Kissed The Girls And Made Them Cry: Why Women Lose When They Give In

An argument for the book...

I realize that the author didn't make a case for men in that yes, women can and do use THEM for sex. However, if you search to the bottom of your heart and to the back of your mind we KNOW that the emotionall hurt that happens when one is introduced to sex at the wrong time USUALLY happens to women. And SECONDLY the fact that women ARE more prone to that kind of hurt more so than men due to their NATURE is why she probably feels the need to warn women against it. The fact that women are more receptive to love, emotions, and desires as a woman is NOT NOT NOT a weakness! It was meant to be a strength when awakened in a God-approved fashion. When I read this book I thought about how a woman's senses (smell, taste, touch, etc.) are even scientifically proven to be keener than a man's. We're MEANT to enjoy all of the fruits of love! Love emotions, intimacy, to perfumes and the taste of candy. I believe the author wanted young women to have God's best, not the world's half-*ssed attempt at mimicking love for lust and 'empowering' (yeah right!) women. For a girl whose tasted what the world has to offer, it doesn't measure up one OUNCE to what God has to give! God bless!

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Truthfully Speaking

Ok, before I read this book I did look at the negative and positive opinions. I must say the negative opinions don¿t make any sense after reading this book. In no way does Lisa Bevere ask women to be lower than a human male, but to rise from the oppression that women do to themselves to get him. The whole book tells us not to find affirmation through the human male, but through Jesus Christ. So I am so curious to understand the people who left negative remarks on this stand: that woman need the human male to find affirmation? The book says that we must find love in Jesus Christ and then we will find it in ourselves. The closing not only tells us what women want¿which we do deep down (i.e. feminist, and the so called independent women, which I was, that says we don¿t), that a human male can not provide all of these needs, but Jesus can. When she talks about the ¿he¿ in her book she isn¿t talking about the ¿he¿ in terms of a human male, but Jesus Christ who came on earth as a male figure. I know that people can not say Jesus was not on the earth because it is written in our history books, but some don¿t believe he came from God to save us, which he did. The tragic thing in our society today is I grew up to become this independent women and came to realize I was growing more to become superior to my male counterpart, that I desired. I had to realize, (meaning the real realization), after some years that a male was placed on earth before female. Also that she actually came from his rib! So in saying this in no way am I saying you should be lower or we can¿t act like a man, because obviously we can, but life is not about that. I do find what she says is true about Adam and Eve¿s fall that it has caused us to only battle or blame each other for our fall. Although we don¿t necessarily say this in those terms, but we find it through our culture norms. Observing the male and female figure we are totally different from one another the male is a conqueror, while the female does want to be loved, (long ago I would have cringed at this statement). I must say rude reality had to come kick me in the face to see this. So, yes the rude reality, independent women, is that the male species is stronger and a protector, and yes we must submit to our husband, but first find Christ before all of that. I am also not saying to submit to any man, but much prayer is needed to find that man (husband), because ultimately it is Christ that sustains us, not the man.

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So Surprised

I am not ignorant. I am VERY aware of the battle of sexuality between the 'Liberal Left' and the 'Christian Right'. The problem is that you can not bring the American mindset of 'everything is ok as long as it makes you feel good' and expect this book to agree with you. Please understand that there are Christians out there, of whom I am one, that LOVE sex within its created purpose. God CREATED sex to be AMAZING!! Sex is meant to be pure 'not prude' and shared within marriage and when it is taken out of that context people get screwed. And no, the writer doesn't go into the man side of things because '1' that isn't the purpose of this book, and '2' she isn't a man!! How can she fully depict the male point of view accurately? She NEVER speaks against men. She NEVER presents a 'protect yourselves from the evil males' philosophy, as has been suggested by other reviewers. What she does is present the realities of what sexual misconduct 'sex outside of the marriage covenant - regardless of the circumstances' and how it affects the heart/mind/soul/spirit of women. Feminists will not enjoy this book. Liberals will not enjoy this book. If you are not willing to accept the fact that women are emotional by nature 'we were created that way' and men are physical by nature 'created that way', not to say that women aren't physical and men don't feel anything, again this book probably won't make your best-seller list. But if you can at least agree that women are emotionally driven at the core of who we are and that improper sexuality can leave us wounded, you might actually learn a thing or two about yourself and find some clarity 'truth' to the questions that usually go unanswered.

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an awaking of true self

I have to strongly disagree with the reviews that think this book sterotypes women. I just finish the book last night, i could not put it down,nor i could wait until i had the chance to read it again. this book showed me who i should be looking to fulfill me- JESUS not a man or sex. because i am worth so much than just sex. i started out reading this book not to find out about sex but to find out why i let myself get hurt so often and how to fix that. in the process i found out anwsers to questions that i wanted to ask but dare not too. like one said earlier if you dont have a relationship with GOD, JESUS, and the HOLY SPIRIT this book is not for you!! becacuse you can never understand how much love and desire they have to be with you and get to the point of falling more in love with them ,than man. then when the time is right He will send the man that He has for you until then just be happy to be in love with HIM! to me thats what this book is about.

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How the liberal left is killing our girls

This book is outstanding because it calls women to live outside of the stereotypes the world and popular culture places on them. I hate the way media and our society has turned girls into little more then sex objects. Anything that challanges girls beyond that has to be given a shot. This is a must read for all young women and parents struggling to keep themselves or a child pure.

