Juggling Twins: The Best Tips, Tricks, and Strategies from Pregnancy to the Toddler Years

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"Practical advice and a healthy dose of humor—this book has exactly what parents need to help them survive and thrive with multiples. Recommended reading for all mothers of twins."
Deborah Platek, MD, Director of Maternal Fetal Medicine, Harvard Vanguard Medical Associates

The best twin-tested tips used by real moms

The stresses that come with raising two babies are numerous - but they are predictable and ...

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Overview

"Practical advice and a healthy dose of humor—this book has exactly what parents need to help them survive and thrive with multiples. Recommended reading for all mothers of twins."
Deborah Platek, MD, Director of Maternal Fetal Medicine, Harvard Vanguard Medical Associates

The best twin-tested tips used by real moms

The stresses that come with raising two babies are numerous - but they are predictable and manageable. From a mom who's been there, Juggling Twins is a funny, realistic, and reassuring guide for every new mom of twins who may be asking herself, "Can I really pull this off?"

From pregnancy to health issues, to eating, sleeping, bathing, and leaving the house, Juggling Twins is packed with the detailed, authoritative information that parents of multiples crave. Author and mother of twin boys Meghan Regan-Loomis offers an indispensable toolkit of solutions and techniques, designed to create order out of the chaos and help you catch your breath during this daunting and exhilarating time.

You'll learn how to:

  • Nurse two babies at the same time, comfortably and efficiently
  • Get exactly the help you need from family and friends in those first few weeks
  • Safely transport two babies at once when it's just you and them
  • Survive the nights by breaking them into shifts (that include you sleeping)
  • Stockpile the right food and supplies in advance of their arrival
  • Maintain your identity and your marriage through the madness

Get prepared, stay calm, and count your blessings (two!)—raising twins can be a wonderful, intense challenge that draws on the best in you.

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Product Details

  • ISBN-13: 9781402214059
  • Publisher: Sourcebooks, Incorporated
  • Publication date: 10/1/2008
  • Pages: 336
  • Sales rank: 195,209
  • Product dimensions: 5.90 (w) x 8.90 (h) x 0.90 (d)

Meet the Author

When Meghan Regan-Loomis discovered that she was pregnant with twins, she searched fruitlessly for the book that would explain how to manage the logistics and challenges of caring for two babies at once. Discovering that it didn't yet exist, she vowed that she would figure out the answers and one day write the book herself. A veteran high school English teacher, she specializes in American literature, Shakespeare, Milton, and, more recently, How to Burp Two Babies at Once. A competitive tennis player who received her undergraduate degree from Kenyon College, she lives near Boston with her family.

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Excerpt from Chapter 1: Getting Them Close to Term

In my twin travels since having our boys, I have met so many families with multiples who have moving, sometimes tragic, sometimes nearly heroic stories about childbirth: the setting is usually the NICU, and the protagonists, two or three tiny babies who come much too early. Neonatal care has become astoundingly effective, and many of these stories now end happily after a frightening start and much arduous effort. But even when all seems well after the crisis period of weeks or months in the hospital, the lingering tragedy of the hidden harm produced by an early birth remains, and the eventual emergence of these problems is a slow drip of agonized worry and coping over years, whether the problems are as mild as slight learning differences or as severe as cerebral palsy.

It is a difficult project for a woman's body, be it twenty-four years old or forty-three years old, to grow more than one baby at once and take them to term. Actually, it's a pretty tall order to do so with one baby. As common as having multiples is becoming, it is tempting for us to think that because everyone seems to be doing it, it must be a reasonable proposition. But in spite of the numbers of us having twins or more, it remains a daunting task right from the first trimester. While it obviously can be done, it is worthwhile to bear in mind that we weren't truly designed to make two at a time. We cannot simply assume that our bodies will figure out what needs to be done and obligingly provide, regardless of the level of our more conscious efforts.

Dr. Barbara Luke's book, When You're Expecting Twins, Triplets, or Quads (coauthored with Tamara Eberlein, published by Harper Collins, 1999), is a great resource for helping to ensure a healthy multiple pregnancy and delivery. When I was pregnant, we read it, re-read it, highlighted it, re-re-read, and marked important passages with stickies. It was completely dog-eared by the end of my pregnancy. In a nutshell, the author, who is a prominent researcher in prenatal nutritional issues, argues for the importance of substantial maternal weight gain in order to bring multiples to term. But please don't be contented with the nutshell version. Go get the book.

