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Just Add Hormones: An Insider's Guide to the Transsexual Experience
     

Just Add Hormones: An Insider's Guide to the Transsexual Experience

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by Matt Kailey
 

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Matt Kailey lived as a straight woman for the first forty-two years of his life. Though happy as a social worker and teacher, he knew something wasn't right. Then he made some changes. With the help of a good therapist, chest surgery, and some strong doses of testosterone, Kailey began his journey toward becoming a man.

As his body morphed and his voice dropped,

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Matt Kailey lived as a straight woman for the first forty-two years of his life. Though happy as a social worker and teacher, he knew something wasn't right. Then he made some changes. With the help of a good therapist, chest surgery, and some strong doses of testosterone, Kailey began his journey toward becoming a man.

As his body morphed and his voice dropped, Kailey began noticing subtle shifts in the way he was treated. Men suddenly stopped offering to change flat tires for him but insisted on talking to him about women and bodily functions. Women got nervous when he baby-talked to their infants but routinely asked him to move heavy things around the office. In these everyday exchanges, Kailey recognized the many ways we define what it means to be male. He also realized that, with few role models, he had to learn to accept himself as a person between two genders.

As he writes about his transition from female to male, Kailey answers all the questions you've ever had about what it's like to live as a transsexual. From the fear of public restrooms to deciding whether to "pack" his pants, Kailey explains what the world looks like from his new vantage point-a position more people are discovering as gender transitions become increasingly common.

More than a memoir, Just Add Hormones is full of sound advice for those who may be questioning their gender. And through his story, Kailey offers valuable insights to the families and friends of those who have started a transition.

Funny, fresh, and incredibly candid, Just Add Hormones can help us all consider-and even laugh at-our own notions of what it means to be a man or a woman.

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Kirkus Reviews
Not only a navigational aid for any woman contemplating gender change by one who's been there, but a heartfelt plea for mainstream American society to understand, accept and support gender diversity. Kailey was born a girl, but after 42 years of feeling out of place in a female body underwent gender reassignment. In his case, this meant chest surgery and testosterone injections, but not genital surgery. He reveals very little of his first four decades but is astonishingly open about the transition period and his present life as a self-styled "gay transman." (The designation "gay" signifies that he is attracted to men since his sexual orientation remains the same as when he was a female, and the prefix "trans" indicates that he is not truly a man since he lacks male genitals.) Going bare-chested in public, having to change his car's tire without help for the first time, trying out a fake phallus, getting rebuffed in the Internet romance game, using a public men's room, going to a gynecologist for an annual Pap test, attending a conference with hundreds of other female-to-male transsexuals-Kailey describes all with frankness, and by engaging his reader with honesty and a touch of humor, he makes his life seem less alien than it might first appear to the straight world. In Kailey's ideal society, there's a place for every sexual persuasion-straight, gay, lesbian, transsexual and the intersexed-and the only way such a world can come about, he believes, is if people like himself speak up and show everyone who they are. If educating the public means sacrificing his privacy, Kailey seems willing to go far to get his message of tolerance out. An eye-opener, sometimes shocking but never smutty.
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Parts of Just Add Hormones dwell, wittily, on the author's own experiences . . . other chapters offer a cheeky insider's discussion of pesky pronouns, pants-packing, bathroom blues, and on-the-job jitters. But the real worth of Just Add Hormones stems from its thoughtful analysis-at times philosophical, at times political, and at times polemical-of a life-changing decision.--Richard Labonte, Q Syndicate

"A heartfelt plea for mainstream American society to understand, accept and support gender diversity . . . Kailey describes all with frankness, engaging his reader with honesty and a touch of humor."
-Kirkus Reviews

"This book is a natural for the gender issues shelves."
-Booklist

"Anyone who has ever contemplated, is just curious about, or finds him or herself in the midst of gender transformation will appreciate and applaud this extraordinary, comprehensive journal. Both informative and quite fascinating, Kailey delivers his life story with a compassionate eye and a true heart."--Jim Piechota, Bay Area Reporter

"This is the perfect primer for those of us with transsexual friends and loved ones, those on their own path of self-discovery, and those who simply have questions about it all. For all of us, Kailey has the answers." --Michael Thomas Ford, author of My Big, Fat, Queer Life

"Just Add Hormones successfully transcends the great gender divide. It has a little something for everyone, no matter your gender or lack of one. Matt Kailey paints an accurate and entertaining landscape of transsexual life."--Kate Bornstein, author of My Gender Workbook

Product Details

ISBN-13:
9780807079584
Publisher:
Beacon
Publication date:
06/15/2005
Pages:
184
Product dimensions:
5.70(w) x 8.70(h) x 0.75(d)

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From the Publisher
Parts of Just Add Hormones dwell, wittily, on the author's own experiences . . . other chapters offer a cheeky insider's discussion of pesky pronouns, pants-packing, bathroom blues, and on-the-job jitters. But the real worth of Just Add Hormones stems from its thoughtful analysis-at times philosophical, at times political, and at times polemical-of a life-changing decision.—Richard Labonte, Q Syndicate

"A heartfelt plea for mainstream American society to understand, accept and support gender diversity . . . Kailey describes all with frankness, engaging his reader with honesty and a touch of humor."
-Kirkus Reviews

"This book is a natural for the gender issues shelves."
-Booklist

"Anyone who has ever contemplated, is just curious about, or finds him or herself in the midst of gender transformation will appreciate and applaud this extraordinary, comprehensive journal. Both informative and quite fascinating, Kailey delivers his life story with a compassionate eye and a true heart."—Jim Piechota, Bay Area Reporter

"This is the perfect primer for those of us with transsexual friends and loved ones, those on their own path of self-discovery, and those who simply have questions about it all. For all of us, Kailey has the answers." —Michael Thomas Ford, author of My Big, Fat, Queer Life

"Just Add Hormones successfully transcends the great gender divide. It has a little something for everyone, no matter your gender or lack of one. Matt Kailey paints an accurate and entertaining landscape of transsexual life."—Kate Bornstein, author of My Gender Workbook

Meet the Author

Matt Kailey is an author, journalist, public speaker, and female-to-male transsexual. A former social worker, he now writes and speaks on issues of gender and sexuality. Kailey lives in Denver, Colorado.

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Just Add Hormones: An Insider's Guide to the Transsexual Experience 4.5 out of 5 based on 0 ratings. 6 reviews.
Anonymous 4 months ago
I am a trans male and was looking for a book to help me with my transition. This was honestly the perfect match. The author frames every issue with maturity, compassion, sophistication, and even humor. Nothing is sugarcoated, and he might not say the things you want to hear (difficulties, expectations etc), but you will be glad you listened. The book is well organized, inspirational, practical, and informative. It characterizes transgender identity in a relatable no-nonsense way. In some ways it is outdated, but it is not like that is a bad thing, illustrating how far the LGBT+ community has come, but also how far we have left to go. With sage and helpful advice coming from a place of practicality and compassion, I recommend this book to transgender individuals as well as families who wish to gain accurate perspective of ftm transitioning from physical and emotional vantage points.
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Jack Dredge-Abercrombie More than 1 year ago
I loved this book. As a young trans man it filled me with optmism. It wa a short book and I wasn't sure it would be worth the $9.99 I payed for it. Boy, was I wrong.
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