I Like Giving: The Transforming Power of a Generous Life

by Brad Formsma

Overview

Rich with inspiring stories and practical suggestions, I Like Giving will help you create a lifestyle of generosity.
 
Choosing to live a generous life can transform you and the world around you. Something incredible happens when giving becomes your own idea, not something you do out of duty or obligation. When you move from awareness to action, miracles happen. As you make giving a lifestyle, you’ll realize you’re not only loving life more, you’re also creating a more generous world— a better world for all of us.

Inside you’ll find tips about:
• Thinking of giving as something you get to do, not something you have to do.
• How to raise kids with a sensitivity to others’ needs.
• Making a difference without being a millionaire. 
• Practical ideas for ways to give to people around you every day.

I Like Giving shows you how to experience the joy of giving because we all have something to give. Beyond money or things, giving can be a listening ear, a touch, or simply the gift of time. Giving is living.

Product Details

ISBN-13:	9781601425768
Publisher:	PRH Christian Publishing
Publication date:	02/18/2014
Sold by:	Random House
Format:	eBook
Pages:	224
File size:	14 MB
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About the Author

BRAD FORMSMA is the founder and president of ilikegiving.com, a movement that has inspired more than 100 million people worldwide to live generously. In addition to the online movement, I Like Giving works with churches and businesses to create healthy cultures through generosity. Brad has been featured on Today, Fox News, National Geographic, and Forbes. He speaks on leadership and organizational health for sales teams and businesses including Trek Bicycle, Southeastern Freight Lines, Merrill Lynch and Johns Hopkins. He also guides families through custom gatherings to help them discuss generosity together with every generation, so that their values and story live on. Brad lives in Southern California with his wife, Laura, and their three children.

Read an Excerpt

The giving journey for Tracy Autler started on Thanksgiving Day 1993. Away from her family, living in an apartment on
the lower end of town, a single mom to a three-year-old and eight months pregnant, she was relying on welfare and
food stamps to get by. While other families were preparing for their Thanksgiving feasts, Tracy would do the best she
could with canned food.

Standing in her apartment and looking at the sparse collection of cans on her shelf, Tracy heard a knock at the
door. What in the world? she thought. Who would be coming to her door on Thanksgiving Day? Weren’t people at home
with their families, eating turkey and watching football?

She opened her door and simply couldn’t believe her eyes. Standing there was a man from a local restaurant with
a delivery for Tracy: a full Thanksgiving dinner, complete with all the trimmings. He said it was from an anonymous
donor, and before Tracy could ask any questions, he handed it over and left. Tracy was so overwhelmed that she spent the rest of the day crying.

Surprised and amazed, Tracy decided she needed to know whom to thank for this extravagant and timely gift. However, she couldn’t fi gure it out. She called her parents, but it wasn’t them. She asked her friends, but no one knew. Tracy couldn’t believe that someone outside her circle of friends and family had noticed her situation and done something about it without drawing any attention to himself.

Years went by, and Tracy still had no idea whom the mysterious Thanksgiving dinner had come from. In time she moved out of that apartment and began working as a nurse at a local hospital.

And then it happened. Seven years after that special Thanksgiving meal, a woman named Margot was admitted into Tracy’s care. Margot had multiple sclerosis, and her condition was becoming critical. Tracy remembered Margot from her time on welfare. She had lived in the same apartment building as Tracy. It was clear that Margot didn’t have much longer to live.

Three days before her death, Margot took Tracy’s hand in hers and, in a frail voice, whispered two words: “Happy
Thanksgiving.”

In that moment Tracy knew who had given her that Thanksgiving dinner. She would never have guessed that Margot—the unassuming neighbor with multiple sclerosis—was behind that generous gift. Tracy still gets tears in her eyes when she tells the story today.

I’d call that story “I Like My Neighbor.” Margot saw Tracy’s situation that Thanksgiving Day and did something extraordinary—she gave her the perfect gift without anyone asking her to and without asking for anything in return.
That one gift had a massive impact on Tracy’s life. Moved by the anonymous donor’s generosity, Tracy purposed in her heart to do generous things for other people too. The very day she got off assistance, she took a basket of gifts down to the welfare offi ce for anyone to take. The welfare offi cer was stunned. Can you imagine the look on his face? Who does something like that?

And that was just the beginning. Since then, Tracy and her husband have become foster parents and adopted a son. She regularly looks for opportunities to give. The last time I heard from her, she was getting ready to volunteer her Saturday afternoon at the local Humane Society. One of her latest ideas is to leave fi ve-dollar Starbucks gift cards
with little notes for her coworkers to fi nd, just to make their day better. This year Tracy and her family made a New
Year’s resolution to fi nd one hundred opportunities to give to other people. How inspiring is that?

