Is It "Just a Phase"?: How to Tell Common Childhood Phases from More Serious Disorders

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Is It "Just a Phase"? examines the challenges a child faces from toddlerhood through adolescence and provides guidelines for determining when a behavior is a cause for concern and when it is merely a developmental phase. Part I covers the problem phases of development - thumb sucking, bed-wetting, and sleep problems - and offers parents practical guidelines to implement at home as well as information on how to use the help of the child's teacher or pediatrician. Part II considers the medical and psychiatric ...
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Is It "Just a Phase"? examines the challenges a child faces from toddlerhood through adolescence and provides guidelines for determining when a behavior is a cause for concern and when it is merely a developmental phase. Part I covers the problem phases of development - thumb sucking, bed-wetting, and sleep problems - and offers parents practical guidelines to implement at home as well as information on how to use the help of the child's teacher or pediatrician. Part II considers the medical and psychiatric disorders - anxiety, depression, and school problems - that affect a child's behavior when it's more than "just a phase." It includes diagnostic checklists so that parents can accurately assess the nature and severity of their child's symptoms. Is It "Just a Phase"? also prepares parents to make well-informed decisions about difficult choices - such as whether or not to treat their child's hyperactivity with medication and when to hospitalize a depressed adolescent. It provides accurate explanations of why behavior problems occur, shares the latest advances in the diagnosis and treatment of childhood disorders, and helps readers cope with the many challenges of raising a school-aged child. Because when parents are concerned about their child, it's never "just a phase."

"...basing their assessments on the latest medical research and real-life examples, the authors explain how parents can tell if their child's challenging or disruptive behavior is more than 'just a phase.'"

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Parents concerned by the behavior of an overactive, shy or disobedient child, or troubled by their child's bedwetting or eating problems, can find reassuring, practical advice in this accessible handbook. Swedo, head of behavioral pediatrics at the National Institutes of Mental Health, and Leonard, a child psychiatrist and professor at Brown University School of Medicine, combine their expertise to aid parents in helping their toddler or teen through difficult stages in development. Each chapter in Part 1 includes brief stories that illustrate particular behaviors, such as eating problems, thumb-sucking or moodiness, in both a normal child and a problem child. The stories are followed by suggestions on what parents can do to help, and what help they can expect from teachers and doctors. Part 2 focuses on those problem behaviors that are not merely passing phases but symptoms of psychiatric disorders requiring therapeutic intervention. Such conditions as anxiety disorder, attention deficit hyperactivity disorder and obsessive compulsive disorder are explained in clear language. Brief sets of questions assist parents in deciding whether their child fits the description or may have some related condition; the authors then discuss therapy options and offer a resource list of professional organizations. (Oct.)
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Product Details

  • ISBN-13: 9780307440501
  • Publisher: St. Martin's Press
  • Publication date: 9/28/1998
  • Edition number: 1
  • Pages: 288
  • Product dimensions: 6.44 (w) x 9.60 (h) x 1.24 (d)

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Introduction

"Amy, why don't you go outside and play with your cousins?" her mother, Celeste, asked.

"I don't want to. I'm busy," Amy responded, without looking up from her toys.

"Amy, I want to talk with your Grandma Rose alone for a little while, so you need to go outside and play."

"I don't want to go outside. I'm playing with my dolls," Amy whined. "If you want to have a private conversation," she continued, "why don't you go someplace else?"

"That's enough, Amy! You're going outside--right now!" Celeste got up and led her daughter to the back door. "Now, scoot!" she said and shut the door behind the reluctant eight-year-old.

"What's up, Celeste?" Rose asked her daughter-in-law as she returned to sit at the kitchen table.

"I'm worried about Amy," Celeste said. "She's been so difficult lately--always talking back to me and insisting on having her own way about everything. She's absolutely impossible!"

"She's not impossible, Celeste," Rose said soothingly. "She's just showing her spirit."

"Her spirit!" Celeste snorted. "I think it's more than that, Rose. Amy's being really obnoxious these days. It's not like her--she's always been so sweet and helpful. She'd have a smile on her face all the time, too. But, lately, all she does is sulk and sass us. I can't count the number of times I've been tempted to wash that girl's mouth out with soap."

"Have you?" Rose gasped.

"No, of course not," Celeste answered. "But the fact that I've even considered it is a sign that there's something seriously wrong with Amy. I'm really worried about her."

"Don't worry, Celeste," Rose said. "It's just a phase--Amywill grow out of it soon. All kids go through difficult stages. They have to give you some grief and go through some tough times--it's a normal part of growing up. The key to being a good parent is to help them grow out of the problem phases as quickly as possible, and not to lose your cool until they do."

"Sounds like great advice," Celeste said. "But easier said than done--she really irritates me! And how do you know for sure that it's 'just a phase'?"

