I Love You Rituals [NOOK Book]


I Love You Rituals offers more than seventy delightful rhymes and games that send the message of unconditional love and enhance children's social, emotional, and school success.Winner of a 1999 Parent's Guide Children's Media Award, these positive nursery rhymes, interactive finger plays, soothing games, and physically active can be played with children from infancy through age eight. In only minutes a day, ...

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I Love You Rituals offers more than seventy delightful rhymes and games that send the message of unconditional love and enhance children's social, emotional, and school success.Winner of a 1999 Parent's Guide Children's Media Award, these positive nursery rhymes, interactive finger plays, soothing games, and physically active can be played with children from infancy through age eight. In only minutes a day, these powerful rituals:

  • Prime a child's brain for learning
  • Help children cope with change
  • Enhance attention, cooperation, and self-esteem
  • Help busy families stay close
  • Affirm the parent-child bond that insulates children from violence, peer pressure, and drugs, and much more.

Easy to learn and especially effective in stressful situations, I Love You Rituals gives parents, grandparents, caregivers, and teachers inspiring tools to help children thrive.

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Product Details

  • ISBN-13: 9780061857478
  • Publisher: HarperCollins Publishers
  • Publication date: 10/13/2009
  • Format: eBook
  • Pages: 224
  • Sales rank: 254,444
  • File size: 2 MB

Meet the Author

Becky A. Bailey, Ph.D., specializes in early childhood education and developmental psychology. Her lectures reach more than 20,000 people annually, and her awards include a Parents' Choice Foundation commendation for three of her parenting audiotapes. She has appeared on CNN, PBS, and The Hour of Power with Dr. Robert Schuller, among other programs. She lives in Oviedo, Florida.

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Chapter One

Boosting Your Child's Brain Potential: The Four Vital Goals ofI Love You Rituals
From a little spark may burst a mighty flame.

I Love You Rituals are delightful interactions and games that adults can play with children from infancy through eight years of age and that send the message of unconditional acceptance. Unconditional acceptance is love.

Imagine arriving home to be greeted by your spouse. His or her eyes light up as you enter the house. You begin to talk about your day, and you receive your spouse's complete attention. Simultaneously, your spouse begins to give you a deep hand massage that sends invisible cellular messages coursing like radio waves throughout your body. The messages are, “You are safe, you are adored, all is well.” In this loving state, you become attuned to the wonders of life and the passion of living, and the world becomes a positive place where each person has untold value. What a wonderful interaction that would be. What a powerful display of love. This greeting sure beats the heck out of, “What's for dinner?” or “Did you pick up the dry cleaning?” I Love You Rituals are gifts of love you can give your children. Since what you give to others, you strengthen in yourself, they are gifts you can give yourself.

Take a deep breath and read the following aloud:

A wonderful woman lived in a shoe.
She had so many children
She knew exactly what to do.
She held them,
She rocked them,
And tucked them in bed.
“I love you, I love you,”
Is what she said.

Reflect on your emotions. How do you feel after reading therhyme? Now take another deep breath and read the original Mother Goose rhyme:

There was an old lady who lived in a shoe
She had so many children
she didn't know what to do.
She fed them some broth without any bread
And whipped them all soundly and sent them to bed.

Reflect on your feelings once again. What word would you use to describe how you feel after reading this rhyme? This simple exercise vividly demonstrates that what you see, hear, and sense affects your brain, and your brain governs your physiology, your feelings, and your behavior. It is time to create new rituals, rituals that reflect our worth and extend love to others.

It is one thing to revise the old Mother Goose rhymes, but I Love You Rituals are much more than that. They are rituals that send the message of unconditional love to children. Unconditional love is something we all seek to find and hope to give. This unconditional love is sent in what I call “child language” through I Love You Rituals. It is sent in a game, in words, and through touch, and it is sent repeatedly. The playfulness of the game is crucial, for in play, children and adults are totally present, absorbed in the moment. Think about watching your children play. They become so engrossed in their actions, you can't get them to notice you or the call to supper. Pay attention to yourself when you play. For some of us, reading is play. We become deeply drawn into the story, easily staying up to 2:00 a.m., losing track of time. Those of us who enjoy tennis or other forms of play lose ourselves in the activity. In this flow of activity, we find a precious part of ourselves and feel rejuvenated.

