected results.

Both a moving memoir and a supportive guidebook, How We Survived Prostate Cancer is a cautionary tale to make sure others don't make the same mistakes that Hallerman and her husband made along the way. It addresses everything from redefining intimacy to a wife's anger and loneliness in the face of her husband's illness, and offers:

A compelling personal story of one couple's difficulties and ill-informed choices
"In Dean's Words": comments on the treatment and its aftermath
"What We Know Now": nuggets of hard-won advice
Interviews with wives of prostate cancer survivors
Treatment options and suggested questions for doctors
Dr. Peter Albert's Top Ten List for Patients and Partners
Comprehensive Glossary and Resource section

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More than just a personal memoir, this tour of duty from the wife of a prostate cancer survivor is packed with critical information on the nature of the disease, current treatment options and the process of choosing a physician. Both as individuals and a couple, the hallermans made many mistakes-first among them was dean's decision to hide his diagnosis from his wife-and this guide benefits enormously from their honesty (poet victoria narrates, dean contributes short personal asides). From treatment decisions made without adequate information to the drastic changes in their sex life, hallerman is blunt and unflinching regarding their mortal and marital crises, and explicit in her advice to avoid despair, self-blame and isolation. Thorough, clearly written glossary and appendices cover treatments, side effects, resources for information and support, current research and a checklist of "must do's" from dean's current urologist (who also provides a foreword). Though dean suffered horribly before finding a doctor and regimen that worked for him, this moving and highly useful book proves his setbacks were not in vain.
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Product Details

ISBN-13: 9781557048196
Publisher: HarperCollins Publishers
Publication date: 1/27/2009
Pages: 240
Sales rank: 569,953
Product dimensions: 5.90 (w) x 8.90 (h) x 0.70 (d)

Meet the Author

Victoria Hallerman's poetry has appeared in numerous literary magazines, and her book of poems, The Aerialist, won the Bright Hill Prize. Now a committed health activist in her local chapter of "Man to Man," a national prostate cancer survivor support network, she is also co-founder of "What About Me?," an American Cancer Society support group for men and women whose partners are cancer patients or survivors. She and her husband, Dean, live in New York City.

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sharynb

Posted February 18, 2009

Wish i had had this sooner - a must read for the significant others in these mens' lives!

To Whom It May Concern:

As the wife of a prostate cancer patient, I am convinced that this book should be in every urologist's office in the country. I started reading and could not put it down. Hallerman discusses every nuance of the situation the women in these men's lives deal with. The doctors, on the other hand, usually dismiss the whole hormone after effect by saying, "just don't even expect him to think about sex for at least two years." No advice, no recommended support group, no information about the psychological change this can wreak in a relationship, nothing about the fact that it is more than sexual activity that falls by the wayside...

...Hallerman has provided that net. I encourage you to make sure that this book gets circulated in cancer centers and doctor's offices.

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CB54

Posted February 18, 2009

A wonderfully written memoir that will take you on a journey with the author and her husband from his diagnosis to being cancer free. This is a must read for anyone who has faced cancer or loves someone who is facing cancer as you are never the same.

The author recounts the experiences her and her husband Dean have from the time he is diagnosed with prostate cancer to today as he is cancer free.She recounts the treatment choices,and the mistakes involved. She also explains support groups and relives the experiences of friends who turn away from you at your darkest hour.Deans candid sections were so raw that at times you felt his fear and at others they were filled with his good natured humor as he tried to make the best of his situation.No relationship or marriage is untouched or unscathed by a disease like this or of this scale. This book will help you understand that and help you cope and learn from what the author learned. Love can survive cancer.
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