Introduction: What Grandmother Said 1
My Grandmother's Secret Recipe of Life: 16-36-66 Principle
Part I Age 16
Chapter 1 Ego and the Contracts It Makes with Itself 7
Domestication
The Baseball Mitt
The Power of Words
Nancy
A Positive Example
The Cult of Domestication
Limiting Yourself
Labels
Chapter 2 Domestication, a Closer Look 25
Don't Waste Your Energy
Know Who You Are
The Environment of Domestication
Self-Judgment
The Contracts You Make
Chapter 3 The Two Doors: Fear Versus Love 35
Fear, the Frantic Voice
Love, the Quiet Voice
Chapter 4 Sin 43
A New Definition of Sin
An Improved Definition of Sin
Sins We Commit
Chapter 5 Perception 51
Act from a State of Presence
Do Not Take It Personally
Your Perception about Yourself
Your Perceptions Are Not Your Own
Changing Perceptions: Lose the Critical Spirit
Chapter 6 Giving It Your All 65
Why Give 100 Percent When 70 Percent Will Do?
Do Not Be a Clock-Watcher
Marriage
Contrast
Part 2 Age 36
Chapter 7 Choosing a Career 14
Did You Choose Your Career or Did Your Career Choose You?
Scripts You Are Fed
Taking Control
A Personal Story
Career Choices to Make if You Are a Teen or Young Adult
How to Find Your Archetype
Career Choices to Make if You Are a Parent of a Teen
Chapter 8 Lifestyle by Design 95
How Do You Approach Life Situations?
Do You Choose Life or Does Life Choose You?
Would You Give a Four-Year-Old a $100 Bill?
Is Choosing Against All Odds Madness?
You Are Enough
Chapter 9 The Power of Words 105
Becoming Gossip-Resistant
Intentional Spell-Casting
Gossip by the Group
Your Internal Axiom
Chapter 10 It Is Never about You, It Is Always about Them 115
Subjective Reality
Guilt
Chapter 11 Presumptions of the Ego 123
We Believe What We Presume
Do not Assume
Justifying the Ego
Negotiating a Relationship
Chapter 12 Marriage and Responsibilities 133
Practical Love
Problem Patterns in a Marriage
It Is OK to Love Yourself First
A Word about Sex
Responsibilities and Children
Part 3 Age 66
Chapter 13 Grandmother's Advice on Living an Optimal Life 145
The Six Golden Saviors
Optimism
Unlearning Optimism
Purpose
Goals
Action
Courage
Humility and Graciousness
Ways to Practice Humility and Graciousness
Chapter 14 Final Thoughts and Conclusions 159
The Pain Body
Find Your True Consciousness
Your Call-to-Action:
The Answer to the Question
About The Author: Peter Baksa on Giving Back 169
Notes 175
Dr_J_Baker
Posted October 9, 2011
Fantastically well written, colorful, easy to read, and understand what typically is a complex topic. Book paves the way for helping make great decisions, that lead to a complex interesting life. Great organizational format for easy reading. It is funny, insightful writing that points to a message that is so powerful it will change your life. I know it did mine. If you are a parent of a teen this is an absolute must read! If you are struggling with life's complexity and need help navigating - check out this book to help you make great decisions and lead you to the most successful happy life possible.
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Posted October 25, 2011
My sister gave me this book after she ranted on about how amazing it was, and I definitely have to agree with her! Ever since I was a child, I've been trying to seek the approval of people, even putting others ahead of myself, and Peter Baksa teaches me that this is a horribly repetitive cycle that only I can stop. He shows
you real life examples of how you can stop this and also stop seeking the approval of others. Great read!
Andersdk
Posted October 25, 2011
WOW! As someone who has major self esteem issues and always worries about what others perceive of me, I was truly blown away by how helpful this book was. The author really shows you how you start at such a young age at trying to get the approval of others, and he also clearly states that the only solution to end this problem, is for you to stop it yourself. You don't have to have a self-esteem issue in order to get something from this book - I suggest it as your next read!
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Posted October 25, 2011
This book was very interesting. The author discusses various concepts and discussed how at such a young age, we begin to develop, as he states it, "contracts" between our ego and other aspects, such as your parents. So when you get older, you feel you need to seek the approval of your parents based on these contracts. Although it's great to seek the approval of your parents, sometimes it can really bring the spirits of individuals down. So you need to find your healthy point. Overall, a great read.
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Posted October 25, 2011
This book was very interesting. The author discusses various concepts and discussed how at such a young age, we begin to develop, as he states it, "contracts" between our ego and other aspects, such as your parents. So when you get older, you feel you need to seek the approval of your parents based on these contracts. Although it's great to seek the approval of your parents, sometimes it can really bring the spirits of individuals down. So you need to find your healthy point. Overall, a great read.
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