I Sleep at Red Lights: A True Story of Life After Triplets

I Sleep at Red Lights: A True Story of Life After Triplets

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Bruce Stockler captures the chaos, joy and challenges of becoming the father of triplets in this hilarious, fast-paced, and refreshingly honest memoir.

From the moment Stockler and his wife, Roni, learn they have hit the fertility jackpot, their lives are turned upside down. The day the babies are born--in an operating room bustling with 30 doctors, nurses

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Bruce Stockler captures the chaos, joy and challenges of becoming the father of triplets in this hilarious, fast-paced, and refreshingly honest memoir.

From the moment Stockler and his wife, Roni, learn they have hit the fertility jackpot, their lives are turned upside down. The day the babies are born--in an operating room bustling with 30 doctors, nurses and technicians--is the first jolt in a physical and emotional roller-coaster ride. And every day following continues to reveal one unpredictable twist after another. Just going to the supermarket and keeping the kids--and the store--safe from disaster is like an episode from an adventure story. When the triplets start to walk, and explode in three directions at once, they quickly learn to exploit their newfound freedom at every possible turn.

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The stay-at-home dad isn't such an anomaly these days-newspapers run popular-trend features about him, and he himself might write a book about the job (e.g. David Eddie's Housebroken) but the world may have never encountered such a superfather as Stockler seems to be in this parenting memoir. Already an experienced dad-though not an official stay-at-homer, he's the primary caretaker of his two-year-old son Asher (his wife, Roni, is a high-powered New York lawyer)-Stockler nevertheless faces a new and daunting level of responsibility when Roni becomes pregnant with triplets. With keen wit (Stockler has worked as a jokewriter for Jay Leno and writes a humor column for Esquire), he chronicles the difficult pregnancy, offers a dramatic and moving description of the babies' birth, and describes escapade after sleepless escapade with three growing newborns and a toddler. Parents will laugh out loud during the "Lost in the Supermarket" chapter, in which Stockler must strategically position his wagonful of children so that it's far from the bagel display without being close to the muffins-"I made that mistake once and muffins flew through the air like antiaircraft fire"-as well as try to keep one triplet from licking raw chicken juice, another from launching herself from the wagon, and another from freaking out over breakfast cereal. (Asher, four by this time, charms throughout.) They will also appreciate the sometimes startling honesty with which he describes family relationships and the challenges of parenting. Nevertheless, some will wish the book had a wider scope-it gains depth when it considers larger contexts, like the prejudice Roni faces as a working mother when the family moves to the suburbs, but it does this only rarely and briefly. Also, it suffers from some poor editing-the structure is somewhat loose and repetitions abound. But these flaws ultimately don't detract from this book's overall appeal, which should extend even to those fathers who have just one newborn to contend with. (May) Copyright 2003 Reed Business Information.
Library Journal
Stockler, a columnist for Esquire, offers frank and funny scenes from his life with triplets from before birth to around age four. Compounding the insanity is a two-year-old son and a wife who works more than 80 hours a week. After losing his job, he becomes a stay-at-home dad and describes life with his kids as "a miniature Cirque du Soleil" and "a breakaway republic." The story's sole wistful aspect comes when Stockler's beloved mother dies. Engaging and observant, this will charm readers, though the author's main revelation-that he is madly in love with his family ("I hope they look back and remember all the fun")-is perhaps too often lost in the laughs. Still, this is a pleasure to read and offers a real-life perspective to instructional material like Elizabeth M. Bryan's Twins, Triplets, and More. Copyright 2003 Reed Business Information.
Kirkus Reviews
The joys and horrors of staying home to raise triplets and their older sibling. Like a veteran war correspondent, Esquire columnist Stockler takes pride in the sheer fact of still being alive. And while raising children, even triplets, should not be comparable to waging war, the times conspire to make the enterprise as demanding as any military incursion. Stockler begins with wife Roni’s conception via in-vitro fertilization. The couple live in a small New York apartment and already have one son, two-year-old Asher. When they learn that Roni is carrying triplets, Stockler, editor of a film trade magazine, alternately exults and worries about money, accommodations, and spending time with Asher. Roni spends the last weeks of her pregnancy in bed, but is back at work three weeks after she delivers Jared, Barak, and Hannah. (She is the major earner and has just made partner at her law firm.) The family moves to a house in the suburbs, and the exhausted Stockler commutes into the city each day, snatching moments of sleep on the train and at work. They have some help, but as Roni works longer hours, getting home well after 10 p.m. most nights, he feeds, diapers, and comforts the triplets through the night. He becomes a local fixture, running errands while pushing a three-seat stroller, and recipient of many friendly greetings. When Roni talks wistfully of changing her job and moving to a small town, Stockler is conscious of the sacrifices she is making, especially when he loses his job and does not find another. But despite the worries and the physical and financial cost, he feels privileged to have been so present in his children’s lives. Funny—but undercurrents of angst make this a vividstatus report on modern parenting.
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“Bruce Stockler is a very funny guy. He's our Mr. Mom for the new millennium.” —Jay Leno