The Good News about the Tragedy and Violence We See

Over my twenty-five years of working with children and families, I have noticed a growing undercurrent of change. Viewed from a small perspective, this change could appear disruptive or negative; yet from a bigger picture, its beauty is unfolding. From a microscopic view we see increases in juvenile delinquency, suicide, rebellion, depression, apathy, and drug addictions. In young children, we see enormous increases in hyperactivity, impulsiveness, power struggles, demanding behavior, and willful fits of displeasure when they do not get what they want. In young adults, brilliance and genius are budding, yet a moral compass is missing. Busy, frantic parents chase dreams and miss moments with each other and with their children. Others work to make ends meet and spend little time with each other. Material goods seduce us more than kindness. News headlines offer tragedy after tragedy, so that denial becomes a defense against hopelessness. But under all these struggles, all these cries for help, is a rumble, a wave building in the ocean of life, ready to crest and carry us all forward. This rumble is our intense, true desire for connection with each other. We long to belong. We strive to offer and receive unconditional love. This desire to be loved and loveable unites us all.

We are shifting from being families and communities based on roles to groups based on healthy relationships. The role of wife had certain duties, the role of husband had required obligations. The role of the child to be seen and not heard was paramount. These roles of days gone by offered security. Yet that security was riddled with oppression, lack of freedom, and rigid rituals that served the powerful, not the many. The roles provided security without connection. These roles had to crumble; they needed to fall. In this process, turmoil, crisis, pain, confusion, and hopelessness reign as families scramble to hold together and marriages fail more often than not. However, our souls seek to overcome these strivings and are ready to connect with each other in a different capacity, on an equal footing. To move from roles to relationships, we have traveled from self-hatred, shame, and guilt to acceptance of ourselves and each other. We progressed from the rigidity of sameness to tolerance of differences, from fearing change to embracing its potential. We are shifting from living in the past or the future to living in the present. We are returning to love. On the outside, it looks like the end of the world is coming, but on the inside, we are pulling together as never before. This book is about getting together. It is about reconnecting with ourselves and our children. In these cute activities and rituals you will be conducting with your children, you will find something very precious'yourself. These I Love You Rituals are needed now in our culture. They are our bridge from roles to relationships.

Win-Win Activities

One guiding truth about life is that what you offer to others, you strengthen within yourself. Stop reading this book for a moment. Think about your children and how much you love them. If they are at school or a room nearby, just wish them well. From your mind and heart, allow the feelings to overflow and send them a silent blast of love. Now, how do you feel yourself? Probably warm and cozy. You offered your children love and security by wishing them well, and you yourself welled up with love. The same is true when we offer criticism and blame. When we see what is lacking in others, what they are not doing, and what is wrong with the world, we simultaneously feel lacking. You cannot go through your day seeing what is wrong and go to bed happy. Self-esteem does not come from how others see you, but from how you see others. Thus we can see the power of the Golden Rule. It is golden because it affects both parties. See the beauty in others, and you can see the beauty in yourself. By conducting these I Love You Rituals with children, not only do you boost your child's brain potential, but you heal your old wounds. Parents, aunts, uncles, grandparents, stepdads and stepmoms all find love for themselves as they extend love to their children. I Love You Rituals ground you in the present moment, connect you with your children, and help you reestablish and maintain a safe place within from which love radiates.

