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Posted November 9, 2010
Having suffered from extreme public speaking/performance anxiety all my life, I finally found the solution in Janet's book. I have been looking for help for over 15 years and nothing else has helped me like this. I was hooked from the introduction of the book. You can immediately see that Janet has been in your shoes, knows your every thought, and felt your despair at the thought of public speaking. She's been there, she understands the struggles, and she addresses it head on and shares her experiences, which is the truest inspiration you can find in the most positive way possible. You will also instantly recognize yourself in the examples provided by her class participants; you will see that you are not alone in this. Each chapter addresses issues that anyone with this fear has faced. There is not one part of the book that is not relevant. There is a summary and actions steps at the end of each chapter which are both very helpful. There are also detailed exercises about how to overcome negative feelings and experiences. Janet teaches you how to change your entire thought process. She explains concepts about how you perceive yourself and others that you will not find in any other books. These concepts have changed my life. They seem so simple, yet the fear building up over a lifetime creates a tunnel vision in which your thoughts become entirely irrational. She shows you what the reality is, and how to change the distorted thinking in the most effective way imaginable. I found this book and her workshop when I was at a crossroads in my life. I was running out of hope, on the verge of surrendering to this irrational fear of public speaking. Despite the positive changes I had been making through a support group that helped me work on this fear for over 4 years, I still didn't think I could improve enough to face my fears in the real world. Also, I had attended Toastmasters for over 2 years and had been unable to give a speech. I attended her workshop 6 weeks ago and highly recommend it. Janet will make you feel so comfortable and guide you through the whole experience. She truly understands and is beyond dedicated to helping others overcome this fear. Janet's workshop was one of the best, most helpful experiences of my life in regards to my public speaking phobia. In just 2 days, you will not believe the transformation in yourself and the way you bond with your classmates. I feel like an entirely different person now. I have never had this much confidence in my life; I have never felt such a reduction in my fear, which had limited me in every aspect of my life. Now, I am SEEKING opportunities to speak in public, and actually beginning to ENJOY it - never would this have been possible without Janet's book and workshop. I have returned to Toastmasters and will finally be doing my first speech in 2 weeks! This book will change your entire mindset and give you the courage you always knew you had in you. Read this book and start living your life fully today!Was this review helpful? Yes NoThank you for your feedback. Report this reviewThank you, this review has been flagged.
Posted January 1, 2008
The author had first-hand stage fright experience and she shared the techniques that she learned to overcome the stage fright and to go beyond the fright to enjoy being in the spot light. The skills are very valuable for a stage fright person like me, and are also valuable for teachers of music who would want to learn how to help students with stage fright. The skills mentioned in the book are transferable skills that can be used to reduce stress and to cultivate positive self-esteem. Teachers can use these excellent skills to help their students. It was by far the best book that offers alternative and possible solutions to shift the stage fright paradigm. The book has been helpful to me as a personal growth tool and in other areas of my life, in addition to the performance anxiety challenges. One day I was feeling down, and reading chapter 10 of the book re-channeled me to something more funny and pleasant and I was uplifted. That was a powerful experience. The book is easy, fun and enjoyable to read. Once you start reading, it is hard to stop reading.Was this review helpful? Yes NoThank you for your feedback. Report this reviewThank you, this review has been flagged.
Posted November 1, 2007
This book is the ONLY thing available that addresses the actual fear of public speaking as opposed to tips on how to become a better speaker. You must address your fear first before you can improve your speaking skills. Janet Esposito is an expert on this subject as she suffered with that same fear herself. She is not just an author - she conducts actual affordable workshops on conquering your fears and is available as well to coach you one on one if needed. Read the book - take the workshop - use the CD and do it today! It absolutely changed my life!!!! Don't go another day without reading this book!Was this review helpful? Yes NoThank you for your feedback. Report this reviewThank you, this review has been flagged.
Posted November 8, 2007
I found the book to be extremely insightful and ultimately very helpful to me. This isn't a book about how to look, sound, or project better. It digs very deep into where these fears of public speaking come from in the first place, and how to deal with it. As I read it, it seemed like the book was written just for me. The author just 'gets it'. I liked the book so much, that I keep in on my shelf as a resource, and have re-read it several times. The bottom line is if you are looking for help from someone that truly understands this phenomenon--this is the book for you.Was this review helpful? Yes NoThank you for your feedback. Report this reviewThank you, this review has been flagged.
Posted August 30, 2007
The book was a great support for the first step towards the anxiety of public speaking.I have read this book more than once.Readers should recognize that any 'cure' for an illness is not found on a specfic page but taking the FIRST step towards an overall understanding and gradual process of overcoming that illness. I have taken Janet's seminars and recommend them extremely highly..take that FIRST STEP!Was this review helpful? Yes NoThank you for your feedback. Report this reviewThank you, this review has been flagged.