“Bruce Stockler may not have time to sleep, but he did have time to write a hilarious, smart and touching book. I hope his wife gives birth to quadruplets so there will be a sequel soon.” —A.J. Jacobs, Esquire magazine

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ISBN-13:
9781429981217
Publisher:
St. Martin's Press
Publication date:
06/03/2003
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Macmillan
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336
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I Sleep at Red Lights

A True Story of Life After Triplets


By Bruce Stockler

St. Martin's Press

Copyright © 2003 Bruce Stockler
All rights reserved.
ISBN: 978-1-4299-8121-7



CHAPTER 1

Seven Weeks


The ultrasound suite at New York Hospital is familiar, a bland and antiseptic box of a room with nothing special to steal our attention, no windows or magazines or glossy pharmaceutical company brochures to distract us from our anxiety.

Our son, Asher, was conceived here three years ago at the hospital's in-vitro-fertilization (IVF) clinic. We have undergone three failed IVF cycles since then, including two ectopic pregnancies, one of which went misdiagnosed in the emergency room and nearly killed my wife, Roni.

This is our last chance, I say to myself. I can't go through this anymore — the worrying, the waiting, the needles and injections and endless trips to obscure drugstores, the jumping when the phone rings, and, more than anything, the frantic 2:00 A.M. cab rides across Central Park to the ER. Not knowing what's wrong, if this is another bump in the road, the next agonizing end of a pregnancy, or a threat to Roni's life — the stress is too much.

We're lucky. We have a beautiful son. The boundaries of fertility, medical technology, probability, age, drug exposure, and our own fragile peace of mind cannot be pushed indefinitely.

Roni looks up from the examining table and smiles. I smile back.

Roni is panicking. She must be. She made the bed this morning, so I know she is upset. It has been at least a year since she made the bed. When she makes the bed, she is coming apart at the seams.

"Hi, honey," I say, stupidly. What do I say?

The ultrasound doctor enters the room. The blandly named Dr. Mills has generically handsome blond looks and a polite, regionally nonspecific speaking voice. He could be the product of the Greenwich WASP aristocracy, a preppy Jewish kid from Dallas or Tulsa, or an ambitious small-town Minnesota Lutheran.

"Good morning," Dr. Mills says without a smile. He fires up the aging computer workstation, types, then swivels in his chair, with a practiced minimum of effort and motion, to squirt conductive jelly onto the thin head of the ultrasound wand. This will be an internal ultrasound, not the tummy-top ultrasound so popular on TV shows.

We are at seven weeks. Roni and I have a chemical pregnancy, which is like a real pregnancy, with a dead bunny rabbit, but filtered through layers and layers of intrusive testing and probing, statistics and probabilities, maybes and wait-and-sees.