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Table of Contents

Acknowledgments xi
Chapter 1 Boosting Your Child's Brain Potential: The Four Vital Goals of I Love You Rituals 1
Chapter 2 I Love You Rituals and Disciplining Children: A Powerful Connection 23
Chapter 3 Getting Started and Ensuring Success 37
Chapter 4 Positive Nursery Rhymes 57
A Wonderful Woman Who Lived in a Shoe 59
Peter, Peter, Pumpkin Eater 62
Twinkle, Twinkle, Little Star 63
Little Miss Muffet 65
Humpty Dumpty 67
Georgie Porgie 69
Margie Pargie 71
Mary Had a Little Lamb 72
Little Bo Peep 74
Hot Cross Buns 76
Mary, Mary, Extraordinary 79
To Market, to Market 81
Wee Willie [Wendy] Winkie 83
Jack Be Noodle 85
Ba Ba, Black Sheep 87
Three Nice Mice 89
Chapter 5 Interactive Finger Plays 91
Dancing Hands 93
Five Little Babies 96
Growing Up 99
Here's the Beehive 101
Here's the Bunny 103
Mr. Sun 105
On Your Face 107
One, Two, Three, Four, Five 109
Round and Round the Garden 111
There Was a Little Mouse 112
Ten Little Candles 114
The Hello Game 117
This Little Finger 119
This Little Finger Goes Night-Night 122
Today Is--'s Birthday 123
Two Blackbirds 125
Warm Hands 128
You Have Ten Little Fingers 130
Your Fingers Are So Sleepy 133
You've Been Gone 136
Chapter 6 Silly Interactions 139
Family Handshakes 141
My Hand Is Stuck 143
Greetings 144
What Did You Bring Home from School Today? 145
My Face Has a Gift for You 146
Silly Me 148
Jelly Bean Toes 149
Yes and No Game 150
You Have a Present 151
Mama's Smart Girl [Boy] 152
Chapter 7 Soothing and Relaxing Games 153
Goodnight Elbow 155
Guess What I Am Writing [Drawing]? 156
Hot Dog Game 158
Putting Lotion on the Hurts 160
Tell Me When I Am at the End 162
Rub and Dry Game 163
Move What I Touch 165
Story Hand 167
Chapter 8 Hide-and-Seek Games 169
Find the Stickers 171
Find the Yarn 173
Hello, Toes/Good-bye, Toes 175
Can You Find It? 176
I'm Hiding 178
Peek-a-Boo. I See You! 180
Where Are Those Hands? 181
Where Did It Go? 183
Chapter 9 Cuddling and Snuggling Games 185
Snuggle Time 187
Blanket Swing 188
Row, Row, Row Your Boat 190
Snuggle Up 192
Held in My Arms 194
Chapter 10 Physically Active Games 195
Blanket Volleyball 197
Cotton Ball Blow 199
The Big Crash 201
The Cat and the Bunny 202
Walk and Stop 204
Bibliography 205
Index 206
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  • Anonymous

    Posted May 7, 2012

    Wonderful resource

    Becky Bailey's work is quite honestly the most lifechanging program I've come across. She is direct and caring in the way she describes and teaches. If you want to change the way you relate to your children and others, get this book. FOR children under say 8 or 9, also get I Love You Rituals. Your family will be blessed by her teaching!

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  • Posted March 13, 2012

    Wonderful ideas for building a loving respectful relationship with your child.

    As a connoisseur of parenting books, I am very happy to have discovered Becky Bailey's books. This book works as an accompaniment to "Easy to Love, Difficult to Discipline." However, she summarizes enough of the main ideas in that book that it would work fine on its own as well. In this book she discusses why children misbehave and how building your relationship with your child helps you to discipline in a way that builds your child's character and actually brings you closer together. The rituals within, help your child cope with stresses brought on by the struggles endured while growing up.

    I expected this book to help my daughter cope with the changes brought on by the birth of my second daughter and starting school, but I was surprised to find how much they helped me too.

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  • Anonymous

    Posted April 14, 2006

    IF YOU WANT TO DO BETTER with the Time you have

    I have an 8yo son and I can continue to find ideas in this book--some that I learned 40 years ago- It is a wonderful memory of connecting with each other. Busy Days need quiet nights.

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