How You Feel Is up to You: The Power of Emotional Choice / Edition 2

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We human folk create many of our own emotions by our thoughts, and we can -- more or less -- decide how we want to feel. (Those of us with a cognitive bent have believed that for some time.) This new edition of How You Feel Is Up To You provides practical information and tools to help readers take responsibility for their emotions, including enhanced awareness of feelings, and step-by-step methods for choosing and changing feelings. Helps feelings become an asset ("I can manage") rather than a liability ("I'm a victim").

Chapter summaries coach the reader in becoming an "ACE" -- ACCEPTING your feelings, CHOOSING new purposes, beliefs, feelings, and EXECUTING your choices.

How You Feel Is Up To You (Second Edition) will be a helpful resource for:

  • Individuals who are depressed, anxious, stressed, hostile
  • Family members and friends of such persons
  • Those who counsel or work with individuals who don't understand their feelings
  • Curious readers who want to know more about how feelings work

About the Authors:

Gary D. McKay, PH.D. (Tucson, Arizona), is the co-author of eleven books and programs, including Raising Respectful Kids In A Rude World and Systematic Training For Effective Parenting (STEP), the world's leading parent education program. He is a licensed psychologist and a diplomate in Adlerian psychology (North American Society of Adlerian Psychology). Dr. McKay has conducted workshops for his publications in North America and Europe.

Don Dinkmeyer, Sr., PH.D. (1924-2001), was a pioneer in the fields of elementary school counseling, Adlerian psychotherapy, classroom guidance, parent education, group counseling and marriage enrichment. He authored and co-authored 35 books and 125 professional journal articles, as well as psychological education programs like STEP in the areas of parenting, marriage enrichment, classroom guidance, and teaching. Dr. Dinkmeyer received lifetime achievement awards from several professional organizations.

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Editorial Reviews

Midwest Book Review
Readers who are tired of anger, depression, guilt, and all the other familiar negative emotions will find How You Feel Is Up To You an effective teacher of the skills they need for making healthier and happier choices.
Rocky Ford Gazette
...a practical self-improvement 'tool kit' to help handle guilt, anger, depression, stress and anxiety... While this book is intended to help readers deal with a variety of personal problems, it is also an eye opener in considering how others around you may feel.
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Product Details

  • ISBN-13: 9781886230507
  • Publisher: Impact Publishers, Incorporated
  • Publication date: 7/15/2002
  • Edition description: 2ND
  • Edition number: 2
  • Pages: 272
  • Sales rank: 721,550
  • Product dimensions: 5.90 (w) x 8.90 (h) x 0.60 (d)

Table of Contents

1 How You Feel Is Up To You 1
2 It's the Thought That Counts: How Your Beliefs Create Your Feelings 20
3 When Feelings Hurt: First Aid for Emotional Wounds 42
4 Guilt: The Great Wall 50
5 Anger: The Misunderstood Emotion 61
6 Depression: Beyond the Blues 88
7 Stress: You Can't Afford Not to Relax 107
8 Anxiety: The Only Thing We Have to Fear 131
9 Joy: The Pursuit of Happiness and Humor 145
10 In Your Mind's Eye: Using Visualization to Change Feelings 166
11 Telling It Like It is: Communicating Feelings 184
12 Working It Out: Feelings and Conflict Solving 208
13 Conclusion: "Is How I Feel Really up to Me?" 230
Appendix A Daily Feeling Log 234
Appendix B Purposes of Common Unpleasant Emotions 239
Index 245
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