Seven weeks is a natural biological precipice, the period of greatest spontaneous abortion for all pregnant women. You may take a deep breath once you reach week number eight. We've been holding our breath for days now and we are dizzy from the exercise.

* * *

The ultrasound room is dark, lit only by the monochrome glow of the computer screen. Dr. Mills works the ultrasound wand slowly and wordlessly, with confident, fluid motions. There is the steady beep, beep of the imaging software and a zoosh as the backup drive fires and snaps a digital picture. But of what?

Roni is flat on her back. She can see the screen only by prying herself up off the examining table by the elbows and craning her neck to look through the valley of her splayed legs, planted wide apart in the stirrups. This must be the most difficult viewing position ever devised. Probably, I realize, this is by design — the clinic wants women supine, relaxed, and not thinking about it, which is preposterous.

The grainy black-and-white images are as cheesy as government hygiene films from the 1950s. I have watched dozens of ultrasounds, but still have no idea what I am seeing. The landscape of my wife's uterus remains an impenetrable mystery. I don't have the faintest idea what is going on in there.

Fifteen minutes pass by without a single word from Dr. Mills. He stops several times to replenish the conductive jelly. The machine beeps. The hard drive kicks in. The air is warm and stale with CPU exhaust.

I stare at the sonar readings of Roni's reproductive system. During Asher's pregnancy, I remember seeing the egg sac, a tiny white ring rising and falling on dark mountains of water. Now I see nothing but black, grainy emptiness, oceans of it.

We lost the pregnancy, I think. There's nothing there.

Beep. Zoosh. The computer is busy. Life is reduced to a palette of sound effects.

The doctor is recording the pathological evidence. What went wrong. Uterine this, morphology that. Chemicals. Hormone levels. Nature's cruel efficiency.

I stand in a corner behind Dr. Mills, a spiderweb tickling the back of my neck. My brain beams down thought waves into the doctor's cranium — Say something, say anything, say some English words, you crazy silent medical bastard!

Roni smiles at me, her eyes wet with fear.

I smile back, lying with every muscle in my face.

Time drags on mockingly. Without warning, Roni and I blurt out together:

"Okay!"

"What's happening?"

"Please say something!"

"Hello!?"

Our joint outburst does not affect Dr. Mills, who remains ignorant of the cosmological rarity of our convergent thinking.

Dr. Mills snaps more images, checks his files, then pushes his chair back. He diffidently removes his glasses and crosses his legs to reveal bare ankles and expensive tassel loafers.

"We are trained not to speak during the procedure, so we don't impart any false impressions," Dr. Mills says. This caution comes from isolated lawsuits across the country in which parents who assumed they were having a girl at fifteen weeks sued the hospital when the fetus sprouted a penis at twenty-six weeks, explains Dr. Mills, with a practiced monotone. This man is human tapioca pudding. My pulse aches in my throat.

Dr. Mills scrolls through the sequence of recorded images. "As you can see by this series, I detected three distinct embryonic structures. Each of them presents with an appropriate level of cardiovascular activity. A fourth site is also indicated, here, but is probably undergoing reabsorption into the uterine lining. ..."

I stare at the computer screen. I do not understand.

"Could you say that again?" I hear a voice say. This is surprising, because I recognize the voice. It is my voice.

"Yes," Dr. Mills says. "I have outlined three egg sacs with excellent morphology. The first is here, along the top of the uterine wall. The second is here, just below it. The third is quite difficult to see, because it is actually implanted in tissue directly underneath the second, and the ultrasound cannot detect structures located ..."

Roni looks over at me blankly.

"I still don't understand," I hear the voice say again.

Dr. Mills examines us with a slight tilt of his head. We are biological specimens, too, only larger and perhaps dangerous.

"I see ... yes. Well. You are carrying triplets. They are in the seventh week of gestation. Seven weeks old."

Roni and I look at each other.

