Life After Loss: Conquering Grief and Finding Hope

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A unique approach to understanding and overcoming grief.

Bestselling author Raymond Moody and his colleague Dianne Arcangel show how the grieving process can transform our fear and grief into spiritual and emotional growth.

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Overview

A unique approach to understanding and overcoming grief.

Bestselling author Raymond Moody and his colleague Dianne Arcangel show how the grieving process can transform our fear and grief into spiritual and emotional growth.

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If you have ever lost someone or know someone who has, then you know how treacherous it can be to experience loss and the grief it brings. Questions abound. What happens to us after we die? What's the right thing to say to a person who has lost someone? Is it possible to continue to live and enjoy life again after the death of a loved one? How do you work through your grief -- and is this even possible? What good can come from so much suffering? Having grappled with these questions in their own lives and the lives of others, the authors have written Life After Loss as a tribute and a guidebook for those of us seeking comfort and answers. Raymond Moody and Dianne Arcangel have dedicated decades of research and work in the field and have seen how loss and grief have shaped individual lives -- both for the better and the worse.

In this book will you learn:

  • How the stress of grief affects you emotionally, spiritually, physically, and mentally, and how you can transform that stress into healing.
  • What the common emotions of grief are and how to work through them.
  • How basic factors like family dynamics, gender and religion shape how you deal with loss.
  • How to give and receive sympathy appropriately.
  • How to tell the difference between functional and dysfunctional grief by recognizing the common characteristics of each.
  • How to adjust to loss with the aid of specific techniques and psychological models.
  • How loss can lead to personal transcendence.
  • How loss has enriched and blessed the lives of survivors: Some people report having stronger relationships, a new appreciation for life, and a deeper spiritual life as a result.
  • How the study of near death experiences has shaped the way we view consciousness and the question of life after death.
"How we move beyond our loss is neither good nor bad, neither right nor wrong; however, the quality of our life after loss depends on moving forward," the authors write. There is no simple model or answer to the call of grief, but in learning more about and honoring the process of loss, I believe that there is the possibility for grace in the years that follow. (Jennifer Forman)
Neale Donald Walsch
An extraordinary mixture of insight and comfort, strategies and wisdom that both helps and heals.
Neale Donald Walsch
An extraordinary mixture of insight and comfort, strategies and wisdom that both helps and heals.
Publishers Weekly
Author of the seminal 1975 Life After Life and renowned expert on near-death experiences, Moody teams up with grief counselor Arcangel to provide a comprehensive and compassionate manual for the bereaved. Personal stories illustrate the short- and long-term effects of the death of a loved one, an event considered life's most stressful. With a clear and empathetic understanding of grief, Moody and Arcangel move beyond Kobler-Ross's stages of mourning to explore the variations in individual experience as influenced by such specific factors as the bereaved's personality and the circumstances surrounding the death, as well as more general factors, like cultural pressure. Arguing that "Grief is not an emotion but a process with a host of emotions," and that "each person is the expert for his or her grief alone," the authors emphasize the fallacy of assigning set timetables and linear phases to grieving. Offering plenty of helpful advice how to cope with stress, how to get sympathy, etc. Moody and Arcangel gently guide mourners through the four tasks of healthy grief (and here their debt to Kobler-Ross is clear): accepting the reality of the loss, working through the emotional pain, adjusting to the changed environment and moving forward. Going beyond loss can lead to "a spiritual rebirth" through increased appreciation, humility, tolerance, passion, clarity, sensitivity, spirituality and love. (Dec.) Forecast: On September 11, the audience for this work grew by the thousands. As of this writing, an author tour to selected cities (though none on the East Coast) is planned for January. Copyright 2001 Cahners Business Information.
Library Journal
A perfect companion to Moody's best-selling Life After Life (HarperCollins, 2001), this poignant resource allows the reader to utilize the process of grief, loss, or bereavement in a positive manner and offers pointers on how to offer or receive sympathy. Here, Moody and coauthor Arcangel write from personal insight and experience, incorporating stories of others' dealing with grief or loss that make this seem like a work of caring. Moody's earlier investigation of near-death experiences lends depth to his observations and helps make the steps offered to diminish the pain of grief, mourning, and bereavement practical and hopeful. Arcangel, as former director of the K bler-Ross Center in Houston and a grief workshop facilitator, lends sensitivity to the treatment and discussion. A long section of supportive resources, including books, magazines, articles, newsletters, journals, associations, organizations, bereavement centers, crisis hotlines, support-group leads, and web sites is priceless in locating resources and encouraging follow-up. This powerful title is recommended for all public and academic libraries. [Look for a roundup of current books on bereavement in LJ's upcoming January issue. Ed.] Leroy Hommerding, Fort Myers Beach Lib. Dist., FL Copyright 2001 Cahners Business Information.
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Product Details

