Lesbian Ex-Lovers: The Really Long-Term Relationships

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This inside look into the hearts and minds of women renegotiating their relationships with each other offers personal insight into the diverse possibilities and pitfalls of ex-lover relationships. Lesbian Ex-Lovers: The Really Long-Term Relationships contains personal stories, fictional accounts, poetry, and theoretical analyses of the frequency and significance of ex-lovers at different stages in a relationship.
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Table of Contents

Lesbian ex-lover relationships : under-estimated, under-theorized and under-valued? 1
To all the girls I left before 11
Tenth anniversary 13
Coming out of my closet 21
In my dream : my ex-lovers' unconventional convention 25
These most difficult tasks 31
Passion 33
Still the one 37
Loading up the U-Haul : traveling the spaces between friends and lovers 45
Daring to take the risk 57
Family affairs 73
Highly favored ex 75
For Emily, many years too late/years later, in another city, I still think of her 79
Truth, dreams and the li(v)es between 85
Temporary temptation 87
Lost love 89
Neurotic love letters 93
Goodbye note to my lover 97
Leaving Liza 99
Lesbian ex-lovers by the numbers : a reflective but not contemplative love poem of sorts 111
I'm not Lisa 117
The house on Transcript Avenue 129
The politics of potlucks 135
Family doggerel 141
The visit 145
Irritating and constricting/elating and elastic - being "ex" as a lesbian 149
Consummated friends and ex-wives : two types of lesbian ex-lovers 159
When three's a crowd : ex-lovers and lesbian families in 2 girls in love 165
Making the transition : understanding the longevity of lesbian relationships 177
Lesbian FLEX-ibility : friend and/or family connections among lesbian ex-lovers 193
The migration of the mythic lesbian 241
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