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I Love You More Workbook for WomenSix Sessions on How Everyday Problems Can Strengthen Your Marriage
By Les Parrott Leslie Parrott
ZondervanCopyright © 2005 Les and Leslie Parrott
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Chapter Onetaking inventory of your marriage
Every couple bumps into bad things-circumstances that make marriage more difficult. In this first exercise, we urge you to take an inventory of everything threatening your love. Every couple has their own unique list. What follows are some of the most common. Take a moment, without input from your spouse, to check those that currently top your list.
Tumultuous relations with extended family
A rebellious child
Lack of spiritual intimacy
Frequent communication breakdowns
Infidelities and lack of trust
Grief or loss
Before discussing the list you just made with your partner, take a few more minutes to note the things in your life right now that are good for your marriage. What half-dozen good things are augmenting the love you share? Your list could consist of anything from "having a date night each week" to "being honest with each other" to "sharing the housework." Note what is currently going on that buoys your marriage in spite of everything else.
Being honest with each other
Sharing humor or laughter
Having strong social support
Sharing a vision for our future
Enjoying a committed church life together
Enjoying a fulfilling sex life
Having a date night
Enjoying good children
Feeling in good physical health
Having a secure financial future
Sharing interests and hobbies
Enjoying strong extended family relationships
Supporting each other in prayer
Feeling secure in our marriage commitment
Feeling strong emotional health
Once you've made your two lists, set aside some time to share this information with each other. Don't turn this into a gripe session. The point of sharing your first list is to simply identify what difficult things you are both contending with that impact your marriage. The goal in sharing your second list is to remember the positive, not just the negative.
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