"Let me offer my official congratulations," Dr. Mills says, turning back to the computer. "Let's look at the egg sacs again. With triplets, the distribution of the embryos across the uterus is difficult ..."

Roni and I stare at each other for a moment, then look around the room, lost and confused, like dogs dropped onto the surface of a strange and dogless planet.


The women in the IVF clinic waiting room stare at Roni. It is a customary ritual, a kind of uterus-to-uterus psychic friends network. Roni gazes over their heads, unblinking. She is pale and shivers from the arctic blasts of air conditioning.

We step onto the sidewalk outside New York Hospital. It is a Friday afternoon, a bright summer day, and we both squint horribly, blinded, after an hour in a dark room, by the harsh midday sun. The traffic on York Avenue and Sixty-eighth Street whizzes by carelessly.

"Are you going back to the office?" I say.

"Should we share a cab downtown?" Roni says.

"Maybe we should get something to eat," I say.

"Is it lunchtime?" she says.

We don't know what to do. We feel numb and soft, like frozen sticks of butter defrosting.

We share a cab downtown, holding hands across the backseat but looking out our own windows. Roni climbs out at Thirty-ninth and Third Avenue, waves good-bye, and wanders into Au Bon Pain. She looks back at me as the cab pulls away. In the crowded store she looks even tinier than her five-foot, 105-pound size. Why is she standing in Au Bon Pain? She doesn't drink coffee or eat pastries. Maybe they started selling soup for lunch, or Caesar salads with grilled chicken. Roni is a picky eater. She will eat the same lunch every day for a year.

The cab takes me across town but becomes gridlocked on Thirty-fourth Street, near Sixth Avenue, so I jump out and walk west to my office on Eighth Avenue. Midtown is crowded and noisy, like in those dystopian 1970s movies where Earth is overpopulated and the government has dissolved the Bill of Rights. My building is Five Penn Plaza, a tedious block-long building with a Blimpie's and a DMV office on the ground floor.

I am the editor-in-chief of a film magazine, a trade magazine read by directors, producers, animators, editors, and special-effects experts. I have been the chief editor for two years and was a senior editor the previous seven years. The job is enjoyable because I write about projects and artists I find the most interesting. I take a stack of VHS and 3/4-inch cassettes into the conference room, where the tape decks are set up, and watch clips of TV commercials.

Dancing gasoline pumps, flying Listerine bottles, animated-clay celebrity boxing matches — I watch hundreds of tapes every week. Movies, TV shows, TV commercials: Everyone believes their creative project will transform the world. You can't put in the hours and not think it.

Harry, my technology writer, strolls in, eating a soggy vegetarian meatball sandwich, to remind me about our Monday meeting with Decker Computing to discuss their new rendering workstations. It will be a long meeting, full of flip charts, PowerPoint presentations, sales brochures, and white papers. They will discreetly inquire what kind of coverage they can expect. My job is to find a good reason to cover them while pretending we enjoy total editorial independence — which makes our coverage seem even more tantalizing. In the back of my mind, questions are starting to bubble up, but I have to call a man back about the latest developments in 3-D animated hair and fur.


Asher sleeps quietly in his Fisher Price car bed. It is 9:00 P.M. Friday night. After work I took Asher to Riverside Park and pushed him on the swings, then walked him through our regular play circuit — slide, play area, pigeon chasing. We ate pizza and Italian ices. He rode around on my shoulders like the king of West 114th Street.

A stack of books — Tom and Pippo, Oh My Oh My Oh Dinosaurs, Good Night Moon — sits next to Asher's bed.

It has cooled outside, so I cover Asher with blankets from our bed, which he will invariably thrash to the floor. I don't know why I bother to cover him, but I always do, unless it is boiling hot in the apartment. Then I uncover him and throw open the windows. You are either boiling hot or freezing cold in New York. You can never be comfortable. You can never be just right.

Roni arrives home from work about 9:30 P.M. She is an attorney who works in corporate law, with a specialty in initial public offerings.

