I'm Ok, You're Ok

I'm Ok, You're Ok

4.6 19
by Thomas Harris
     
 

View All Available Formats & Editions

Transactional Analysis delineates three observable ego-states (Parent, Adult, and Child) as the basis for the content and quality of interpersonal communication. "Happy childhood" notwithstanding, says Harris, most of us are living out the Not ok feelings of a defenseless child, dependent on ok others (parents) for stroking and caring. At some stage early in our

…  See more details below

Overview

Transactional Analysis delineates three observable ego-states (Parent, Adult, and Child) as the basis for the content and quality of interpersonal communication. "Happy childhood" notwithstanding, says Harris, most of us are living out the Not ok feelings of a defenseless child, dependent on ok others (parents) for stroking and caring. At some stage early in our lives we adopt a "position" about ourselves and others that determines how we feel about everything we do. And for a huge portion of the population, that position is "I'm Not OK -- You're OK." This negative "life position," shared by successful and unsuccessful people alike, contaminates our rational Adult capabilities, leaving us vulnerable to inappropriate emotional reactions of our Child and uncritically learned behavior programmed into our Parent. By exploring the structure of our personalities and understanding old decisions, Harris believes we can find the freedom to change our lives.

Product Details

ISBN-13:
9780062116581
Publisher:
HarperCollins Publishers
Publication date:
08/23/2011
Sold by:
HARPERCOLLINS
Format:
NOOK Book
Pages:
320
Sales rank:
161,253
File size:
2 MB

Meet the Author

The late Thomas Harris was a Navy psychiatrist and a professor at the University of Arkansas. He practiced psychiatry in Sacramento, California and directed the Transactional Analysis Association.

Brief Biography

Hometown:
Sag Harbor, New York, and Miami Beach, Florida
Date of Birth:
April 11, 1940
Place of Birth:
Jackson, Tennessee
Education:
B.A., Baylor University, 1964
Website:
http://www.randomhouse.com/features/thomasharris

Customer Reviews

Average Review:

Write a Review

and post it to your social network

     

