Kiss That Frog!: 12 Great Ways to Turn Negatives into Positives in Your Life and Work

Kiss That Frog!: 12 Great Ways to Turn Negatives into Positives in Your Life and Work

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by Brian Tracy, Christina Stein

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Just like the lonely princess in the fairy tale who was reluctant to lock lips with a warty frog and transform him into a handsome prince, something stops many of us short of attaining our dreams. Our negative thoughts, emotions, and attitudes can threaten to keep us from achieving all that we’re capable of. Here bestselling author and speaker Brian Tracy and


Just like the lonely princess in the fairy tale who was reluctant to lock lips with a warty frog and transform him into a handsome prince, something stops many of us short of attaining our dreams. Our negative thoughts, emotions, and attitudes can threaten to keep us from achieving all that we’re capable of. Here bestselling author and speaker Brian Tracy and his daughter, therapist Christina Tracy Stein, provide a set of practical, proven strategies anyone can use to turn those negative frogs into positive princes.

Tracy and Stein present a step-by-step plan that addresses the root causes of negativity, helps you uncover blocks that have become mental obstacles, and shows how you can transform them into stepping-stones to achieve your fullest potential. The book distills, in an accessible and immediately useful form, what Tracy has presented in more than 5,000 talks and seminars with more than five million people in fifty-eight countries and what Stein has learned through thousands of hours of counseling people from all walks of life.

“There is nothing either good or bad, but thinking makes it so,” the authors quote Shakespeare. The many powerful techniques and exercises in this book will help you change your mindset so that you discover something worthwhile in every person and experience, however difficult and challenging they might seem at first. You’ll learn how to develop unshakable self-confidence, become your best self, and begin living an extraordinary life.

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“The moment Brian shared with me the message of his new book, I knew I had to have it, read it, and share it with my friends. I recommend you buy this book, read it, and use it—because a happier, more joyful life is just a few hours away.”
—David Bach, #1 New York Times bestselling author of The Automatic Millionaire and founder of

“Don’t let the funny title fool you—Kiss That Frog! could change your life. Let Brian Tracy and Christina Tracy Stein help you let go of negative thoughts that may be controlling your day-to-day attitude more than you realize. Read this book and step into a more positive future!”
—Ken Blanchard, coauthor of The One Minute Manager® and Lead with LUV

“Brian promised that his book with the icky title would show me new ways of overcoming fears, to clear my mind of unwanted memories, and to move forward toward my dreams with forgiveness and positivity. So I kissed that frog. And it wasn’t all that bad. Actually, it was excellent. I recommend that you kiss that frog, too.”
—Robert G. Allen, author of the bestsellers Creating Wealth and Multiple Streams of Income and coauthor of The One Minute Millionaire

“A timely book that helps us focus on finding the good in another person or situation rather than finding faults or flaws. I especially liked the ‘Now Do This’ tips that help transform the book’s concepts into tangible behaviors. This book should be required reading for everyone!”
—Dr. Tony Alessandra, Hall of Fame motivational speaker, coauthor of The Platinum Rule, and author of Charisma

“Kiss That Frog shows you how to release your unlimited potential for successful living.”
—T. Harv Eker, author of #1 New York Times bestseller Secrets of the Millionaire Mind

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Kiss That Frog!

12 Great Ways to Turn Negatives into Positives in Your Life and Work
By Brian Tracy Christina Tracy Stein

Berrett-Koehler Publishers, Inc.

Copyright © 2012 Brian Tracy and Christina Tracy Stein
All right reserved.

ISBN: 978-1-60994-280-9

Chapter One

Seven Truths About You

Your natural state is to be happy, peaceful, joyous, and full of excitement at being alive. In this natural state you wake up each morning eager to start the day. You feel wonderful about yourself and your relationships with the people in your life. You enjoy your work and derive a great sense of satisfaction from making a contribution that makes a difference. Your primary goal should be to organize your life in such a way that this is how you feel most of the time.

As a fully functioning, fully mature adult, you should be doing things every day that move you toward the fulfillment of your potential. You should feel grateful for all your blessings in every area. If you are unhappy or dissatisfied in any part of your life, something is not right in your thoughts, feelings, or actions, and it needs to be corrected.

The starting point in un locking your full potential is to realize that you already are a prince or princess, deep down inside.

No matter where you are today, or what you have done or not done in the past, you need to accept seven essential truths about you as a person:

1. You are a thoroughly good and excellent person; valuable and worthwhile beyond measure. No one is better than you or more gifted than you.

