It Gets Better: Coming Out, Overcoming Bullying, and Creating a Life Worth Living

It Gets Better: Coming Out, Overcoming Bullying, and Creating a Life Worth Living

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by Dan Savage
     
 

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Every story can change a life.

Growing up isn't easy. Many young people face daily tormenting and bullying, and this is especially true for LGBT kids and teens. In response to a number of tragic suicides by LGBT students, syndicated columnist and author Dan Savage uploaded a video to YouTube with his partner, Terry Miller. Speaking openly about the

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Every story can change a life.

Growing up isn't easy. Many young people face daily tormenting and bullying, and this is especially true for LGBT kids and teens. In response to a number of tragic suicides by LGBT students, syndicated columnist and author Dan Savage uploaded a video to YouTube with his partner, Terry Miller. Speaking openly about the bullying they suffered, and how they both went on to lead rewarding adult lives, their video launched the It Gets Better Project YouTube channel and initiated a worldwide phenomenon.

It Gets Better is a collection of original essays and expanded testimonials written to teens from celebrities, political leaders, and everyday people, because while many LGBT teens can't see a positive future for themselves, we can.

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"Handpicked and heartfelt essays from contributors famous and obscure, gay and straight."
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"Handpicked and heartfelt essays from contributors famous and obscure, gay and straight." — Chicago Sun-Times

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Product Details

ISBN-13:
9780452297616
Publisher:
Penguin Publishing Group
Publication date:
01/25/2012
Pages:
352
Sales rank:
290,462
Product dimensions:
5.30(w) x 7.90(h) x 0.90(d)
Age Range:
18 Years

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Dan Savage is the editorial director of Seattle's weekly newspaper, The Stranger. Terry Miller is an event promoter, musician, and DJ. They were married in Canada and live in Seattle with their son, DJ.

