I Can't Get Over It: A Handbook for Trauma Survivors / Edition 2

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This is the perfect companion volume to Dr. Matsakis' treatment guide for professionals. Written for people with Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder, their families and friends, it is the first book to guide readers through the healing process one step at a time. It helps survivors cope with memories and emotions, explains secondary wounding, and identifies the triggers that reactivate traumatic stress. About the Authors As a specialist in post-traumatic stress disorder, Aphrodite Matsakis, Ph.D., has counseled thousands of clients ranging from combat veterans to victims of crime and abuse and other traumatic events. She conducts a private psychotherapy practice specializing in post-traumatic stress disorder and child abuse.

"...explains how those affected with post-traumatic stress disorder can begin the healing process."

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“The book provides a wealth of information about specific traumas and suggests techniques for dealing with them as well. While many trauma survivors believe they ‘can’t get over it,’ use of this book, combined with appropriate therapy, will certainly assist them on their healing journeys.”
—Mary Beth Williams, Ph.D., author of Handbook of Post-Traumatic Therapy

“For the trauma survivor and the field professional, Dr. Matsakis has written on the most informative and sensitive books on surviving violent trauma. I Can’t Get Over It covers most useful techniques and self-help suggestions for safe recovery, empowerment, and growth following trauma.”
—Yigal Ben-Haim, Ph.D., Trauma Specialist with the Veterans Assistance Center and Alta Bates Burn Center in Berkeley, California

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Product Details

  • ISBN-13: 9781572240582
  • Publisher: New Harbinger Publications
  • Publication date: 11/28/1996
  • Series: Unassigned Series
  • Edition description: REV
  • Edition number: 2
  • Pages: 416
  • Sales rank: 158,993
  • Product dimensions: 6.04 (w) x 9.08 (h) x 0.86 (d)

Meet the Author

Aphrodite T. Matsakis, PhD, is an internationally recognized expert in trauma and the author of several books dealing with traumatic reactions, including I Can't Get Over It!, Trust After Trauma, The Rape Recovery Handbook, and Vietnam Wives: Women and Children Facing the Challenge of Living with Veterans with Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder. Matsakis has over thirty-five years of experience working with veterans, abused persons, and other trauma survivors; has taught at several major universities; and has conducted dozens of seminars for trauma survivors and trauma therapists.

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Table of Contents

Introduction 1
Pt. I Understanding PTSD 11
1 What Is PTSD? Do I Have It? 13
2 The Biochemistry of PTSD 39
3 Feelings, Thoughts, and Traumatic Events 65
4 The Three Levels of Victimization 85
5 Why Am I Acting This Way? - Triggers 113
Pt. II The Healing Process 141
6 Stage 1: Remembering the Trauma 151
7 Stage 2: Feeling the Feelings 167
8 Stage 2 Continued: Living with Anger 181
9 Stage 2 Continued: Understanding Grief and Sorrow 201
10 Stage 3: Attaining Empowerment 217
Pt. III Specific Traumas 245
11 Crimes Committed by Strangers 247
12 Rape and Sexual Assault 269
13 Domestic Violence and Sexual Abuse 287
14 Suicide of a Loved One 305
15 Natural Catastrophes 319
16 Vehicular Accidents 327
17 War and Combat 341
App. A Getting Help - Survivor Groups and Therapy Programs 359
App. B Resources 369
References 385
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  • Anonymous

    Posted January 2, 2010

    Excellent Resource on How To Get Help!!!

    This book has an amazing clarity to it - it takes you step-by-step on how to deal with PTSD. Coping with PTSD is a life long journey - most who suffer must get help with that journey - this author breaks it down into baby steps on how to find the right people to help you and how to set up your support team. It's easy to read - overall, it's just an AWESOME book!

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  • Anonymous

    Posted November 20, 2001

    My #1 Book for Self-Improvement

    The book, 'I Can't Get Over It,' covers just about any traumatic situation you could go through. It emphasizes in Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder and although PTSD was for what they used to describe the surviving veterans, its also used in this book to help victims of abuse, and people that they lost close to them to abuse or some traumatic accident. Its very helpful because it has clear explanations and questionaires on various subjects that just about anyone could relate to.

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  • Anonymous

    Posted September 23, 2000

    A 'must read' for anyone who has suffered this disorder

    As an adult survivor of childhood sexual abuse, I can speak with authority when I say that this book is excellent for PTSD sufferers. With every chapter I am learning something new and with knowledge comes power and the ability to have more control over many aspects of my life that I never had before and I owe it to the author of this book. I am grateful to Dr. Matsakis for writing a book specifically for people like me. She has shown me not only why I do the things I do but explains how I can change the things I want to change or accept and appreciate the things I can't. The book is very easy to read and understand and the questionaires and exercises are helpful and informative. I suggest to anyone wanting to read it, use a highlighter to outline specific points of interest, it comes in handy for future reference.

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