Only when you doubt your essential goodness and value do you begin to question yourself. The inability to accept that you are a good person lies at the root of much of your discontent.

2. You are important, in many, many ways. To start with, you are important to yourself. Your personal universe revolves around you as an individual. You give meaning to everything that you see or hear. Nothing in your world has any significance except for the significance that you attribute to it.

You are also important to your parents. Your birth was a significant moment in their lives, and as you grew up, almost everything you did was meaningful to them. You are important to your own family, to your partner or spouse, your children, and the other members of your social circle. Some of the things you do or say have an enormous impact on them.

You are important to your company, your customers, your coworkers, and your community. The things you do or don't do can have a tremendous effect on the lives and work of others.

How important you feel largely determines the quality of your life. Happy, successful people feel important and valuable. Because they feel and act this way, it be comes true for them.

Unhappy, frustrated people feel unimportant and of little value. They feel frustrated and unworthy. They feel "I'm not good enough," and as a result they lash out at the world and engage in behaviors that hurt themselves and others.

They don't realize that they could be a prince or princess inside.

3. You have unlimited potential and the ability to create your life and your world as you desire. You could not use your entire potential if you lived one hundred lifetimes.

No matter what you have accomplished up to now, it is merely a hint of what is truly possible for you. And the more of your natural talents and abilities you develop in the present, the more of your potential you can develop in the future.

Your belief in your almost unlimited potential is the key to becoming everything you are truly capable of becoming.

4. You create your world in every respect by the way you think and the depth of your convictions. Your beliefs actually create your realities, and every belief you have about yourself you learned, starting in infancy. The amazing thing is that most of the negative or self-limiting beliefs and doubts that interfere with your happiness and success are not based on fact or reality at all.

When you begin to question your self-limiting beliefs and develop beliefs consistent with the incredible person you really are, your life will begin to change almost immediately.

5. You are always free to choose the content of your thoughts and the direction of your life. The one thing over which you have complete control is your inner life and your thinking. You can decide to think happy, fulfilling, up-lifting thoughts that lead to positive actions and results. Or you can, by default, end up choosing negative, self-limiting thoughts that trip you up and hold you back.

Your mind is like a garden: if you do not deliberately cultivate flowers, weeds will grow automatically without any effort on your part. If you do not deliberately plant and cultivate positive thoughts, negative thoughts will grow in their place.

This simple metaphor about the garden explains why so many people are unhappy and don't know why.

6. You are put on this earth with a great destiny: you are meant to do something wonderful with your life. You have a unique combination of talents, abilities, ideas, insights, and experiences that make you different from anyone who has ever lived. You are designed for success and engineered for greatness.

Your acceptance or nonacceptance of this point largely determines the size of the goals you set, your power of persistence in the face of adversity, the height of your achievements, and the whole direction of your life.

7. There are no limits to what you can do, be, or have except the limits you place on your own thinking and your own imagination. The biggest enemies you will ever face are your own doubts and fears. These are usually negative beliefs, not necessarily based on fact, that you have accepted over the years until you no longer question them.

As Shakespeare wrote in The Tempest, "What's past is prologue." Everything that has happened to you in the past has been a preparation for the wonderful life that lies ahead of you in the future.

Remember the rule: It doesn't matter where you're coming from; all that really matters is where you're going.

Michelangelo's David

In the Gallery of the Academy in Florence, Italy, stands the David, by Michelangelo, considered by many to be the most beautiful piece of sculpture in the world.

It is said that later in his life, Michelangelo was once asked how he was able to sculpt something so beautiful. He explained that he was walking to his studio one morning and he happened to glance down a side street to where a huge block of marble, brought down from the mountains some years ago, was lying, overgrown with grass and bushes.

He had walked this way many times, but this time, he stopped and examined the huge block of marble, walking around it several times. Suddenly, he realized that this was exactly what he had been seeking to create the statue that had been commissioned. He had the block brought to his studio, where he worked on it for almost four years to create the David.

As legend has it, he said later, "I saw the David in the block of marble at the very beginning. My sole job from then on was to remove everything that was not the David, until only perfection was left."

This Is Your Story

In the same sense, you may be like the David imprisoned in the marble. The great goal of your life is to remove all those fears, doubts, insecurities, negative emotions, and false beliefs that hold you back until what remains is only the very best person you could possibly be.

