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Overview

This is about you, not just your child.

Regardless of age, parenting requires a certain amount of uncertainty. 
But you can be certain that your children look to you to help them
discover who they are.  And you can only offer that to the degree that
YOU know who you are.



Over the years, Sissy Goff, David Thomas, and Melissa Trevathan have
helped countless families through their ministry known as Daystar
Counseling in Nashville, TN.  Due to the unique setup of Daystar, each
is frequently counseling not only the child but the parent as well.
Having both perspectives provides an opportunity to speak into some of
the most common struggles that parents face in today's fast-paced
society.



Intentional Parenting is built
around 12 chapters that each dispel some of the most common parenting
myths and reminds all parents of truths that can empower them to be not
only the parents that their children need but that God has called them
to be.



The book helps you discover first who you are and then takes that
healthy person into a discovery of being more intentional, playful,
consistent, merciful, and connected to your children.



Understanding your child.  Understanding you.
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Product Details

  • ISBN-13: 9780849964213
  • Publisher: Nelson, Thomas, Inc.
  • Publication date: 3/12/2013
  • Sold by: THOMAS NELSON
  • Format: eBook
  • Pages: 256
  • Sales rank: 422,539
  • File size: 405 KB

Meet the Author

Sissy Goff, MEd, LPC-MHSPis the counseling director for children and adolescents at Daystar. The author of five books, she is a frequent radio guest and contributor to magazines. Sissy has a master's degree from Vanderbilt University and is a sought-after speaker for parenting and teacher training events.

David Thomas, LMSW, is the counseling director for men and boys at Daystar. A popular speaker and the coauthor of five books, he is a frequent guest on national television and radio, and a regular contributor to ParentLife magazine. Davidand his wife, Connie, have a daughter and twin sons.

Melissa Trevathan, MREis founder and executive director of Daystar Counseling Ministries. A graduate of Southwestern Baptist Seminary, Melissa has taught graduate courses, spoken to various churches and schools across the country, and been a guest on television and radio programs throughout the US and Canada. She is a popular speaker for parents, teachers, and kids of all ages.

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INTENTIONAL PARENTING

Autopilot is for planes
By SISSY GOFF DAVID THOMAS MELISSA TREVATHAN

Thomas Nelson

Copyright © 2013 Sissy Goff, David Thomas, and Melissa Trevathan
All right reserved.

ISBN: 978-0-8499-6454-1


Chapter One

Being an Intentional Parent —with David

YEARS AGO I (DAVID) HAD A CONVERSATION WITH a young man I'd known for several years. I had seen him for the first time as a junior in high school, and then throughout his senior year. He went away to college, and midway through the first semester, he called home to ask his mom if he could set up an appointment when home on break. She agreed, wondering what might be going on with him, but called to set up a time to meet.

It was good to reconnect with this young man, to talk about the transition from high school to college, and discuss living on his own for the first time. He was dealing with the normal challenges of being a college freshman at a big school and adjusting to this new stage of life.

Somewhere along the way, we ended up talking about his memory of being dropped off and saying good-bye to his parents. I asked him what he remembered about that moment (a significant moment for every college student); he paused and stared ahead as he was chasing down that memory.

"David, my dad cried harder that day than I've ever seen him cry in my life." This young man's face gave me so much information about that moment with his dad. It was obvious that, months later, he was still feeling the impact of that exchange. He went on to say, "My dad could barely speak ... He just kept saying, 'I love you, over and over. He just kept saying 'I love you so much.'"

I let him sit with his dad's words for some time, and then I asked, "How was your mom in that time?" His face changed; he chuckled and shifted. "She kept saying things like, 'Don't forget the milk I put in your mini-fridge. It will spoil in a week or so.'"

He continued while mimicking her voice. "'And you'll need to keep track of your meal plan account online. You will run out of money, and then you'll be in the cafeteria and won't be able to purchase a thing to eat.'"

We laughed together briefl, and then he finished. "The time finally came for my parents to say a last good-bye. My dad pulled the car around back and he was still crying. He hugged me one last time, and then my mom hugged me. They both got in the car, but before they drove away, my mom rolled down her window and yelled, 'Don't drink. It is so dangerous!'"

