I Love a Fire Fighter: What the Family Needs to Know

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Patterned on the outstanding success of I Love a Cop, this is the first book of its kind written exclusively for fire fighters and their families. Challenging two-dimensional stereotypes, Dr. Ellen Kirschman portrays fire fighters as they really are: complex men and women doing one of the world's toughest jobs and trying to fit comfortably into two families-the one at the firehouse and the one at home. I Love a Fire Fighter takes us on a journey from stationhouse banter to a four-alarm blaze and harrowing ride ...
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Overview

Patterned on the outstanding success of I Love a Cop, this is the first book of its kind written exclusively for fire fighters and their families. Challenging two-dimensional stereotypes, Dr. Ellen Kirschman portrays fire fighters as they really are: complex men and women doing one of the world's toughest jobs and trying to fit comfortably into two families-the one at the firehouse and the one at home. I Love a Fire Fighter takes us on a journey from stationhouse banter to a four-alarm blaze and harrowing ride with paramedics on the midnight shift. Along the way, Dr. Kirschman addresses occupational health and safety issues along with domestic concerns including unpredictable schedules, lack of communication, and anxiety. Vivid anecdotes and practical tips show families how they can pull together when job stress threatens to spill over onto home turf, and shed light on what spouses and partners can and can't do to help their mates, their children, and themselves.
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Editorial Reviews

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"A marvelous and comprehensive look at the challenges, rewards, and resources of this remarkable industry. A 'must read' for firefighters and families alike!"--Susan Farren, author of The Fireman's Wife
 
"It's an awesome book, a great read for all firefighter wives!!!"--Lisa Kennedy, fire service wife, founder of www.bkfdwife.com

"Dr. Kirschman's book is a masterful integration of the challenges faced by fire fighter families and the solutions first-responder families can develop to meet these challenges. Her personal and professional experience makes this essential reading for all those in the fire fighter's support network."--Janet L. Bachant, PhD, Founder and President, New York Disaster Counseling Coalition

"Dr. Ellen Kirschman has done it again. Just as I Love a Cop did for police families, this in-depth book brings the world of fire fighting to life. Dr. Kirschman provides unique advice about relationships and family life for those who protect our safety and those who love them. A 'must-read' for fire fighter families!"--John M. Violanti, PhD, School of Public Health and Health Professions, University at Buffalo--The State University of New York

"We often hear the term 'fire family,' but until now, no one has ever stopped to examine in depth what that term really means. Dr. Kirschman offers a unique perspective on the inner workings of the fire service culture and how it affects our personal relationships. This book should be mandatory reading for everyone entering the profession, for those responsible for leading contemporary fire departments, and for chaplains and other helping professionals. Insightful, intense, and immensely valuable."--Fire Chief Ronny J. Coleman, MA, FIFireE, CFOD

"Finally, a book that offers the inside story on the highs and lows of life in the fire service. If you love a fire fighter--or are one yourself--I highly recommend this book."--S. Joseph Woodall, PhD, Retired Fire Department Captain/Recruit Training Officer and nationally certified counselor

"Important and insightful information about the successes and struggles that challenge fire fighters and their families."--Lynn A., wife of a fire fighter

"I wish I had had this book 30 years ago when my husband joined the force! It captures what you go through, from rookie to chief. A 'must read' for fire fighters and their families."--Judy G., wife of a fire fighter

"Ellen Kirschman has made a remarkable contribution to the health of firefighters and their families with this book. She blends clinical insight, real-world experiences, and practical advice to produce a volume of genuine warmth and understanding for those who devote their lives to fire and rescue work. Offering a truthful, realistic appraisal of common motivations, fears, and myths, this comprehensive resource is highly recommended for firefighters and their loved ones."--John Durkin, FireStress Solutions, UK

"This book could reduce the fire service divorce rate. It's packed with valuable insights into the way firefighters operate and the absolute value and support that families give unconditionally. Finally, an acknowledgement of the unsung heroes of the fire service--the wives, husbands, kids and parents. This is an essential resource for all of us in the fire service who juggle family and work life."--Tim Hoy, Station Officer, London Fire Brigade, and UK Secretary, International Register of Firefighters with Diabetes
 

"You couldn't have hit the nail on the head any better! As I was reading, I found myself laughing, crying, and nodding at many of the things in the book. I know that this will become a 'guide' to me through the many interesting and confusing and, most likely, hair-pulling times in our life. Thank you once again!"--Cassie E. Norman, firefighter fiancée, Yorktown, Virginia

"I have studied the fire service for over 40 years; the first thirty as a fire fighter and the last ten as an academic. The voices and experiences of real fire service families ring out loud and clear from this well-researched, well-written book. Dr. Kirschman demonstrates a solid understanding of the issues that face fire fighters today. This is an essential tool for fire service families, as well as a great read."--Dave Baigent, PhD, former fire fighter and Director, Fire Service Research and Training Unit, Anglia Polytechnic University

"Dr. Kirschman would be most welcome in my firehouse anytime, for she has a keen overall sense of both fire fighting and the fire fighter. Just as it is not easy to be a fire fighter, it is not easy to be a part of the fire fighter's family either, for the dangers, the issues, and the culture that comes with working in a firehouse are different from the normal workplace. Dr. Kirschman brings the reader to a solid understanding of these differences and how to adjust to them. This is more than an advice book: it is a usable guide which includes lists of important and helpful organizations that support fire fighters. I Love a Fire Fighter is a great gift to pass around the family, and also around the firehouse, for it is meant to bring people closer together. I can tell you that it succeeds."--Dennis Smith, retired New York City fire fighter, founder of Firehouse Magazine, and author of Report from Ground Zero
 

FireWork (Newsletter of the Int. Ass. of Women in Fire and Emergency Services)

"A very welcome resource for the fire service. Every fire recruit should give a copy to his or her family on the first day of training."--FireWork (Newsletter of the Int. Ass. of Women in Fire and Emergency Services)
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Product Details

  • ISBN-13: 9781593850630
  • Publisher: Guilford Publications, Inc.
  • Publication date: 8/10/2004
  • Edition description: New Edition
  • Pages: 299
  • Sales rank: 463,453
  • Product dimensions: 6.02 (w) x 8.88 (h) x 0.86 (d)

Meet the Author


Ellen Kirschman, PhD, is a clinical psychologist and consultant who has worked with public safety personnel and their families for 20 years. She is the author of I Love a Cop and is sought after as a speaker and seminar leader. Since 1991, Dr. Kirschman has provided organizational consultation, training, and crisis intervention to the Palo Alto Fire Department. She lives in Redwood City, California, with her husband.
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Table of Contents

Introduction
1. Beepers in Your Bedroom: The Givens and Realities of the Fire Service
2. Spillover: Managing the Relationship between Home and Work
3. Profiles: The Fire Fighter Personality
4. Climbing the Career Ladder: From Recruitment to Retirement
5. Emergency Medical Services: False Alarms and Frequent Fliers
6. Organizational Stress: Fractures in the Fire Service
7. Diversity
8. Injuries and Fatalities
9. Fitness, Health, and Safety
10. Trauma and Stress
11. Treating Traumatic Stress: Help for Individuals and Families
12. Fire Fighters in Hot Water: Alcoholism, Arson, Infidelity, and Divorce
13. Fire Fighting Couples
14. Getting Help
Epilogue
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