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Kissed The Girls And Made Them Cry: Why Women Lose When They Give In

Our NATURE?How would anyone else know my nature but me!God gave us all a unique individual nature.My nature is different from other women.God didn't make stepford wives,He made individuals. The writer wants to keep women at a lower level than men,by robbing them of their strength and power.She does it by saying how women have this NATURE which makes them more easily hurt,so she thinks.What you believe about yourself,the inner voice you have will dictate how you respond to sex and love.This idea of women being more emotional and romantic is culture driven.It is bunk and every woman should strive to leave these beliefs behind her.BTW I'm Muslim,but I read the book to see how Evangelicals view women,and it makes me happy I'm not one of them!If you believe your 'nature' is emotional and soft,you will be emotional and soft.If some women wish to believe women are 'victims' of men,they can.No one can stop them because it's convenient for them so they can say POOR ME.

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Kissed The Girls And Made Them Cry: Why Women Lose When They Give In

Every page of the book is smuthered with a negative and defensive look at men and sexuality. The message is 'men are the enemy and you must guard your virtue'.Not an exact quote but an example of how the book could be a hazard for a young lady when she wants to know about sexuality and men. Everyone is a sexual being not just men.Nor are men always the aggressors which society sterotypes them as being.Women can be hurt, women can use men for sex.It all depends on the people involved in the situation.No two people are alike. After reading the book I was left with the wind out of my sails.The constant sterotyping of behavior left me with a very sad feeling,a feeling of anger.My anger was do to the fact of not many books have a positive word to women and girls about sex. Most are about not 'giving in' as though women are the only pressured people. No young woman can read this book and feel very positive about sex or herself.The book is very clear about these sterotypical 'limitations women have.Hence the only sexuality women have is passive,responsive and limited to whatever the man does to 'win her heart'. As though women are blind to desire. The defensive attitude toward sex in the book is dangerous,for how can a woman ever feel free to desire if she is made to feel so neurotic about sexuality.

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A Higher Standard

I liked this book because it reminds me as a Christian that I have a higher calling in life.This book would be difficult to read if you do not profess to be a Christian. The secular world finds it hard to live by higher standards, such as God's. But I know God has a specific plan for every life, He doesn't miss a beat. This book helps you to understand yourself and God's plan for you concerning your passions and love life.

Kissed The Girls And Made Them Cry: Why Women Lose When They Give In

I would never want a young woman to read this book for several reasons,one being the writer views women as emotional,illogical, love sick vunerable passive vessels.This is NOT a message young women need.What young women need to know is they are just as prone to desire and oh my lust as men are,and how to controll desire and oh my LUST. The Christian Right as a whole completely ignores any real sexuality in women and girls,and always seems to equate all sexuality in women to being desirable or desired. The writer completely ignores the fact of how people are individuals and how men can be hurt and emotional and women can be the hunters and use men. After reading the book I came to the conclusion that the Christian Right wants women to feel and vunerable in every aspect of their lives,including sexuality,so these people,the Christian Right can use the vunerable state of mind the girl gets after reading this book to their advantage to further convert the reader to a born again with all the typical hang ups born agains have about sex. If you can get someone in a vunerable state of mind you can manipulate their emotions much more.This is why no books about women from the born agains empower women and make them feel like whole human beings.Their ultimate goal is to get women dependent and easily lead and controlled so they can be dominated and made into children. The book gave me a sense of sadness.To think how many women have read the book and believed all the nonsense about 'female emotions' and 'vunerabilities'It's enough to make me sick. I left the born again church for this very reason.Their goal is to create mindless submissive women who obey,bury their talents and deny sexuality.

Focus on the Family

I just heard the author of this book on Pittsburghs christian radio. WORD FM. I have made mistakes of my own regarding this issue and it gave me hope that I can leave regrets of past mistakes behind me. I thank God for her and her work. This is a book that will be added to my perminant collection.

Unknowing

Some presume, wrongly, that Jesus' message is that women are--or should be--weak, emotional, and asexual. Some Christians do believe that...some non-Christians do, too--but Lisa's message is not that at all. This book will be a source of anger for women who are still trying to live in the fragile world of our brainwashed culture--it will be a source of strength for women who sense that something is wrong and want to experience a more powerful and fulfilled life.

Awesome

I thought this was a great book. It gives girls & women hope and it opens up eyes. This isn't your normal...don't do this or that type book. It's inspiring and I just want to go out and get it for all the young women I know. It can change a life!

Kissed The Girls And Made Them Cry: Why Women Lose When They Give In

The assumption is women are weak and emotional and cannot handle breakups and sexual experiences,due to some so called female hormone,oxytocin and general emotional and mental weakness,thought to plagg women.While on the other hand,all men are naturally logical and can take whatever comes to them.How wrong is book is! Not only is it sexist but it has an agenda to weaken women and give them the notion that they can't make it in the world without a "Christian man" who will patronize them and put them in a place of little influence and controll of life.Somehow the writer believes,a woman cannot survive without a father figure of a husband who has all the right answers in life and who will eventually take controll and become the sole leader or rule maker in the household. Just the words"women giving in" makes me ill. Who made these fundamentalist Christians all knowing about sex and sexuaity to give such misleading information.Women are as sexual as men,but for some reason this fact is a great threat to the patriarcal system at large and especially to the Christian Right. The whole point and true agenda of these books is to brainwash women into thinking they are,emotional,weak,ineffectual,inner oriented,other oriented and basically lacking in several abilities,one of which is courage,independence and strong sexuality. There is an agenda here,to make Christian women the small minded and the Christian men into these all knowing mental giants.Nothing is worse than a man who looks at you as a child and believes you are without sexual desires.This runs through fundamentatlist Christianiy like a train.The train is off its tracks.