With those final words, his parents pulled away. He started laughing again, which gave me permission to join him.

I know this young man's mother. She is a kind, thoughtful, well-intentioned mother. She responded in that moment the way we are all vulnerable to responding—out of fear.

You may be reading this book and thinking back to your own moment of dropping a child off for college. Or maybe you are about to do that for the first time. Maybe you are the parent of a two-year-old and the idea of that moment seems so far away that you can barely wrap your mind and heart around it. Wherever you are in the journey of parenting, you can likely identify with this mom in some way. You can remember a moment in your parenting where you parented more out of fear than anything else.

When the three of us speak across the country to groups of parents, Melissa speaks beautifully to parenting out of fear instead of parenting out of love. When we parent out of fear, our kids never get the best of us, the most of us, or even what they really need from us. Parenting out of fear is a reactive form of parenting.

We'd love to invite you into more proactive parenting—thoughtful, intentional, strategic, and wise parenting. Or more active parenting—responsive, engaged, invested, connected parenting. It's difficult to parent out of love when we are simply reacting to everything going on around us. We are postured to react rather than respond.

I believe this college-aged boy's father was a beautiful picture of responding rather than reacting. He was responding to how much he loved this boy. He was responding to how much he is going to miss him. He was responding to the reality that he was closing a chapter on parenting this young man. He was responding to the emotions he felt when he looked at him and when he thought about the years he spent holding him and teaching him to catch a ball, ride a bike, memorize multiplication facts, shave, drive a car, tie a necktie, and ask a girl to dance. He was responding in love, and in turn parenting out of love.

We always have options. Sometimes we choose fear over love. Sometimes we choose love over fear. You will continue to hear us invite you to extend grace to yourself in the journey of parenting. You are going to make mistakes. God can redeem the mistakes we make in parenting. He extends grace to us so that we can then extend grace and mercy to our children. Receive the grace and mercy that is available to you. And then do that thing we teach our kids to do when they fall off their bikes while learning to ride: get back up, dust yourself off, and try again.

Being an intentional parent means I get back on the bike and learn from the mistake I made last time around. Maybe I rode too close to the curb; maybe I didn't brake soon enough or didn't have a firm grip on the handlebars. Try doing it a little different next time around. If you need to take a break for a while, that's Okay. We all need breaks. A chance to stop, breathe, gain some perspective, and then we're more ready to try again.

Reconsider the Purpose

In Ezekiel 20:22 God spoke about the Israelites, saying, "I seriously considered dumping my anger on them, right there in the desert. But I thought better of it and acted out of who I was, not by what I felt, so that I might be honored and not blasphemed by the nations who had seen me bring them out" (MSG, emphasis added).

Those words resonate with me. I can't keep track of how many moments I've seriously considered dumping my anger. Or worse yet, the times I've gone ahead and just done it. I've walked in at the end of a long day to find the kitchen sink is still full of dinner's dirty dishes, no one let the dog out, wet towels line the bathroom floor, sports equipment and cleats are scattered throughout the house, and everyone's acting like the chore chart on the fridge is a recommendation more than a requirement.

Or there is arguing from the backseat of the car or the upstairs of the house, and my kids are acting more as if they are opposing teammates than members of the same family. The normal, daily moments of parenting take us to the ends of ourselves, and we respond less out of who we are and more out of what we feel. Being an intentional parent simply means I'm growing toward responding more out of who I am, who God made me to be, than out of how I feel.

Why did you decide to become a parent?

I enjoy asking parents this question. I mostly enjoy watching people's faces in response to the question. Most often they just stare at me as if maybe I'd asked something like, "Why did you decide to buy a car?" or "Why do you go to the grocery each week?" I hear a range of responses like:

• "I never really thought about the why."

• "It seemed like the next natural step."

• "I always knew that I wanted to be a mom."

• "I saw myself as a parent. It just felt like the right thing to do."

• "I can't really describe it, I just knew it was time."

