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Posted April 1, 2009
I believe I was one of the early participants in the world of online dating more than ten years ago. The results were more than disappointing. I met one gentleman who was at least six inches shorter than advertised and another who missed our lunch date because he got drunk after his softball game and completely forgot about our meeting. I have no doubt that the process is now much more sophisticated and the variety of people who participate has grown. I even think that, if I was not already happily married, the expertise of Cherie Burbach could make my navigation through online profiles and first meetings much more enjoyable. In her new book, Internet Dating is Not Like Ordering a Pizza, Burbach provides in detail all of the hints you need to create a successful profile and the process to follow once a connection has been made. Her conversational writing style and practical information make this book a must-read for anyone who is ready for greater success with the online dating process.
Burbach takes her readers through each specific component of an online profile, from the headline to the essay to the use of photos. She explains how each piece that you create tells part of your story and can either draw in a potential date or end any interest with a simple choice of words. Burbach provides a thorough list of the "don'ts" for each part of the profile in bulleted form that is easy for the reader to digest because, let's be honest, we first want to we are doing wrong so that we can fix it. Once the negative elements are successfully eliminated, Burbach also shares some great suggestions for text and photos to include that really highlight one's personality. She teaches her readers how to incorporate their hobbies, families, and careers in a natural way that does not make a profile come across as dry or self-serving. Burbach also understands that men and women who have been a part of the online dating scene for some time without success are pessimistic and wary of anyone who offers new advice. So, she incorporates a "Dear Ms. Dating Consultant" section into her chapters in which she imagines some of the questions that readers will have about her advice and addresses the concerns with understanding and the attitude of someone who has been there.
Cherie Burbach met her own husband through online dating and therefore provides a valuable perspective on the way to develop a successful approach. This is not only important when she is sharing advice concerning the creation of a profile, but also when it comes to the date itself. She warns her readers to meet in a public place, set a time limit on the encounter, and take any suspicious behavior seriously. She stresses throughout the book that you do not know a person with whom you have been communicating online. I appreciated her honest reminder that while you can meet some wonderful people through internet dating, people must always be aware of the participants whose intentions are less than innocent and genuine.
Internet Dating is Not Like Ordering a Pizza is a great read that provides concrete tips on every page. The writing is clever and Burbach obviously has a respect for those who are struggling to find a special someone through their computers. I know that there are millions of people with profiles on the various sites that promise to find your perfect match, and all of them would benefit from having Burbach's book in their hands when they sit down in front of the ke
Posted December 5, 2008
Have you tried computer dating, but found discouraging results? Do you have a profile languishing, forgotten and ignored, on a dating site? Have you given up on computer dating because ¿all the good ones are taken?¿ Well, have I got the book for you! Internet dating consultant Cherie Burbach¿s Internet Dating is Not Like Ordering Pizza may change your dating life, or if you have Ms. Burbach¿s luck it may end up changing your entire life. She met loads of great guys through online dating, one of whom she ended up marrying! <BR/><BR/>In a reassuring, upbeat tone, this author provides an easy-to-follow formula to help you present yourself well online. Her style is chatty and friendly without being at all cheesy or condescending. Burbach provides straightforward, easily applicable advice for successful internet dating. Internet Dating is Not Like Ordering a Pizza covers all the bases: writing an eye-catching profile essay (for example, ¿Don¿t call yourself a `hopeless romantic¿¿ and please don¿t mention walking on beaches!), picking winning photographs to post (No kids!), writing the perfect headline (the examples of bad ones and her snappy comebacks are hilarious), honing your search criteria (cast a wide net), exchanging email messages with potential dates (like how to come off as open but not desperate), finding a good match, smart and safe rules for the first date (she¿s a big fan of the 60-minute coffee shop date), online dating etiquette (like how to let someone down easy), and developing a good online dating attitude. Burbach also offers some good and solid ¿Dear Abby¿ -styled advice on circumstances under which you should not enter the world of internet dating (for example, if you haven¿t gotten over your ex.), as well as how to stay positive, how to move on from a hurtful relationship, and how to avoid coming off as an online stalker. <BR/><BR/>In addition to being thorough, clear and concise in her advice, Burbach¿s writing style makes reading this book feel like you¿re having a funny conversation with an experienced guide, a cheerleader and an honest friend all wrapped into one. The tone is light and positive with many interesting elements, such as the question and answer sections, that make reading this useful little book both fun and captivating. The author writes about her online dating experiences, ¿For the first time I really saw how many great guys were OUT THERE. It wasn¿t slim pickings. It still isn¿t. You just have to know how to do it. There¿s someone out there for you. I know it.¿ She encourages the reader to stay optimistic and genuine, ¿Let some of your true-self come through, and others will naturally be attracted to you.¿ And she helps readers chuckle while they wipe off the dust of past relationships gone bad and get back out there into the dating scene, ¿Now, I know what you¿re saying. You don¿t want to waste your time with people you aren¿t going to end up dating. To this I say: get over yourself!¿ <BR/><BR/>If you are at all interested in being more successful at internet dating, then I heartily recommend this book. And if you happen to be new to internet dating, you also may want to pick up Burbach¿s previous book At the Coffee Shop, a humorous introduction to online dating. Plus, check out all the cool articles on her website at www.thedifferencenow.com to shake up and refresh your dating life. <BR/><BR/>Quill says: Single folks who are ready to meet a lot of great people should pick up this book. At the very least, it¿s a fun readWas this review helpful? Yes NoThank you for your feedback. Report this reviewThank you, this review has been flagged.