From the Publisher
“…each chapter is packed with invaluable, uncensored advice on absolutely everything..a must for baby shower and new mom gifts.” Bookpage
“…written for all mothers. Whether pregnant...or a seasoned mom interested in hearing motherhood talked about REALISTICALLY, this book is great!” An Island Life
"Let me tell you, this book is a such a fun read! It is full of hilarious information, that can only be the truth.” My Organized Chaos
“Any momnew or experiencedwill enjoy Wolk's take on everything from managing sleep issues to making work ‘work’…laugh-out-loud funny and thought-provoking.” Cincinnati Parent
“…offers down-to-earth guidance on everything new mothers need to know…a ton of tips…to help ease the transition into parenthood.” Atlanta Parent
“…written by the mother of three, this book is full of humor and practical tips for surviving motherhood.” Foreword magazine
“With humor and compassion, Wolk is straightforward about how baby alters, but doesn’t have to completely transform, your life.” She Knows Pregnancy and Baby
“With its sass, blunt honesty and wit, “It Gets Easier!” reads more like a girlfriend’s insider secrets to adapting to life after becoming a new mom.” The Intelligencer
“It Gets Easier…and Other Lies We Tell New Mothers, is a breath of fresh air compared to many of the standard new mom/parenting books on the market.” parentplace.com
Read an Excerpt
When I started this project, I was going to write what a called the comprehensive guide for the new mother. The book was going to cover all topics relating to motherhood:
pregnancy, labor and delivery, recovery, and surviving being at home. I began writing this book when my firstborn son was a baby. That was fourteen years ago. At that time I had looked for a manual to help prepare me for motherhood and all that it entails. a couldn’t find it. Of course, these days there are thousands of books available on the subject.
As I wrote mine, I tended to spend more time on some topics than on others. It turned out that I wasn’t interested in writing the comprehensive guide after all. I felt that I had some great tips for being in the hospital and tips for labor and delivery, but I seemed to spend more time on what happens after you have a baby. As a wrote more, I tended to write about the “motherhood experience,”
and specifically as it relates to women of my generation.
I do not presume to speak for all women. We each have different thoughts and feelings regarding this experience we call motherhood.
The fact remains, though, that much about caring for babies has not changed. Taking care of a baby these days is not very different from taking care of one years ago. Taking care of school-aged children is another matter; that is very different. The women of my generation needed solutions — and I realized that I wanted at least some of those solutions to come from the women who’ve successfully done this before us.
The “baby” topics I’ve covered are the ones that seem most essential to me: scheduling, getting the baby to sleep through the night, and dealing with the negative feelings about mothering that so few people talk about. The other baby-related discussion topics are all the nitty-gritty practical tips for the hospital and making it through those first few months. These are all the tips a wished I’d been fully equipped with before I ever made my first trip to a delivery room.
This experience of motherhood can be a lonely one. Women are afraid to broach many of the subjects on their minds for fear of being labeled a “bad” mother. Feeding on demand. Negative feelings about the new baby. Lack of sleep. Naptimes. Housework.
To work or not to work? It can all prove overwhelming.
What women today want the most, I believe, is answers.
This generation of mothers is so busy that they want to know what works and they are not afraid to try new things. New mothers want to flourish in their lives. Many may want to continue in their careers. All certainly want to continue to look and feel good, and they all want to continue to have good relationships with their spouses. I felt women needed a few tried and true tips and some direction to do more than survive this life stage called motherhood.
In order to uncover these tips, I interviewed hundreds of women and (some) men from the East Coast to the West Coast. a asked questions of anyone who would talk to me — friends and friends of friends, neighbors, family members, my mother a my mother-in-law, my mother’s friends, women on playgrounds a and strangers on planes. Their insights as well as my personal experiences and research are in this book, along with a dash of humor — because we all know that humor can be that spoonful of sugar that makes the medicine go down, even if it is not easy.
Excerpted from IT GETS EASIER!... And Other Lies We Tell New Mothers by Claudine Wolk. Copyright © 2008, 2009 by Claudine Wolk. Published by AMACOM Books, a division of American Management Association, New York, NY. Used with permission. All rights reserved. http://www.amacombooks.org.