I'm Over All That: And Other Confessions

I'm Over All That: And Other Confessions

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by Shirley MacLaine

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The New York Times bestseller—now in paperback. Award-winning actress Shirley MacLaine pens the most funny, accessible, and timely book of her career, detailing all the things she’s over…and a few she’s not.

At a certain time in life, we all come to realize what is truly important to us and what just doesn’t matter. For

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The New York Times bestseller—now in paperback. Award-winning actress Shirley MacLaine pens the most funny, accessible, and timely book of her career, detailing all the things she’s over…and a few she’s not.

At a certain time in life, we all come to realize what is truly important to us and what just doesn’t matter. For Shirley MacLaine, that time is now. In this wise, witty, and fearless collection of small observations and big-picture questions, she shares with readers all those things that she is over dealing with in life, in love, at home, and in the larger world…as well as the things she will never get over, no matter how long she lives.

Among the things that Shirley is over: people who repeat themselves; conservatives and liberals; ill-mannered young people; the poison of celebrity; being polite to boring people; and getting older in Hollywood.

As frank and personal as Nora Ephron’s I Feel Bad About My Neck—which, incidentally, Shirley doesn’t since she knows the secrets of good lighting—I’m Over All That is MacLaine at her acerbic and irreverent best.

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Shirley MacLaine will turn 78 this month, but by the evidence of this book, she remains the vigorous, unconventional, strongly opinionated woman she has always been. The author of Out on a Limb and Dancing in the Light seems to have forgotten little and this memoir of "this third act of my life" contains memorable stories about Elizabeth Taylor, Alfred Hitchcock, Frank Sinatra, and other entertainment icons. I'm Over All That demonstrates that MacLaine has become, if anything, more outspoken. In its pages, she delivers devastating putdowns on male costars, routine politeness, politicians, the cult of celebrity, and unruly young people; among other disparate topics. Now in trade paperback and NOOK Book.

Edward Ash-Milby

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All life, even the cruelest drama and most absurd comedy, is a form of show business, a kind of performance, and I have been lucky enough to have created the moving picture show of my own life. I have starred in it, produced it, written it, directed it—even financed and distributed it. What’s even better is that I get to rerun it now and then, to see things I might have missed back then. In this third act of my life, much has become clearer. So much is over, and I am over so much.

I have learned to ease up on worry, scheming for films or roles, planning for better surroundings, and feeling anger at all our leaders who operate politically rather than humanely. Yes, I am over all that. I’m over listening to advertisements, the latest fashions (I never was much for that), events I should attend in order to be seen, red carpet madness. I’m getting more and more free from the expectations of the external world. In fact, the one worry I can’t seem to give up and get over is a lingering fear that being a reclusive, happy, older woman may not be entirely healthy. But who says so? I’m not interested in parties, new outfits (only comfortable ones), being socially acceptable, and whether I’ll be on anyone’s so-called A-list. My goodness, what a way to live!

I’m not over going to the movies, seeing live theater, hearing symphonies, eating a good dinner (I’m learning to dine out alone), attending a worthy charity event (for half an hour), visiting a sick friend, or taking treats and toys to the animal shelter.

I am over what other people think (I got over that a long time ago), and trying to persuade them to come around to my point of view about anything.

One thing will always be a constant with me. I have a guiding sense of curiosity. I will never get over asking Why. This questioning has been with me all my life. It is my sustenance, my inspiration, my joy, and my intellectual food and color. I will never be over my search for the Big Truths. And I’m not the only one. Most people I’ve met around the world believe we are not alone in the universe but will not talk about this openly because they’re terrified of being humiliated publicly for their beliefs. Some scientists, academics, and movers and shakers I’ve met were even reluctant to discuss it privately because of how they might be perceived. (Just another reason I revere the brilliant and fearless Stephen Hawking!)

Everywhere I’ve traveled in the world I’ve found that people are looking for something to fill the loneliness inside them; they are after what I think of as “The Big Truth.” It doesn’t matter how wealthy or well situated they are; after surface talking, joking, eating, Hollywood gossip, and cultural politeness, the conversation always turns to why are we here, what is the point of life, is God real, are we alone in the universe? That’s because, like me, most people have realized that money isn’t the answer to their emptiness. In fact, it sometimes contributes to it because the management of money (or the fear of not having enough) distracts them from any real examination of what is really bothering them.

So I’ve concluded that for us to get to the Bigger Truths, there is much for us to get over. I’ve had a good time exploring what I’ve finally gotten over and what I will never get over . . . from the ridiculous to the Big Sublime.