Your job is to "kiss that frog" and find the positive elements that exist within every situation, to deliberately turn every negative into a positive, and to unleash the "handsome prince" in your own life.

Make a decision, right now, that you are going to unlock your full potential for success and happiness and become the extraordinary person that lies deep within you. You are going to accomplish all the wonderful things that you were put in this world to achieve. In the pages ahead, you will learn how.


Identify the negative or self-limiting beliefs about your personal abilities or your situation that might be holding you back. Then ask yourself, "What if they weren't true?"

What if you had all the talent and ability that you could ever need to achieve almost anything in life? What if you had no limitations? What goals would you set for yourself if you were guaranteed of success, and what would you do differently starting today?

Chapter Two

Imagine Your Handsome Prince

The princess did not start off dreaming about marrying whoever came along. She began with a clear idea of meeting a handsome prince who would be ideal for her in every respect. What is your handsome prince or princess in your work or your personal life?

To become a truly happy and fulfilled person, you must start with a clear definition of the ideal person you would like to be and the perfect life you would like to live. What qualities and characteristics would you have if you were the very best person you could possibly be?

Psychologists have described fully functioning, self-actualizing people as genuinely happy, at peace with the world and themselves, self-confident, positive, personable, relaxed, feeling that they are fulfilling their full potential, grateful, energized, and generally feeling terrific about life. If this description is a good goal for you in the months ahead, this book will show you how to be come that kind of person.

The Magic Wand Exercise

Practice the "magic wand" exercise. As you think into the future, imagine that you could wave a magic wand and make your life ideal in the four critical areas that determine much of your happiness or unhappiness: (1) income and career, (2) family and relationships, (3) health and fitness, and (4) financial independence.

One of the most important behaviors of successful people is called "idealization." In idealizing, you create a vision of a perfect future for yourself in every area of your life. You practice "no limit" thinking.

Imagine that you have all the time and money, all the friends and contacts, all the education and experience, and all the talents and abilities that you could possibly need to be, have, or do anything. If this were your situation, what would you really want to do with your life?

When you combine idealization with the magic wand exercise, you liberate your mind from the constraints of day-to-day work and bill paying. You practice what is called "blue sky" thinking, a hallmark of top people and peak performers in every area.

Design Your Perfect Future

Practice "back-from-the-future" thinking. Project forward five years, and look back to where you are today. Write down your answers to the following questions:

1. If your job, career, or business were perfect in five years, how would it look? How much would you be earning? How would your situation be different from what it is today?

Why aren't you already living this life and enjoying your ideal career and income?

2. If your family and relationships, your home and lifestyle, were perfect in five years, how would they look? And how would they be different from what they are today?

What is the first step that you could take to begin creating this ideal home life?

3. If your levels of health and fitness were perfect in five years, how would you look and feel? How much would you weigh? How much would you exercise each day or week? What foods would you eat? And especially, how would you be different physically from the person you are today?

What is the first thing you could start doing, or stop doing, to enjoy perfect health and fitness?

4. Finally, if your financial situation were perfect in five years, how much would you be worth? How much would you have in the bank, and how much would you be earning from your investments each month and each year?

What is the first step you could take?

Plan Your Perfect Day

Often when Christina spends the day with her husband she asks him, "If this were your perfect day, what would you do with it?" She asks the same question of herself. Then they find a way to combine their two perfect days.

If at the start they gave in to the fact that they would have to compromise, they would be restricted in how they defined their perfect days. But when each defines what would be perfection, their pictures are completely different.

In life, we often start off by thinking about all the restrictions and limitations that must be taken into account. However, if you start off by imagining that you have no limitations, you will be amazed at what you come up with. The rule is this: Decide what's ideal before you decide what's possible.

Most of all, what do you have to do, starting today, to prepare for the ideal future that you desire?


Dream big. Start with a clear definition of the ideal person you would like to be and the perfect life you would like to live.

Imagine that you have a magic wand to wave over your career, family and relationships, health and fitness, and financial situation. How would you make each of these perfect?

Practice "no limit" thinking. Liberate your mind from day-to-day challenges by practicing "blue sky" thinking.

Decide what's ideal before you decide what's possible.

Design your ideal future so that you can begin to take complete control of your life.

Decide upon the one goal, that if you could achieve it within twenty-four hours, would have the greatest positive impact on your life.

Resolve to take one action immediately to begin creating your ideal life.