"That, my dear, is the million-dollar question," Rose answered.



While it may not be worth a million dollars, the question of whether a child's behavior problems are "just a phase" or something more serious is one that parents ask frequently during the grade school years. Problem phases occur so predictably that child development experts have even given them names, such as the Terrible Twos, the Ferocious Fours, and the Sensitive Sixes. Some children are a handful from the time they enter the Terrible Twos until they leave home sixteen years later. Others, like Amy, appear to sail through their early development without problems, and then challenge their parents by exhibiting the sassy independence common to eight-year-olds or the moody rebelliousness of adolescence. Parents who are prepared for these difficult stages can change their parenting style in preparation for the expected challenges. They will have an easier time handling the problem phases, and their child will pass through them more quickly and easily. This book provides parents with the information they need to anticipate the problem phases and to be prepared for the developmental challenges that face their child.

The book's title, Is It "Just a Phase"?, alludes to the old, outdated approach to pediatric behavior problems: "It's just a phase. Ignore it and wait for her to outgrow it." Bad advice! But often a worried parent can't just ignore her child's problem behaviors. Attempting to ignore the unignorable is not only frustrating to both the parent and child during the months (or years!) that the behavior lasts, but it also impacts on the child's development, which is shaped by the behavior she's practicing and by her parents' reactions to it.

For example, if a six-year-old child's bedtime fears are dismissed as "just a phase that she's going through--ignore it!" and her parents act as if nothing's the matter, they may insist on turning off her light, giving her countless hours of needless anxiety and creating further behavior problems. Because she's afraid to go to sleep and equally afraid to lie awake in the dark, she refuses to go to bed at night, or climbs into her parents' bed in the middle of the night despite warnings against doing so. She may also experience nightmares and insomnia, which further compound the problem. On the other hand, if her parents recognize that she is entering a phase in which nighttime fears are common, they can be prepared to provide her with extra measures of comfort and security so that she quickly accepts that "there's not really a monster under my bed" and "outgrows" her fears.

Clearly, the way that the child's parents handle her developmental challenges is an important factor in determining her future development. Although physicians have always known that this was true, we have only recently learned that this is because the child's brain is "plastic," or malleable, and is molded by tnany things, including her experiences. Scientific experiments have proven that the actual size and structure of the brain can be altered by factors in the environment; some experiences, such as practicing the piano or reciting poetry, result in improved brain function, while others, like drug and alcohol use, can dramatically decrease the child's potential capabilities.

The visual system is a good example of the brain's plasticity. When a child is born, her vision is limited to blurry images and indistinct colors, but it quickly comes into sharp focus as her brain is matured by the act of "seeing." The act of processing visual images causes some nerve connections to be strengthened and others to be eliminated. This shaping process is so important that it can make the difference between perfect vision and blindness. For example, if a child is born with cataracts, her brain doesn't receive any visual input and she's "blind." If the cataracts are removed soon after birth, she will have normal vision. But if the cataracts aren't removed until the shaping process is complete (sometime before the age of four), the child will always be blind--even though her eyes are now completely normal. She can't see because her brain hasn't learned how to process the images. The visual system is an unusually dramatic example of the plasticity of the brain, and there are no similar "all or none" periods during a child's emotional development. But since early experiences have such a tremendous impact on development, it is clear that a child's behavior problems are never something to be ignored.

The chapters in part I of Is It "Just a Phase"? provide parents with strategies for helping their children cope with a variety of common developmental problems, from hyperactivity, picky eating, naughtiness, and impulsivity, to shyness, excessive fears, sadness, and social isolation. A "real life" example, similar to Amy's story, introduces each chapter. These case histories are not based on any one child (in order to protect our patients' privacy), but are composites of our experience and training. The purpose of the stories is to give you a sense of the types of problems that fall under the category of "normal" childhood behavior. A case example of a "problem" behavior is also included so that you can decide which pattern is more similar to your child's behavior. If your child's behavior is in the normal range, suggestions are provided for helping her outgrow the problem, including ways in which you, your child's teacher, and her doctor can be of assistance. If your child's behavior appears more like one of the problem behaviors that are described, then you will be referted to the appropriate chapter in the second half of the book.

The second part of Is It "Just a Phase"? focuses on the symptoms of childhood psychiatric disorders--"problem behaviors," like attention deficit hyperactivity disorder (ADHD), depression, and obsessive-compulsive disorder (OCD). In addition to a case illustration, parents are provided with a diagnostic checklist so that they can accurately assess the nature and severity of their child's symptoms. Treatment strategies are presented and rated for safety and effectiveness. Suggestions are also provided for ways in which parents can help their child continue to grow and develop appropriately, even as she is recovering from the disorder.

