I Love a Cop, Revised Edition: What Police Families Need to Know

Overview

I. Hi Honey, I'm Home
1. The...
See more details below
Paperback (Revised)
$15.02
BN.com price
(Save 11%)$16.95 List Price

Pick Up In Store

Reserve and pick up in 60 minutes at your local store

Other sellers (Paperback)
  • All (15) from $4.95   
  • New (7) from $10.67   
  • Used (8) from $4.95   

Overview

I. Hi Honey, I'm Home
1. The Way It Is: Givens and Realities of Policework
2. The Police Officer's Paradox
3. Growing Old in a Young Person's Profession: How Officers Change With Time
4. Organizational Stress: Looking For Love in All the Wrong Places
II. Remarkable Events
Trauma
5. Critical Incidents, Stress, and Trauma
6. From Victim to Survivor: Working Through Trauma
7. From Battlefront to Homefront: Families and Trauma
8. Kids and Trauma
Emotional Extremes
9. Domestic Abuse: The Best Kept Secret Shame of Policing
10. Alcohol Abuse and Suicide
Getting Help
11. Getting the Help You Need When You Need It
III. Special Families, Special Issues
12. Swimming Upstream: Special Challenges Facing Women, Minorities, Lesbians, and Gay Men in Law Enforcement
13. Cop Couples
IV. Summing Up
14. Success Stories
Read More Show Less

Editorial Reviews

From the Publisher
"This book is as necessary for the overall survival of our law enforcement officers as their vests, weapons, and officer safety tactics. The realities of the job have changed in the post-9/11 world, and the revised edition arrives just in time. Dr. Kirschman provides an in-depth look at the daily challenges facing the law enforcement officer and family, and offers specific strategies for overcoming the pitfalls that potentially take such a heavy toll. This book should be issued to every recruit entering the profession."—Kevin M. Gilmartin, PhD, author of Emotional Survival for Law Enforcement

"When I was Police Chief in Toronto, every graduating police officer received a copy of [i]I Love A Cop[/i]. The revised edition convinces me even more that it is the right thing to do if you wish to promote wellness in your organization. This is a 'must read' for all progressive police leaders who really care about officers and their families."—David Boothby, Chief of Police (Retired), Toronto, Ontario, Canada

Library Journal
While police officers have always encountered danger, events of the past few years have increased their vulnerability. In 1997, clinical psychologist Kirschman put together this coping guide for officers, their family members, and mental health professionals, drawing on her and her colleagues' files to discuss not only the everyday challenges that police officers face but also the measures families can take for dealing with trauma. With this revised edition, Kirschman addresses facets of post-9/11 and post-Katrina police work, including chapters on domestic and alcohol abuse and the special trials of female officers and cop couples. The author maintains that police families can, in fact, thrive, and she's got the success stories to prove it. Preparedness is one of the keys to that state, and this book, which should interest its intended audience and the general public, shows how to get there. For all libraries. Copyright 2007 Reed Business Information.
Read More Show Less

Product Details

  • ISBN-13: 9781593853532
  • Publisher: Guilford Publications, Inc.
  • Publication date: 11/3/2006
  • Edition description: Revised
  • Edition number: 2
  • Pages: 340
  • Sales rank: 154,599
  • Product dimensions: 8.98 (w) x 5.94 (h) x 0.91 (d)

Meet the Author

Ellen Kirschman, PhD, is a clinical psychologist and consultant who works with peace officers and their families. She has written extensively about police culture and is sought after as a speaker and seminar leader. Dr. Kirschman has been an invited guest at the FBI Academy and is a member of the Psychological Services Section of the International Association of Chiefs of Police. She is a cofounder of www.policefamilies.com and maintains a website for the public at www.ellenkirschman.com. In 2000, Dr. Kirschman was named Woman of Distinction by the Police Chiefs Spouses Worldwide. She lives in Redwood City, California.

Read More Show Less

Table of Contents

I. "Hi Honey. I'm Home."
1. The Way It Is: Givens and Realities of Police Work
2. The Police Officer's Paradox
3. Growing Old in a Young Person's Profession: How Officers Change with Time
4. Organizational Stress: Looking for Love in All the Wrong Places
II. Remarkable Events
Trauma
5. Critical Incidents, Stress, and Trauma
6. From Victim to Survivor: Working Through Trauma
7. From Battlefront to Homefront: Families and Trauma
8. Kids and Trauma
Emotional Extremes
9. Domestic Abuse: The Best-Kept Secret Shame of Policing
10. Alcohol Abuse and Suicide
Getting Help
11. Getting the Help You Need When You Need It
III. Special Families, Special Issues
12. Swimming Upstream: Special Challenges Facing Women, Minorities, Lesbians, and Gay Men in Law Enforcement
13. Cop Couples
IV. Summing Up
14. Success Stories
Epilogue
Resources

Read More Show Less

Customer Reviews

Be the first to write a review
( 0 )
Rating Distribution

5 Star

(0)

4 Star

(0)

3 Star

(0)

2 Star

(0)

1 Star

(0)

Your Rating:

Your Name: Create a Pen Name or

Barnes & Noble.com Review Rules

Our reader reviews allow you to share your comments on titles you liked, or didn't, with others. By submitting an online review, you are representing to Barnes & Noble.com that all information contained in your review is original and accurate in all respects, and that the submission of such content by you and the posting of such content by Barnes & Noble.com does not and will not violate the rights of any third party. Please follow the rules below to help ensure that your review can be posted.

Reviews by Our Customers Under the Age of 13

We highly value and respect everyone's opinion concerning the titles we offer. However, we cannot allow persons under the age of 13 to have accounts at BN.com or to post customer reviews. Please see our Terms of Use for more details.