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SeferSafari-Com More than 1 year ago
In response to the news of bullying and suicides, Savage and Miller made and uploaded a video 9/22/10 to tell teens it gets better. They expected 100 total videos. W/in 24 hours a second video was uploaded. In 3 days, there were over 200 videos; at the end of the week there were 1000. In week 4, President Obama has a video to upload. There are now more than 10,000 videos, and this is a printed form collection of over 110. The theme of the essays are why gay or questioning or outsider or bullied or any youth should not kill themselves or be self-destructive. It includes resources and suggestions. Contributors include Barack Obama, David Sedaris, Kate Clinton, Murray Hill, Bishop Gene Robinson, Ellen Degeneres, Tim Gunn, UK PM David Cameron, Hillary Clinton, Nancy Pelosi, Chaz Bono, Bruce Ortiz, PereZ Hilton, Alex Orue and many more. It also includes Jennifer Finney Boylan, a transgender woman who teaches at Colby in Maine, who writes about a post college incident where she drove to the literal edge of North America to end her life from a cliff; Gregory MaGuire, the author of "Wicked," as well as Kevin Yee, an actor in the Broadway musical based on the book, "Wicked," who in one of the funniest (and sad) essays, writes on his teen years in a boy band (Youth Asylum) in which the producers dyed his hair blond and tried to teach him to act more str8, wearing baggy pants, and mumble (their concept of str8). Urvashi Vaid (partner of Kate Clinton) writes about taking action in teens' lives; and Bishop Gene Robinson writes about god's love, religion, true religion, and how it gets not only better but continues to get better. Brinae Lois Gaudet in Wisconsin, just 1 year out of HS, writes about finding a safe zone in a college dorm (in high school, a local citizen forced his HS to remove "safe zone" signs). Alez R. Orve of Mexico City and Vancouver writes in Spanish about life in Mexico and Canada; Mark Ramirez (Anchorage) submitted an essay in ASL sign language; and another submitted an essay in Arabic. Lance Corporal James Wharton in London writes of life in the British Army and how he was married to his partner in his military barracks and was recently the cover pic and story of the UK's army magazine. Award winning novelist, Michael Cunningham, author of A Home At The End of the World, about a gay teen's crush on a straight friend, writes about confronting childhood friends and coming out on NPR; and Alison Bechtel submits a cartoon. In one essay, 22 Broadway actors tell snippets of their stories; while A. Y. Daring, a black lesbian and choreographer for Lady Gaga share hers. David Sedaris tells readers that people should keep journals, and that people who are good to you make lousy stories. The ones who are mean to you can be good essay characters. Jakes Shears (Jason Sellards) who with Scott Hoffman makes up the Scissor Sisters submits an essay on coming out at 15, being bullied very badly, and having the principal blame him for his own abuse (it was so bad, he moved schools), but finding a great life after graduation. There is a wide range of essays, and something for probably everyone to learn from.
zonde More than 1 year ago
Before reading this book I had heard about the It Gets Better project and looked forward to reading the essays. As a teacher I wanted to read this collection to help my students but I had no idea the impact it would have on me. This book is not just for LGBTQ kids and teens, but for anyone who is even a little different and was made to feel bad for it. I found these essays encouraging and insightful and in addition to making me feel better about my own past, they were just what I wanted for helping my students. The educator guide at the end was an extra treat and I cannot wait to keep spreading the message that it does get better. Read this collection and soak in the wisdom and love of the included authors and prepare to feel hopeful and inspired. Spread the word.
Anonymous 8 days ago
Hi! (Im not releasing my age but anyways). I used to agree with my dad and stepmom that being gay,lesbian,transgender etc. was bad but once i found out i was bi it all changed! Im not exactly sure what gender i like yet but i think im a lesbian but anyways. Once i found out i was different i still agree with my parents its wrong but its right to me! My patents are so afraid that my brother will be gay bevause hes little and plays with girl stuff sometimes but whats wrong too tbem is right to me! Im confusef i dont know! Pls give me advice somebody! Thanks.
Anonymous More than 1 year ago
OMG!!!!! Im 13 too. And ive recently discovered that im a lesbian. I think the best thing to do first is tell your absolute closest friend. Thats what i did and shes still my besr friend. She was the one i had a crush on too. Also you dont have to tell people if ur not ready. They will probably get hints here and there as time goes by anyway. I dont think u should worry too much about it. Things will happen when ur ready for bthem to happen.
Anonymous More than 1 year ago
Im bi maybe even straight out lesbian. Im 13 and i need help coming out to my parents. I dont know if they are gonna hate me or not. Parents are all different. If youave a coming out story or advice please respond to BFY -BFY
Anonymous More than 1 year ago
I know everyones like its wrong and the bible says not to do it. But the bible doesnt want you to do homossexual acts like just having sex to take advantage of the body in front of you. If god created us he knew whether we be straight or not if he knew we were gonna be gay why create us in the first place? He knew who we were gonna love. And we should love who we want regardless of gender. Im a christian and bi.
Anonymous More than 1 year ago
This girl at my school is bi and we r bestfriends every body has ther own opinions she is my bff and nobody talks crap about her cause she is black and stuff but every body liked her shes that girl who will stand up for u nmw ~ haters gona hate
Anonymous More than 1 year ago
Hahaha, you dirty homophobic scum. You actually think an internet famous gay teen is going to agree with you? Don't even try. If you think God doesn't love us: the Bible in no part says that being gay will make God no longer love you. It does say, though, that you should spread love, not hate. Gay people never make fun of heterosexual people for being straight. So why do that do us? What do you have against us? If you agree with me that straight people are more abnormal in agreement with the bible, post a review with the title #paytonisright. Post this on your Facebook, Twitter, and whatever else you have. Spread the word. Make sure everyone you know sees it. ~ Payton <3
Anonymous More than 1 year ago
Ive told a few friends that Im bi and I have a girlfriend but I dont know how to come out to my parents. They arent homophobic but my girlfriends parents are extremely homophobic. I dont want to get her in trouble. Im 13 so I dont think theyll take me seriously. I want them to know. Coming out stories and advice would bf helpful. Thanks, <3 Bekkah
Anonymous More than 1 year ago
When i was 8 i was introduced to porn then found gay porn and relized i liked that to i got cought several times on porn sites and then i met my older bros friend in boy scouts and we went out for awhile without anyone knowing then i moved and met my now best frend for life and she was bi and ecouraged me to come out of the closet and i started by dropping hints andthen i told my mom about my boy friend on acsedent when i was txting my friend about him then she told my dad and they were both fine with it andi found out my favorite unble is gay so that was an eventful day i hope this helps and i hope it workh out between u 2 <3 u
Anonymous More than 1 year ago
How bout come to me and i put this good lookin vagina on you and we have some crap sex
Anonymous More than 1 year ago
Listen if u think being gay bi lesbian ect makes u an 'abomination' becuase god hates fags then why are we here!? God created us just like u so dont hate just cuz he made us cuter ~Jasmine Lujan
Anonymous More than 1 year ago
Yupp don't judge m for who I am. Don't like it wait in line with the others.
Anonymous More than 1 year ago
To all you ppl who say ewww or bring the bible into this shut up you have no right to tell other ppl they cant love who they want to love who do you think you are god?
Anonymous More than 1 year ago
Dont go Tell people that being whatever they are is wrong. Thats just rude and sick in this context. Im Pansexual((meaning you dont have a sexual preference, you'll date anyone no matter trans bi lesbian gay etc)) But who cares wat other people preferences are?? Leave Lbgt People alone if you dont like them! "Homophobia isnt a phobia. You arent scared, youre just an as.s.hole" Morgan freeman
Anonymous More than 1 year ago
Im strait but i support yall all the way dont take any of crap from anybody stand up for who u are not who they want u to be tell me if u need anything RYLAND C
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Anonymous More than 1 year ago
Good for you... you can do it.
Anonymous More than 1 year ago
Thank you soo much though you may not know it your words help me stay strong
Anonymous More than 1 year ago
Yes i do have some.be strong.im still workin on coming out to my parents.but my advice would definitel be stay strong an stand up for ur sexuality.
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Anonymous More than 1 year ago
To anyone who needs help deciding whether or not to tel anyone just talk to ur best friend thts what i did. Or a guidance councilor. Its was the hardest thing in the world for me to do. But i feel so much beter doingir. Just know tht people wont always agree with u. But be strong dont give up!!!
Anonymous More than 1 year ago
And it is to true, how can i help? I am a bisexual teen. I wanna come out of the shadows. Im afrid though, of being more judged than i am, i just want to be me. If you know a way to help me,let me know. Otherwise,i wiljust be bitterly alone Bree
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Jamie Greenley More than 1 year ago
Great for all teens who have been or are being bullied! For parents of bullied teens. Things do get better. You are loved. AWESOME READ.