If Only I Had Known...: Avoiding Common Mistakes in Couples Therapy / Edition 1

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The co-authors draw on more than thirty years of clinical experience to show young therapists how and how not to conduct psychotherapy. Each chapter begins with a case vignette illustrating a common mistake (e.g., promoting unrealistic expectations, taking sides), then describes the mistake in detail, explains why therapists make the mistake, and offers tactics for avoiding the mistake.

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Editorial Reviews

Jerrold Lee Shapiro - PsycCritiques
“An interesting, reasonably priced, and valuable text for therapists who deal with couples in clinical practice…Surprisingly sophisticated yet readable.”
John D. Lentz - The Milton H. Erickson Foundation Newsletter
“This book is one that every young therapist should read…authors have crisply...addressed common problems that all therapists will see…”
An interesting, reasonably priced, and valuable text for therapists who deal with couples in clinical practice…Surprisingly sophisticated yet readable.— Jerrold Lee Shapiro
The Milton H. Erickson Foundation Newsletter
This book is one that every young therapist should read…authors have crisply...addressed common problems that all therapists will see…— John D. Lentz
Amy Ellwood
“Good handbook for psychologists, clinical social workers, marriage and family therapists, as well as psychiatry residents and psychiatric nurse practitioners.”
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Product Details

  • ISBN-13: 9780393704457
  • Publisher: Norton, W. W. & Company, Inc.
  • Publication date: 9/15/2005
  • Edition description: New Edition
  • Edition number: 1
  • Pages: 272
  • Sales rank: 596,650
  • Product dimensions: 5.60 (w) x 8.20 (h) x 0.80 (d)

Meet the Author

Susanne Methven lives in Las Vegas, Nevada.

Mark Odell lives in Kalispell, Montana.

Gerald R. Weeks, Ph. D., ABPP, is Professor and Chair of the Department of Counseling at the University of Las Vegas, Nevada. Weeks is an Approved Supervisor and a Clinical Member of the American Association of Marriage and Family Therapy, as well as certified by the American Board of Sexology. He has currently completed his 16th professional textbook having published in the fields of sex, marital, and family therapy. He is coauthor of Erectile Dysfunction (Norton) and Hypoactive Sexual Desire (Norton).

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Table of Contents

Introduction : mistakes? - what mistakes? 1
1 The "battle for structure" 22
2 Confidentiality traps 51
3 Alliances and coalitions 70
4 Overemphasizing the past or present 86
5 Lapses in careful listening 97
6 Inadequate assessments and mismatched or mistimed interventions 111
7 Overlooking process considerations 126
8 The pitfalls of anger and conflict 145
9 Mistakes in dealing with partners' different perceptions 167
10 Faulty interpretations and reframes 180
11 Failing to foster commitment 196
12 Overlooking or inadvertently imposing spirituality 218
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  • Anonymous

    Posted October 5, 2012

    Highly Recommended

    Great book for psychology classes or personal use for couples.

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