Most Helpful Customer Reviews

See all customer reviews >

I'M Ok - You're Ok 4.6 out of 5 based on 0 ratings. 19 reviews.
Guest More than 1 year ago
This book was so well written anyone could read and understand it. I am a student studying Criminology/Psychology, just enrolled at Empire State College in NY. This book has, no doubt, helped me to understand communication transactions and how it can be successfully used between all people. Something this profound can only change a person in the best possible way forever.
Koos More than 1 year ago
For 18 months I agonized over a mental blockage I had with a colleague then I discovered "I'm OK You're OK". What a difference this book made. It gave me a new perspective on relationships with others and helped me to move from a victim to a victor. I never looked back. I am getting a copy for a colleague of mine that I believe will also benefit.
LKJLJ More than 1 year ago
It's been more than thirty years since I first read this book, but I found myself referring to it when counseling a friend on how to deal with her teenager. I remembered using this theory when going through the teens with my own kids. Now I'm planning to reread this and see what I may have forgotten. What's certain is that not many books stay with us thirty years after we've read the last word. This is one of those memorable ones.
Guest More than 1 year ago
THIS BOOK IS SO WONDERFUL AND DOWN TO EARTH. IT WAS AS IF I WAS BONDED TO THE AUTHOR. I HAVE GAIN SO MUCH KNOWLEDGE AND INSIGHTS ON NOT ONLY MY RELATIONSHIP I AM/HAD BUT MANY OTHERS. I NOW VIEW PEOPLE THRU THE P-A-C.THANK YOU SO VERY VERY MUCH. I WISH THE BOOK CAME ON AUDIOCASSETE.IF IT DOES THEN E-MAIL ME AT gjenuine@hotmail.com SO I CAN GET IT........I LOOK FORWARD TO MORE.....
Anonymous 20 days ago
They literally hsve ALL types of books all i typed in the search bar was "ok?" And different types of books poped up
Anonymous More than 1 year ago
Anonymous More than 1 year ago
Anonymous More than 1 year ago
GENDER: Male -- AGE: 16 -- HEIGHT: 6"2' -- WEIGHT: 126 lbs. -- EYES: Green -- HAIR: Short & Dirty Blonde -- APPEARANCE: Semi-muscular -- CLOTHES: Black tennis shoes, Jean-shorts, grey tank top -- SEXUAL PREFERENCE: Heter<_>osexual (Boys and girls alike) -- HOBBIES: Hanging out, playing guitar, watching TV, playing videogames.
Anonymous More than 1 year ago
Name** Luna Dalen <br>Age** 17 <br>Gender** Female <br>Se<_>xuality** Lesbian <br>Hair** Copper hair to her shoulder blades. <br>Eyes** A smokey green color frame by heavy lahes. <br>Build** She has a delicate frame with high cheekbones and an angled face. Sh has long legs and is le.
Anonymous More than 1 year ago
Name; Imari Henderson Age:13 $3x; haven't had it yet.lmfao.imjkjk female. No sh<_>it Looks; Very light brown skinned. Tall. Big bo<_>obs. Big dark eyes red lips. Long black hair. Race; part asian (phillipino) part black Likes; Writing. Goofing with friends n makin ppl laugh. Shopping. Reading. Martial arts. Singing. Dancing. Manga drawings. Naruto. One direction.JUSTIN BIEBER!!xD cotton candy.lmfao Dislikes; @$$holes. Cheaters. Ppl that think they tight. N tk to much shiz. N lie. N yea. Bullies. XD
Anonymous More than 1 year ago
Name: Ashley Thompson Age: 16 Gender: Female Personality: Calm. A little bit of attitude. Polite but can be rude and ignorant, if need be. I love the color red, Chris Brown and Miguel. Sexuality: Bisexual Relationship Status: Single
Anonymous More than 1 year ago
Age: 16/ height: 5' 4"/ weight: 90 pounds/ se<_>xuality: bise<_>xual/ clothes: a pair of bo<_>oty short jeans, a tight tanktop and brown boots/ appearance: has shoulder length brown hair, sunkissed skin, blue eyes and brown wolf ears on top of her head and a brown wolf tail out of a hole in her shorts./ personallity: meet her./ special: she carries a silver cross with precious stones in it at all times.
Anonymous More than 1 year ago
NAME Sasha AGE 17 GENDER girl RANK straight...she likes only boys DESC a tall long legged girl with long black wavyish hair and peircing green eyes. Wears black leaher mini skirts black nets and different colored strapless shirts. and a belly botton ring PERS coy but loves to have fun but can be shy.
Anonymous More than 1 year ago
Name: Bubblies (Shh! Don't tell anyone that it's Cici.) Age: 16 Gender: Female Se.xuality: Bise.xual Description: Short and slender with long legs. Red hair in a scene style. Silverish-blue eyes. Wears pigtails a lot. Likes to wear combat boots, skater shoes, comfortable clothes, bright colors, and dresses. Likes: Bubbles. Running. Music. Cinnamon. Bubbles. Kisses. Writing. Shoes. Love. Bubbles. Dislikes: Fakes. Children. Liars. Fakes. Fakes. Fakes. Fakes! Crush: On a girl and a guy. (The girl isn't Quinn-aliscous!?--I OWN!)
Anonymous More than 1 year ago
Name: Lorana Marie Flunnder /// Age: 17 /// Gender: Female /// Description: Tall and skinny and kind of tan skin smooth and creamy long blond hair and pretty brown eyes with long thivk eyelashes a little bit of an upturn nose and a pretty smile with dimples /// ckothes: Ripped up skinny jeans with a tee that says areopostale and I wear converses /// Personality: shy kind of funny sometimes loud ad random /// other: im bi and I love to play my gutair and i love music and im in a band. /// Crush bf/gf: none /// ask me if you want to know more.
Anonymous More than 1 year ago
I did bye ni.gga
Anonymous More than 1 year ago
Update later
Anonymous More than 1 year ago
Sammy sat at the breakfast table and stared at her cereal the figures face appeared sge jumped. "Whats wrong honey?" Her mom asked sammy shook her head. "N-nothing" she sighed and couldnt get the inage out of her mind it was so familiar...but how? It was saturday morning spring break was starting monday and she needed to relax. 2 days later Sammy sighed she had the dream again last night and she had a weird feeling she was being watched. And her mom wasgetting jumpy too. Something was going on and sammy intended to find out
Anonymous More than 1 year ago
What in the world did you do to cat. She came into camp crying and bleeding saying you cit her