I then give permission to not have an answer to the question. I don't think it's one most of us gave much consideration to. I was twenty-three when I asked my wife to marry me, and we married the following year. Most developmental theorists agree that adolescence ends for males around twenty-three to twenty-four. So I was still finishing adolescence when we married, and I was certainly not thinking about the next decisions in life with a lot of maturity or wisdom. I, like many dads, stumbled into parenting because it was just what you did next. I never really considered the purpose.

I certainly never considered what parenting would do to me, in me, and through me. Decades later, I am just beginning to wrap my mind around that. I suspect I'll still be figuring that out until I'm done. I only know this much so far: As I reread the Genesis narrative, I see important insight into the parenting journey. As we trace back through the Creation story, we understand God created man and woman in His image, charged them to multiply and be fruitful, and blessed the first birth. Genesis 4 is all about parenting. It begins with Adam and Eve giving birth to a son, then another son, one killing the other, and then giving birth to a third son, Seth. The story of parenting evolves into the next generation as Seth and his wife give birth to a son named Enosh.

The fourth chapter of Genesis closes with these last words, which I believe speak to all of us about the purpose of parenting. They are, "At that time people began to call on the name of the Lord" (Gen. 4:26 NIV).

We are reminded within those words that parenting will take us to the end of ourselves. It will drive us to a place of dependence, of crying out for help, of leaning into God for wisdom and strength. We aren't designed to do this on our own. We need God.

Prepare for disruption

The words of Genesis speak not only to dependence but also to disruption. Without much difficulty, we can identify with some of the emotions Adam and Eve experienced in stepping into the journey of parenting for the first time. Can you think back to the first time you saw the face of your son or daughter? Perhaps that introduction happened in a hospital room as a doctor or nurse placed this new life into your arms for the first time. Or maybe you were thousands of miles away from home, in an orphanage, and caretakers entered the room, carrying a child you had only seen in photographs up to that moment. Do you remember how something shifted in you? Do you remember how you felt something stir in you that you had never experienced before?

A transformation was taking place. You entered the room one person and you left the room a different one. Something shifted in you. A deeper place was carved out in you—the capacity for something more.

I can still remember seeing my firstborn for the first time. Watching my wife struggle in childbirth, life coming from her, seeing this beautiful little girl and being overtaken with emotion. It wrecked me. I could not contain what was inside of me. I had just witnessed creation. I had just participated in creation. It was a holy experience and it overwhelmed me.

I remember holding my daughter and weeping uncontrollably. In my heart, I was pledging to love her, to protect her, to care for her. I was undone by the burden, responsibility, and magnitude of it all as I held what had been entrusted to me. I was wearing all the joy and the overwhelming, heartbreaking, sacred beauty of the birthing experience. I was as full of emotion as I had been at any moment in my life, and it showed on my face.

I stood in amazement at what David surely meant when he said, "I am certain that I will see the lord's goodness in the land of the living" (Ps. 27:13 HCSB). I couldn't know all that would unfold in the life of that little girl. I couldn't know what I would feel to see her walk and talk for the first time. I could have never known what would stir in me when she said my name for the first time, what I would feel when I gave the last running push and took my hand off the back of her bicycle and watched her pedal away independently, or how my heart would break in kissing her small cheek and watching her muster the courage to walk into an unknown kindergarten classroom for the first time.

There was no way of knowing on that day of celebrating her birth in the hallway with friends and family, that months later we'd be in Vanderbilt Children's hospital with her tiny body connected to monitors and tubes, monitoring her little heartbeat, lying next to her, praying, begging God, and thinking I couldn't breathe or live if something happened to this person I had known for only a matter of weeks.

Like the parents I question in class, I had no idea what I had surrendered myself to. I had never really considered why I signed on for this and what I had agreed to. I had absolutely no idea what it would require of me, how it would transform me, and how disruptive the process would be. Dan Allender, PhD, author of How Children Raise Parents, spoke well to this:

There is no relationship on earth in which we are called to be more noble and to sacrifice more deeply than with our children....

No other arena in life holds us more hostage to hope, more afraid to dream, more defensive about our decisions, and more open to receive help—all simultaneously. The intensity and passion of parenting bring the potential not only for our worst, but also for our very best as human beings.

