Lies My Mother Never Told Me

Lies My Mother Never Told Me

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by Kaylie Jones
     
 

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In her riveting memoir Lies My Mother Never Told Me, Kaylie Jones—the daughter of author James Jones (From Here to Eternity) and an acclaimed author in her own right (A Soldier’s Daughter Never Cries; Celeste Ascending; As Soon As It Rains)—tells the poignant story of her relationship with her famous father and her alcoholic

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In her riveting memoir Lies My Mother Never Told Me, Kaylie Jones—the daughter of author James Jones (From Here to Eternity) and an acclaimed author in her own right (A Soldier’s Daughter Never Cries; Celeste Ascending; As Soon As It Rains)—tells the poignant story of her relationship with her famous father and her alcoholic mother, and of her own struggles with the disease. A true story of privilege, loss, self-discovery, and redemption, Lies My Mother Never Told Me is Jones’s unforgettable account of a not-quite-fairy-tale childhood and adulthood defined by two constants: literature and alcohol.

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ISBN-13:
9780061936494
Publisher:
HarperCollins Publishers
Publication date:
08/25/2009
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HARPERCOLLINS
Format:
NOOK Book
Pages:
400
Sales rank:
388,668
File size:
2 MB

Meet the Author

Kaylie Jones is the author of Celeste Ascending, As Soon as It Rains, and A Soldier's Daughter Never Cries, which was made into a film starring Kris Kristofferson and Barbara Hershey.

