In his foreword, Charles Swindoll wrote, “Stunned yet courageous, this pastor recorded his feelings, his questions, his guilt, his struggles, and even his bitterness. as you read his words, you will nod with understanding and weep with compassion. Your heart will beat heavily as you identify with his profound sends of loss ... Not since Joe Bayly’s A view from the Hearse have I found myself more in agreement. To this author, grief is real; it dare not be denied or ignored. Yes, its wounds must be handled with care and given time to heal. Preserving us from pious platitudes and empty cliches, David Biebel says it straight and he says it well. Best of all, he doesn’t attempt to answer all the whys. Old Joseph Parker [who said that there is a broken heart in every pew] would have appreciated David’s style and content. I certainly do. So will you.”
If God Is So Good, Why Do I Hurt So Bad?by David B. Biebel
Having lost his first son in 1978, Dr.
In this revised and updated version of a best-selling classic on the subject of loss and renewal, first published in 1989, the author comes alongside people in pain, and shows the way through and beyond it, to joy again. This book has proven helpful to those who are struggling and to those who wish to understand and help.
Having lost his first son in 1978, Dr. Biebel became immersed in pain, again, in 1986, when his second son, Christopher, was stricken with the same genetically linked illness that had caused Jonathan's death just a few years earlier.
The preface captures the book's honesty and practicality, "All around us, people are in pain. Emotional, physical, relational, spiritual - whatever its sources, the pain feels the same. Even born-again, sincere, evangelical, Bible-believing, church-going, church-leading believers are in pain.... Many who hurt have been nursing the wounds for so long they can't remember what it's like to be anything other than sad. Others denied the pain and submerged the anger so long ago that they are unaware how the resulting depression, even bitterness, has subtly impacted their ability to love.... Now I know it's possible you've heard a lot of principles and endured too much advice. So I'll skip most of that and try for something else: Truth - one pilgrim to another. And the truth is, pain has two faces, human and divine. The human face is haggard, drawn, contorted, and streaked with tears. The divine is calm, assuring, kind, and loving - but likewise streaked with tears."
When mind-bending pain clouds your thinking, or a deep disappointment throws you into an emotional tailspin, it's hard to grasp that God is good. My friend, Dave Biebel, tackles this age-old dilemma in this remarkable book, helping the reader understand exactly what's so good about God in the midst of suffering. I recommend it to you as good, deep reading! - Joni Eareckson Tada, Joni and Friends International Disability Center
"For people who are grieving, only those who have suffered this level of pain are qualified to speak to their broken hearts. They alone are the only ones who can touch raw pain gently enough, and they alone are believable. As a grief counselor I am very protective of my patients, knowing that too often they are subjected to pat answers and spiritual Band-Aids. I trust Dave Biebel to speak to my patients because Dave bares his soul as a pastor in sharing from the raggedness of his grief and the depth of his anger and wrestling with God. His honesty has freed so many of my patients from guilt as they received permission to wrestle uncensored with God. And while they were not watching, God met them in the awful pain of grief. Thanks, Dave for daring to ask -- if God is so good, why do I hurt so bad?" --
Jan Pettigrew, Ph.D., R.N. - Oncology and Grief Crisis Counseling
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David B. Biebel, DMin, is a minister, editor, health educator, and author or coauthor of nineteen books including the CBA Gold Medallion award winning "New Light on Depression" and several others that have received special recognition including "If God is So Good, Why Do I Hurt So Bad?" and "Simple Health." His most recent series of health-related books includes "52 Ways to Feel Great Today." He holds a Doctor of Ministry degree in Personal Wholeness, with distinction, from Gordon-Conwell Theological Seminary.
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Though this book starts off with the grief of losing a child and a lot of help and explanations about grieving, it is more than just that. This book is written in 8 chapters with examples and help for several steps of grieving and also that death is more than physical death. Death also comes in forms such as divorce. At the end of each chapter are questions to use either alone or in a group setting. This book is well written and shows that grief is a process to go through. That there are several steps and each person goes through these steps. It also shows us we don't go through it alone. That although we may not feel God's presence, He is definitely there with us. If you are going through grief, this is a good book. I was given this book in exchange for my honest review.
This book is the personal account of the author’s experience and pain in the death of his child and how he dealt with that pain…but it also encompasses so much more. It is a book for everyone as it involves loss and pain of every kind which touches each one of us in some way. It can be physical pain of health or death, emotional pain of losing a job, home, etc. or even spiritual pain of the sense of loss in one’s relationship with another person or God. Mr. Biebel does not sugar coat the real and sometimes ugly, angry feelings that are part of pain. Neither does he provide “magical” solutions. Instead, he gives step by step encouragement and truthful answers based on God and His Word. Because he has walked this road, stumbling many times along the way, he can write what is real, what helps, where the healing begins, and how to again find the deep joy of living in the present. Although I have never personally experienced the loss of a child, I could relate and gain insights to my own losses through this book. I especially appreciated the “five values of suffering” in chapter 6. These are helpful for all people. The book is not just the author’s thoughts, but he includes stories from others as well as the findings from research and explanations/comments from professionals. It is a book to help the reader through the grieving process and back into life in the present. I recommend this book to all readers whether they are grieving and in pain themselves, or they are someone who is encouraging another through the process of living with pain. I received this free book from Book Club Network in exchange for my honest review. I have posted on Amazon and Barnes and Noble.
If God is So Good, Why Do I Hurt So Bad? by David Biebel - This empathetic book deals with excruciating pain, staggering grief and unbearable loss. With a rare sensitivity, intuition and perceptive understanding, culled in the crucible of suffering, David Biebel offers us fresh hope and insight to look to Jesus, our Comforter. When mind-boggling pain clouds our clear-sighted vision, heart-wringing sorrow plunges us into devastating despair and casts our minds into an emotional tailspin, how can we possibly see “what’s so good about God in the midst of suffering”? Called to comfort others with the comfort God comforts us with, in a passionate reconciliation of God’s grace in affliction, we prove the paradox of peace and pain united. For grieving people, only those who have grieved can comfort their broken hearts. They have the gift to touch the heart of pain gently. David Biebel honestly reveals the baffling questions in his own heart and soul as he shares from the depths of his grief, anger and bouts of wrestling with God. He helps to deliver people from guilt as they learn to deal with problems that threaten to overpower them. God meets them at the point of their greatest need, as they struggle to drink the last overwhelming dregs of sorrow, grief and pain. “If God is so good, why do I hurt so bad?” And God provides His comforting answer: “I will heal you, my beloved child.” - Miriam Jacob