It should be apparent by now that there is no shame or blame in this book. The problems described here can't be blamed on either the child or her parent, and neither of them should be ashamed when they occur. Difficult phases result when developmental challenges facing the child overcome her ability to cope, just as diabetes occurs when the blood sugar content exceeds the body's ability to make insulin. Psychiatric disorders occur when the brain malfunctions--they are medical illnesses, not a punishment for a child's weak character or a parent's mistakes.

Stomach ulcers provide the perfect analogy for our changing attitude toward mental illness. For generations, doctors thought that ulcers were brought on by stress and dietary indiscretions and patients were encouraged to "take it easy and avoid spicy foods." With that prescription, some of the patients got better, just as some patients with depression or anxiety disorders get better with rest and tender, loving care. Some ulcer patients' symptoms continued to worsen on the bland diet, however--not a surprise since the treatment failed to address the cause of the symptoms. A few years ago, an Australian doctor discovered that most ulcers are the result of a bacterial infection and, since then, antibiotics have become the treatment of choice--now 95 percent of the patients improve in the first six weeks. We haven't yet found the cause of most children's psychiatric disorders, so a true "cure" isn't immediately available, but important discoveries are being made every day. Recently, for example, researchers from the National Institute of Mental Health reported that some behavior problems may be caused by strep throat infections. If so, these disorders could be "cured" by immunologic treatments and possibly prevented by long-term penicillin treatment (see chapter 17 for a complete description).

It is our fervent hope that the cause and cure of children's psychiatric disorders are nearly at hand, and that our understanding of childhood development improves to the point at which we can prevent problem phases through early interventions by parents, physicians, and teachers. Until then, it is reassuring to know that these problems are real, they can be diagnosed accurately, and they will improve when given proper care and attention. The same holds true for undesirable developmental behaviors deemed normal, for no matter what the behavior problem, it's never "just a phase" that should be ignored.
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Table of Contents

Introduction
Ch. 1 "My Son Is Always 'On the Go' - He Exhausts Me!": Excessive activity during childhood
Ch. 2 "My Daughter Is Such a Picky Eater": Feeding difficulties and obesity
Ch. 3 "My Son Is So Naughty - He Never Does What I Ask Him to Do": Disobedience, stubbornness, and other behavior difficulties
Ch. 4 "My Daughter Refuses to Go to School": Fear of leaving home and fear of attending school
Ch. 5 "My Six-Year-Old Still Sucks His Thumb - Is It Really Just a Bad Habit?": Thumb-sucking, nail-biting, knuckle-cracking ...
Ch. 6 "My Eight-Year-Old Still Wets the Bed": Bed-wetting (enuresis)
Ch. 7 "My Daughter Is Afraid of the Dark": Childhood fears
Ch. 8 "My Son Worries Too Much": Childhood anxieties
Ch. 9 "My Daughter Is Too Shy": Shyness and introversion
Ch. 10 "My Son Won't Have Anything to Do with Me": Social isolation and withdrawal, particularly during adolescence
Ch. 11 "My Daughter Is in Such a Bad Mood These Days": Excessive moodiness
Ch. 12 "I'm So Worried About My Child's Behavior - This Can't Be 'Just a Phase'": Introduction to part II
Ch. 13 "I Know My Son is Hyper - But Is He Hyperactive?": Attention deficit hyperactivity disorder
Ch. 14 "My Daughter Studies All the Time, But She Still Gets Failing Grades": Attention deficit disorder and learning disabilities
Ch. 15 "My Son Has So Many Little Nervous Habits - Like Blinking Too Much and Clearing His Throat": Tic disorders and Tourette disorder
Ch. 16 "My Child Is Plagued by Scary Thoughts and Silly Rituals": Obsessive-compulsive disorder and related disorders
Ch. 17 "My Son's Never Been a Problem Before, But Over the Past Week, He's Become Impossible": PANDAS
Ch. 18 "My Daughter Is Terrified to Let Me Go Out at Night, or Even to Go into Another Room Without Her": Separation anxiety disorder
Ch. 19 "My Son Is So Nervous and Tense That He's Making Me Anxious": Generalized anxiety disorder
Ch. 20 "My Daughter Is So Painfully Shy, She Won't Even Order Her Own Ice Cream": Selective mutism and social phobia
Ch. 21 "My Daughter Is So Sad and Blue - She Never Smiles or Laughs Anymore": Depression and bipolar disorder
Ch. 22 "My Son Sleeps All Weekend and Still Can't Wake Up on Time on Monday Morning": Sleep disorders and seasonal affective disorder
Ch. 23 "My Daughter Is Obsessed with Her Weight": Eating disorders: obesity, anorexia, and bulimia
Ch. 24 "My Son Is Drinking and Using Drugs": Alcoholism and drug abuse
Acknowledgments
Index
About the Authors
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