  • ISBN-13: 9780062517302
  • Publisher: HarperCollins Publishers
  • Publication date: 11/28/2002
  • Edition description: First Edition
  • Edition number: 1
  • Pages: 240
  • Sales rank: 600,603
  • Product dimensions: 5.31 (w) x 8.00 (h) x 6.00 (d)

Meet the Author

Raymond Moody, MD, PhD, is a world-renowned author, lecturer, and psychiatrist whose seminal work, Life After Life, changed the way we view death and dying. He is widely acknowledged as the world's leading expert on near-death experiences.

Paul Perry is an internationally bestselling author who has co-written nine books on near-death experiences.

Dianne Arcangel, M.S., is the former director of the Elisabeth Kübler-Ross Center of Houston. She is also a former hospice chaplain and currently works as a grief workshop facilitator.

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Chapter One

Early Grief Experiences

The child's sobs in the silence curses deeper
than the strong man in his wrath.

— Elizabeth Barrett Browning



The death of a loved one reactivates our very first experiences with separation and grief. People who grow stronger during times of loss are willing to explore their early encounters. Therefore, in this chapter we will examine five events that continue to influence us into adulthood: prebirth sensations, the experience of birth, attachment and loss, the introduction to the concept of death, and, finally, beliefs about mortality that were formed during childhood.

Prebirth Influences

Early on, psychologists disregarded prebirth recollections, insisting that fetuses were too underdeveloped to carry repercussions from intrauterine events. Numerous claims, however, have brought the issue forward. Mothers who were grief-stricken during their pregnancies attest that their children were born sorrowing. Other family members, and sometimes the children themselves, have made similar claims. Jenni's case carries reliable evidence that prebirth sensations can extend well into adulthood.

"I feel myself in a deathly dark room" — Dianne's Story

For as long as she could remember, Jenni, a successful New York model, had carried deep-seated sorrow and fear, which she tried to resolve for many years.

It was midsummer, 1988, and everybody who could had deserted Manhattan — except Jenni. "I'mdetermined to resolve my emotional difficulties," she said when we met. "I've tried every kind of counseling, even hypnotherapy, but every time a therapist told me to go back in time I felt myself in a deathly dark room and became hysterical. I still feel this continuous nagging restlessness in my heart. I don't know where it belongs, and I'm tired of it complicating my relationships. I'm concerned about what I might uncover, but I have to do something. Dianne, will you help me?"

Our two hypnotherapy sessions produced the same results. "I'm in a completely blackened room," Jenni relayed. "I have no hint of light in here. Voices...I hear loud muffled voices outside. Now I hear someone screaming...it sounds like my mother's voice. I'm being tossed around. I'm so scared in here. Someone...Mother..."

Jenni was wincing and squirming; therefore, I reminded her, "We are in this together. You're safe." After she settled down, I asked, "What's going on now?"

She tried to identify what was happening outside her confine, saying, "I can't tell. I think...someone...someone is hurting my mother...now I'm...I'm in danger...all alone in here...in the dark...tossing around...everything is..." and, with that, Jenni's body collapsed into her chair. Her breathing slowed.

"What's going on now?" I asked.

"I'm just in here," she answered.

"How old are you?"

"I don't know. I'm little, very little."

"Who else is there?" I asked.

"I'm trying hard," she answered, "but I can't tell." Only vague, isolated noises penetrated her motionless boundary. Then stillness, quiet, and finally an eerie peacefulness comforted Jenni as she rested inside her small enclosure.