What to exclude from your review:

Please do not write about reviews, commentary, or information posted on the product page. If you see any errors in the information on the product page, please send us an email.

Reviews should not contain any of the following:

  • - HTML tags, profanity, obscenities, vulgarities, or comments that defame anyone
  • - Time-sensitive information such as tour dates, signings, lectures, etc.
  • - Single-word reviews. Other people will read your review to discover why you liked or didn't like the title. Be descriptive.
  • - Comments focusing on the author or that may ruin the ending for others
  • - Phone numbers, addresses, URLs
  • - Pricing and availability information or alternative ordering information
  • - Advertisements or commercial solicitation

Reminder:

  • - By submitting a review, you grant to Barnes & Noble.com and its sublicensees the royalty-free, perpetual, irrevocable right and license to use the review in accordance with the Barnes & Noble.com Terms of Use.
  • - Barnes & Noble.com reserves the right not to post any review -- particularly those that do not follow the terms and conditions of these Rules. Barnes & Noble.com also reserves the right to remove any review at any time without notice.
  • - See Terms of Use for other conditions and disclaimers.
Search for Products You'd Like to Recommend

Recommend other products that relate to your review. Just search for them below and share!

Create a Pen Name

Your Pen Name is your unique identity on BN.com. It will appear on the reviews you write and other website activities. Your Pen Name cannot be edited, changed or deleted once submitted.

 
Your Pen Name can be any combination of alphanumeric characters (plus - and _), and must be at least two characters long.

Continue Anonymously
Sort by: Showing all of 15 Customer Reviews
  • Posted December 30, 2011

    Excellent!!!

    As a woman who recently fell in love with a cop, this is such an informative book! It has helped me to understand how my cop ticks, reacts, thinks and functions every day outside of his job. The job of police officer doesn't stop at 5 o'clock ... it's a job that most cops live and breathe all day, every day of the rest of their lives. This is a book that I will refer to often in helping my cop deal with his struggle to fit in with the rest of us. Very Good Book!!!

    2 out of 2 people found this review helpful.

    Was this review helpful? Yes  No   Report this review
  • Anonymous

    Posted August 24, 2012

    Recommended

    My son has just started the police academy and this book was suggested for loved ones to read. As I have read the book I have a better understand of what my son will be dealing with as a police officer and how to assist him and/or his family when he is dealing with various events that will happen during his day. I would highly recommended this book to any one who has a family member on the forces or just beginning the process.

    1 out of 1 people found this review helpful.

    Was this review helpful? Yes  No   Report this review
  • Posted March 9, 2011

    Mostly useless information

    Unfortunately, the only useful information in this book is at the end, where she lists several organizations that might be of help to police officers and their families. The author, a big-time Bay Area liberal, who admits to knowing nothing about actual police work, apparently has a huge ego, and needed to see her name on the cover of a book. Save your money.

    1 out of 4 people found this review helpful.

    Was this review helpful? Yes  No   Report this review
  • Posted September 13, 2009

    more from this reviewer

    The Only One Who Hates It?

    Unlike most of those who have reviewed this book, I found it extremely negative and depressing. I am constantly asking myself why the police department would give this book to the spouses/significant others of the soon to start police cadets. Do they know they are instilling fear and dread into the minds of a hundred women? In talking with a few of the other cadet spouses I have found that the overall consensus on how we have reacted to this book is negative. That said, I have no experience with police life and this book struck me as a blow to the police culture. I basically felt that the main points of the book were 1) police officers are unfaithful to their spouses and most couples end up getting divorced, 2) police officers tend to abuse their wives and sometimes fatally kill them, 3) they are mostly alcoholics and emotionally defective. I believe this is not true of the majority...but then again I am not a police wife, just the girlfriend of a cadet. Those that have been living the lifestyle may have a totally different view than me.
    However, I belive the research was well presented and the book well written (statistically speaking). I had no problem reading the book cover-to-cover with the curiosity of what would come next.

    1 out of 2 people found this review helpful.

    Was this review helpful? Yes  No   Report this review
  • Posted October 3, 2013

    Going through police troubles years ago, I found this book. It

    Going through police troubles years ago, I found this book. It was valuable. It grew more valuable. Seeing others around me stressing along with me, the book
    took on more importance.
    The revised edition contains new and fresh insights. We in the profession are realizing how important this book is. This belongs on the same level with our firearms training. Cops need both.
    As I have stated before, if I were running a police academy, I would make this book required reading.Clear, insightful and compassionate, nobody who is a cop or cares about a cop can afford to pass on this book.
    ---Frank Hickey, LAPD retired and author.

    Was this review helpful? Yes  No   Report this review
  • Posted July 28, 2012

    Very Frustrating

    I find this book justifying all sorts of behaviors that ruin relationships. There are no suggestions as how to deal with them, it simply points out the negative and moves to the next issue.... misery loves company? ???

    Was this review helpful? Yes  No   Report this review
  • Anonymous

    Posted December 15, 2011

    No text was provided for this review.

  • Anonymous

    Posted August 6, 2011

    No text was provided for this review.

  • Anonymous

    Posted February 13, 2012

    No text was provided for this review.

  • Anonymous

    Posted December 26, 2009

    No text was provided for this review.

  • Anonymous

    Posted July 13, 2010

    No text was provided for this review.

  • Anonymous

    Posted August 26, 2010

    No text was provided for this review.

  • Anonymous

    Posted October 2, 2010

    No text was provided for this review.

  • Anonymous

    Posted May 10, 2010

    No text was provided for this review.

  • Anonymous

    Posted December 16, 2008

    No text was provided for this review.

Sort by: Showing all of 15 Customer Reviews

If you find inappropriate content, please report it to Barnes & Noble
Why is this product inappropriate?
Comments (optional)