Chapter Three

Look Your Frog in the Face

When the beautiful princess was asked to kiss that wet, slimy, cold, ugly frog, she had a choice to make. She could continue in her current situation, alone and unhappy, or she could summon up her courage and take a chance with the frog, even though there were no guarantees.

All of us have a frog that we need to kiss, sometimes several frogs. The frogs in your life are negative people, situations, and past experiences; current problems; and your doubts and self-limiting beliefs. Some frogs are risks and commitments you have to make if you want to get unstuck and move ahead.

Face the Facts

Sometimes, to kiss your frog, you are really deciding to embrace the frog and accept that frogs can be slimy, cold, and ugly. Sometimes you are kissing the frog good-bye and letting go of a judgmental or guilt-provoking frog. Sometimes you are choosing to change your expectations and see the frog in a new way. Other times you may need to kiss the frog on the forehead and forgive it. There are many ways to eliminate frogs from your life.

The world of psychology has identified two types of personalities: the "confronter" and the "evader." Not surprisingly, confronters, people who face their fears, confront their reality, and deal honestly and straightforwardly with the people and problems in their lives, are much happier, more effective, and more self-confident than evaders.

Confronters acknowledge and face the fear involved in confronting. They take charge of their emotions. Evaders fear the unknown and lack the trust in themselves that is necessary to move ahead.

Fortunately, you can become a more powerful and positive person by resolving to "look your frog in the face before you kiss it"—by making it a habit to confront your situation honestly rather than to evade it or deny that you have a problem in the first place.

Be realistic

In her counseling practice, Christina often deals with clients who are constantly disappointed by frustrated expectations. One young woman in her thirties would have her sessions after visiting her parents and talk about how upset she was that they would put out only limited effort to spend time with her when she made the effort to visit.


Excerpted from Kiss That Frog! by Brian Tracy Christina Tracy Stein Copyright © 2012 by Brian Tracy and Christina Tracy Stein. Excerpted by permission of Berrett-Koehler Publishers, Inc.. All rights reserved. No part of this excerpt may be reproduced or reprinted without permission in writing from the publisher.
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Meet the Author

Brian Tracy is Chairman and CEO of Brian Tracy International, a company specializing in the training and development of individuals and organizations. He has consulted for more than 1,000 companies and addressed more than 4,000,000 people in 4,000 talks and seminars throughout the US, Canada and 40 other countries worldwide. As a keynote speaker and seminar leader, he addresses more than 250,000 people each year. Prior to founding his company, Brian Tracy International, Brian was the Chief Operating Officer of a $265 million dollar development company. He is the top selling author of over 45 books that have been translated into dozens of languages.

Christina Tracy Stein is a marriage and family counselor and therapist.

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Kiss That Frog!: 21 Ways to Turn Negatives into Positives 3.8 out of 5 based on 0 ratings. 12 reviews.
Anonymous More than 1 year ago
Very uplifting book about turning negatives into positives!
I_Love_Onions More than 1 year ago
I found this book to be supportive and it gives me the insight of improving myself with motivation to go get what I want. All done in a postive way to NOT let negativity to stand in my way. Read the Sample and decide if, this book is for you.
Anonymous More than 1 year ago
Great for all ages - This is a great book if you have ever: had self-doubt, have not reached your full potential, are carrying some excess baggage, see the negative before the positive; or, never seeing much postivie things going on in your world.
mckynme More than 1 year ago
I really enjoyed this book. There are times that life can get you a little down & this book gives you simple ways to turn things around. It lifted my spirits and reminded me that every day you wake up is a Good Day!
superuncle More than 1 year ago
Great ideas.  
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RolfDobelli More than 1 year ago
Once upon a time, a princess kissed a frog. It turned into the prince of her dreams, and they lived happily ever after. The father-daughter team of motivational author and speaker Brian Tracy and psychotherapist Christina Tracy Stein expand on that fairy tale (which was also the title hook of his earlier book, Eat That Frog) to teach you to recognize and learn from your frogs – fears, uncertainties and wounds that prevent you from achieving joy and fulfillment. Their prescriptive approach can help you banish negativity and replace self-limiting behaviors with positive expectation. Short chapters include exercises and techniques that the authors promise will have near-immediate effects on your perspective. While some suggestions are reminiscent of other self-help books, getAbstract recommends their 12 doable steps to leading a positive life to any princesses or princes who are still sitting by the pond waiting for life to change.
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