"Half day?" I say. This is an old joke. Her schedule is backbreaking — sixty, seventy, eighty hours a week, even more during a deal.

Roni throws her suit on the bed, changes into a big T-shirt, and goes to the bathroom. I remove the chicken, rice, and beans from the take-out bags. I pour seltzer and orange juice, fifty-fifty.

We eat dinner and watch TV in the den, taking turns with the remote control. We are each allowed one full cycle from Channel 2 through 99 before we switch. We both hate Friday nights because neither of us has a show on.

We eat quietly. Roni leafs through a magazine when it is my turn to flip.

"This is good chicken," I say.

"Yes. It is good chicken," Roni says.

We chew quietly for awhile. I pass the yellow rice and black beans.

"Is this the Brazilian chicken?" Roni asks.

"Yes," I say. "From Flor de Mayo." Flor de Mayo is one of our favorite take-out places, a Chino-Latino restaurant on 103rd Street and Broadway.

"We should save some for Asher," Roni says.

She's right. Asher loves the Brazilian chicken.

"Great idea," I say. "I'll save some chicken for Asher."

Roni finds a mystery show she recognizes on one of the public TV channels.

"Is that a good magazine?" I say.

"Yes," Roni says. "Antiques."

"Oh," I say. "I bet that's interesting."

The phone rings, but stops before the machine picks up.

"I wonder who that was," I say.

"They didn't leave a message," she says.

"It's spicy," I say. "The chicken."

"Right," she says.

"But not too spicy," I say.

"No, just spicy enough," Roni agrees.

"Sometimes I like it spicier, though," I say. "But sometimes I don't."


At 11:00 we watch a rerun of Law and Order on A&E, our favorite show, the cultural glue that binds us. We watch every new episode faithfully, at 10:00P.M. Wednesday nights. We have seen every rerun many times and play a game when the rerun starts — Name the Perp.

"I miss Michael Moriarity," Roni says, during the commercial break.

"I know," I say. "Me too."

Roni puts her feet up on my lap and I squeeze her toes. We relax, comforted by the safe, familiar presence of our old friends in the Manhattan DA's office.


Later that night, I wake up to the sound of sawing. I look around, confused, then realize I have snored myself awake.

I check the clock. It is 2:19 A.M.

Now there is another noise, a clicking.

Click ... click-click-click, goes the noise. It is creepy, this odd noise in the dead of night, and my adrenaline starts pumping.

Roni is not in the bed. She never leaves the bed, even to use the bathroom, unless she is sick. She must be chased out of bed in the morning with pointed sticks.

I find Roni in the kitchen, in the dark, sitting on the floor amid packing boxes, stacks of dishes splayed out around her, odds and ends dug up from the depths of storage. Drawers and cabinets lie open with junk overflowing everywhere, like entrails. Roni is typing on a labeling gun. Labels are everywhere and stuck to everything.

"Honey?" I say.

Roni does not acknowledge my presence. She squats on one knee, working furiously.

Click-click-click, goes the labeler.

"Honey?" I say.

"... a full basement, because we can't keep living with boxes, like we're college students anymore —"

I sit down on the floor and try to catch Roni's eye. She stares down into her hands.

"Honey? Are you all right?" I say.

"I'll do a spreadsheet," she says. "Marla has a program that prints out color-coded labels. ..."

The clicking continues. I see labels stuck to the floor: "kjJlillp" and "FFgnty."

I put my hand over hers to stop the labeler.

"Honey," I say. "Look at me."

Roni looks up at me, glassy eyed. She is traveling between distant galaxies, bouncing off dark matter, body surfing the invisible quantum force.

"You don't think God would play a joke on us, do you?" she says. "Give us three babies, then let something happen to them?" Her voice is quivering.

I hug her, but her body is stiff and unyielding.

"No," I say, with a conviction that surprises me. As soon as the words are out, I know this is true. This is not a religious belief, or faith, just an instinct.