I’m glad I am in the third act of my life. I have loved my ride and am now appreciating relinquishing the reins and looking back. Sometimes I feel an unbearable ecstasy of loneliness for some of my past, wishing now that I had been so much more present then. Sometimes I feel it all happened to someone else, and I long to get the “me” of it all back. How could I have done so much, been so many places, known so many people—and now it is all past, gone, memories of colorful stories like little movies attached to the celluloid of my brain tissue. Every now and then the little movies turn themselves on, wanting to be rerun. What didn’t I see then? What deeper meaning did I miss? Where are those actors and actresses and politicians from my past now? They are still with me, in all the things they taught me, the memories of the times we shared. Fascinating and talented people, mind-expanding conversations, and curiosity about the future—those are things I will never get over.

On with the show!

© 2011 Shirley Maclaine

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I'm Over All That 3.4 out of 5 based on 0 ratings. 105 reviews.
1DANA3 More than 1 year ago
Shirley shares some of the conclusions she has reached, after a long and very fascinatingly full life, and about what she no longer spends time worrying or thinking about. In a conversational style, as if talking to her dearest friends, and with her exceptional and wonderful sense of humor, she tells of her boundless curiosity and her endless journey to search out answers to the big questions in life. I love that she's lived her life "her way", without caring about what others may think of her. She is such a hoot and so witty, wise and intelligent. I loved sharing in her extravagant experiences where we who couldn't afford to take part of and that her open mind guided and led her. Her insight into 2012, Dec. 21st , is a bit unsettling, but all encompassing and is almost a satisfying answer to all of our curiosity. I love that she is so well versed in politics, the hearts and minds of people and is a spiritual seeker. She is an amazing woman and I intend to read this one yet again. I don't want to miss a word!
Monkeyboi More than 1 year ago
I use to think that this woman had lost her marbles. But what she really has is knowledge and the courage to pass that on to us to learn from. What she believes in and yearns for us to be open minded enough to consider makes sense and really is the one thing that gives humanity hope.
SunnieMN More than 1 year ago
There is nobody in the world like Shirley MacLaine and after reading this book you will see what I mean. The wonderful movies she's made,(the Apartment, Can-Can, Terms of Endearment, Steel Magnolias...) the affairs she has had with leading men and -well-known politicians, her past lives, alien encounters... She writes about all of this with her usual honesty and humor. This is a biography that will not bore you.
Chris Ramstein More than 1 year ago
This is such a great read. I luv her books!
Honugal More than 1 year ago
Shirley MacLaine has done it yet again with this delightful & insightful read. This wonderful witty lady is a peach, thank you Ms. MacLaine.
Anonymous More than 1 year ago
Of some of the readers who didnt appreciate her telling her story about the Afterlife! What are we living in the Stone Age? With so many books an shows about it they still dont believe????? Well, it is a shame, and I love hearing some dirt about the "Look down their noses celebritys, I am glad someone in the entertainment industry spoke up! I love Shirley
nonnydee More than 1 year ago
This gal knows what she is talking about. She's right, never stop questioning things in life. I loved this book.
BellaEarth More than 1 year ago
This is the first book I have read from Shirley Maclaine and it was a fun read. i love how she says what she is thinking and doesn't give a damn about what other people think.
LaraFromNewbury More than 1 year ago
Shirley Mclaine is the most interesting person in so many ways. Controverial though she may be, i think there are few who could match wits with her. Don't miss I'm Over All That. I guarantee you won't be disappointed!
tourgal21 More than 1 year ago
I have read all of Shirley MacLaine's books and each has great insight about the world, politics, religion, and her outlook on life. It is a collection of essays about different things in her life and each as some lesson or makes you stop and think. I like her books and at first I thought this a bit confusing with all the short 1-2 page essays, but once I realized she was telling her lifes story in a way that only she can I loved it.
tootsieroll More than 1 year ago
Shirley is an amazing hollywood women, living her life her way without any apologies. She writes of love relationships (but not affairs), found men to be interesting more on an affection level as well as the intellectual level. Her past lives are woven throughout the book, yet tied to where she lives her life today......Shirley I will see you in the next life!
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Fascinating observations and personal experiences written in the funny and unvarnished style of Shirley MacLaine! I can't wait to read more from her...
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I have not even finished the book yet, but even with the last five chapters left unread, I am not nearly as impressed as I thought I would be. Instead of a memoir, Shirley seems to have just written a collection of essays (some of which are incredibly short) and put them together into a book. I found that she didn't go much in to detail about the things I found interesting, and elaborated immensely on topics that really had nothing to do with the rest. The chapters are all over the place, and the majority of what I enjoyed were her recollections of Dean, Frank, Liz, and Mr. Hawking. When I read a 'memoir' those are the kind of things I am looking for. Shirley is very intelligent, however my purchasing of her book was not to feel as though I was geting lectured throughout. All in all, I was rather bored, but did enjoy certain gems and quotes in the material. I give this a big fat MEH, and I'm over it.
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