What I appreciate most about Tracy is that she doesn’t do her giving to be noticed by others. Since that Thanksgiving Day in 1993, she has discovered the joy that comes from giving. Now she’s hooked. She doesn’t give to make herself look good—she gives because she likes giving. It makes her feel more alive. “It’s how life should be,” she says.

There is something incredible about giving when it’s our idea. Opening our eyes and ears to the people around us and asking “How can we give?” is a profoundly life-giving and satisfying way to live. One of Jesus’s ideas was that it is more blessed to give than to receive. I have found that to be true. The generous life is the only life worth living.
Just imagine—what if every single person on the planet woke up and, like Tracy, looked for ways to give? What sort of world could we create through the simple, powerful decision to live generously? Whoever you are, no matter how much or how little you have to share, making the decision to give regularly to others—daily, weekly, or monthly—will enrich your life and change the lives of the people around you.

When we choose to give, we change, and the people around us change. When we move from awareness to action, miracles happen. When we allow giving to be our idea, a world of possibilities opens up before us, and we discover new levels of joy. If you, like Tracy, get hooked on giving, you’ll fi nd yourself asking, “How generous can I be?” When that happens, you’ll realize that, not only are you loving life more than ever, but you’re also a part of creating a more generous world—a world that is better for all of us. If you haven’t ever experienced the joy of giving, or it’s been a long time, this book will show you where to start. We will walk with you as you take your fi rst steps, and we’ll stick with you as you grow in the art of generosity.

Or if you’re nodding your head right now, saying, “I’ve known this for years,” then we’re here to encourage you to keep growing and to empower you to spread the joy. We never arrive. I’ve been discovering the joy of generous living for many years, and I still feel as if I’m just getting started!

The best things in life are like that—they grow and never end.

Table of Contents

1 The Power of One Gift 1

2 Beginnings 13

3 Try 31

4 What Happens When We Give 47

5 The Science of Giving 61

6 Giving Filters 73

7 Tactics 95

I Like Nursing Fees: Francis 108

I Like Scars: Sarah 112

I Like My High School: Leignton 115

I Like Giving More Than I Planned: Jim 118

8 Family 123

9 Community 145

10 Receiving 161

11 Becoming a Gift 181

12 A Generous World 193

Acknowledgments 201

Notes 203

Interviews

Q&A with Brad Formsma

author of

I Like Giving

1. How did you become an advocate for generous living?

I became an advocate over a long period of time. I have found that creating a lifestyle of generosity is not an overnight experience. It started with my grandfather’s example in my early teen years, which was mainly my watching him as opposed to him preaching to me. There is real power and freedom in sharing giving stories with others without asking for something from them. This happened the more I discovered the power of giving stories. Think of giving this way: We get to. We don't got to.

2. What is your favorite example of giving?

Now that’s a hard one! I have so many favorites. If we are talking family giving, I would say the “I Like Bike” story. The “I Like Bike” experience took our family to a whole new level! If we are talking about someone giving away all they have, “I Like Car” is at the top of my list. Overall, stories of kids being generous are super inspiring to me. They don't over think it, and it’s so pure. Best of all, I think it changes them for life. A life that is truly life.

3. What do you find are the unexpected benefits of giving to others?

I find a mysterious reset to my outlook on life. A fresh perspective on what it's all about. Thoughts of worry or concern disappear; joy rushes in and stays. I find I am less self-focused and more aware. Awareness has been huge in my life because once you become aware of a need then you can do something about it!

4. Where do you get your stories about giving and generosity?

I get stories from all over the world through my website (I Like Giving.com), as well friends and new people I meet along the way. Once you give someone the permission to share a story, it's hard to stop them. There are a ton of generous people out there who want to share but they have not previously had the encouragement or platform to do it. We don't care if it's anonymous or not. It's about how one story can change you and the world around you.

What will people learn about generosity from I Like Giving?

They will learn that they can do it. It's wired into all of us to be givers. Readers will be guided through the process, encouraged at every step of the way. They will be inspired by others who have taken the courage to share their stories as a way to motivate others. It snowballs in a great big way! They will experience that going fromawareness to action can lead to miracles happening in their own lives.

Editorial Reviews

Important and exciting! I Like Giving could be the beginning of a movement of generosity.”
—MARK BATTERSON, author of The Circle Maker

“I Like Giving will light you up on the generosity dial.”
—DAVE RAMSEY, host of The Dave Ramsey Show and New York Times best-selling author

“I Like Giving inspires us to explore giving that is full of cheer and joy. These stories have opened up our eyes to see our daily interactions with people in a whole new way.”
—DAVID and BARBARA GREEN, cofounders of Hobby Lobby

“I Like Giving is a beautifully written book with the right title, because people really do like giving. Brad Formsma has an inspiring message, and his book should be on every kitchen table, like a daily vitamin for the soul.”
—STEPHEN POST, best-selling author of Why Good Things Happen to Good People

“Brad’s understanding of generosity is a wake-up call for the giver inside us all.”
—MICHAEL JR., award-winning comedian

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