I've seen evidence of good in me that I didn't know existed. I've never been more willing to sacrifice or capable of things I didn't know were humanly possible—staying awake for three consecutive days, giving repeated injections to my own children, or even just waking at 2:00 a.m., out of a dead sleep, and cleaning up vomit! I can still remember waking in the middle of the night with that same sweet girl I held in the hospital room. She woke with the stomach virus and had thrown up all over her little bed, in her long hair, and soaked her pj's. I remember drawing a warm bath and washing that night's regurgitated dinner out of her damp hair while my wife changed the sheets on her bed, only to repeat the whole process three more times before 5:00 a.m. (You know you really love someone when you clean up her vomit repeatedly throughout the night.)

Just as I've never been more willing to sacrifice, I've never felt more selfish. I have tapped into darker parts of me than I knew existed. I'm talking thoughts that shook me to the core. In describing her own journey in parenting, Anne Lamott once said, "I thought such awful thoughts that I cannot even say them out loud because they would make Jesus want to drink gin straight out of the cat dish." Mine were worse; I promise you. I've never felt more angry, entitled, hateful, spiteful, and ashamed than I have as a parent. Parenting really does ignite our capacity for the worst and the best, for good and for harm.

Identify three different moments when you felt helpless as a parent.

What did you take away from those experiences?

What may God have wanted to show you in those moments?

How has parenting changed you as a person?

Become a Student

So where do we go with all this? If we are willing to consider that God designed parenting more for our own sanctification and transformation than to shape our children's lives, we open ourselves up to movement, growth, and maturity. If we consider that God designed parenting as a place where men and women could come to ask hard questions, engage deep heartache, and find renewed hope—a place where people can grow in the range and richness of new possibility in their lives—then there is much room for maturity of heart.

Become a student of your own maturity (or lack thereof). One of the more courageous things we can do as parents is to first identify three individuals in our lives who know us. Not people we have surface relationships with, but with whom we share history. These should be people who have seen some of the best and worst of who we are as people—our parents, our spouses, other family members, good friends, trusted coworkers—individuals who aren't afraid to tell us the truth about ourselves. Ask three individuals who fit the above criteria to answer some questions about you, and invite them to give you some honest feedback.

What have you observed about me as a parent?

What are the strengths I bring to parenting?

What are the struggles I bring to parenting?

What do you enjoy about being in relationship with me?

What are the challenges about being in relationship with me?

We all need feedback. We are all incapable of seeing how other people experience us. We live in our own skin; therefore we don't understand what it's like to be in relationship with ourselves. That's why we need input and perspective.

We often invite individuals we work with at Daystar to take a personality inventory called the Enneagram. After answering a series of questions, individuals are assigned a number (1–9) that identifies a profile or personality. It's a fascinating study that reveals strengths and challenges that come with each number. For example, I'm a One on the Enneagram. For those unfamiliar with this inventory, a One is akin to the "type A" personality. I'm driven, focused, task-oriented. As a parent, when I'm at my best as a One, I bring leadership and mission to our family. When I'm at my worst, I plow over the other members of my family, I don't consider them, and I get more focused on my agenda than on people. I need to live with some kind of awareness that both exist in me—the strengths and the challenges. The less aware I am of both, the more likely I am to operate more (or only) out of one side.

(Continues...)



Excerpted from INTENTIONAL PARENTING by SISSY GOFF DAVID THOMAS MELISSA TREVATHAN Copyright © 2013 by Sissy Goff, David Thomas, and Melissa Trevathan. Excerpted by permission of Thomas Nelson. All rights reserved. No part of this excerpt may be reproduced or reprinted without permission in writing from the publisher.
Excerpts are provided by Dial-A-Book Inc. solely for the personal use of visitors to this web site.