Eat More and Slow Down
The truth is that you can do a lot to increase your chances of getting your babies to term. Ironically, the most important elements to success are two ideas that have become completely counterintuitive for the modern western woman: to eat more and to slow down. Very quickly, you need to reorient your thinking so that you can see weight gain and rest as good things, even if they have been your tacit enemies since adolescence. The concept of needing more rest when gestating two babies would seem self-evident at some level, and yet most of us are so accustomed to catapulting ourselves through hectic, overscheduled days and into evenings of re-grouping, bill paying, housecleaning, and scheduling tomorrow's madness that "rest" or "slowing down" means doing all that except, perhaps, the dishes. It's difficult for us to imagine how life would proceed if we truly eliminated or lessened the activities that fill our days. The dry cleaning can't get itself. That disgusting bathtub won't self-clean. One ought to pay one's bills. Right? Sort of.

Yes, life goes on. But your contributions to operations of the household must, must, must be diminished, and this is true even if you love being pregnant and have never felt better in your life. This is not simply a remedy for the suffering. It is a preemptive measure that will help ensure the babies' health. You need to rest every day, and at times of the day that would normally embarrass you as indulgences. This means a nap after lunch, or as soon as you get home from work, and an early—as in right after dinner—bedtime, even if you lie in bed and read for hours before sleeping. Even if you feel capable of pushing harder and getting more done, don't. If you wait until you are totally beat and aching to rest, you have waited too long. It's like getting an oil change for the car: if you can feel a difference in your drive afterward, you waited too long. This is preventative rest, not restorative rest. And someone else will simply have to pick up the slack on everything else from bathtub scrubbing to board meetings. You will probably be surprised to see how much more adaptable others are to your new status as a slug, compared to you yourself. Give yourself permission to give these babies the best chance they can have, knowing that it involves some sacrifices.

Reality Check
Research points repeatedly to rest and nutrition as crucial in determining the health of twin babies. Yet as convinced as I was by the logic of this research, I still struggled with the notion of pursuing a substantial weight gain. That is, at the same time that I was willingly and healthfully gaining seventy pounds over thirty-nine weeks, I was simultaneously sickened by the thought that perhaps I would only lose, say, eleven pounds of it. I had a hard time believing faithfully in my being able to lose that much, having struggled with my weight in the past. This was a strange emotional position to occupy: half of my brain saying, "Eat. Eat!" and the other half saying, "Oh Lord, will I weigh over two hundred pounds for the rest of my life?" The answer for me was no; in fact, I weigh less now than I have since high school. (My high school friends will tell you that this isn't terribly impressive, which is just one of the many reasons I no longer hang out with them…but you see my point, right?) Gaining more weight than your entire body weighed in fourth grade needs to become a goal, not a dread.

Eat as much healthful, protein-filled, vitamin-packed food as you can manage. And then eat more. And then take a nap. There are all sorts of reasons that multiples sometimes come early, so it is simply incorrect and unfair to surmise that a mother of preemies didn't do everything she could to get those babies to term. At the same time, eating and sleeping are two behaviors that you can control that will help to give your babies the best possible chance they have to stay where they belong until they are fully cooked. As we used to say during my third trimester: in spite of the aching back and sleep disturbances, they are much, much easier to take care of while they're still inside you.

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Table of Contents

Acknowledgments
Preface: Everywhere You Look

Part I: Pregnancy: On Your Mark, Get Set
Chapter 1: Getting Them Close to Term
Chapter 2: The Diaper Party
Chapter 3: Begging, Borrowing, and Stealing
Chapter 4: Gathering the Troops (Your Helpers)
Chapter 5: Organizing the Household
Chapter 6: The Stuff: What You'll Really Need
Chapter 7: To Minivan or Not to Minivan?
Chapter 8: Naming Two
Chapter 9: Thinking Ahead to Day Care and Work Issues

