Lesbian Friendships: For Ourselves and Each Other

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Friends as lovers; lovers as friends; ex-lovers as friends; ex-lovers as family; friends as family; communities of friends; lesbian community. These are just a few of the phrases heard often in the daily discourse of lesbian life. What significance do they have for lesbians? Do lesbians view friends as family and what does this analogy mean? What sorts of friendships exist between lesbians? What sorts of friendships do lesbians form with non-lesbian women, or with men?

These and other questions regarding the kinds of friendships lesbians imagine and experience have rarely been addressed. Lesbian Friendships focuses on actual accounts of friendships involving lesbians and examines a number of issues, including the transition from friends to lovers and/or lovers to friends, erotic attraction in friendship, diverse identities among lesbians, and friendships across sexuality and/or gender lines.

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Product Details

  • ISBN-13: 9780814774731
  • Publisher: New York University Press
  • Publication date: 8/1/1996
  • Series: Cutting Edg: Lesbian Life and Literature Series
  • Edition description: New Edition
  • Pages: 328
  • Product dimensions: 5.97 (w) x 8.90 (h) x 0.81 (d)

Meet the Author

Jacqueline S. Weinstock is Assistant Professor of Liberal Studies at the University of Washington Tacoma. She is co- author of Public Homeplaces: Women and the Struggle against Otherness (Belenky, Bond & Weinstock).

Esther D. Rothblum is Professor of Women’s Studies at San Diego State University. She is the editor or co-editor of over twenty books, including Overcoming Fear of Fat.

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Table of Contents

1 What We Can Be Together: Contemplating Lesbians' Friendships 3
2 Eco de una Amistad/Echo of a Friendship 31
3 The Lesbian's Experience of Friendship 39
4 Heart like a Wheel: A Friendship in Two Voices 65
5 Ruth Benedict and Margaret Mead: Portrait of an Extraordinary Friendship 80
6 Namaste 98
7 On the Other Side of Silence 107
8 Guided Journey: The Road to Myself 117
9 Celebrating Wild Erotic Friendship: Martha and Marcia 125
10 Going against the Fold 135
11 Lesbian-Meets-Christian-Heterosexual-Woman-in-the-Midwest-a nd-They-Become-Lifelong-Friends 151
12 Friendships between African-American and White Lesbians 165
13 Well-Worn Conversations 192
14 Negotiating Difference: The Friendship of a Lesbian-Identified Woman and a Heterosexual Man 205
15 Uncommon Kin 225
16 Friendships between Lesbian and Heterosexual Women 249
17 Pat T. Bunny Meets Lynnepig 251
18 Deeper than Biology 255
19 Portrait of Skinny and Me 259
20 Cindy 266
21 A Significant Friend 273
22 A Lesbian Love Story 277
23 Lesbian Friendships Create Lesbian Community 288
24 Toward a Politics of Lesbian Friendship 295
Contributors 301
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