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Lies My Mother Never Told Me 4.4 out of 5 based on 0 ratings. 12 reviews.
GailCooke More than 1 year ago
We've often heard that privilege is paired with pain, and that has certainly been true in the life of Kaylie Jones, daughter of acclaimed novelist James Jones (From Here To Eternity, The thin Red Line). She writes with searing honesty, apparently wihholding nothing. nothing. In fact, at times the reader may think she reveals too much simply because it would seem that revisiting some things would hurt too much. Yet, in the end, after lancing these painful memories, releasing the poisons she emerges stronger than she had ever dreamed. Born in Paris she lived in a sumptuous apartment with her father, her beautiful mother, Gloria, and adopted brother, Jamie. The centerpiece in that apartment was an antique 18th century carved wooden pulpit used as a bar. To her father this was a great irony , his way of thumbing his nose at his Christian forebears, "...all of it-the hypocrisy, the sexual repression, and the beatings his mother had given him in the name of God." Gloria did not physically abuse Kaylie, yet she ravaged her emotionally telling the child, "You're a mean, spoiled ugly girl. You bore me to death. I can't wait till you grow up." When Kaylie did grow, there was more vitriol, "You're a whore, you know that? Your father would be ashamed of you." The verbal abuse never ended for as long as Gloria lived. Yet, among friends Gloria could be amusing, a well liked raconteur. She would hold court among guests which often included the world's literary lights such as James Baldwin, William Styron, Norman Mailer, Willie Morris, and more. Parties at the Jones apartment often lasted through the night, often ending only at dawn. There were few prohibitions in their household save one - no one saw or would admit that both James Jones and Gloria were alcoholics. Jones died of congestive heart failure when Kaylie was 16. She would remember forever sitting by his hospital bed and seeing "her father's green eyes clouding over." She dedicated herself to his legacy, read the books he had read, determined to better know the man she so loved. At the same time she wanted to escape her mother's contempt and become meaningful for herself, not as a famous person's daughter. That proved to be a tortuous path as early on she drank far too much, and in time was suffering blackouts. She was sleeping with the wrong people, and eventually married the wrong man. It was only after years of searching and self-recrimination that she was able to admit that she too was an alcoholic, and take her first steps on the road to recovery. For the most part, Lies My Mother Never Told Me is not a happy memoir. In a day when many bury their family secrets this book is remarkable for its candor, the author is unsparing of others and most of all herself. Many struggle in life but few as mightily as Kaylie, thus we find ourselves rejoicing in her victory yet saddened by what she suffered to achieve it. - Gail Cooke
LLoewenstein More than 1 year ago
Although this memoir is a complex exploration of alcoholism, anger and emotional abuse, the author never loses her sense of humor. Among other things, this is a very funny book. Inserted among the chapters are the hilarious anecdotes her mother, Gloria, told again and again. There is Gloria entering the wrong room in a Swiss hotel in the middle of the night and climbing, naked, into bed with an outraged German couple. We hear Gloria mangling a Portuguese accent to dissuade Shirley McLaine from calling her husband, and Lauren Bacall offering her dating advice in a world-weary tone. Jones is able to balance despair and humor so effortlessly because she maintains an objectivity rarely found in this genre. She has said that she wrote this memoir as she does a novel - laying out the scenes as impartially as possible and letting the reader draw his or her own conclusions. There are no excuses, monologues or preaching here. The prose matches this approach perfectly. It is lucid and fluid as a glass of cold water on a stifling night. Here is Jones describing the daily anxiety she experienced because her mother often forgot to make arrangements for her to be picked up after school: "When the final bell rang and we thundered down the stairway like a herd of antelope, I searched the faces of the parents and nannies crowding the echoing, vaulted outdoor hall that in the old days held the horse-drawn carriages, hoping to see my mother or Judite.. Now I had to wait, and wait, and wait some more as the last private taxis took my classmates home, and the janitors in their blue jumpsuits came out with their pails and mops and the headmistress and the assistant headmistress clacked down the stairs in their sharp suits and heels, briefcases in hand." It is this clear, even-handed voice that pulls the reader in so that we experience, at the end, the author's triumphant shattering of the cycle of alcoholism and emotional abuse. Walking alongside Jones as she finds her own path to a normal life makes one's own footing a little more sure.
BTConway More than 1 year ago
I wasn't prepared for how affecting this book would be; I became so emotionally drained at times that I needed to put it aside. Jones's story, though, along with her clear-eyed and lucid prose, is so compelling that I returned to the book before long. There is so much to this book. There is the nightmare of uncontrolled alcohol addiction and the damage and pain it visits upon those around the addict, but there are also heartening examples of friendship, love, honor, and courage. Further, I found more than one or two out-loud laughs during my reading. What I take away from it, in the end, is the importance of recognizing the preciousness of life and the courage required to live it well. I'm glad I read it.
JGreenstein More than 1 year ago
I could not stop reading this memoir, which tells the compelling story of the lives of novelist James Jones and his wife, Gloria Jones. Kaylie Jones' parents were the life of every party, staying up until morning in their Paris apartment drinking and arguing with their friends. Their young daughter, Kaylie, was lying on the couch under a blanket, watching and listening. She grew up to be a novelist as well, and an alcoholic. This moving story describes how Kaylie struggled with the death of her father when she was 16, and began to fight back against the insults and belittling comments her mother flung her way. The book is full of fascinating stories about the family's famous friends, like Lauren Bacall, Frank Sinatra and William Styron. But the true story is Kaylie's fight to turn her life around, stop drinking and break away from her mother. A gripping read.
Barbara_Taylor More than 1 year ago
"When I was little my mother often told me, 'If I had to pick between having your father or having you, I would pick your father.'" And so begins a memoir so poignant, so haunting, and ultimately, so full of grace, that I came away from the experience with renewed hope. In LIES MY MOTHER NEVER TOLD ME, Kaylie Jones offers her readers an honest, unsentimental glimpse into a world of literary celebrity, where both glamour and anguish reside. Jones's memoir is one of triumph, particularly, but not exclusively over alcoholism. Fortunately for us, she manages to tell her story (and that of her father James Jones, author of FROM HERE TO ETERNITY) without judgment. And considering the seriousness of the subject matter, I was surprised at how often I laughed out loud while reading the book. LIES MY MOTHER NEVER TOLD ME is a memoir for our times and destined to be a bestseller.
Anonymous More than 1 year ago
If you love seeing inside other people's lives - especially famous people - you'll enjoy this. Kaylie Jones's wonderful style of writing mixes humor with startling reality as she describes growing up in Paris and NY with two famous parents.
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Amani Abubakr More than 1 year ago
This book was ok not very good writing the plot was ok
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twb47 More than 1 year ago
The author's writing of her struggles with her mother could be of help to thousands of adult children of alcoholics. Although the memoir is appealing in itself, I believe it could especially benefit ACOA members or their familes.
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