"It's okay," I say. "It's almost eight weeks. We're going to be fine."

Something about my tone works. Roni puts down the labeler and closes the nearest box. We climb back into bed and spoon together, looking through the open French doors into the living room, where Asher is sleeping, his sweet face lit up by a mixture of moonlight and ambient city light.

"When I woke up, I thought maybe I had dreamed the whole day today, so I went to turn on the TV, to see what day it was," Roni says.

During our honeymoon in Italy, we saw a big Italian family at a restaurant in Florence, all the kids eating and talking and toasting each other. For a moment I imagined how much fun it would be to have a large family, but I never said anything to Roni. This was before we found out Roni's fallopian tubes had been ruined, when babies were still just a matter of penciling in a time and place. I am drifting back to Tuscany, to bread soup and olive trees and red and orange leaves chasing our Fiat down empty country roads.

"Where are we going to live?" Roni says.

We are doubling, from three to six. I lift my head and look around the apartment.

With one bedroom and seven hundred square feet, that leaves about one hundred square feet per person, twice the size of an average prison cell. I think about our boxes, stacked everywhere and covered with dust, the closets jammed full of junk we have not seen in years, the bookshelves that boil over, and my stomach begins to turn with anxiety. I put my hand on Roni's stomach, spoon her closer to me, and try to fall asleep. As my eyes drift closed I see Asher turning in his sleep, his bedcovers thrashed to the floor.


(Continues...)

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Bruce Stockler's humor pieces have appeared in publications including The New York Times, The Los Angeles Times, The Philadelphia Inquirer, and The Christian Science Monitor. A regular contributor to Esquire, he has also been a joke writer for Jay Leno. He and his family live in the suburbs of New York City.

