Learning to Laugh When You Feel Like Crying: Embracing Life after Lossby Allen Klein
Learning to Laugh When You Feel Like Crying: Embracing Life After Loss accomplishes just that in an easy-to-digest, warm, and highly-accessible format. Anyone who has experienced the loss of a loved one can greatly benefit from this book, which was inspired firsthand by the loss of author Allen Klein's wife. Klein addresses the subject with expert awareness and wisdom and breaks it down into five sensible and encouraging steps: losing, learning, letting go, living, and laughing. The book is a steadfast compass that offers hope and resilience to anyone trying to navigate through dark times. Foreword by Earl A. Grollman, author of Living When a Loved One Has Died.
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TABLE OF CONTENTS: Step One Losing Losing a loved one is not easy. I know - I have had many losses in my life. The one that made the most impact on my life was my wife's death when she was 34. In addition, my mother, my father, my four grandparents, my sister-in-law, several cousins, and both my mother-in-law and father-in-law have died, as well as over 40 friends and colleagues who are no longer here because of AIDS or cancer. I don't think we ever forget the people we lose. So in some sense, they are never gone. But, still, it hurts not to be able to see them, hear them, or hold them again. Loss hurts. But it can also help us be stronger, wiser, and, if nothing else, more appreciative of every moment we have on this earth. Step Two Learning Every time you lose something, you are presented with an opportunity to acquire something new. With each loss, there is a golden opportunity for a new beginning. You may not realize it right now, but your loss is part of your growth process. In fact, your loss can be seen as a gift. Your loss is serving you. It is helping you examine who you are, why you are on this earth, and how to live your life. Among other things, your loss has given you: the gift of appreciating life more fully the gift of cleansing through mourning the gift of love. Step Three Letting Go Crying is the body's way of dealing with loss. It is unhealthy to squelch your tears. What you stifle today may come back in greater force tomorrow. But continuing to endlessly wallow in those tears is not healthy. At some point, you need to get on with your life. Today might be the day to take the first step, to let go, to move on. Step Four Living The loss of someone close to you provides an opportunity for a new beginning and an enriched life. Once you start to work through your grief process, you can begin to fill the vacuum that was created by your loss with an even fuller sense of life. Ultimately, in dealing with a loss, the choice is yours. No matter what the situation, you have a choice of how you react to it. You can remain in your grief and turn your face away from life or you can move on and embrace life. Choose life. Step Five Laughing It may seem ludicrous putting laughter and loss in the same sentence. Yet, laughter is a great coping mechanism. Finding the humor in anything and laughing about it gives you a break from the pain of loss. It allows for a breath of fresh air at a time when everything seems dark and heavy. Many of the world's top comedians intuitively knew this when they experienced a major loss in their life. They turned to humor to cope and eventually perfected their craft and made comedy their career. Your goal is probably not to become a stand-up comic, but you can take a lesson from these renowned comedians and use humor and laughter to help you to cope with your loss.
the subject is one I have dealt with and read about for many years due to many deaths of family members, friends, colleagues, clients, associates over the past 40 or so years of my life. Most importantly the death of my oldest son in 1988 when he was 20 and was killed by a drunk driver and the death of my wonderful beautiful wife, Merry, in 1998 when she was 48. I had hoped to see my son, Jeff, grow up, marry, have children and live a long life before I passed away. I had hoped that Merry and I would celebrate our 25th, 50th, maybe even our 75th wedding anniversaries together. Yet like Allen and the death of his wife our lives have not become what we hoped all the time. Allen has written a very comfortable in a friendly easy tone book filled with excellent tips, suggestions, techniques, methods for helping people more successfully deal with loss of loved ones and the various stages of grief that follow over weeks, months, years, sometimes decades. The main premises that Allen weaves throughout the book are based upon his own personal experience with loss, the knowledge and skills he has gained through years of study and reading and living with loss. If you have lost someone important to you or you may lose someone close to you, your spouse, a child, a parent, a brother or sister, aunt, uncle, grandparent or cousin or a friend or colleague this book will help you or prepare you for accepting the loss and dealing with the following grieve. Remember as Allen says in many ways throughout the book: We never completely lose anyone only physically. Our minds and hearts will always be filled with memories, stories, images, feelings of those who have passed away.
I love this book! I've read every word! I especially appreciate: . The lay-out, the 5 chapters, the content . Lots of good quotes and author's commentaries . Much food for thought, and phrases that offer hope. I also appreciated observations about change, hope, finding the positive in the negative, and being open to what's new. I cast my vote for a winner!
Message: I bought "Learning to Laugh When You Feel Like Crying: by Allen Klein to give to a grieving friend who recently lost her husband. However, I'm going to purchase several copies (including one for me to keep!) for friends. Allen put in so many useful ideas on how we can be happy - ideas that are helpful for all of us, not just those who are grieving. I especially like the sections on "Keeping your loved one alive" and "Get out of the house" with the illustration of the sea shells. I know I'll have many more favorite sections after I have devoured each word of this valuable book. I thank Allen Klein for using his loss to make the world a brighter place for others. Liz Northrop
As a psychotherapist, I appreciate small, accessible books that can reach a reader without preaching at her or him. Klein's book, building on his knowledge of both grief and the healing powers of humor is just such a book. Short, brief chapters capture aspects of the universal struggles we all go through helping readers recognize themselves. The book, however, goes beyond reassurances about the natural stages of grief to give hope not only of renewal into life, but growth beyond where we were when we started. For grief transformed is not so much a journey back to what was, but one beyond who we were, into someone more alive, appreciative and compassionate in life. Enjoy.From
How we can admire Allen for gaining inspiration for his book after the very sad loss of his wife! I've been a subscriber to his Mirth newsletter for many years and have often used jokes from it.Keep up the good work Allen.
Reviewed by Mamta Madhavan for Readers' Favorite Learning to Laugh When You Feel Like Crying: Embracing Life After Loss by Allen Klein takes readers through the emotions of grief and sorrow, and makes a good companion during dark periods in life. The author shares his wisdom with words of love and humor, and shows the path to healing. Readers are taught the five stages of living life after a loss in letting go, living again, healing and finding laughter in their lives. It is an excellent book on how to transform one's attitude towards grief and find laughter, even during times of sorrow. Coping with grief and loss is very difficult, and unexpected grief and losses are hard to overcome. The author deals extensively with the five stages of living after a loss: Losing, Learning, Letting Go, Living and Laughing. We are all bigger than the losses we face in our respective lives, which equips us to unconsciously emerge stronger when it happens. The author speaks of the greatest treasure we have during times of adversity - hope which provides the will to hang on to life. I found the advice and tips to overcome grief and fill the void useful and helpful. The importance of a support group during times of grieving and loss is also discussed here. On the whole, the book has a lot of wisdom and the author's words will help those challenged to change themselves after a loss.