Posted August 31, 2007
It is not an exaggeration to say that this book changed my life. I have suffered from a horrible fear of public speaking since childhood, but once I began reading this book I knew I had found the answer. The book covers so much more than just public speaking. Janet Esposito takes a holistic approach to overcoming fear and provides many practical suggestions for creating a resourceful mind and body. There is no quick fix or magic formula to make the fear disappear, but by following Janet¿s advise the fear of public speaking becomes manageable. This is not a how-to book for improving technique but a tool for facing the fear and becoming more comfortable in front of an audience. Before I read the book I could not have imagined that I would be speaking to large groups on a regular basis, but after implementing Janet¿s suggestions and taking small leaps of faith, my horrible fear has been reduced to mild discomfort. Janet truly understands those who are facing this challenge, and through her compassionate writing she guides the reader on their own path to overcoming their fear.Was this review helpful? Yes NoThank you for your feedback. Report this reviewThank you, this review has been flagged.
Posted September 3, 2007
Janet Esposito's book 'In the Spotlight' is a thoughtfully written, well-researched guide to managing anxiety related to social situations. Although the book focuses on public speaking and performing, its exercises and lessons can be applied to any situation in which a person has experienced nervousness and anxiety in making a public appearance--from going to a party, to attending a concert, to teaching. I have read many books on managing anxiety related to social situations, and this is the best that I have come across. 'In the Spotlight' is 'a step ahead' of similar literature on managing anxiety for several reasons. One is the fresh, honest, compassionate voice of the author. Janet Esposito genuinely empathizes with her readers because, as she writes about in her book, she herself struggled with anxiety related to public speaking, attempting to avoid situations where she had to lead a meeting or present at a conference before realizing that she needed to get the better of this demon of anxiety. Esposito's compassionate presence as an author makes you *know* that she takes performance/social anxiety seriously, and wants to share with you the methods that helped her to feel more comfortable with--and actually enjoy--the process of speaking in front of people. In addition to being positive and understanding, Esposito has very high standards for her reader, urging us to 'play full out' in our engagement with the exercises and lessons that she asks us to do, from writing down our goals for ourselves as public speakers, to practicing our speaking in front of a small group of family and friends. Moreover, Janet Esposito has a scientist's understanding of what actually *causes* the tension that public appearances provoke in many of us. She sees anxiety, correctly, as a learned physiological response, not something mysterious and 'in our heads.' She points out that many folks with social anxiety have actually 'trained' their bodies to respond with fear to certain situations, such as public speaking and performing. We have learned to respond to public performance just as we would respond to actual physically life-threatening situations. Esposito's point is that because we have trained ourselves to respond with physical fear in situations that are not actually physically threatening, like public speaking, we can also train ourselves *not* to respond in these ways in public situations, to recognize that they are not filled with danger, but that, in fact, they are just occasions where people want to learn something from us, and we are there to enrich their lives by sharing our knowledge, and our presence, with them. This book has helped me tremendously in my own life, where I apply its lessons especially to my work as a teacher--one of the more anxiety-producing 'performance' professions out there! I continue to use from the book's ideas and exercises daily, which I combine with one or two of the exercises on the CD that one can purchase separately from the book.Was this review helpful? Yes NoThank you for your feedback. Report this reviewThank you, this review has been flagged.
Posted January 2, 2006
I bought the CD, so my comments are only related to this media and not the book. Although I think the exercises in the CD for relaxing prior to and during public speaking events are effective, I would have liked more background information into the hows and whys of conquering public speaking fears before jumping right into the exercises. While I recommend this item, I do so with the suggestion that it be partnered with a book/CD that provides more detailed information on conquering this debilitating and limiting fear.Was this review helpful? Yes NoThank you for your feedback. Report this reviewThank you, this review has been flagged.
Posted July 17, 2001
Janet has written a great book. Janet and I had the opportunity of speaking at the same event last year. Janet was a real professional and really knows here stuff. She speaks from personal experience. Working with professionals on speaking skills is a challenge; helping people overcome their speaking anxiety fears is what this book is all about and I would recommend it to everyone!Was this review helpful? Yes NoThank you for your feedback. Report this reviewThank you, this review has been flagged.
Posted September 26, 2000
Janet Esposito takes an uncomfortable topic and makes it approachable. She takes a fear suffered by many and gives the reader ways to overcome this fear. The fact that Ms. Esposito suffered from this fear herself comes thorough clearly and sincerely in this book. This book would be a treasure in anyone's library from the college student to the CEO. Hats off to Ms. Esposito for helping others get to the next level. First, she creates a comfort zone then gives the reader helpful tips that can be applied to daily life. Whether you have a slight fear or a severe fear of public speaking or performing this book is the book for you. I strongly recommend this book to friends, family members and colleagues on a daily basis. This is a must have for anyone who does presentations of any kind - a real blessing for today's professional.Was this review helpful? Yes NoThank you for your feedback. Report this reviewThank you, this review has been flagged.
Posted September 18, 2000
Janet Esposito has performed a tremendous service by writing this book. It will be helpful to anyone who has experienced performance anxiety at any level. Speakers and performers will benefit from it. Well written, it is easy to grasp the ideas and apply them. Effective practical strategies are presented within a philosophical framwork. Janet Esposito offers workshops on this same subject, which are wonderful. I am a performing artist who took her Level I workshop and found it took me to the next level. I'm signed up for Level II. Her passion and commitment come through strongly in her book - wait until you meet her in person! She is truly inspiring for she has worked through these fears herself.Was this review helpful? Yes NoThank you for your feedback. Report this reviewThank you, this review has been flagged.