"Wow," she said, opening her eyes. "Whatever happened is stronger in my mind. I felt like I was a young child, maybe two or three years old, and hiding inside a closet. I was helpless, listening as someone was trying to hurt my mother. But how could I, inside a closet, have experienced jostling like that? It doesn't make sense. I have to find out what happened to me."

The following week Jenni flew home to Asia to ask her parents about her childhood, but when she began to inquire, her mother uncontrollably sobbed. Her father scolded, "Don't you ever bring that up again!" After that, she approached her maternal grandmother, who disapprovingly dismissed her as well.

"My trip ended in disappointment," reported Jenni, "because I had to leave without answers to my questions. But at least I know there must be a story." Haunted by her memories, Jenni was driven to uncover her past. Patiently, she waited for a family gathering.

Sometime thereafter, she was certain that her cousin's large wedding was the perfect place for her to approach family members. With the flow of alcohol-fueled reminiscences, her questions seemed part of the fun. Jenni's aunt, at last, revealed the troublesome event.

Many years ago, her father's jealous mistress had broken into their house, taken a butcher knife from the kitchen, and proceeded toward the bedroom with murderous intent. Jenni's mother, eight months pregnant with Jenni, awoke from a nap to see a figure creeping toward her. The mistress jumped onto the bed, cursing and lashing at the mother-to-be with the knife. Jenni's mother struggled desperately to defend herself and her unborn child, fending off her crazed attacker until her husband rushed into the room. A large muscular man, he grabbed the other woman from behind and was able to subdue her and drag her from the bedroom. Alone and too debilitated to move, Jenni's mother thanked God that the episode was over.

The attack explained the sensations Jenni had felt during her hypnotherapy sessions — her feeling of being tossed around while inside a dark enclosure, the loud and muffled voices, her sense of terror, and then, finally, a holy stillness.

"That was a miracle," Jenni wrote in an e-mail to me ten years after our sessions together. "I know that Divine Providence presented those events — my restlessness, the therapy, the vivid flashbacks, and then the family gathering. The experience taught me that God does not give us a spirit of fear, but one of power, love, and sound mind, and that has become my life theme. I went back to college and am now a licensed clinical social worker. I develop spiritually based programs for children in the United States and abroad. I've never before been this peaceful and happy."

Clinicians and researchers have gathered a great deal of evidence that suggests...<!—CX001—>

Life After Loss. Copyright © by Raymond Moody. Reprinted by permission of HarperCollins Publishers, Inc. All rights reserved. Available now wherever books are sold.

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  • Anonymous

    Posted January 28, 2011

    This is one of the best books on grief I've ever read!

    Having lost two adult children in four months, I felt unable to cope. I felt I had lost my ability to understand any part of my own life. This book clarified so much for me, explaining in great detail the horrific impact grief has on the human body and emotions. I cried through the first hundred pages.... but it was because finally I could see what the stress of loss had actually done to me.

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  • Posted May 8, 2010

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    I'm not alone..

    I thoroughly enjoyed this book. I felt as though I was not alone in my mourning. All of the experiences that others had gone through especially the authors themselves was life-changing for me. I don't feel as though I should be at a certain point in my mourning; I am right where I am supposed to be. But I also believe it helps us understand that we that are left behind should not stop living, and do are best in the life we've got. I truly believe that I will see my fiance' again when it's my time to go; I just have to complete MY PURPOSE here, just as he did. I miss him terribly, and i know it will take what it takes for me to join him in God's time, not mine.

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  • Anonymous

    Posted November 19, 2002

    An uplifting account on the journey from grief to acceptance

    Here are several accounts of loved ones experiencing the process of life after the death of a loved one. It was comforting to find that many of the confusing feelings and behaviors that come with grieving are a necessary path to getting on with life when life as we knew it has been permanently altered. Although the subject and information was serious, it was presented with compassion and warmth. It is a fast-moving and griping read. I recommend it to everyone, as the book explains this is a passage in everyone's life, and it helps makes sense of emotions and actions that are inevitable during this life- changing event

    4 out of 4 people found this review helpful.

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