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Table of Contents

Contents

Introduction....................xi
Chapter 1: Being an Intentional Parent—with David....................1
Chapter 2: Being a Patient Parent—with Sissy....................25
Chapter 3: Being a Grown-Up Parent—with Melissa....................43
Chapter 4: Being a Balanced Parent—with David....................59
Chapter 5: Being a Consistent Parent—with Sissy....................77
Chapter 6: Being a Playful Parent—with Melissa....................115
Chapter 7: Being a Connected Parent—with David....................129
Chapter 8: Being an Encouraging Parent—with Sissy....................149
Chapter 9: Being a Spiritual Parent—with Melissa....................169
Chapter 10: Being a Merciful Parent—with David....................179
Chapter 11: Being a Hopeful Parent—with Sissy....................197
Chapter 12: Being a Free Parent—with Melissa....................221
Notes....................231
Acknowledgments....................235
About the Authors....................237
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  • Posted June 28, 2013

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    Have you ever felt that your relationship with your child is goi

    Have you ever felt that your relationship with your child is going nowhere but south? Intentional Parenting: Autopilot Is for Planes can restore your faith in communicating with your child or teen. Often times as your child ages, you feel lost and confused with that the best way is to get through to them. Intentional Parenting guides you with proven methods of ways to get responses from your child. 




    This is one of my favorite parenting books. It is written well and gives you great suggestions on how to improve your relationship. In each chapter there are bulleted points that ask you questions to assess what you want from a relationship with your child. The questions are the best way to gauge how your current mind frame is and what you are expecting from your child. There are often times that you can be surprised with the answers you come up with.




    Your attention is definitely held while reading this book because you are able to do a lot of self-reflection. Aside from having a strong message to convey, there are also references to the Bible that allow you to realize the strong connection that parenting has in relation to the Bible. 

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  • Posted June 1, 2013

    Definitely one of my favorite parenting books.  I finished the b

    Definitely one of my favorite parenting books.  I finished the book encouraged and empowered as a mom.  The authors words gave so much grace to my life.  As a parent it is easy to feel like you are bombing more than you like.  This encouraged me to receive God's grace and mercy.  And as I receive his grace to then pass it onto my kids.  One message that stuck with me was to just enjoy my kids.  I can be so busy correcting and instructing that I dont  take time to enjoy them.

    I received this book free from book sneeze to provide an honest review, negative or positive.

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  • Posted May 13, 2013

    Intentional Parenting is by far one of the best parenting books

    Intentional Parenting is by far one of the best parenting books that I have read.  And it's no wonder, since the authors have vast experience at a family counseling center.  So, not only have they been to the circus, they've been the lion tamers as well - so to speak.

    In all seriousness, though, this book really does have some amazing ideas on how to approach this journey we call parenting.  Each chapter discusses how to put real thought into parenting.  Subjects include consistency, playfulness, spirituality, and patience, and hope.  Key concepts that are necessary for parenting with purpose are examined in detail, with real-life anecdotes and ideas for how to improve on each area.  

    I loved that age-appropriate ideas are provided throughout the book.  Clearly, a teen requires a different style than a toddler does, and this book recognizes that.  I also loved the questions posed to the reader.  This book really encourages the reader to put thought into his or her parenting style - it's parenting with purpose!  And no matter how you feel you're doing as a parent, this book is going to provide you with tools that you will be able to use for the benefit of your whole family.  And for fans of Love and Logic, the ideas in this book can be used with that program.

    As a teacher and a mother, I highly recommend this book to any parent or soon-to-be-parent.  

    Disclaimer:  I was provided a copy of this book by the publisher in exchange for an honest review.

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  • Posted May 13, 2013

    As I move from one stage of parenting to the next, I often find

    As I move from one stage of parenting to the next, I often find myself wondering if I’m doing it right. Because, let’s be real here, parenting is hard. A lot of times you are just figuring it out as you go…and sometimes you don’t really feel like you’ve figured anything out.

    “Intentional Parenting: Autopilot Is For Planes” by Sissy Goff, David Thomas and Melissa Trevathan helps dispel some of the most common myths of parenting. By helping parents discover who they are, they are then empowered to help their children discover who they are through being more intentional, playful, consistent, merciful and connected in the parent/child relationship.

    With over 50 years of combined experience in counseling that focuses not only on the child but the parent as well, the authors are able to offer real insight on some of the challenges today’s families deal with.