Part II: The First Month
Chapter 10: Life with Two Newborns
Chapter 11: The Daily Chart
Chapter 12: Feeding Two Newborns
Chapter 13: On Schedule or On Demand?
Chapter 14: Coping with the Nights (To Sleep, Perchance to Scream)
Chapter 15: Managing the Serfs
Chapter 16: Preemie Primer
Chapter 17: Keeping Mom Healthy (and Sane)
Chapter 18: How to Get In and Out of Your Car and Other Things You Thought You Already Knew How to Do

Part III: Weeks Four to Twelve
Chapter 19: Sleeping and Eating: Holdin' It Together Still Ain't Easy
Chapter 20: Time to Get Out of the House
Chapter 21: Life in the Fat Lane
Chapter 22: "Hey! I Was Here First!"—Sibling Rivalry
Chapter 23: Double the Guilt

Part IV: Months Four to Six: Okay, They Can Stay
Chapter 24: Table for Two
Chapter 25: Sleep Training Two…Or Not
Chapter 26: One Sick, Two Sick (Three Sick, Four)
Chapter 27: Twinproofing the House
Chapter 28: Traveling with Twins

Part V: Months Seven to Twelve: Breathing Again
Chapter 29: Dining at Animal House
Chapter 30: Napping Nightmares (Yours, Not Theirs)
Chapter 31: Talk, Talk, Talk: Language Acquisition and Twins
Chapter 32: Life in the Fat Lane Redux: Time to Get Off the Couch
Chapter 33: Raising Two Individuals

Part VI: Toddlers and Beyond: Herd Mentality
Chapter 34: Getting Out as a Herd
Chapter 35: Potty Training Two
Chapter 36: Twins and the Single Mother
Chapter 37: Having More (No, Seriously!)
Conclusion: Pressing the Pause Button

Resources
Index
About the Author

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  • Posted December 28, 2008

    Master Twin Juggler

    This is a VERY practical book- lots of tips that you can really use!<BR/>In addition it is FUNNY!! And if there's one thing one needs with twins, it's laughter to recharge!!<BR/>Buy more than one as you'll not want to lend yours out but will want to give to others, even those with only one babe at a time!

    3 out of 3 people found this review helpful.

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  • Posted October 20, 2008

    Twins no longer need to be 2-much!

    A great read for new parents of twins! This book provides great common sense solutions to the seemingly endless challenges of raising two at once.

    2 out of 2 people found this review helpful.

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  • Anonymous

    Posted October 1, 2008

    Incredibly practical - highly recommend!

    Every parent of multiples should read this book! Very helpful on all fronts and upbeat. Well organized and a great resource.

    2 out of 2 people found this review helpful.

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  • Anonymous

    Posted October 1, 2008

    Love it!!

    Meghan's down to earth attitude really shows in this excellent book - can't wait for the teen years!!

    2 out of 2 people found this review helpful.

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  • Anonymous

    Posted October 8, 2008

    Great resource

    Lots of great information for new parents of twins. Very well written.

    1 out of 1 people found this review helpful.

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  • Posted September 23, 2010

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    Good read

    This books addresses the stress & happiness of twin life... and parenting. It is honest about the stress and strain it can put on you as woman, wife and mother. I have twin girls and this made me feel it was o.k. to feel what I am feeling... some of the other books only address the wonderfulness that is motherhood and sometimes, you don't feel that way. I would recommend this book whole heartily.

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  • Anonymous

    Posted May 25, 2010

    Very True

    We have 2 twin newborns under 12 weeks at home and this book has described our life very accurately. I wish we had purchased this book earlier. What others have described as negativity or sarcasm is an accurate description of the discipline and sense of humor required to survive the first few months with 2 very needy newborns at home. The book contains practical tips for new parents and contains solutions for people at all income ranges. The takeaways: Try to prepare, demand help from family and friends, be disciplined with your kids and yourself and try to laugh.

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  • Posted March 19, 2009

    would not recommend this book

    I found this book to be very cynical and impractical. I think that the joy of pregnancy and motherhood is completely over looked by this book that constantly suggests that you use everyone who cares about you for manual labor and you have to become a nazi to survive raising twins. The book also assumes that you will be in a position to hire additional help, such as a night time nanny or a full time assistant. It also made me feel that trying to raise my babies with just my husband was completely naive and impractical, but I am pretty sure that there are plenty of families who can raise their children lovingly and effectively as a family.

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