In Sheep's Clothing: Understanding and Dealing with Manipulative People / Edition 1

In Sheep's Clothing: Understanding and Dealing with Manipulative People / Edition 1

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by George K. Simon
     
 

ISBN-10: 096516960X

ISBN-13: 9780965169608

Pub. Date: 12/28/1996

Publisher: A. J. Christopher & Company

Whether it's your mate or child who knows how to push your buttons, the coworker who quietly undermines your efforts while professing to be helpful, or the boss who preys on your weaknesses, manipulative people have two goals: to win and to look good doing it. Often those they abuse are ignorant of, or only vaguely aware of, what is happening to them.

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Overview

Whether it's your mate or child who knows how to push your buttons, the coworker who quietly undermines your efforts while professing to be helpful, or the boss who preys on your weaknesses, manipulative people have two goals: to win and to look good doing it. Often those they abuse are ignorant of, or only vaguely aware of, what is happening to them.

In Sheep's Clothing casts aside the cloak of secrecy these "wolves" use. Each chapter highlights a specific characteristic using vignettes taken from actual case histories. Then Dr. Simon takes you behind the scenes and between the lines. What on the surface may sound to you like perfectly logical behavior turns out to be cloaked in the most insidious, subtle mantle of manipulation.

In Sheep's Clothing also takes a probing look at the important difference between self-respect and self-esteem -- and, in a profound epilogue -- the ways our society now encourages the wrong kind of aggressive behavior. Read this book and have the wool lifted from your eyes.

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Product Details

ISBN-13:
9780965169608
Publisher:
A. J. Christopher & Company
Publication date:
12/28/1996
Edition description:
REV
Pages:
172
Product dimensions:
0.40(w) x 5.00(h) x 8.00(d)

Table of Contents

Part IUnderstanding Manipulative Personalities
Introduction: Covert-Aggression--the Heart of Manipulation3
1.Aggressive and Covert-Aggressive Personalities13
2.The Determination to Win31
3.The Unbridled Quest for Power37
4.The Penchant for Deception and Seduction43
5.Fighting Dirty47
6.The Impaired Conscience53
7.Abusive, Manipulative Relationships59
8.The Manipulative Child69
Part IIDealing Effectively with Manipulative People
9.Recognizing the Tactics of Manipulation and Control79
10.Redefining the Terms of Engagement93
Epilogue: Aggression and Covert-Aggression in a Permissive and Undisciplined Society113

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In Sheep's Clothing: Understanding and Dealing with Manipulative People 3.5 out of 5 based on 0 ratings. 13 reviews.
Anonymous More than 1 year ago
I think everyone who is considering the purchase of this book already knows they may be having a problem with an individual who is being controlling or manipulative. The potential reader is looking for a way to deal effectively with that person. This entire book sets about exploring the different ways people try to control or manipulate others. It also goes into great depth giving some examples of that behavior and the psyche aspects of the perpetrator. That may be helpful but there is only one small chapter in the book talking to specific action that may be taken by the subject of the controller. Reading the book was a bit drawn out for me because I found myself wading through the detail trying to pull out some specific useful information that would help me deal with my specific circumstance. I am sure there must be better books out there. I was very disppointed especially since the book was well reviewed by others.
cathifornia More than 1 year ago
I found this book interesting, but I think the author could have put much more information into this book such as cures for this disorder, recovery outcomes and so on. I did find the information in the book very interesting and did use it for a public speaking topic.
Anonymous More than 1 year ago
Waste of money a rehash of the same old tired crap. If your wounded or hurt it might make you feel less of a looser. if your looking to understand manipulative people shop elsewhere.
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Guest More than 1 year ago
What an amazing book! This is one direct, straight as arrow book that helps you face reality and deal with it. I have read other books but George Simon tells it like it is. Only the courageous ones who want to abort a vicious cycle of manipulation and claim their life back will 'handle' such a raw, truthful book! This is reality!
Anonymous More than 1 year ago
This book not only teaches you who the manipulators are but also how to approach. Great read Highly recommend!
Wingsofpoesy More than 1 year ago
Whether you are a therapist, teacher, parent or corporate executive, Dr. Simon's 30 years of research into the minds of manipulative people is presented here in a format for professionals and laymen alike. Not only does he clearly explain the types of manipulative characters/personalities, but also gives you steps for recognizing and diffusing the behavior. As a parent and graduate student in counseling, I have gained valuable tools already put into practice. Most importantly, by not allowing my children to use manipulative tactics, I am experiencing a greater sense of self-respect (you will read about this in the book) and a mutually respectful and meaningful relationship with those whom I love the most. A relatively quick but immensely potent read.
JillMV More than 1 year ago
The author explains very well the disorder and gives good guidance for the victims.
Guest More than 1 year ago
The book gives you good examples that covers almost every area of the life, but the solution given are too brief, I hope author gives detailed solution in future releases.