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I Sleep at Red Lights: A True Story of Life After Triplets 4.8 out of 5 based on 0 ratings. 10 reviews.
Anonymous More than 1 year ago
I came across this book by accident & am glad I did. Bruce's stories about raising triplet's as well as an.older son were not only funny but heartwarming. I am oldest & only girl. My brothers followed behind me by 6yrs & 13yrs. We weren't close in age but I reconised each of our personalities. Each of us.could have been one of.the triplets. My dad told me once that he &mom had raised us each differently. Learning what did & didn't work as they went along. Sad to say both of my parents are gone now. My dad's told us all constently before he passed to please be there for each other. We were all we had. Sadly after almost yrs his wish has not come to.pass. I believe Bruce & Roni have no worries in that department. All four of.their children will always close.ranks together. Just as they did.to torment "lovingly" their dad Great job dad! For the book & for nurturing each child as an indevidule.
Guest More than 1 year ago
A girlfriend gave me this book for my birthday, and I read it in one night in big, giant gulps. I don't normally read parenting memoirs, but I was really thrilled by the brutal and hilarious honesty which the author uses to describe his wife, his life and the challenges they faced in adjusting to triplets. Arguing over who is more tired, dealing with an angry boss, trying to make ends meet, trying to survive on an hour of sleep--nothing earth-shattering, but written with such wit, heart and insight that the final pages really pack a wallop. I'd love to see the TV movie and find out what happens next.
Guest More than 1 year ago
I thought this was a book about parenting, but it really deals with a lot of issues in a humorous way - kids, marriage, living in affluent suburbs, stay-at-home dads... It's an honest look at a lot of some of the amusing, and some of the not so very attractive, issues couples deal with every day.
Guest More than 1 year ago
I am giving this book to my husband, his brother several of my girlfriends and my mother. It's one of the funniest, most honest, warmest and insightful memoirs I've read. The author looks at his whole life, from the smallest, mundane events, such as changing diapers, to issues of life and death with incredible precision and passion. A unique, one-of-a-kind book that's impossible to pigeonhole. Also on my list: The Curious Incident of the Dog in the Night-Time; The Namesake: A Novel; A Short History of Nearly Everything.
Guest More than 1 year ago
I love this book! It's the most unusual, honest, funny, refreshing and well-written look at marriage, kids, career and balancing your life I've read in years. I'm giving it to all my girlfriends and many of the guys I work with--they'll love it too, unless they're complete lunkheads. It's a perfect Xmas gift for anyone with a family, and it has a happy ending to boot.
Guest More than 1 year ago
This book, while funny at times, is a true story of what it's like to be a stay-at-home Dad. I have lived MANY of the incidents that Mr. Stockler relays in his book...especially the catty Moms who give us Stay-at-Home Dads grief. One point I'd like to make is that Mr. Stockler DID have help with the kids (i.e. sitters/nannies), a luxury that most Dads don't have, and he DID have a full-time job while taking care of the kids. So, while he is a stay-at-home Dad, and he does have triplets plus 1, he doesn't REALLY know what it's like (or doesn't reveal it in the book)to be at home for hours on end (and sometimes days while my wife travels on business)with maniacal children. Calgon take me away! Buy this book. It's good reading.
Guest More than 1 year ago
Esquire magazine recommended this book, so I bought a copy, even though I don't have kids--very happily single, thank you--and I thought it was a great adventure story. There's crazy babysitters and wacky neighbors and the author loses his job and fights with his wife over who's more tired--it's funny and a kind of domestic roller-coaster ride. Despite the cover, which makes it look like a baby book, it's a very adult story about how you get swept away by the changes life throws at you, and if you ride the wave you land in a better place. The kids are all interesting and complicated characters, too--that was probably the most surprising and enjoyable thing, since all the kids I know seem to be whiny and spoiled.
Guest More than 1 year ago
Any parent - mom or dad - no matter how many kids you have - separately - or all at once - can enjoy this insightful, wise trip through early parenthood. I saw myself in some of the author's shoes. I envied him sometimes, I shuddered with him sometimes, I laughed or smiled with him most of the time. The trips+1 are lucky to have these parents.
Guest More than 1 year ago
They say don't judge a book by its cover. The cover for this book makes it look like a funny baby book--my sister gave it to me, and she usually has bad taste in books--but I was amazed to read one of the most beautifully written memoirs I've read in years, maybe since Angela's Ashes. Stockler writes passionately about his life, his marriage, and especially his chilren, but he uses humor to put his life in a larger context, so a trip to the ladies room with four kids becomes a meditation on gender, patience, competition between kids and even how the holidays make you sad for those in your life who have been lost. I'm so SICK of all those memoirs about drug addicts and incest and depression--they're all self-involved books about people I don't care about. This book is about real people living in the real world that I live in, and that, to me, is an accomplishment, because the humor and drama comes from someplace that is real, and it is just as exciting as the made-up drama in most other books. Put this on your shelf in between Bill Cosby and Dave Eggers--it's more literary than Cosby and funnier than Eggers, and more real than both.
Guest More than 1 year ago
My wife read this book and gave it to me. I don't read parenting or kids books, but I gave it a try. I laughed out loud! This is a guy's book--although my wife was laughing out loud too. It's not just the funny lines and astute observations, it's the way the author captures the life of his family, his kids, work--his whole life. In one segment, his kids are misbehaving, and he puts them in time out, and they get in more trouble. He writes that he can't put them in time out inside time out because that would 'violate the time-space continuum.' Really sharp writing and thinking. It's also a great adventure story. In one chapter, IN THE LADIES ROOM, he takes over a Ladies' room because the mens' room is so filthy. The way the scene unfolds is like a movie--it gets funnier and more complicated as it goes. This is one of the only books my wife and I ever agreed was well-written and funny. You can buy one for yourself and give one to your wife--she'll appreciate the man's point of view on raising kids. Very funny guy. Hope he writes a book about marriage or working. There just aren't many books out there that are relevant to real life--the life of people who get up and go to work. This is a rare treat.