    I loved the encouragement this book offered. The authors give valuable, Biblically-based insight into key areas of parenting like being consistent, encouraging, connected, patient, etc, all with the goal of being a more intentional parent. With a daughter approaching the teen years, I especially appreciated the emphasis this book placed on parenting teen children.

    But most of all I loved that they remind us that because of God’s great love for us, we can’t be perfect parents but we can be the parents our children need. By keeping our focus on Jesus, we can help our kids discover who they were created to be. And that is parenting freely.

    I am so glad to have this resource on my bookshelf. It is one I will no doubt return to repeatedly in the years ahead. I would definitely recommend this book to anyone who wants to be a more intentional parent.

    Disclosure of Material Connection: I received this book free from the publisher through the BookSneeze®.com book review bloggers program. I was not required to write a positive review. The opinions I have expressed are my own. I am disclosing this in accordance with the Federal Trade Commission’s 16 CFR, Part 255 : “Guides Concerning the Use of Endorsements and Testimonials in Advertising.”

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  • Posted April 12, 2013

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    This is a great book for any type of parent. I am a foster paren

    This is a great book for any type of parent. I am a foster parent and going on autopilot is not an option. So when I saw the tag line autopilot is for planes I knew this was a book for me. All the chapters are great in this book. But two them stand out for me at this moment in my journey of parenthood. The patient parent and the merciful parent chapters are perfect right now in my parenthood adventure. But I know in my heart and head the other chapters we be used in the future so this book will always be close by when I need advice and help. Great book, written very well by all the authors. Do not miss out on some great wisdom that the book brings.


    Disclosure of Material Connection: I received this book free from the publisher through the BookSneeze book review bloggers program. I was not required to write a positive review. The opinions I have expressed are my own. I am disclosing this in accordance with the Federal Trade Commission’s 16 CFR, Part 255

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  • Posted March 12, 2013

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    This book was of initial interest to me because I am a Christian

    This book was of initial interest to me because I am a Christian and because the authors are counselors of children and parents. They are in a field that I can see myself moving into and I wanted to see their views on parenting as a Christian. After all, that's what my blog is about!
    Intentional Parenting seems like it would be a handbook for parents. How to be an intentional parent...but that's not the name of the game. Though this book gives many a tip on how you can be a better parent, it does not claim to be the answer. Ultimately every chapter ends with leaving it up to God. But we have to meet Him halfway there. I struggle in many of the areas that are discussed in the book. Who hasn't struggled with "Being a Patient Parent", "Being a Consistent Parent" (that one's especially tough), or "Being a Playful Parent" (I myself am trying to get more involved when my daughter says "Mom will you play with me?"). I recommend that you get out a notebook and write down your answers to the questions in the chapters. Journal about it, reflect on it. That is how this book was intended to be used. It is to help you reflect on what type of parent you are and work to improve yourself to be the parent God wants you to be for your children. This book can help you to become a better parent by realizing that you can't do it alone, that you are never meant to be perfect, and that you can and will be the best parent you can be with God's help. I recommend this book to anyone who wants to know how their faith and their parenting can go hand in hand.

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  • Posted February 27, 2013

    "Intentional Parenting" is a book written by Sissy Gof

    "Intentional Parenting" is a book written by Sissy Goff, David Thomas, and Melissa Trevathan that debunks some of the most common parenting myths, and replaces them with logical and helpful solutions to everyday parenting issues. 




    As parents, sometimes we feel like we should have all of the answers - we should be able to handle any situation that comes our way when it comes to our children. But the reality is, sometimes we need a little extra help. This book is a helpful resource in helping parents be more encouraging, patient, and spiritual in their daily lives and interactions with their children.




    "Intentional Parenting" encourages parents to be honest, self-aware, and endeavor to be better parents. This book touches on a variety of topics, ranging from being connected and encouraging to being consistent and patient. I found that much of the advice that is in this book was very helpful in helping me to look at my parenting role in a different way. 




    Sometimes it is easy to write a child off as just being "difficult", rather than explore the situation and realize that perhaps it is the parent that needs to work with the child to make the situation better. This book encourages, explains, and expands on this idea. 




    I thought this book was well-written, easy to understand, and offers a lot of encouragement and advice to parents. I would recommend this to any parent.

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