If You Loved Me, You'd Stop!: What You Really Need to Know If Your Loved One Drinks Too Much

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If You Loved Me, You’d Stop! What You Really Need To Know When Your Loved One Drinks Too Much combines the most current brain research on alcoholism and alcohol abuse with Lisa Frederiksen’s 40 years experience in dealing with these family problems. By explaining this research from the perspective of someone who has personally survived the ravages of a loved one’s drinking, Ms. Frederiksen offers fresh hope for the more than 50 percent of Americans (and the one in four children) who have a family member with a ...
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If You Loved Me, You’d Stop! What You Really Need To Know When Your Loved One Drinks Too Much combines the most current brain research on alcoholism and alcohol abuse with Lisa Frederiksen’s 40 years experience in dealing with these family problems. By explaining this research from the perspective of someone who has personally survived the ravages of a loved one’s drinking, Ms. Frederiksen offers fresh hope for the more than 50 percent of Americans (and the one in four children) who have a family member with a drinking problem. This book addresses a host of issues surrounding alcoholism and alcohol abuse, including co-addictions, DUIs, underage drinking, dual diagnosis, codependency, and, importantly, the characteristics that distinguish alcoholism from alcohol abuse (excessive drinking). Frederiksen’s book targets those who know their loved one drinks too much and believe that if they can just get them to stop, life will return to normal.
 
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  • ISBN-13: 9780981684406
  • Publisher: KLJ Publishing
  • Publication date: 12/1/2008
  • Pages: 107
  • Sales rank: 482,533
  • Product dimensions: 5.90 (w) x 8.90 (h) x 0.40 (d)

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  • Posted January 8, 2009

    Very helpful

    I was recommended this book by a friend when I wanted to show my son the danger of starting drinking alcohol at an early age. I showed him the sections about the latest brain research that suggests that not drinking lowers you risk of developing an addiction to alcohol later in life by a significant amount. There are alcoholics on both side of our family and that elevated risk combined with starting early is not a good thing I suggested to him. He seems to have taken this seriously.

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  • Anonymous

    Posted December 3, 2008

    Very useful and effective book

    Frederiksen's book is full of information that will help erase the stigma of alcoholism and clarify what excessive drinking is all about. This kind of information can help the people who love someone who drinks too much understand what they (and their loved one) are dealing with, which will help everyone concerned get the help they need to live a happier life. So many issues are covered in her short book, yet it's easy-to-read, with comprehensive appendices for further information. Like the author says, we have to start talking about this disease and the surrounding issues -- especially what it does to the family members of the person who drinks too much -- and this book is a great place from which to start.

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  • Posted November 25, 2008

    If You Loved Me, You'd Stop!

    Ms. Fredericksen presents her material in a very clear, non-threatening, non-confrontational manner. She gives a new face to the problem of problem drinking and alcoholism. As a Stephen Leader, I recommend this book to Stephen Ministers to assist them in helping their care receivers deal with a loved one's drinking.<BR/><BR/>This book is easy to read and grabs your attention from the beginning. I highly recommend it, both for the lay person coming to grips with the problem of alcohol and also for the professional who deals with it every day.<BR/><BR/>Well done, Lisa! The community has needed your book for a long time.

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  • Posted November 9, 2008

    A valuable contribution

    You have made a valuable contribution to the literature and have done so with clarity,creditablity and perhaps most importantly, with well founded 'hopefulness'. You have taken a complex and frigtening topic and made the content approachable and the message realistic and reassuring. As a psychologist, I will not hesitate to recommend this book to my patients who are struggling with the insanity that underlies so many pain driven relationships where alcoholism and co-dependecy are the 'demons in hidinng'. Also appreciated the distinction between reacting and responding and anchoring that to Brain functioning and Cognitive Re-structuring and Repair. Job Well Done!!

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  • Anonymous

    Posted November 7, 2008

    "Must Know Information" for every one with a drinker or a disabled person in the family.

    This is a short, easy to read and understand book explaining the effects of drinking on the brain and how the drinkers and the people who love them can successfully interact. Lisa carefully explains misunderstood labels such as "alcoholic" and "dependency" to help everyone to know what is going on in their relationships.

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